if u reblog anything about how being trans or not straight is becoming a fashion trend and try to discourage individuals from exploring their gender, sexual, and romantic orientations, im automatically unfollowing u

there’s no if ands or buts for this, if ur creating an environment where individuals aren’t going to feel safe or valid while exploring their identity, then ur creating an unsafe and harmful space thats only going to hurt and invalidate people

I’m starting to think that instead of vampires as a metaphor for oppressed people, we really need to start using vampirism as a metaphor for privilege.

Like, yes, you’re a vampire and you probably can’t help that, and sometimes people will freak the fuck out when you’re coming at them even if it’s just to ask if you can borrow a cup of sugar for your blood muffins or something, and you’re like, “Hey, don’t judge me just because I’m a vampire!”

And then a human’s like, “Um, well, historically, vampires tend to attack us humans and drink our blood.”

And sure, your first instinct is to go “Hey, I’m one of the good vampires! I have a subscription service at a blood bank and everything!”, but… that… doesn’t change the fact that historically, yeah, vampires have survived by eating humans. Any changing perception of vampires is going to have to start with vampires.

So instead of protesting your innocence, you have to start by going to find other vampires and being like “Hey guys, we have to stop eating humans.”

And unfortunately, a lot of vampires are gonna think they’re already doing everything they need to to be Good Vampires, and this needs to be combatted. Being a Good Vampire is a never-ending struggle, and it’s not very rewarding, but it’s what has to be done.

And some humans will never, ever stop being suspicious of you, and you’ll have to accept that. Humans don't owe you their respect just because you’re doing them the basic service of not flapping into their bedrooms at night and biting their necks. That’s like, the bare minimum of not being an asshole vampire. And some humans will probably still make jokes about how vampires can’t go in the sun without burning up and how they have no reflections and how for some reason they think “Alucard” is actually a cute baby name, but you’ll just have to deal with that, because they’re coping with the fact that this is an entire population of things that historically have always eaten them.

But it’s not about you. It’s about making the world safer for humans, and combatting it every damn time you see another vampire planning out a good old-fashioned round of feasting on virgins in nightgowns, and saying “Okay, no, that’s really offensive” the next time one of your vampire buddies refers to a human as a bloodbag, and generally working overtime to present a pro-human standpoint.

Because really, what good does it do to make the monsters the oppressed ones?

I did not even know that Macklemore used the word “faggot” in that disgusting song until I saw that the Grammys actually broadcast him saying it, and yet they censor Beyoncé’s line “how the hell did this shit happen” by replacing all of it with complete. silence.

Straight white man: You can say a homophobic slur like faggot on air! You’re a revolutionary! God bless you Macklemore, our straight white savior!

Black woman: Your language is too vulgar for our fragile ears!!!!!! You can’t say hell! Or shit! That’s offensive!

And can we please also address what else Ellen Page said: That there was a machinery at work that kept her in the closet, and that this caused her actual damage–to her mental health and her private life.

If we focus on her decision to live “authentically” versus “living a lie” I feel like we’re participating in a game of victim blaming–as if she was being dishonest, ie less trust worthy or a bad person before.

This is not about her owing others the truth. This is exclusively about her refusing to back down when facing the actual threat imposed on her by straight people. 

THAT is what makes coming out brave. That is why we should celebrate her.

Sing with me

If you’re tired of gendered witchcraft clap your hands *clap clap*
If you’re tired of gendered witchcraft clap your hands *clap clap* 

If you’re tired of gendered witchcraft because it is heteronormative, cissexist and erases your identity on a regular basis (and you feel like you can’t worship publicly without invalidating your own existence)

If you’re tired of gendered witchcraft clap your hands *clap clap*

I am a fat man. Once, I was perceived to be a fat woman. My transition has taught me a lot of things that I might not have otherwise engaged with if I had lived my life as a cis person. Transitioning really highlights male privilege and how society can treat you completely differently based on what gender it perceives a person to be. As soon as I started ‘passing’, I found I was treated with a respect that wasn’t often given to me as a woman. My personal space and boundaries were no longer violated, I was no longer talked down to, and people suddenly respected my right to privacy and my right to be left alone. I was no longer treated as if I simply existed for men’s pleasure.

anonymous asked:

I saw the expectation vs reality you did about sophiam have you done one for zerrie? :)

No, I have not, but why not now?  I was quite surprised at how popular that expectation vs. reality Sophiam post was, because I got a wave of asks about it.

This one was actually hilariously easy to make.  Zerrie is busted.  It astounds me that anyone still thinks that “relationship” is legit.  Without further ado:

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To be honest, at this point this GIF is more real than Zerrie:

Even when such implications [of bisexuality] are erased or obscured for narrative purposes or straight viewers’ comfort, we should not be too hasty to rule out the potential for a bisexual reading. To do so would be to fall prey to the heterosexist fallacy of ‘straight until proven otherwise,’ which stems from a systemic logic of desire in which the (homo)erotic and the 'merely’ (homo)social are sharply divided.
—  Maria San Filippo, The B Word: Bisexuality in Contemporary Film and Television

serpens asked:

When gay characters are portrayed in tv shows and movies in a neutral or positive way, but played by a straight actor, is it still "representation"? eg a few of the gay characters in Glee, Max on Happy Endings, Chozen

WAWAWA, this is a tough question. On one hand, a character and their portrayal is a bit more important than the actor playing them. On the other hand, queer actors and voice actors are severely underrepresented. One post floating around tumblr right now points out that an openly queer actor has never won an oscar, only one has been nominated, but 22 straight actors have received oscar nominations for playing queer characters.

Wario isn’t saying an actor needs to match their character in every way, but the fact that queer characters are played overwhelmingly by straight cis actors is a problem. It’s taking a role that disrupts the status quo, and giving it to an actor that fits right into the status quo. It’s disappointing.

Also related is that what little queer representation we get in media tends to focus on white cis gay men, when in reality there are people across the spectrum of different genders, sexualities, and race. In addition to just having more representation altogether, Wario wants more diversity among that representation.

when will people understand that you don’t need a straight pride parade because every goddamn street is your straight pride parade, you don’t need a whiteselfieday because every goddamn day is whiteselfieday, you don’t need a White History month because EVERY SINGLE DAY IS WHITE HISTORY DAY, how do people not understand that these blackout or gay pride parade moments are all we have to celebrate what is discriminated against every. single. day