thatgirl-who replied to your post “I got mad at an asshole in the notes of the reblog post”
I’m continuously caught between “I’m doing this for myself” and “why the fuck am I doing this at all if the return is so small”. It is about the validation, absofuckinglutely. I write what I write specifically because I want that story told but I share it with the world because I want to see who out there loves it, too. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t post it here. But then I feel greedy and selfish for wanting more reblogs/comments.
Don’t feel greedy or selfish!
Honestly, I am super suspicious of people who just advertise on their blog shit like “oh i don’t need validation from others! I write/make art for myself! no one else! hehe!” Most people who do that get way more notes than I ever do, so I am just like… okay? <_<
Because of how we were raised and socialized, we are basically hardwired to crave positive reinforcement for something that took us effort. I don’t think it’s wrong to demand that when people read your work that the least they could do is help you grow as a writer (via feedback, exposure, etc.). It is THEY who are being selfish if they eat up your labor but don’t give you any return on it. It’s not like you’re asking everyone in the world to sincerely take the time to read and like your fic. You’re asking those who ALREADY read it and liked it to go the extra mile (I use this phrase hyperbolically) of clicking on “reblog.” It is totally understandable, and it is totally something that YOU deserve. You write great stuff, and there’s no excuse for people to just leech off of your art for their own gratification while leaving you in the dust. NONE.