hijaabi

do y'all not realize that when you say wearing a hijaab is sexist you are literally the ones making it about men? hijaabis chose to cover as a display of devotion to Allah in the same way that Sikh men chose to wear a turban to show their devotion to their religion. why doesn’t anyone call that misandry? lmao y'all don’t even see the sexism in your dumb logic it’s so tiring. I really don’t see you guys as being incapable of understanding that a Muslim woman has agency of her own life, that she can feel liberated in her choice to be modest. just admit you hate Muslims man stop trying to defend your hate of brown women with feminism or egalitarian secularism y'all are boring

Can we take a minute and speak about this prevalent trend of “Hijabi fashionistas” Before anyone gets defensive and feels they’re being attacked, this is not about anyone’s *personal* journey, rather more about *public journeys* and how we are influencing our youth. So no one is judging anyone, nor being holier than though, this is a bit of #FoodForThought.

Recently i’ve been seeing fashion shows/cat walks, Muslims women on the runways etc highlighting “modest fashion” where the idea is to cater for Muslim women.

I completely understand Muslim women fall into many many categories when it comes to implementing the Hijab in its entirety, and by that I do not mean just the headscarf. I understand the difficulties in implementing the hijaab (been there, done that). I understand all the thought processes before finally making the decision to implement the hijab outwardly and inwardly. I also understand wanting to look nice and presentable.

What I do not accept nor understand is the category of women who outright reject the command. Our attire and what we have been commanded to wear is clear cut, stated in the Qur'an and ahadith. It’s fine for you to do business, also fine for you to cater for Muslim women as there is a huge market, but I feel somewhere in all this business and making a name, the true essence and identity of a Muslimah is getting lost behind make up, pouts and excessiveness.

There are so many problems with the Muslim Fashionista era that we are living in.

[1] Our attire is being commercialised and we are condoning it. Initially it was just within, now it is also external. We do not need Nike to promote our hijab, we do not need Debenhams to start endorsing our clothes. We do not need approval or validation from any mainstream companies. They are not doing us a favour, they are not “accepting us” they are thinking with their business hat on and how to make a profit. So firstly, it is important we do not fall into that trap of thinking finally the world is starting to accept us.

[2] When Muslim women are walking up and down the runway, there are male photographers present, male audience present, men reading and seeing about the fashion show in the news, does this defeat the purpose of hijab? Whilst we flaunt the “modest clothing” on our body, we are being watched and ogled at. Beautified faces, beautified clothes, is this really modest, if we think about modesty in its entirety and not just a piece of cloth? Does this thought process make me extreme? O_o

[3] We are seeing Muslim women bloggers who categorise themselves as hijaabis and whilst they may be struggling to wear the hijab in its correct form, showing your hair and neck is not hijaab and should never ever be promoted as hijab. Whilst these bloggers influence our youth to wear turbans, show their awrah yet call it hijaab, surely we should be challenging this and not encouraging when these bloggers “make it” and become “famous”.

Honestly it is a great thing to see sisters excelling and making a name for themselves, but at the expense of a lost identity?

Are Muslim women having an identity crisis, trying to fit in between the “modern world” and the Islamic world? What are WE doing to lead our youth and what CAN we do to lead them? To ensure our youth do not feel like they need validation? To ensure our youth are looking up to the correct figures as their role models?

May Allah allow us to excel in His beautiful Deen, and forgive us when we fall short.

- M. A.

what even is the point of this season bc i don’t get it? besides tryna trying up loose ends and leaving us with more questions?

it was an amazing experience to follow s3 because u could feel the realistic script, and nothing felt too all over the place

we got to see a strong friendship between the boys who openly talked about sexuality, we got to see important discussions regarding pride, mental illness and religion. we got to, much like in s1, the main character grow (ill leave s2 open for interpretation lol). this season seems to have thus far push the main character down, and (surprise!) it’s a girl of colour (who is also a muslim), as if that trope isn’t tiresome already

the intro shot of this season, what with trump and the islamophobia in france, the casual islamophobia directed at sana, one would have thought this season would still be able to focus on sana whilst tying up these lose ends

