(Via Instagram) Being a transgender teen can be difficult to say the least. What can be even more difficult are the pressures that we face as queer and trans people during this time. With doctors, therapists, and teachers telling me I had to present femininely in order to be safe, respected, or valued in society, I caved to the pressure of these authority figures. Over time, all openly trans people learn that being comfortable with oneself is more important than how others see you. So, I changed my appearance after a few years of transitioning as I grew more comfortable in my body and knew what was right for me. I’ve long had much more of an affinity for suits and ties than flow-y shirts and dresses. I should have access to this aesthetic as any other queer woman does. Trans people should likewise have autonomy over how we appear, regardless of how much we conform to gender norms. Instead of invoking fear about backlash to our trans identities, we should create a society that degenders clothing and embraces us for our unique presentations.
Today marks my 2 year anniversary on hormones! I can’t believe that it has already been two years. I put together a timeline to show the changes that I’ve gone through since before I started. It makes me so happy to see how far I have come. Transitioning was the best decision I ever made!
Being Trans is like staring at a goal that seems IMPOSSIBLE … yet others have made it . Its like fighting all the odds for one OUNCE of change. yet that ounce feels like a Ton. its like saying “ill Never back down, even if i cant Win right now. “ Its being made fun of for who you are , but also getting a pat on the back everytime you turn around. its confusing, its hard, but most importantly,, ITS WORTH IT!
I Love being free to BE ME! Being Trans isnt a curse, its a gift, one of new beginnings , real friends, and unexplored opportunities. So day in and day out I will walk out my front door and make a positive change in this world. WE are People, We are Valid, We are Transgender, and We are Here To STAY!!
Two years ago, I had break downs everyday from the moment I woke up. I couldn’t speak without wanting to kill myself, I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror, I dropped out of school and became housebound due to dysphoria and anxiety. I never thought I would start hormones. I was going to kill myself.
Today, I am over 2 years on hormones. I rarely have dysphoria, I am confident speaking, I can look in the mirror and fairly like myself and I feel happy. I don’t want to die.
Just a reminder that
Three years ago, I didn’t think me and my family would ever be the same again and would never see me as male. My mum told me, “You’ll never be a boy because you don’t have a penis.”
My mum now calls me her son, my sister and brothers know me as their brother and take me out for drinks and my mum finally accepts me as being gay.
Just a reminder that
A month ago, I didn’t think anyone would ever love me because I am trans and that everyone thinks I am repulsive because of it, or a liar, or tricking them, or a cheater, or making a choice.
I now have a boyfriend who supoorts and loves me for what I am, and is making me more comfortable and accept myself as being trans, and to stand up for myself against people who do not care to emphasize but hate.
It does get better. It may not happen now, or tomorrow, or the week after, or several months. You may not think it will happen to you. I didn’t think any of this was possible, but it did. I held on, no matter how many bruises I gave my hands or isolated myself, because I deserved to have a happy future and you need to hold on too, to that hope.
Believe me, it is there. You are going to be one of those people who start hormones, who have surgery, who find your one and only true love or start a family. You are no different to any of us, your time will come.
So today I’ve been to the hospital and finally got my first hormones. It took about three years, but at least I got them now! Now it’s just keep being patient while they do their thing, which also takes quite some time. But at least it has finally begun!
Australia is the only country in the world that requires transgender teenagers to go to family court before they can access hormone replacement therapy. And now, a community legal organization will help teens get the transition care they need without breaking the bank.
The group Justice Connect will connect trans youth with pro bono legal representation for the process of getting hormone treatment and/or puberty blockers. A family that doesn’t have pro bono representation can spend as much as $20,000 on the legal process.
People working with the project also acknowledge that it’s a temporary step as activists work to completely abolish the legal component of getting hormones.
Young transgender woman Georgie Stone, who has collected thousands of signatures on a petition to overturn the Family Court process, said going through the court was “one of the darkest times of my life”.
“I felt bad that my being transgender was forcing my family to go through court, my brother had a hard time. It impacted on all of us and I felt responsible for that. I know it’s not my fault and my family never made me feel that way, but that how this situation made me feel and that’s a burden I shouldn’t have to carry,” she said.
