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Dave Chappelle’s Netflix stand-up comedy specials have sparked a homophobia debate
“Ladies and gentleman, man the fuck up or you’re not going to make it through this show,” Dave Chappelle says early on in the first of his two new Netflix specials, responding to some wincing in the crowd over an O.J. Simpson joke he'd just made.

[in ‘age of spin’ cause i havent bothered to see the other one] this dude, spent an entire hour unsuccessfully masking his homophobia, transphobia, misogynist ass opinions as a comedy bit. nah. fuck this old head ass wave of thought.

idk how folks even enjoyed this shit. dude was obsessed with portraying LGBTQ folks as some annoying alien force getting in the way black hypermasculinity. i can barely finish watching this shit and im side eyeing folks who claim to be here for the community but stan for this typa mess. i been a chappelle fan since day one but this the type of shit that gives power to hateful folks when you got dudes like chappelle spitting the hateful shit they rep under the guise of comedy. im good on this special.

Regarding the m/m situation in Andromeda, I think the thing that bothers me the most is that Liam can’t be romanced by broRyder.
It’s a repeat of the romance situation with Garrus. Only FShep is allowed to romance him, but you can’t tell me that Garrus wouldn’t want to be with a male Shepard.
Garrus’ love, admiration, affection, devotion and even obsession sometimes is the same for MShep than it is for FShep. Their moments together is full of heavy feelings and emotions. They have all the ingredients needed to have a romance. But they’re best friends. Garrus is MShep’s bro, right? And bros don’t have romantic feelings for each other and they don’t fuck together. Says who? Idk, other bros? It’s like this unspoken rule. Male players would definitely see Garrus differently if he could romance MShep. Maybe he wouldn’t be your bro anymore, your best buddy who always has your back. He would be that ex best friend who has all those unfortunate feelings for you. That’s uncomfortable.

So yeah, that’s the reasoning, I bet. And it’s happening again with Liam. I am not far in Andromeda so NO SPOILERS please, but from the beginning he takes on the role of your bro. He has faith in you, he tells you he’s there if you need him, he understands your feelings. You can confide in him and show how vulnerable you are just like you could with Garrus…
But no homo, basically.

So that’s what is annoying me, because the greatest thing about those friendships is that the male protag is allowed to be sad and angry and show all his feelings to his male best friend who listens, accepts, understands and helps him.
It doesn’t mean anything about their masculinity, it doesn’t threaten anything. That’s in theory because in reality the bro mentality is exhausting. It can genuinely hurt men of all sexual orientations.
Now imagine the shame if men want more than just friendship from their best friend? If their feelings evolve and there is love blooming?
The bro mentality makes them think there is something wrong with themselves, because why would they want that? They’re not supposed to want it! And how dare they imagine the possibility?
It’s fucking toxic to think like that, but we’re all the result of the society we live in.

So yeah, I believe Andromeda had this great opportunity to say “You know, it’s okay to have feelings for your best friend and it’s okay for him to have feelings for you too. It doesn’t change the core of the friendship or your dynamic in a fight. We’ll make him available to you, we’ll give you great romance content and show your relationship with him can be beautiful.”
An opportunity they should have taken before already :/

anonymous asked:

Hi! Thanks for all the work you do maintaining this blog. Can I ask about life under and shortly after Don't Ask Don't Tell? Also, I had a look through your discharge posts, but I wasn't entirely sure - how would a soldier be discharged if they were outed under DADT?

Thank you very much!

I enlisted shortly before DADT was officially repealed, (which was September 2011, though they were working on repealing it in 2010) so I only had to deal with it officially for about a year, although it would be three years before I actually came out to anyone nonetheless. 

It’s hard to explain being enlisted under DADT. I wasn’t entirely sure what would invoke DADT’s wrath, whether they had to have proof or whether just not acting hetero enough was sufficient grounds for an investigation.

I was only 19 and my sexuality was sorta w/e and I didn’t even call myself bisexual at the time because I was going through my “I don’t like labels” phase, but I got really paranoid really fast. I’m still super paranoid about looking or sounding stereotypically “queer.” I used to write fanfiction and I worried that somehow the government was powerful enough to track me down through my deleted work. I even restricted my porn to het only because I didn’t want people finding gay porn on my laptop.

