hockey playing girls

#2 - Auston Matthews - #34

Requested by anon: Hey could you do a cute Auston Matthews imagine? Maybe something where they play hockey and the girls good and they have their first kiss or something?

* This one is a bit longer. I hope you enjoy this. I am super sleepy but I wanted to get this out so if there are mistakes I’m so sorry. *

Word count: 317

You laced up your skates in record time and grabbed the stick your boyfriend, Auston, held out for you.

“Alright if I win you can take me for ice cream,” you said with a proud smile on your face knowing full well you actually kind of had a shot.

“And if I win then you are gonna have to kiss me,” Auston dropped the puck at center ice.

“Your on Matthews,” and with that you caught the puck with your stick and skated down the ice gracefully.

Auston was right behind trying to steal the puck away. However you scored and heard cheering coming from the bench. You saw a couple of Auston’s teammates sending a chirps his way. He laughed them off and turned to you.

“Best of 3?” Auston lifted his eyebrow.

“Sure Matthew’s, I’m still going to win,” you smiled at him and made your way to center ice again.

“You sure about that,” Auston flashed you a smile before taking the puck down the ice.

You chased after him and managed to snag the puck and bring it back down to your end. You scored again earning more cheers from the bench.

“Maybe I should play for the team instead of you,” you laughed bumping into his shoulder. He looked down at you and shook his head.

“Best of 5?” he asked and you nodded.

He then dropped the puck which you stole and fired over to the net. He let out a groan and grabbed the puck.

“Come on let’s get ice cream,” Auston said skating over to the bench.

“Hold on,” you said skating over to him. You pulled him into a tight embrace then pressed your lips onto his.

“I didn’t win,” Auston looked at you with his eyebrows drawn together in confusion.

“You are always a winner in my book,” you laugh, “But I still want that ice cream.”

“Identifying with” vs “Identifying as”

Growing up I identified with the other little boys a lot, and with the other girls almost not at all. I identified with the rough and tumble lifestyle of the boys, and with their carefree adventuring. The girls in the neighborhood would tag along with the boys at times, but it was always tagging along. The girls were never the Captain. When the boys played street hockey, the girls came too, but they sat on the sidelines and cheered and talked. I played, of course, until I was about 9 years old and despite the extra pads and helmet my dad made me wear, he decided that it was too rough and that I couldn’t play with the boys any more. He was right, of course, the boys *were* rough, but so was I! I identified with the boys.

When I watched TV and saw a married couple, I always identified with the husband. I knew that when I eventually married that I wanted to be the one providing for the family, doling out wisdom and discipline, and being left alone to pursue my own intellectual interests whenever I wasn’t doing one of those things. That’s what I saw. I certainly didn’t identify with the idea of rearing the children and devoting my life to child, family, and house care. I wanted to be an independent person inside of a family support system. I saw that in the husband’s position in the family. I identified with the husband.

When I was a teenager and the young men around me were obsessed with music, body modification, and girls, I identified with them. I knew other young dykes, but the ones that I knew seemed more obsessed with being queer* than anything else, and I couldn’t relate. I identified with the simplicity of being an adolescent male, in part because really nothing was expected of them. I spent high school playing hardcore shows and avoiding other lesbians. At 15 my then-girlfriend starting calling me her boyfriend and I bound for the first time. My male friends treated me like “one of the guys,” which is to say, as a completely distinct phenomenon from the other females. My feelings of being different, of being “not like the other girls,” were reinforced with every turn. I was able to “opt-out” of the gross objectification of my female peers, largely through this understanding of my identification. I identified with my young male friends.

As a young adult, my identification with became my identification as. The lines had blurred, and I no longer saw the distinction – if I had seen it at all up to that point. I became one of the young men, instead of the one female allowed in our boys’ club. I was accepted with open arms, and my identity was affirmed from all directions in my social circle.

It wasn’t until many years later that I really had to start untangling the differences between identifying with the men in my life, versus identifying as a man. I think that if I had had Butch women or other young Butches in my life at some of these critical moments that I would have identified with them, instead of males. The sad fact is that Butch women and the Butch experience is really not something that is accessible or visible to the vast majority of our youth. As a young person, so much of one’s sense of self is shaped by one’s role models, that it seems no wonder that a young GNC female would feel identity and kinship with males, instead of with females, if no Butch or GNC females are available as role models. If the only people that talk about their bodies the way the way that a young GNC female experiences her body identify as men, then it is clear to see why more and more GNC females are identifying as men and transitioning.

I am most motivated by myself ten or twenty years ago to keep pushing and keep being visible. It is sometimes very hard to stand up and talk about my dysphoria or my transition, but I think it’s worth it for future generations. Our young Butches and GNC females need to see their lives and experiences reflected in a way that is positive about being female and accepting of one’s female body. I just want to be the example that I wish I had had as a child. If I can show even one young woman that she is completely in charge of her body and the way that she uses it to express herself, then I will have accomplished my goals. I think there’s a lot more than one out there, though. I think there are a lot of us that need this healing visibility. I will continue to put my words and face out there for as long as it takes.