pansexuals are not basically bisexual, or confused, or looking for attention/trying to be quirky/special, or slutty, or more likely to cheat, or more inclusive than bisexuals, or attracted to/want to have sex with kitchenware or anything else non-human, or disgusting, or pretentious, or part of a “brand new” sexuality, or inherently biphobic and transphobic, or “genderblind”.

pansexuals do not think they’re better than bisexuals, or find every single person they meet attractive, or want to have sex with every single person they meet.

pansexuals are real, and valid.

pansexuals have every right to identify as pansexual, and be in queer spaces.

pansexuals deserve love, and support, and respect.

pansexuals just want to be truly accepted and welcomed and supported by the community.


This dress makes even my flat pancake butt look huge. Susie hasn’t decorated her tree, but it’s a great backdrop for ootd shoots. Also, Susie and I are so happy military-style coats and jackets are back in the style so we can get away with wearing all the bright buttoned pieces.

Size: 22-24, 3x-4x, 47"/49"/56"
Dress: Plussizefix.com
Leggings: Torrid
Knee boots: Remonte
Jacket: Deb (are Deb stores even still a thing? I got this forever ago omg)

Ok so I haven’t been active on tumblr for nearly a year and i’m finally back to being interested in using the site again. Would appreciate if you liked this or reblogged if you’re an active wrestling account so I can look at your stuff and see if i’ll follow you. (My dash is kinda dead.)

anonymous asked:

Do you have any writing tips?

Alright, my dude, I’m just going to tell you what advice I found was the most important, helpful, or overall what I found improved my personal writing. 

Listen to your gut. And write for yourself.  

This is so important. If you are writing as if someone is watching over your shoulder, all that is going to do is stunt your growth as a writer and make it harder for you to get the motivation to sit down and write in general. (which we all know is hard in the first place)

So, as you write the first draft, don’t even think about the readers
(yup you read that right) Write as if it will never even be seen by another person.

I can’t tell you how many times I let the fear of judgment control a chapter’s outcome; thinking about what other people might think just makes the whole process stressful, and that doesn’t make for great scenes or character development. 

So, write what you would like to read. Writing what you want, what your gut is telling you to, is going to make for better stories in the end. 
If you are invested and intrigued by your own scenes then your imagination will be able to flow freely, and that always makes for more colorful plot twists and characters. 

Be flexible and willing to change your plan. 

As a writer, when you start a story you have certain things figured out. You might already have a plot line, or maybe you already figured out scenes that are going to happen in order to have the outcome you desire. 

But guess what. Not everything goes according to plan. Characters develop and sometimes they do things that you never intended them to do. 

But that is okay. That is great in fact.

Follow your story, let it lead you. This can be irritating and frustrating at times, because you will have to make changes or even scrap some of the things you wanted to write. But in the end letting the story guide you makes it better, and the flow will feel less forced and more real. 

Don’t write as if whatever is on the page is eternal.  

This is something I still have a lot of trouble with. 

Sometimes it’s hard to remember that your first draft is exactly that, the first draft, out of many, many more to come. 

You need to remember that whatever you write down can be changed, it can be altered, it can be deleted, and it can and will be edited. 

Don’t stress over what it looks like when it is first coming out of your head. It is hard to translate our thoughts and feelings onto a blank page, but just sitting down and actually expressing it will help you to get a frim hold on what you want to see in the second draft. 

Let it be emotional. 

Oh my goodness. This is a lesson that I have just recently let settle into my brain. 

I don’t know if other writers have trouble with this. 

But every time my gut told me “they need to cry and sob in this scene” or “they gotta punch that guy they’re so angry”. I always doubted myself. 
And because of this I would water down the characters emotions, because I didn’t want them to seem overdramatic or out of character. 

Don’t do that. 

Do not water down your character’s emotions. If your gut is telling you that whatever has happened has upset your character to the point of shattering a glass on the tile floor out of their pure anger, write it as you see it!

My feedback became so much better and positive when I finally just allowed myself to write what I wanted. People want emotional outbursts, they wanna see the inner workings of your character, that’s what makes the reader feel. 

So don’t deprive them of that. 

Find your style. Explore.

I started writing fanfiction for this very reason (as I am sure a lot of you have)

If you have read any of my fics than you know they all vary from style, some being angsty and very detailed, to others that are just silly and bouncy. 

Do this. 

Let yourself play around. 

Writing is like music, there are so many things you can do with it. So many things to learn and explore with.  

Try writing in first person, then second, then third. Figure out what narrative you enjoy and thrive with. (for instance, I like all my fanfics to be in third person, but my personal stories are almost always in first person, and I find second person fun to play with when I am bored) 

Playing around like this helps you to figure out what you are good at. Some people are incredible at depicting emotion, while others are so creative with the atmospheric and scenery you feel like you are actually in the story. 
Others are great at dialog and witty come backs, while other’s are very talented at internal thoughts and feelings. 

What are you good at?

Figure it out. 

Write different stories with a goal in mind; what would you like to try playing with in this particular story? Are you good at it? Did you enjoy it? Do you feel you might be able to include more of this in your stories without it causing stress? 

These are all good things to play around with. I’m still doing so, and I have started coming into myself as a writer, and I hope that I will one day completely figure out my own writing style and preference. (though as you grow as a person so will your knowledge and therefore your writing, you are constantly changing)

Be in-depth. 

Give your characters quirks. Give them little habits and things that make them uncomfortable. Try to know your character inside and out, even if you don’t use every detail in the story, knowing them will help you to write them better. 

You may never outright say that your character stims, but mentioning the way they tap their foot, play with their hair, rip up paper into tiny pieces, run their tongue over the roof of their mouth over and over, is still going to give them more character and make your readers like them more. 

And don’t be biased. Let your character have flaws. Perfect characters are not relatable. 
If your gut says they have a bad temper, then let them show their anger. Have them yell and swear at the world, let them punch a wall a break a finger in their dumb rage. 
If your gut is telling you that they wear the same pair of jeans for a week, then let them, talk about how they are starting to stink, talk about how they need to do laundry, but their too lazy, talk about how they make bad life decisions but don’t regret being a slob. 

Let them be human. 

And most of all, JUST SIT DOWN AND DO IT!

Everyone says this and I know it sounds cheesy. 

But this is the most important advice, and in all honesty sometimes the hardest to follow. 

But don’t be afraid to just sit down and write whatever you want. 

Sometimes the thing that you write is going to be horribly awful, not every idea is a winner. 

But it doesn’t matter if you write a 10,000 worded first draft and end up scraping the whole thing, because it just wasn’t what you wanted. Even if you don’t continue on with the idea it is in no way a waste. 

It’s just more practice, just another learning tool. Something that you can take details and bits and pieces of for another story. 

You’re going to make mistakes. You are going to end up hating some of the things you do. But again, that is just exploring and the learning process that we all must go through in order to figure our style out.