Hi! I love Julian Bashir, too, so thx for the great meta. DS9 as a show seems to have some weird issues with portraying abusive parents. Odo and Dr. Mora, for one. It forces an easy ending ("I forgive you") to a complex situation, which is uncharacteristic for the rest of the show. I'd love to hear more of your thoughts on DS9!
Aw thank you! I wrote that up at midnight, I’m surprised it was coherent enough for anyone else to recognize my points. I do really like what I said. Maybe someday I’ll make it a little better said. My thoughts on Bashir’s genetic modification plotline, if anyone missed them. I talk ableism and emotional abuse tho fyi.
Oh man, that bugged me so much! And you’re exactly right, that’s always been my problem with that. DS9 saw parents as perfect no matter what. It could only be complicated, not wrong. In some cases, that worked well — the Siskos, for instance. I love their dynamic, how Sisko never pressured Jake into Starfleet and encouraged his dreams without being weird about it. And Sisko’s father, too.
I think the writers genuinely don’t believe that anything is unforgivable in families. And while there’s some going for that, that only works when there’s consent in that. Not giving up family that’s made mistakes is one thing. Continuing and excusing parental patterns of abuse is something they just didn’t get. They didn’t think it existed. They wrote something a little ~edgy~ and left it at that because families are perfect amen.
(I mostly get into Odo below the cut.)