Ahhhh so I joined a chat for multiples n I came across an abusive system, so I left bc that really scared me but they know my blog- I don't know theirs- they know my triggers and I don't know what they might plan to do with that information. Do you have any tips? Or comforting words?
It’s hard to give advice when they’re described as a general “abusive” so… uh…
change your url. take down any system pages, lists of triggers, general identification info about yourself from your about/byf/etc. keep info basic so it’s harder for them to confirm it’s you. change tagging conventions too bc “altername.txt” stuff is really easy to track if the name isnt common. i know for example karter uses “k posts” so that no one can search it by his name since its a less common spelling.
in all honesty, i recommend ppl dont join chats unless they have a few friends in the chat already or friends willing to join the chat with them. try to avoid joining chats that have more than 20 members too bc they tend to have internal cliques. it’s also better when joining a new group, to withhold info until you feel you have a good grasp of who’s there. the chat im in has a trigger list page but doesn’t say who the triggers belong to so that no one is explicitly vulnerable. its also wise not to list your whole system and their fronting triggers and jobs online. its easy to track and use against ppl. unless you’re in a relative position of power online, assume your system and trauma info will be weaponized against you.
i know all of that is like. such a bummer to hear but DID/OSDD people need to set more boundries to protect themselves than the averge person. after all you gotta watch out for your whole system.