I’m poz. Like, undetectable. I went to the doctor a week ago, which means, if we use a condom, it’s actually safer to have sex with me than it is with someone who says he’s negative but then, like, hasn’t been tested recently.
i’ve never posted much about ~*~the discourse~*~ on this blog but i’ve gained a lot of followers recently so i want to make it clear where i stand. i absolutely think that asexual & aromantic people are 100% valid and real but heteroromantic asexuals and aromantic heterosexuals do not belong in the LGBT community. if anything, they need their own spaces, and i’m going to explain why i feel this way.
my issue stems largely from the fact that LGBT spaces were born specifically out of a need for LGBT resources that focused on sexual love & romantic love for SGA & MGA individuals & trans people as opposed to straight and cis people. things like, forming heathy relationships with SGA & MGA people in mind, dealing with homophobia, transphobia, lesbophobia, & biphobia from family & friends and in relationships, systematic homophobia & transphobia, information on transitioning, coping with hate crimes, practising safe sex, HIV awareness, etc … and so when somebody who IDs as a “heteroromantic asexual” or something similar is in that space, they’re, to put it bluntly, taking up space and resources they don’t need. they don’t need to learn how to navigate relationships under oppressive homophobia because they’ll never experience homophobia and they don’t need to learn about dealing with systematic violence because it won’t affect them - but if a SGA/MGA asexual is in this space, they need these resources, and its still beneficial to them in a way it’s not beneficial to somebody who’s straight.
on a lesser scale, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth to see straight asexuals/aromantics navigate LGBT spaces in a way that seems to demand dominance. i think this kind of expectation came about because a lot of straight aces seem to have only been exposed to LGBT people on tumblr, which is, for the most part, a very left leaning platform - but straight PDA and gay PDA are not on the same level and never will be and i hate to see asexuals treat them as such. we need these spaces because its still dangerous for us to show affection in public spaces. we can’t just casually hold our girlfriends hand at the mall or kiss our boyfriend at the beach - these actions can have consequences if we don’t gauge the area, the surroundings, the people. so when you, a straight asexual, try to control the ways in which LGBT people operate in their own spaces because hugging or kissing makes you uncomfortable, it becomes a problem. that’s absolutely a valid concern in your own spaces but you can’t bring those issues into a community that was largely founded on the need to safely show our affection & love for each other in safety. you can’t co-opt their safe space like that. you’re sending a message to LGBT people that their affection and their love is equal to that of the people who oppress them.
If Donald Trump gets impeached or assassinated, we will be stuck with Mike Pence as President.
Mike Pence is against women’s reproductive rights, thinks doctors who perform an abortion should be liable for wrongful death, wants to force women who have an abortion or miscarriage to have a funeral for their fetuses with a cremation or burial, and was the first to introduce a bill to defund Planned Parenthood. Pence is against abortion even if the fetus could not survive outside the womb (for example, some fetuses develop without a brain), is against abortion if carrying the pregnancy to term would kill the mother, and is against abortion in cases of rape. Speaking of which, he condones and trivializes sexual assault. He wanted money that was going towards HIV awareness and prevention to go to LGBTQ+ conversion camps, said that gay marriage signals the collapse of society, actively opposes marriage equality, and supports refusal of service and job discrimination. In fact, he was responsible for closing the only HIV testing facility in Scott County, Indiana which resulted in an HIV outbreak two years later. Mike Pence voted against healthcare for poor lower class children who need it most. He denies the existence of police brutality and institutional racism all together. He is against women in the military and thinks that working mothers ruin their children.
Mike Pence’s brand of racism/sexism/homophobia/etc. is much more subdued than Trump’s, but it is also much more insidious and hateful.
A romantic subplot involving Connor (Jack Falahee) and techie hookup Oliver (Conrad Ricamora), which Nowalk initially worried viewers would find cliché, could end up offering a fresh and real perspective on living with the AIDS virus. “Our goal is to treat that in a very realistic and contemporary way,” Nowalk says of Oliver, who learned at the end of the season that he was HIV-positive. “How do you live as an HIV-positive man with a boyfriend? We take it to places I hope that viewers don’t expect coming, Especially now that Oliver is a huge security blanket in Connor’s life, and a necessary balance to all the murder.”
“In 1991, Princess Diana moved a mountain by addressing the stigma surrounding people living with HIV/AIDS. She showed the world we could safely wrap our arms around AIDS patients, by shaking hands with a patient without gloves.We’ve made huge strides since then in the treatment of the disease. People now live long, happy lives with HIV, when the virus is effectively managed with anti-retrovirals. Despite this amazing progress, most people today are still frightened and stigmatised at the notion of taking an HIV test.Today in London, Prince Harry gave that stigma a knock on the head by showing the world how easy and simple it is to take an HIV test. Bravo Prince Harry! Your mother would be so proud of you.@ejaf #LoveBravery”