Sometimes while I was bored in the field or at work, I’d write slash fic in a notebook and then either burn it or flush it down a toilet so no one would find it. I remember losing such a notebook once and freaking the fuck out thinking that someone would eventually find it and read it and KNOW, but then again my handwriting is terrible and the worst that came of it was some asshole drew dicks on the sketches I’d made (why ARE straight dudes obsessed with dicks???). I guess I’m sorta lucky I’m bi, if you wanna call it lucky, ‘cause at least I wasn’t completely faking my sexuality; I was just omitting part of it.

I actually knew a guy who was ballsy enough to be “openly” gay (or as openly as was possible at the time) and he even had “the voice.” I worry he thought I was a homophobe because being around him made me uncomfortable; I was convinced “they” were gonna come for him one day and I didn’t want to get roped into it. He was a nice guy though, don’t think he ever got kicked out (somehow). 

In basic training if we hadn’t fucked up during the week, on Sundays they let us have our phones for an hour to call our parents and tell them we aren’t dead. Shortly before leaving for basic training I actually had met a guy (on World of Warcraft, no less) and we’d been flirting, and he was still texting me while I was in basic which gave me like a million anxieties, because my phone was in my drill sergeants’ possession and like all they would have to do is just start going through it, and it was an old phone so it didn’t even have a password lock or anything. Nothing ever came from it, of course. Never texted him again actually; kinda feel bad about it.

The thing is that like, for me in 2011, there wasn’t a witch hunt or anything. DADT was on its way out at that point. It’s not like people were breathing down my neck trying to trip me up. I’m lucky I joined so late in the game because it was a lot worse back in the day. But still, it just felt more suffocating than in the real world, especially because when I first enlisted I intended to serve my full 20 years and it terrified me thinking that my entire life career could be ruined because someone found a Digimon fanfic I wrote when I was eleven. 

For me, most of my stress about DADT came from not knowing what was wrong, and the rest of my stress came from the constant paranoia and worrying about which aspect of my personality was grounds for dismissal. tbh this probably helped set the groundwork for me becoming the agoraphobic neurotic depressed anxiety-ridden loser I am today.

You might consider reading this post from a few days ago regarding how people might try to kick one out for DADT. If you have a more specific question, you can always ask again! Hopefully this post answers your question and isn’t just me rambling.

Edit: life after DADT for me was the same as before: say nothing, hope nobody notices you. At that point it was just easier to keep my head down, partially because there was a major election coming up in 2012 and for all I knew they were going to repeal the repeal.

-Kingsley


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anonymous asked:

lulu, please don't think I'm a hater or anything, I actually think your a great person with amazing skills, and I'm not trying to make you anxious or depressed at all, but, it is because I care that I tell you this, to try to help you... homosexuality is not natural or right... and I know you have an amazing relationship, but that doesn't make it right either, even if the world says it's okay, but the world has been wrong before... please give this some thought...

Anon, thank you for your nice words. After reading your ask, I gave myself some time to think about what you said. 

And I think I really don’t give a fuck :)

Y'all understand that it is literally not possible for gay couples to be heteronormative. A masculine gay man dating a feminine gay man isn’t heteronormative. A butch lesbian dating a femme lesbian isn’t heteronormative. They’re fucking gay. Telling gay people they’re somehow enforcing heteronormativity by being themselves and dating another gay person is nasty and ridiculous.

No, punching a neo-Nazi in the face does not make someone “just as bad as them.” Punching someone in the face is NOT equivalent to preaching, practicing, and supporting white supremacy, eugenics, racism, xenophobia, anti-Semitism, Islamophobia, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, and misogyny. Get your “Hug a Nazi and smother them with love,” bullshit outta here. 

some homophobic conservative: lock gay people up on an island and nuke them

you fucking demons: wow I have so many questions…where do the pansexuals go? Can ace people join in? Haha are bi people allowed to move between the Straight and Faggot islands and what about

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Homophobic gospel singer Kim Burrell is set to appear on ‘Ellen’ — and people are furious

  • Gospel singer Kim Burrell is being called out after video of a homophobic sermon she led began circulating on the internet late December.
  • Burrell is set to perform “I See Victory,” a song from the Hidden Figures soundtrack, on Ellen with Pharrell Williams.
  • In footage of the sermon posted on YouTube, Burrell refers to homosexuality as the “spirit of delusion and confusion.”
  • It is unclear exactly when the sermon took place. 
  • Burrell attempted to clarify her comments, saying she never mentioned LGBTQ people specifically.
  • “I love you and God loves you,” Burrell said in a Facebook live video, Billboard reported. “But, God hates the sin.” Read more
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