honest question i'm curious what people think

terythedrawer  asked:

So... I finally had to courage to ask you something. I don't really know if anyone asked before, but... What do you think of these HUGE ripoffs of Ink!Sans? Like... OCs, AUs etc... I know people are just getting inspiration buuut... I guess the take it too... Far?... ^^' (I'm sorry for asking this, I'm just so curious and I ask so many stupid questions ;w;)

I’ll be honest, I haven’t seen a lot of them because I’m not active where people usually do them I guess? It is mostly a problem when it’s an OC of mine that’s ripped off completely, but in the end people tend to grow out of it just like I did when it was my case. I’m willing to be tolerant because I know from experience how easy it is to worship or admire an artist’s work to the point of stealing it’s uniqueness, until you find a way more healthy way to address and comprehend the matter. Tolerant but not inactive that is! If I need to be a guide to people who “copy” my characters in the wrong way, then I’ll try to do my best. Everyone can change.

Honestly, as long as credit is given and that they don’t deny their inspiration came from somewhere, it’s okay to be inspired, we all do. :) Ink was inspired from many different designs and already existing concepts in the fandom, and it would be wrong to say nothing contributed to his first version ever.

anonymous asked:

can i ask an honest question? i really respect you and your opinions so i'm not trying to be rude, i'm genuinely curious. what makes it different for people to joke about this being a boyfriend buys my outfits versus you writing about them as actual boyfriends in your fics? you think of them as boyfriends right? so how is that different than people joking about this video

yeah no worries, that’s a super fair question! i think to me the difference is in context, and also tone? like i said in the last response i recognize people are joking, and i superrrrr get why dan being in this video is so exciting (it is too me too??? i legit screamed?), but as i also said, it’s not the type of humor i find all that funny. to me, this type of joking feels like it’s actively at dnp’s expense, kind of like it’s making fun of them for something theyre not rly doing in order to be funny? and i also think it has something to do with this video and situation in particular. i feel like the decision to include viewers in the vid rather than having it be just dan and calling it ‘best friend buys my outfits’ shows that they were def actively trying to distance themselves from those easy jokes as much as possible (bc let’s be honest ‘best friend buys my outfits’ wouldve been met w 10000% more of that, even though it’d be an easier vid to make overall.) and it makes me kinda sad that they cant just do classic tags like this even if they think theyre fun without that being pretty much the only response (BEST FRIEND? pah!!!!!!! who do u think ur fooling??!?!?! we’re onto you!!!!!!)  also think the concept of this video is so literally playing into the whole treat-them-as-ken-dolls thing that the further jokes about dan’s inclusion just dont sit well w me. 

with fic writing or just writing sappy text posts about them that’s not attached to any specific thing theyre doing to maintain their closeting, the context/tone feels different to me. it overalls feels celebratory rather than teasing/mocking and it also is generally based on things they have autonomously chosen to do. like fawning over dan’s descriptions of phil’s freckles in yesterdays live show feels nice and lovely and positive bc it’s something he actually said himself, something he actively put out there w no qualifications (same w the story about him going to phil’s house to do laundry.) and w fic specifically, i mean the whole entire framing is that it’s fictional. obvi when i write im trying to do it realistically based on what i know of them as people but it is fic, people go into it (i hope) knowing that i don’t know actually know anything about dnp irl and this is a fictional rendering of whatever situation im writing about.

i totally get if this seems like an arbitrary distinction or something, idk. its not some sort of hard moral boundary or something, just a personal qualm. and tbh i think dnp def knew when deciding they’d do this that the video was going to garner that kind of response with fandom no matter what steps they took to avoid it. i really dont think if they see 3942034 tweets to this effect that its going to hurt their feelings or make them upset or something. i think it’s just that for me personally,  any jokes aimed at them with respect to their decisions to make certain videos or take certain steps to maintain their privacy and comfort have jst been making me feel particularly weird lately (maybe ive gotten one too many “uGH theyre so selfish to call each other ‘friend’ during gaming videos, CLEARLY theyre MARRIED” asks)

anonymous asked:

This is an honest question. How is it any different for someone to compliment you on your eyes or face or whatever over complimenting your boobs? I mean they're all just body parts and men are evolutionally made to be attracted to boobs (I think?). I'm really curious and don't mean this in an offending way whatsoever. I'm a girl myself but I just started thinking about it... and what is so bad?

thanks for asking

they are all body parts. i agree with that. boobs are just sacks of fat

BUT that’s not how men, or most people, see them. boobs are a sexualized body part, and from a young age, we’re taught they’re one of our “private parts.” it would be the same as a guy complimenting my ass or my pussy. 

a man complimenting my boobs is purposely invading my comfort level. he knows it is one of my “private parts” and an aspect of me that i chose to show to those i’m intimate with, and he’s choosing to ignore all that. i feel that when a man chooses to compliment me on a sexualize body part, he is sexualizing me, and telling me that he sees me as nothing more. 

also, eyes and smiles are emotive. my eyes will tell you a whole lot more about what’s on my mind than my nipples will, and when a man compliments me on those, he’s telling me he cares about what’s in my head and how i feel. he’s going beyond a physical connection. 

silmera  asked:

Honest question (As I think you're one of the few people on this website that isn't an utter moron): Do you think Sexual preference is a choice, or do you think people are born with that information hard coded into them? And before the flame war starts (Not with you, Tena, with the other jack-knobs that occupy this site), yes I understand I'm a White, Cishet Male. No I don't care if that makes me magically privileged. I'm honestly curious of other people's opinions and views on the matter.

Oh, gosh.  Well, sexual preference is actually much more specific.  What I think we’re actually talking about here is sexual orientation.  For example, a bisexual person may slightly prefer women over men, but their orientation remains the same, because they still feel attraction to men.

Either way, it’s a tricky question, because a person is the product of many different factors.  However, given that there are plenty of LGBTA teens that continue to be sent by their parents to “conversion” camps every year (it is 2015, WHY THE FUCK DO THESE PLACES STILL EXIST?  Legit institutions of persecution that continue to cause teen suicides, and they still exist.  What the fuck, humanity??), upbringing isn’t necessarily the strongest factor to take into consideration.

Personally, I do think it is inherent in the brain, and part of who we are.  An individual may go through a period where they’re still trying to figure it all out, but the brain decides for them eventually.  Our brains are the true self, after all.  The brain doesn’t care what the rest of the body looks like, because that’s just meat, and meat can be rearranged.  The brain knows what we’re supposed to be.

Brains are smart like that. :3