In late December, Family Court judge Peter Tree labelled the process “inhumane” and said there is an “urgent need” for government intervention to overturn it.
This is incredibly important work. More power to you all.
People changed lots of other personal things all the time. They dyed their hair and dieted themselves to near death. They took steroids to build muscles and got breast implants and nose jobs so they’d resemble their favorite movie stars. They changed names and majors and jobs and husbands and wives. They changed religions and political parties. They moved across the country or the world — even changed nationalities. Why was gender the one sacred thing we weren’t supposed to change? Who made that rule?
casual reminder not to be a dick to overweight people just bc you don’t like the fact that they’re fat. many overweight people are living with unseen chronic illnesses that cause them to be fat and treating them like shit for it is not gonna help them get any healthier. the time it takes for a healthy person to lose weight doubles or triples for someone with an endocrine disorder. keep that in mind next time you decide to bully someone bc of their weight.
Just don’t bully anyone. Period. There is a very clear difference between encouraging someone to be healthy and being a fucking asshole
Ten things I wish someone told me when I started HRT:
You can get hormone therapy in the United States without undergoing a long evaluation period or undergoing a ‘real life test’ if you seek out an ‘informed consent’ doctor or clinic. I waited over a year before seeking hormones because I did not want to place myself at the mercy of a mental health professional and I did not want a doctor ‘diagnosing’ my gender. Which brings me to…
They’re going to diagnose you anyway because they need an ICD code to bill your insurance company. I was furious when I found the diagnosis on my medical chart. It would have helped a lot if the doctor had asked my permission or explained that it was for insurance billing purposes only but he didn’t.
Hormone therapy drugs bought from overseas pharmacies are safe and will not cause ‘legitimate’ clinics to refuse treatment should you later decide to switch to a prescription. At the time the information I was able to find talked a lot about how trans women who use ‘black market’ hormones are not to be trusted and that a trans woman who uses such medications should be denied care until they can prove themselves ‘trustworthy,’ somehow. It is a lie.
There is absolutely zero evidence that injectable estrogens are more effective than oral estrogens. The fact is that the ‘advantage’ attributed to injectable estrogens is almost certainly placebo (and injectable placebo is known to be much more powerful than one administered orally). I could have saved myself a lot of discomfort and a serious leg injury caused by an improperly prepared injection.
Properly dosed, there is no reason that sublingual estradiol should be more effective than oral estradiol. The only thing that matters is that enough estradiol enters into your bloodstream and that is something that will be reflected in your labs.
Transdermal estradiol patches are itchy, smelly affairs that cost quite a lot of money and refuse to stay on. Knowing what I know now I would have avoided them entirely.
When I started hormone therapy my endocrinologist gave me conjugated equine estrogen because it came in smaller doses than 17β-estradiol. I was kept on conjugated estrogen for some time under the pretense that he was making sure I didn’t have any bad reactions to being on estrogen. Knowing what I know now I would have been able to argue that conjugated equine estrogen has a much worse side-effect profile than 17β-estradiol and that placing me on this drug unnecessarily endangered my body and my transition. Furthermore, the smallest doses available were far below a healthy dose needed to maintain bone and emotional well-being. Done again I would have insisted that I be started on a reasonable dose of 17β-estradiol.
Low progesterone is implicated in poor emotional health in women. Micronized progesterone is valuable to trans women for maintaining a healthy level of progesterone. I’ve personally benefited a lot, emotionally, from having it and I just wish I started using it sooner.
I wish someone had encouraged me to seek out other trans people as friends. At the time I first came out I didn’t really know there were other people out there that could really help me. The only thing I knew about being trans was what I was able to read online and in books and most of that firmly emphasized the idea that you should transition until you’ve had surgery and ‘pass’ and then disappear and that the people who ‘hung around’ the community were somehow failures. I know that’s not the truth, now, but it really messed me up early in my transition.
I wish someone told me to be cautious. I wish I was told that doctors and mental health professionals aren’t the last word and that if one decides that you’re a ‘failure’ or ‘actually a man’ it’s them that is wrong and not my own instincts regarding who I am. I also wish someone had given me a gentle nudge that some of the people I would meet in the trans community are not to be trusted and do not have my well being at heart. I feel that knowing those two things coming into that experience would have saved me a lot of grief.