this far… we haven’t seen none of this really? all we’ve seen is people trying to change sana’s views, and while that’s healthy to some extent (to analyse ur own views), we haven’t really heard much from sana, which has also ended with sana. the discussion she had with elias (yousef isn’t muslim / he’s the most muslim guy elias knows) it ended with elias asking sana if it’s more important to say you believe in Allah or do good things (um…)

and the discussion with isak (try going out as a hijaabi) finally voiced sana’s frustrations, but ended with isak telling her she’s wrong and she must answer to racists and islamophobes as if she signed up for it because she is religious (… yikes)

and then sana told the girls her feelings on text message (the bus meeting clip in ep8) and now everything is alright between them, and this hasn’t even been mentioned? none of the girls talk to her about it as if her feelings weren’t that important to talk to her about now that they came back for her (still? no confirmation it was isak but ill let it slide it hasn’t even been a week yet)

we’ve seen a shit ton of islamophobia thrown at sana, and people trying to change her views, where only her mother actually apologised to her (over text but in a clip so). but what have we learnt? how much has sana grown from this?

thus far it feels like we’ve learnt that:

girls are backstabbing fuckers who talk shit behind ur back (contrary to the boys who communicate (apparently))

ur (female) friends won’t hear u out if u mess up (contrary to s3 and the boys’ friendship)

if you’re too strong in your belief everyone else is right (even a person who literally has no clue where you’re coming from)

the muslim (girl of colour) gets sidelined for everything else?

and that some things just solve itself out without any communication?

and are u literally trying to tell me that sana only has her mum and jamilla as other female muslims in her life? are we being serious here???????

what we were first given ain’t what we’re receiving. i have learnt absolutely nothing from this season (besides how many twats there are in this fandom)

Is A Muslim Magical Girl Offensive?

Anonymous asked:

Question!! mod kaye, i know you touched a little bit on the topic of magic being taboo for muslim characters… i wanted to write a magical girl story in homage to a genre i love, with a diverse cast of young women, including a hijabi muslim character. now i’m wondering whether this is sketchy. the magical girls’ powers, in-universe, don’t derive from “magic” but from alien technology/quantum physics/something like that, and to separate her further from anything fantastically “magical”, the muslim character’s powers incorporate electricity and computer technology (as one of her mundane hobbies is programming, this is amplified as a source of her power). is it still inappropriate to create such a character or expect her to be received warmly by muslim audiences? should i consider rewriting the character as a non-magical ally or just scrapping her? i don’t want to lose her, since i like the character and i think the magical girl genre should celebrate all kinds of girls and girlhood. but i want to check myself and be cautious. (i’ve seen artists on tumblr draw hijabi magical girl fanart and stuff too, but i know it’s different when it comes from an outsider/oppressor.)

Hello there!

First of all, may I just say how lovely it is to have a question written to me and so sweetly? Thank you just for that and for your concern about writing a Muslim character correctly!

Like every mod has noted before, no people are a monolith, and as I’ve noted before, Islam is understood and prescribed and practiced in different ways by different people. I’ve said before that even more liberal Muslims I know don’t like the idea of magic as it is used by a Muslim character.

Even with the Beauxbatons headcanon, sorting into Hogwarts houses and – as you pointed out – the new obsession with drawing hijaabis as magical girls and even magical creatures (that, I must note, is not always done respectfully or with the idea of proper representation beyond that hijaabi being used as an “exotic” change) – I still often see a consensus of leaving magic alone when it comes to Islam or else treading carefully, and I think we should respect that.

Of course, in the same vein, there are Muslims who don’t have a problem with it. We’re not a monolith and I’m just noting that so that I’m not erasing them.

(In Islam as I’ve been taught it, magic is viewed as having repercussions of evil and only used for ill purposes. There are several stories where someone was taught magic as a trial of faith, and when they proceeded to abuse it, as expected, they lost their faith and were led astray.)

But, to be entirely honest, I also have a magical girl story, and – in the name of representing the girl in me who loves her magical girl animes – there is a Muslim girl who is a hijaabi. I’ve written down this idea as being possibly magical realism, which would then make the entire world have a dream-like state that, I would hope, would cancel out the whole onus of magic being focused on that one Muslim girl character. It’s definitely still a work in progress, and even as a Muslim girl, I want to do the best by my faith and by my own heart.

