the depression's hit me with several non-functioning days at the worst part of the sem, any advice?
hi, hello. i know, from experience, that those days are the worst. it’s difficult when you need to do things, but you just can’t function. sometimes you even begin to hate yourself. don’t. during these times, practice self-care.
these are some things i would recommend when you feel the blues™:
change your sheets
get enough sleep
take a hot (or cold) shower
do a complete skin care routine
make your bed
clean up your desk
throw away the trash x get your laundry done
run some more
better yet, take a hike
visit museums, look at art
buy flowers and put them in your room
be silent, clear your mind of any thought
unplug from social media
draw a self-portrait
laugh at memes
if you don’t play an instrument, listen to live music
sing/lip sync along to any music you want
make a list of beautiful things you’ve seen
make a list of all the places you’ll go to
dress up really nicely
watch the sunset
go to the sea (you’re 60% water)
hold a hand
dance until you shatter yourself*
ETA: Get shit done, no matter now little you get done. Self-care is fighting back, one little step at a time.
Question. How did you originally gain the confidence to start publishing your art? I've been trying to get back into drawing, but I'm having a hard time building up the confidence to even try, much less post anything. (I keep crying when I see my old art or try to draw new art because my friend, who is a freaking fantastic artist, insulted my work every chance she got) I admire your work very much, and I was wondering if you could give me some advice.
I think your friend has no right to insult your work, especially if she’s an artist herself…she’s supposed to be your friend??? I’m sorry you had to deal with that.
I’m lucky in the fact that I never had a doubt whether to publish my art or not, it wasn’t an issue for me. Since I was a child I always drew things and gave them to people, I’d never heard of drawing solely for oneself, so naturally a lot of people got to see my bad art! (I now regret)
Having someone bring your confidence down over your art is definitely an impediment, I mean even now I get super bummed when someone criticises my work and I get art blocked because of it.
My advice to you is keep trying. Even the best artists started by drawing badly, and most of us have hidden from the world for a while to give ourselves time and healing in order to improve.
Even if you have to draw in secret, just draw! Publishing something you poured your heart and soul into is scary, and you don’t really have to pressure yourself into doing it if you don’t want to. And if you do want to post your stuff, try not to over-think it! Just post it and have it done with, then you can start working on your next piece :D
Hi Daddy. To get to my girlfriend it's a three and a half hour drive. As a closeted pan dating a closeted girl while we are both not yet adults, we can't see each other at all - all I want is her to be my date to my school formal, but she has stricter parents - they've never even met me. I hate having no control over this - I have OCD and in this situation with a total lack of control, hurts. I don't know how to get it back. Sorry to bother you, but please, any light shed here would help. <3
Hi there. Gosh I understand this. So is there any way you could contact the girl without both of your parents notecing? I don’t know how strict they are. I think it’s sad if people can’t talk to their parents for some reason when they have something on their mind. Anyway. I would try to contact her ans ask about the school formal, after having the answer you will have better control and can calm a little. About not being able to see each other, that’s hard because you life far apart. You have to think about it yourself. I don’t know how old either of you are and how the whole situation is. Please always consider that both of you have to be safe. I hope you can see each other soon and that everything works out. All the best to you
Hi I need some advice. I'm trans and I need to tell my parents but I don't know how to. I don't know how they feel about transgender people and I don't want them to disown me cause I have no one else..
You could always test the waters by bringing up trans issues or mentioning a trans celebrity. That way, you can gauge their reaction. If they react negatively, I don’t think it would be safe for you to come out, but you know your situation the best.
As for coming ou, you can choose to write a letter or an email if you would rather not tell them face-to-face. It depends on whether you want time to figure out how to say what you want to say, and whether you want to be there to answer any questions they might have.
Im like 1000 years late but i have a question about the laurens lives au would philip still die? Like, maybe laurens had overheard hamilton tell philip his advice and is all like "yo thats a terrible fucking idea why dont u shoot him instead." And maybe philip doesnt get shot??? Idk
who knows!! maybe, maybe not! butterfly effect….mayb philip dies anyways
Hi i just need this answer, how your advice if a writer not in mood to write? Have ideas but can't write it?
aren’t in the mood to write, maybe don’t. Unless you’re on a deadline. Then get
into the mood. Do whatever you have to.
it helps to have a pre-writing routine. Make coffee. Grab a snack. Do a little
dance. Anything. It can be as simple as walking the dog.
that some days you won’t be in the mood. You won’t always feel like writing.
