How do you stay positive when bad things constantly happen?
I could reply to you with a highly spiritually positive answer, optimistic and jovial, but if one is to become too idealistic it may lose it’s practical dimension, a loss of reality and human touch. First I ask you to become clear on what is ‘bad’ is it things in your internal world or external, because they both reflect one another, however the perspective indicates the level of consciousness of the individual. Someone with not as a higher level of consciousness would perceive the ‘bad’ things as out there, where as someone who has consciousness would understand that everything ‘bad’ is coming from within and everything/everyone ‘out there’ is a reflection of one’s inner self - this is very different from playing the victim via self-blame, I’m referring to responsibility. Being responsible for your life by consciously creating it, understanding every situation and person is a reflection of your own unconscious. This would be a great time to call on uncle Carl Jung to help us out, him being the one who made the unconsciousness known to man in psychological terms, to quote him “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves…
There is no coming to consciousness without pain…
As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light of meaning in the darkness of mere being…
Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people…
We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses…
When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate.”
When you understand that everything without is a projection of within, it doesn’t make the pain any less painful, for a while in fact we may become intolerably uncomfortable with social interactions because we are unwilling to deal with ourselves out every time…we go into ourselves, to get away from ourselves, we end up getting lost in the self, and now we are drowning in ourselves. You have unconsciously took the journey into the unconscious. You might as well chose to consciously continue the path of the underworld, instead of avoiding it and having life oppress you at every turn until you agree to free the soul and purify the impure aspects of yourself.
There is a legend, that after his death, Jesus descended into the realm of Satan to save the soul of Adam (=the pure man) and any well learned person knows that the father of modern science, the sleeping profit Edgar Cayce when asked “When did Jesus know he was the savior” he replied “when he fell in the garden of Eden.” So metaphorically speaking Jesus had to endure a painful death in order to save himself, to purify his soul and set it free. If you remember Jesus was put in a cave before his resurrection of spirit, and in Alchemy the cave always represent the first initiation into the underworld symbolically meaning the unconscious.
I bring this up only because I can recommend all the positive outlets in the world, but ultimately there will always be some form of oppression, it’s important to remember that most spiritual teachers had already endured their painful journey to the underworld prior to their spiritual transformation. Louise Hay the most popular self-help teacher was neglected, raped and abused as child, had cancer, gave her child up for adoption due to being so young and ill, divorced and a multitude of over traumatic life events before becoming spiritually enlightened. Doreen Virtue had also experienced traumatic life events which awakened her clairvoyant abilities. Eckhart Tolle was depressed and suicidal, in fact is with the thought of committing suicide that gave him his spiritual awakening. My point is pain is inevitable in spiritual growth and spiritual growth is the only reason why you exist, the rest us all just a tool to spiritual growth or a burden. The more you avoid spiritual growth the more life oppresses you until it feels like you are being dragged into the underworld by your own will. This will give you a brief insight into what I speak of - clickhere
It’s easy for an outsider to comment on being positive when they haven’t journeyed the underworld or the dark night of the soul as Christianity refers to it, due to it not being their time or using idealism as form of escapism as Carl Jung said. Wise men tell you to meditate, do yoga, rest so your body can heal and save energy as you a lot will be going internally, eat healthily, stay hydrated, listen to uplifting music (usually of the classical nature, definitely not the materialistic kind), journal, read, educate yourself, and try to stay hopeful. It’s important you don’t slump into despair for it is warned that whatever you focus your attention on grows, you focus on lack then lack is what you get in bigger amounts. Don’t become attached or disillusioned by your own ‘demons’ as they are parts of you that need purification and growth. It’s important that you take their advice, otherwise if you give your power to fear you will become engulfed in your own unconscious risking your mental health in the sake of Schizophrenia. So meditate in the morning and when you go to bed (there’s plenty of meditations on youtube ‘Doreen virtue meditations’), exercise releases endorphin's ‘happy chemicals’, being in nature I find always makes me feel closest to God.
Don’t repress your emotions, express them in the quietude of your own solitude, journal, make a poem out of them if you can, but whatever you do don’t repress them. If you feel suicidal understand that any urge of death indicated is a new step to higher consciousness, ‘death’ is asking you to let go of the attachment of the old way of being (without hurting yourself) to make way for a new and transformed you. And especially in such a spiritual phase of your life such things will be enhanced, to the point were you may feel stuck, like you’re not moving or changing at all. This is actually because you a growing so much, outgrown parts of you are constantly dying, and new parts are being born. So you might feel like you’re going through up’s and downs, extreme experiences of hell, but also extreme experiences of heaven. You know how certain things vibrate at such a high speed it seems like it’s not moving or changing at all, sound for example, well that’s the same for such a state of being.
The books I recommend are ‘She’ by Carl A Johnson, Interior Castle by St Teresa of Avila, Dark Night of the Soul by St John of the Cross, The Power of Now, The Lost Teachings of Atlantis, Don’t let anything dull your sparkle
“There is no Buddhist god per se. It is the self, the individual mind, that contains immortality and ultimate truth. At least I know where the self is. It’s in our own minds. It’s a form of human energy. Our atoms are six billion years old. We’ve got six billion years of memory in our minds. Memory is energy! It doesn’t disappear – it’s still in there. There’s a physiological pathway to our earlier consciousnesses. There has to be. And I’m telling you, it’s in the god-damned limbic system…. I’m a man in search of his true self. How archetypically American can you get? Everybody’s looking for their true selves. We’re all trying to fulfill ourselves, understand ourselves, get in touch with ourselves, face the reality of ourselves, explore ourselves, expand ourselves. Ever since we dispensed with God, we’ve got nothing but ourselves to explain this meaningless horror of life….Well, I think that that true self, that original self, that first self is a real, mensurate, quantifiable thing, tangible and incarnate. And I’m going to find the fucker.”
Time and space are modes by which we think and not conditions in which we live. Those who mostly identify with their material and transitory form, with their appearance, bank account, job remain prisoners of those restrictions imposed on us by the space-time continuum. However, if we switch to a new consciousness, a consciousness for higher frequencies, we experience the non transitory, the abiding. Time therefore is real and exists in the material world; however, it is an illusion on the spiritual level. Both realities are real. We ourselves decide according to which of these realities we want to shape our lives.
When you learn about yourself, watch yourself, watch the way you walk, how you eat, what you say, the gossip, the hate, the jealousy – if you are aware of all of that in yourself, without any choice, that is part of meditation.