That might be one possibility to circumvent any problematic aspect, and I think you’ve already done that: playing around with the atmosphere of the world at large. Reading through your idea, I don’t see anything innately problematic about the idea of this Muslim magical girl and her particular talent. If anything, it reads like a superhero origin, and we all know Muslim superheroes that are accepted and do quite well with Muslim readers.

Personally, I often see magical girls as a brand of superheroes. If we can have Kamala Khan – who, as a side note, is wondrous – wearing her suit and transforming and being awesome as a Muslim heroine, I’m pretty sure there’s a way that we can have our magical girls, too.

I agree with you that the magical girl genre celebrates girlhood and I appreciate your concern with representing different girls, so I hope that in some way, this answer helps you. If anything, my primary suggestion would be to continue to write with an eye for making that Muslim character as full-fleshed and real as you can and keep asking respectful questions from people of the Islamic faith when you need to. If you feel you’re stepping away from the more superhero origin story,

I wish you the best of luck! (And if you ever want to talk magical girls, now you know which mod to look up!)

- Kaye

Generally, I would stay away from Muslim characters doing magic unless it’s established that magic is a norm in the universe you’re writing? Like in Harry Potter, it’s just something that exists and I personally (just me here, not trying to speak over anyone) think there’s nothing wrong with, for example, having Muslims at Beauxbatons. I mean, I actually did like that headcanon, and I was thinking about how it would mesh with them being Muslims. I thought maybe they just wouldn’t do divination because knowing the future seems like it would be something that’s haram no matter what? I don’t know - I mean, I’m a revert and even though I’ve studied Islam a lot, there’s still a lot I don’t know. 

-Tasbeeh

I think the gaining powers from technological incidents is a really cool idea and circumvents the magic thing but still gives her powers, and if playing around with technology was a hobby of hers, all the better! - Yasmin

Shout out to all the niqaabis and proper hijaabis who struggle on a daily basis and receive crap from people. ALLAH WILL REWARD YOU. DON’T WORRY ABOUT NOBODY AND DON’T LET SHAITAIN FOOL YOU AND TRICK YOU INTO THE “Wow I have all these other sins I am so hypocritical for even wearing niqaab I should take it off…” nO NO NO WHO KNOWS IT COULD BE THE DEED TO LEAD YOU TO JANNAH

people in the fandom who suffer from mi: *said from the start they knew even was mi bc they could relate and saw the signs.*
gross people in the fandom: “STOP PROJECTING!!!”
canon: *even has bipolar disorder.*

muslims as well as people who like to analyse in the fandom: *connected all the dots about the hints being dropped in s3 about even and islam.*
gross people in the fandom: “FGS NOT EVERYTHING HAS TO BE ABOUT MUSLIMS. EVEN’S NOT INTERESTED IN ISLAM YOU’RE JUST READING TOO MUCH INTO SHIT!!”
canon: *even is so invested in islam that he’s not only got sketches of a hijaabi woman on his wardrobe in his room, but went so far as to learn the qur’aan in arabic, and has muslim friends too which all connected to his deep interest in islam.*

even and sana enthusiasts in the fandom, based off religious beliefs: *said from the start even and sana were connected and saw all the links between them through islam in canon.*
gross people in the fandom: “LOLZ DELUSIONAL PEOPLE BE REACHING SO HARD THEY’RE GONNA CRY TEARS!!!!”
canon: *even and sana have known each other all along all this time.*

people that in the fandom who relate to vilde: *are saying with personal experience that they can tell vilde is a lesbian.*
gross people in the fandom: *SHE’S BI!” “SHE’S HAPPY WITH MAGNUS!” “FFS SHE’S STRAIGHT GET UR LESBIANISM AWAY FROM HERE!!!!*
canon: …………….. i mean, do y’all gross people really wanna go up against being proven wrong when people with experience have time and time again been right?

in short, when people who have personal experiences are telling you they can relate to a character and their situation, and can pick up the signs, you shut up, sit down, and you listen to their valid reasoning.

Opening Montage of Skam Season 4 >>>>>

SANA’S IG POST YAAAAAAAAAAAAAS!!!!

bc i remember iman talking about how upset and hurt she was about the rule of hijaabis not being allowed to wear the hijaab during playing basketball.

so to see sana be SO SO SO happy about the rule change, about hijaabis being allowed to wear the hijaab whilst playing basketball?

