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anonymous asked:

Sorry if this seems like an insignificant question but, I'm agender, and I really like wearing skirts. But they make me feel kinda dysphoric because I know everyone who sees me thinks I'm a girl. Do you have any suggestions for what I could do to stop feeling so socially dysphoric? Thank you so much.

Clothing isn’t gendered. I know it can feel invalidating when folks read your clothing as indicative of your gender, and I’m sorry about that. If you are agender, you’re agender. And I bet you look rad in skirts.

-Quinn

anonymous asked:

i have a lot of trouble making decisions, settling on specific projects or goals, and i also lack motivation to accomplish any of the latter. my previous psychologist stated that all of this was related to me being nb + ace, because maybe my brain couldn't settle on anything and i was subconsciously rejecting sexual thoughts. i know this isn't true and i feel comfortable with my gender and sexuality, but it's been eating at me and i can't get his words out of my head. :(

Yikes, that person is wildly incorrect and probably not very qualified to do their job. As a fellow nb ace, our genders and sexualities are not confusion or indecision. It’s simply who we are. I hope you’re able to find a professional who can help and validate you better.

-Quinn

anonymous asked:

Hi I am not sure what my gender is rn (but I am fairly sure I am non binary), I recently changed my pronouns from she /her (when I thought I was cis) to they/them though I only use it online as I am not ready to CO as nb IRL. Anyway, when someone calls me 'they' I feel happy and excited, though I still find it a little bit strange (my native language is also very gendered) does that happen often? Also can I ID as agender but mean 'gender separate from the binary' instead of genderless?

That’s a very common experience among trans people! It’s exciting and freeing to have people use your correct pronouns after being misgendered for so long, but since you were so used to your assigned pronouns it can feel strange to be called something else. That’s totally normal.

Agender by definition refers to the lack of gender. You might want to try something along the lines of neutrois.

-Quinn

anonymous asked:

Hey there. I'm in a really serious relationship that has been going on for a little over six years, and I've always known that I wasn't my assigned gender (I think I'm either genderfluid or non-bianary?), but I've never talked to ANYONE about it. 1/?

“be a big deal anyways?? If it’s something I should tell them about, do you have any ways to bring it up or what I can say? 3/3”

We only received parts 1 and 3 of this. If the asker sees this, would you mind sending us the middle? Thanks!

-Quinn