i think i’ve always headcanoned that him teaching dave all that was just his way of teaching dave to be strong and of making sure dave could take care of himself, plus partially subconscious projecting himself onto dave because he also thinks he himself is strong and so if he wants dave to be strong then dave needs to be like him. plus also just general arrogance and thinking he’s great and he wants dave to be great and in a way sees him like his personal project
but wow adding genuine insecurity to that (besides the “dave will die if i don’t toughen him up” thing) is osmething i never considered but yeah it’s totally likely he projected his own insecurities onto dave like that… god
OH also i remember some time after the quest crypt alpha convos where dirk said he’s always felt like you could destroy someone with effusive praise, revtomdildomolar (i think) said something like bro was probably always monologuing to mom lalonde about what a great and nice and amazing kid dave was but of course he never said any of that to dave. and. that’s another good one to think about
also i didnt mean that as an excuse for bros abusive parenting; i find it unforgivable. it’s just a reason.
yeah dw you’re fine <3