I AM SO HAPPY SKAM INCLUDED SUCH A HUGE TOPIC INTO THE SHOW.

OUR HIJAABS ARE NOT BARRIERS. OUR HIJAABS BREAK BARRIERS. 👏👏👏👏👏

but dude … i was so certain that at the end of the season 4 trailer the name of the main was ‘sana’, right??

i never knew noora was poc! a hijaabi wearing muslimah! that she was moroccan! that her religion was islam!

woops, my bad! i’ve been focusing on the wrong girl all season! all hail erasure and whitewashing! 🙌🙌🙌

Best Head Coverings for Muslim Superhero and Non-Binary Character with Gender-Swapping Powers

@sacrilegiouscas asked:

 Hello! My friend and I are making a comic, and we’ve decided to switch places - she’s doing the writing and I’m the artist… but that’s irrelevant. Our superhero comic is about a Koori girl (the Indigenous Aussie who occupied now-day Victoria and NSW) and her sidekick, an Australian-Muslim girl.

We want our sidekick here to wear a traditional headcovering, but we’re a bit stuck as to the design/what would be appropriate. Both girls will be doing a lot of kick-ass action and jumping and just general superhero-stuff, but we still want our sidekick to wear her covering. We were wondering if you could tell us (or link us to) what the best type of headcovering would be for this superhero? We were thinking of a hijab, but would that stay in place with all the movement and action?

We were also wondering if it would be offensive to make our Muslim girl non-binary, and have her superpower as a gender-changing one? I have a Muslim friends who’s gay, but we’re worried that making OUR girl non-binary would just be crossing the line or something…

Thanks for helping out! 

Though Kaye has more authority on this than me, I would say that there are water-proof hijabs, meant-for-athletics hijabs, etc. The hijab will stay on. As for outfit, I’m seeing stretchy leggings, a long-sleeve top, then like a loose flow-y upper garment to about mid-thigh. The garment should serve to obscure the features of her body, but it doesn’t need to be long enough to stop her from running.

-Mod Yasmin

I agree with Mod Yasmin’s response. I am a hijaabi who has done a lot of athletic activities (swimming, tennis, martial arts) and the hijab stays. It’s a matter of choosing the right hijab for the task at hand, and like Yasmin said, there are athletic lines available and easy to find online nowadays. If you don’t have the specific hijab, though, I’ve made do with one-piece, slide on hijaabs from slick material.

-Mod Kaye

Non binary (two spirit) mod on that portion of your question: the thing about “gender swapping” powers is it can reinforce cissexist notions that presentation/biology= gender. The way you’ve worded it seems very binarist and has the potential to stray into offensive territory pretty fast if not handled delicately. You need to break out of the idea that somebody with long hair and an hourglass figure can’t be non binary with no change in presentation, or a person with a full beard and flat chest can’t use “she.” “Gender swapping” seems to imply there is one way to have a gender, when there really isn’t. I would take the broader “shapeshifting”, which helps break out of the idea.

That being said. While there is nothing inherently wrong with making a non binary superhero with shapeshifting powers (so long as it’s not exclusively femme presentation=girl and masculine presentation=guy), I have one question: why this power, of all powers?

Shapeshifting non binary characters are actually incredibly common and some of the only representation non binary people have in mainstream media. It gets extremely frustrating to see all the nuanced feelings of being non binary in a body that’s often fairly gendered (how to alter presentation to be read how you want, potential dysphoria, the fun of messing with people’s heads with a single set of skin in general) taken away because the person can just change their body on a whim (which can still mess with people’s heads, but in a potentially different way). While you have some amount of ability to show the “civilian” side with how there’s likely an alter-ego, it’s still the same old thing. Non binary people have multiple “skins” to work with.

My personal preference is you give your non binary character some other powers and incorporate the fact that they are AFAB/AMAB (assigned female at birth/assigned male at birth) with no special gift to change how they look into their identity. If they want to change, they have to consider binders/stuffing, packers/tucking, hormones, vocal coaching, or others. They could just go “screw it” and exist as a non binary person who is still very much non binary without modifying how they dress, act, or look. Somewhere in the middle, they could not change their body or mannerisms but change how they present (their clothes) to fit what they see as the best version of themselves. 