Being able to embrace that might help you write even when you aren’t happy or
build the habit of writing every day or writing frequently. If you can, you’ll
find it doesn’t matter whether you’re in the mood to or not. Getting into a
consistent routine primes your brain. So your mind might realize come 8 in the
morning or 4 in the afternoon, it’s time to get to work. It’s time to write.
mood even if you’re writing a certain sort of scene. Listen to a sad song to
write a sad scene. Play upbeat music for a happier meeting between two
have ideas and can’t write them, ask yourself why? What’s holding you back? Is
it fear? Doubt?
you just have to sit down, pick up a pen, and get something down on paper. So
free-write. Journal. Switch off your internal editor. Tell him or her to shut
dedicated physical space for writing could work wonders to get you into the
mental writing space as well. Your office, the kitchen table, etc. You’ll
likely find yourself writing just about everywhere. Still, having a home base
is nice to have.
open a book. And find a relevant or profound quote. Use it as inspiration. As a
prompt. As a starting point. As a sentence stater.
time for writing. Ideally during an hour or two in the day when you feel great.
Maybe that’s right when you wake up or before you go to bed. Figure out
yourself and when you write best. When you’re the most creative, most
goals. Small goals. Your dreams can be big and insane. But your goals need to
be attainable. That way you’ll feel less discouraged during the writing
process, which should make you feel better more often.
yourself for writing. And though punishing yourself for not writing probably
isn’t the way to go, don’t let rewards come before work. Perhaps your all time
favourite TV show comes on at 7 p.m in the evening. Instead of putting off
writing until after the show, push yourself to get some words down before it.
restraints. Tell yourself you’re going to write a scene that takes place at the
park. Or you’ll only write for ten minutes. Or you want to fill up three pages.
Preferably you set a small goal. Of course if you get in the zone, you can keep
going with the scene from the park to the mall. Who knows ten minutes could
turn into thirty. While three pages becomes thirteen.
what you read yesterday, so you know where you left off. You can also leave
your last sentence incomplete and come back to it tomorrow to get into the
scene again. It may help a lot to stop when you’re ahead, when you know what’s
going to happen next.
easy. But starting is probably the toughest part.
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1. learning is better than knowing. you don’t need to be a genius to do well in school, only dedicated enough to actively pursue your education.
2. straight A’s =/= intelligence. don’t let your grades define you; test grades can’t capture the passion in your eyes and the resilience in your bones.
3. friendships change, but sometimes that's a good thing. some relationships are bested by time, and people grow apart. in the absence of others, you may find that you’ve been missing out on what’s been right in front of you the entire time.
4. rest is important. your health is always more important than school. while stress is inevitable, never be afraid to take a day off, or talk to a trusted adult. Mental health is just as valid as physical health.
5. your life is just beginning. i know that failing test grade or the fact that your crush rejected you seems like the end of the world, but i promise you that it’s not the end. life is literally the longest thing any of us will experience, so fall in love with living. think of every opportunity as just another beginning.
After we told him Tumblr’s data confirms he’s the longest-running everyday GIF artist, he said, “I have no idea how to word what I am feeling to be honest. I am really moved.
Awww. And as if his GIFs themselves weren’t inspiring enough…
His advice to artists on their own everyday creative journey is, "Don’t worry so much. So much greatness is ruined by anxiety. Some days will turn out like garbage, some days you will be magically inspired and you will make something you are extremely happy with. The great thing is that the days just keep coming.”
It’s been a beautiful four years, Tyler. Here’s to four more.
1. The fact that Clint saw tangled wires and assumed Tony would know what to do
2. The fact that Tony actually came to help him
3. The fact that Clint did not take his advice anyway
4. The fake drama and how Tony looks far more anxious about this than he is about most life-threatening situations
5. This is Tony’s only appearance in the entire series, except for the next few panels where he offers to buy Clint all new stuff (which ends on a surprisingly poignant note). Like this is it. He just shows up to fix the DVR and is never seen again