hold your head

Imagine

Imagine James walking with you back to the dorms and when you get to the girls rooms he holds a mistletoe over your heads…

Originally posted by scrapbookofmarauders

“Well would you look at that” he says with a smirk. You roll you eyes at him, “Really James?” He gives you that cheesy smile and says, “Tis the season to be kissin”

anonymous asked:

Yo idk wtf all these anon hates are about but done even fucking listen they're all literally sad pathetic losers that have literally nothing better to do with their own lives so they turn to hating on others. Christ. That makes me so mad. Just hold your head high because you're better than they'll ever be, and they know that too. Fuckers. FUCK them. Be proud of who you are and love yourself. That way you win

I wish I knew who you were. 

Thank you for taking the time to send me your strength.

How to Fake Confidence

1. Hold your head high, and look others in the eye

2. Smile

3. Stop apologizing

4. Relax and be quick to laugh at yourself (but not at others!)

5. Dress in a way that indicates you have self worth

6. Use good manners (like saying please and thank you) as this is actually a mark of self respect

7. Expect other people to believe in you, and to see and appreciate your good qualities.

tips for confidence

hey everyone ! the title speaks for itself, this is a post on how to be more confident. (i will try not to make this personal but who knows)

i. have a playlist that makes you feel badass. this is the easiest tip i know. when you feel horrible, blast that badass playlist. feel the fire in your bones. lose yourself to the power in the music. i have a few playlists h e r e if you want to check them out for inspiration or whatnot.
ii. posture is everything. hold your head up high. this is so hard sometimes, i know, trust me. sometimes you want to curl in a ball and disappear. but if you want to look confident, want to be confident, you need to hold your head up and straighten your back and walk like you mean business.
iii. know yourself. know your flaws. know your strengths. know what your limitations. honestly, this is so hard for someone with a personality disorder or someone who is neurodivergent or anyone actually. but knowing what you can do, sitting down and thinking hard, is incredibly helpful.
iv. make a list of what you know you can do. you can breathe, you can blink, you can kill a man, it doesn’t matter what is on the list as long as you can do it. it can be hard or easy. it can be something everyone can do or only people of your culture can do or something only you know how to do. trust me, there is something you can do. now look at all the crap you can do ! look at you ! hell yeah you can do stuff !
v. now make a list of what you can’t do/ haven’t been able to do yet. maybe it’s riding a bike, maybe it’s scoring a 5 on your ap test, maybe it’s kissing that cute girl in your math class i don’t care. it can be something everyone can do or something no one can do or a small task or a hard task. highlight what you want to learn to do or want to do. how will you do it? if you ever end up doing the thing, move it onto the list of things you can do. woohoo ! you did something hell yeah ! be confident, look at you accomplishing stuff ! smile, babe.
vi. maybe make another list for your flaws, also highlighting what you want to change. strive to make those changes. you can become a good person, you can become a better person. people change. that’s okay. look at you improving as a person. high five !
vii. breathe. do it. in through your nose. out through your mouth. now go back to that point about posture. straighten your back, lift your head up, breathe again.
viii. fake it til you make it. confidence is not easy. pretend to be confident through my tips or someone elses or do whatever you want actually just pretend to be confident. keep on doing this everyday. you will become confident eventually trust me.
ix. treat yourself sometimes. working yourself until you pass out isn’t really a confidence booster. sometimes, you need to care for yourself. it will make you feel better. hell yeah your skin smells like cocoa butter ! hell yeah you look cute asf ! you are worth it. show yourself that sometimes, okay ?

that’s all for now ! have a lovely day ily <3

Please remember
you are not alone.
Please remember
you are loved.
Please remember
your life makes a difference.
& please, please remember
that your smile alone could
light up the entire world.
Promise me you’ll remember.
The world needs your light.
—  10/14/14
Pay attention, my dear. I’m going to tell you the secret to getting a good boyfriend. You have to be confident.
1.
When you walk, don’t slouch. Hold your head up high like the princess that you are; if it helps, imagine that you wear a crown made of gold and silver and the minute it falls, it breaks beyond repair. Just so you know, you will never truly lose your crown. This is only an idea to keep you standing tall.
2.
When those boys you like speak to you, look them in the eye. These boys like it when you hold back; they like knowing they have power and control and I guarantee the ones not worth it will be unable to hold your gaze.
3.
Speak up. If they say or do something you don’t like, don’t be afraid to burn them with the well deserved words that come out of your mouth or simply leave them. You have the right to defend yourself and your values and keeping yourself in a good light is no reason to let yourself be treated like a doormat. You can still be as beautiful as you are while disagreeing; the worthy ones won’t run when you show you have some backbone.
4.
Tolerate no abuse. As you grow up, you will be warned about physical abuse constantly to the point of wondering just how high your chances are of coming home to us with a black eye but let me tell you something: abuse isn’t as black and white as him laying his hands on you. If he says things that make you feel any less amazing than you are, you need to leave. I don’t care how much he satisfies you, regardless of the exact way he does so. Those words are smoke, his arms are a burning house and you need to escape immediately.
5.
Know your worth. If you need a reminder of who you represent, look at your mother and the way she radiates beauty without even trying. I don’t know how she does it. What I do know, is that you can do more. You can be more than anything I or your mother could ever be. Never forget that you are capable of anything you put your mind to. Never forget that you are precious.
—  Maxwell Diawuoh, How to Get a Good Boyfriend
How to Love Yourself More

1. Set aside some time to think through why you feel you’re not good enough, or don’t deserve to be loved. Then actively counter each of those reasons. This is a really crucial step for you to take.

2. Make a list of at least 10 of your positive traits and strengths. Each day, add at least 2 more items to your list.

3. Commit to only saying positive and affirming things about yourself – that is, your face, your body, your personality, your abilities, and so on.

4. Each day, tell your body how much you appreciate it.

5. Hold your head high, smile, look people in the eye, and always speak slowly, and with confidence.

6. Have the courage to list and face some of the worst mistakes you’ve made, or some of the challenges you’ve found hard to overcome. Then, gently admit to yourself that you are not perfect. In fact, none of us is perfect, and we all start from different places in life. What has been hard for you may have been easy for someone else. Choose to not be so hard on yourself – forgive yourself for EVERYTHING and then just let it go!

7. Go through your closet and experiment with your clothes until you find something that you feel really good in. Choose to wear that – and to buy other outfits that make you feel good about yourself and your appearance. Get rid of clothes that lower your self-confidence or self-esteem.

8. Learn to listen to your body and mind, and treat what they are saying with kindness and respect. If you are tired, rest. If you are feeling worn down or emotionally drained, then withdraw and do something that will help to build you up.

9. Do something nice for yourself each day. Buy yourself some flowers, some new clothes, some music … or go for a jog, get your hair or nails done …. Whatever makes you feel pampered and special and loved.

10. Give yourself permission to say no to the things that make you unhappy, or that your energy.