You should also consider what androgyny means to the character, because it can take on different forms depending on a whole bunch of factors. Androgyny in the traditional sense is a way of being non binary, but it’s not the only way (also tends to look different for AMAB people than AFAB, because working with different secondary sex characteristics that are highly gendered in modern society).

Another thing to keep in mind, just in general— people can be trans and non binary, meaning a trans guy or girl can still be gender non conforming. It can make navigating the highly medicalized and cissexist world of doctors nearly impossible, but that is something I want to throw out there. 

Like I said earlier, there isn’t really anything particularly wrong with a shapeshifting non binary character. I’d just like to see representation, especially superhero representation, move out of that realm and realize non binary people can have other powers while still being non binary.

Regarding the Hijabi costume design: I’d suggest looking at Ms Marvel. I’ve heard fantastic things about her costume. It might not include the hijab, but the visuals of the bodysuit seem to be very respectful.

~ Mod Lesya

I also agree on the outfit idea and would point you to Ms. Marvel (yay Kamala Khan!) and her clever use of her Islamic swimwear in order to make an outfit that is modest but easy to move in.

-Mod Kaye

Wearing the Hijab In Front of Gay Friends

@kingapplebutter asked:

Hi! I have a question about Hijaabis. (If that’s the right term!) Would it be improper for a girl to remove her hijab in front of a homosexual male friend, or a homosexual female friend? Or is it more complicated that? Thanks!

Hello!

I do hate to sound like a broken record, but I’m afraid that I can’t give a definitive answer to this question. Your character’s view of the hijab depends largely on their understanding of religion, gender, and sexuality. Obviously more conservative muslims will stick to covering around boys only, whereas others with a more open and modern view on Islam will perhaps take different sexualities and genders into account when choosing who to uncover in front of. 

At its very basic, the hijab is about being in control of how you are viewed, it is about modesty, it is about freeing yourself from an oppressive (and by and large male-associated) gaze.

So it is in fact a bit more complicated than just covering up in front of people who have the capacity to be sexually attracted to you. I don’t wear the hijab, but if I were you I would consider the variety of reasons why someone might choose to wear the hijab (a Google search will reveal a world of amazing hijabis who have shared their stories) or even just dress conservatively, and see how that reasoning matches up to the situations you come up with.

(And yes. Hijaabi, hijabi, slight variations in spelling are fine.)

-Mod Yasmin

Muslim Characteristics and the Purpose of the Hijab

Anonymous said: hi! i’m writing a story where the main character is a muslim teen girl, and it’s not like the /main/ focus of the story but since i’m not muslim myself i was wondering if you had any pointers on how to show that as a part of her life (beyond the hijab, which is something she chooses only to wear at home?) without being too blatant/forced or oppositely non-evident? thank you!

Hi there! Islam is a deeply intricate religion that is woven into a muslim’s everyday life, and there are definitely easy ways to sneak in indicators of a person’s religion. For example, muslims only eat meat that has been cut the halal way- your character could ask about that at a restaurant, or forgo the meat just to be safe. Muslims also pray five times a day (with the exception of the days some people are on their periods), so you could show her waking up at sunrise to pray Fajr. Honestly, there are a million and one ways to portray a muslim girl.

Also, while I might not know the complete context of your character’s situation, the purpose of a hijab is to shield a person from the gaze of male strangers. Homes are places where girls let their hair down and relax. A muslim only wearing a hijab at home contradicts the very importance of a hijab and could be really offensive to some readers. There are many muslim girls who don’t wear a hijab, so I suggest maybe going with that. There are also muslim girls who wear the hijab in certain areas (read: around traditional family members) to preserve social standing, but aren’t actually committed to the hijab.

I suggest you do more research on Islam if you want to convey your character realistically.

-Yasmin

I’d just like to add that I see quite a few writers taking the non-hijaabi route in order to avoid repercussions of possibly negative representation. I’d just like to stress that, if you feel that offering this representation is important, and you feel that you can do the research and continue to ask the questions to make it as good as you can, you should strive to do it.

Of course, we need non-hijaabi representation, but I do not think that should be the only option offered if a writer is nervous about approaching the hijaab.

