I' afab and have depression and my therapist wants me to attend these meetings at a "girls' house" where they play games, relax, bake, talk ect. and it's supposed to be really helpful when you feel lonely and sad. The problem is, they are very vocal about being "girls only" and it gets announced at every turn. I'm not really comfortable with that, especially since lately i've been feeling more and more masc. I'm not out. And idk if i should go or try to make some excuse.
Honestly, there definitely is a way to tell her you don’t want to go without telling her! The best thing to do is to tell her you’re uncomfortable. You shouldn’t have to explain why, but if you do, you can always say something like: you don’t get along with girls greats, being around a large group of girls makes you anxious, you’d rather be in a coed group, etc.
I will say, that if you chose to come out to your therapist, they /should/ be a good person to come out to. Legally, a therapist cannot tell your parents anything unless they think it is “concerning” or a “danger to yourself”. So, if you feel it’s something your therapist may be cool with, then you could always chose to do that.