homes for queers

I can’t wait until “I’m going home” means coming home to you
—  Thequeercares
- L

MaxAnne AU ⚬ “Selkies represent the fluidity of sexuality. They are inherently shapeshifters, moving from one form to another, and the people they love do the same.” (inspired by @candlewinds gorgeous fisherman AU!) 

I smoked my first cigarette when I was eighteen,
in a parking lot of cinema.
It was menthol,
I didn’t like the minty taste.
But the nicotine,
it felt like home.

The night before I told a boy that I had a soft spot for him,
after he had told me he had feelings for me.
I also reminded him that he had a girlfriend,
he said he was working on it.
I have heard that before.

Fourteen days before that,
I kissed a girl.
First in the same cinema then,
in an abandoned bowling ally parking lot.
I stopped talking to her after that,
when she asked me why I told her I didn’t know.

I watched a movie with my best friend,
my hands smelt like cigarette smoke.
I tried to cover it with popcorn,
I didn’t want it to feel so comfortable.
But it did,
it felt like I could confide in it.

The boy is a flight risk,
he won’t leave his girl.
The girl is a rebound,
I want a different girl.
The best friend is my base,
and the cigarette is the same.

—  K.A // 8-12-2016
How Queerness Erased Bisexuality
To me as a queer activist and young scholar in the early 1990s, the term queer seemed to capture it all — the political urgency of…
By Dawne Moon

This is an amazing essay on the erasure of bisexuality from queer academia, the ways bisexuals still closet ourselves in queer spaces, and the power of bisexual people speaking out.  

To quote:

Something didn’t quite make me feel at home in the queer theory crowd. Even brilliant queer theorists — who I knew didn’t see gender as the most important determinant of whether someone was attractive, hook-up-worthy, or relationship material—seemed to downplay their bisexuality. Queer theorists spoke of disrupting binaries such as male/female and hetero/homo, but the fact that bisexuals’ lived experience of gender disrupts both of those binaries never seemed to even enter the conversation.

the-shy-and-anxious-fangirl  asked:

Something that's been bugging me lately- if I'm a cisgender heteromantic ace, does that count as being straight? If I'm "straight passing"(which is the term I see people use), does that mean I can't claim queerness as part of my identity? Does it mean I don't belong in the LGBT+ community?

Nope, nope, and nope. If straightness is something you identify with, you’re welcome to do that, but I don’t know many aces, het or cis or not, who find that to be a comfortable identity. Straightness rejects asexuality when it encounters it, and as such you are absolutely welcome to embrace that and you will always have a home in any queer community worth its salt if that’s where you feel you belong.

It’s important to take an intersectional approach to things and acknowledge that your orientation and gender may grant you certain privileges over other members of LGBT+ communities, but that is not the same thing as your having unconditional access to the full breadth of Straightness.