Besides that note, I agree with Yasmin’s eloquent answer and the fact that a girl only wearing the hijaab at home is rather unusual and offensive. Good luck!

-Kaye

Hijab Spelling & Covering At Home

@greenfieldnews said:

Hi, thank you so much for hosting this. Please know my question is said with respect & understanding that one person can never speak for a whole religion. My ask re: characters and hijabs. First, is it “the hijab” or “a hijab” (I’ve seen it both ways.) Second, in a prior answer to someone who only wanted their character to wear the hijab in the house, you mentioned this would be odd. If a non-Muslim girl was visiting the house of friend who wears the hijab daily everywhere, would that change?

We’re not neurotic about the spelling, promise. And speaking as a hijaabi, I tend to wear my hijab at home when friends are visiting - mainly because sometimes my friends have brothers that hang with my brothers and I feel like I’d better be careful, and sometimes I just…forget I have it on or have a pashmina slung around my head or a dupatta (in Bangladesh, we call it an orna, but don’t quote me on the spelling) to match my outfit, so.

Really, it depends on the hijaabi and how she feels.

-Mod Kaye

I would add that the reason we found it odd that she wears the hijab in the house alone is the hijab is for modesty and covering and if she’s alone there’s no one to cover from. But if she has a male friend visiting then of course, she would wear it in her house. It’s not about the place, it’s about the people there. Regarding the “a” or “the,” it doesn’t really matter to me.

-Mod Yasmin

life-of-a-smol-potato  asked:

So I have this story about two twins in mind. The twins are half Egyptian, half Greek and they live in Greece with adoptive parents while still having a good relantionship with their biological mother. (Mother is Greek, bio father is Egyptian, not apart of lives) And in the story their adoptive mother is muslim and so the twins grow up knowing a few things here and there about the religion but never really take an interest in it. (Not enough that they would consider themselves muslim.)

Part 2…But when they are about 14-16 ish the girl twin starts to take an interest and wants to be more apart of the things her adoptive mother does but isn’t interested in being overly religious. How should I go about this? What are some things that would be good to (kind of slowly) start off with as she starts learning about Islam from her adoptive mother? (Aside from simply wearing a hijab)

Adopted Muslim Characters

Maybe it’s my experience in Islam, but it’s interesting that a pair of twins would be adopted by a Muslim mother and only take a passing interest in religion. Being raised by someone that seems to be conservative and practicing would mean a direct immersion in faith, at least from my experience. You learn how to pray, how to read Arabic and learn certain verses and chapters from the Qu'ran, maybe get taken to conventions or Eid prayers and bazaars. Maybe things are different in Greece, but that’s how I’ve experienced things here.

Also, I’m not sure what overly religious would be in this case if the adoptive parents are already easy-going with their kids not being immersed in religion. Does this mean that she is not interested in wearing the hijaab? What about it is catching her interest? Since I have a parent who is a convert and have had a lot of convert friends and “aunties”, a lot of them cite the feeling that they found peace and answers in Islam. Is anything about faith - perhaps finding a quiet moment to pray, or feeling as though her prayers are being heard - touching her heart? This is definitely a deep, personal decision and not one that can be tossed in or presented with face value items, in my opinion.

In addition, though I’m a hijaabi, I shrink away from the idea of hijaab being the only indicator of someone being deeply interested in faith or turning to faith. I know spiritual people with such beautiful hearts and souls who do not wear hijaab and should not be discounted because of that.

-Mod Kaye

I agree with Kaye. A practicing Muslim involves themselves in a lot of things, from Eid to prayers. However, I have friends who were raised in a Muslim environment who aren’t religious themselves, and while they do go along with religious holidays they do it mainly to be with the family and not for religious reasons. In short, I can see it being realistic, but you’d have to be careful in writing characters that experience Islam in their daily lives but are not religious themselves. Are they not religious people at all? Do they lean towards atheism? Or have they explored another religion? Christianity is popular in Greece, perhaps they were influenced there. These are questions to consider when exploring their motives and character.

Oh, and, as Kaye said, just because they don’t pray or wear hijab doesn’t mean they aren’t Muslim. So if that’s what you mean, then people who maintain a spiritual connection but aren’t practicing are still Muslim.

-Mod Yasmin