This might come off as controversial.
I have never had a girlfriend, and no girl in my entire history has ever liked me when I liked her. In fact, I’m not even sure if any girl has ever liked me. Maybe it’s because i tend to fall for whoever i’m closest to, and in this case, all the girls I’ve liked have been my best friends (still are) who I talk to about everything. I fell for them much after we established our bestfriendship.
Now because we were best friends, I knew them very well, and I would do things for them that were specific to them. Whether it be, composing a song in their favourite key, finding things from their favourite shows, or other more personal things. But while it was really nice, it didn’t make them like me.
I got to be really negative, thinking things like “I did all this, and you sitll don’t like me?” Now I realize it was selfish. Now you might say that “oh it might ruin the best friendship if you guys dated”, but if you’re best friends, you should be able to get through anything right? Because you’ve been friends for a long time, you’ve obviously had enough fights and you’ve obviously gotten through them ,so what less than a relationship?
Now I see those sweet gestuers not as failed ploys, but as nice things I did to make them happy. I know now that t’s important to put thier happiness above my own. Just because I can’t be “with” them doesn’t mean I can’t make her happy. If you truly care about her, you’ll do anything for her, regardless if yo’re with her or not. DOn’t be a douchebag who just leaves when he realize she’s been friendzoned or has no “chance”. And who knows, maybe she’ll realize that the true love has been right under her nose, all along. *wink*
A gentleman does not dread the friendzone.