her name is laverne cox

anonymous asked:

hi, ive seen you say before that even transgender people can be transphobic? How does that work? i'm not saying that you're wrong, It just doesn't make sense to me, can you explain it to me or give any examples of how trans people can still be transphobic because I don't know if that's possible

caitlyn jenner


Meet the J-Pop Group Consisting of Homosexual Men.

I get that this is like “Representation of the Gay Community”, but this representation isn’t necessarily a good one. 

They’re selling this as a concept and not really promoting the normalization and acceptance of the LGBT Community as everyday people. This concept exists purely for profit. They’re capitalizing off of it. It’s not really “sexual” because it’s like… whatever they’re just kissing, who cares. But it exists because Yaoi and boy x boy pairings are SUPER popular and it sells. 

I don’t think the creators made this with the benefits of exposing homosexuality to a conservative nation/continent in general in mind. I think it’s purely for the pleasure of those who fetishizes romantic/sexual relations between two men and that’s just not good exposure for an already struggling and over-sexualized community. I think a better representation of the LGBT community is actually FFC-Acrush, because it comprises of androgynous women who uses “they/them” pronouns. They aren’t over-sexualized, they don’t put emphasis on their sexualities or gender or draw much of any attention to it either. It’s simply a group of people who just so happen to be a part of the LGBT Community. They focus more so on talent than their sexuality and THAT’S good exposure.

This is what I’m trying to say; Frank Ocean, for example, is a bisexual man, right? People know he had sexual relations with Willy Cartier, and it’s known amongst general pop culture media that he is apart of the LGBT Population, however, when you hear the name “Frank Ocean”, do you think of him being gay or his music? 

You think of his music right?

That’s because he is known for his talent. His talent is why he’s so popular. And because of that, other bisexual men who also just so happen to be singers can look and him and say, “wow, I could be like that one day!”

Another example, Laverne Cox. When you hear the name “Laverne Cox” you don’t think of her being transgender first. You think of her being an actress first. She doesn’t sell her transgender experience, she sells her talent. And other people of transgender experience can look at Laverne and say “wow, I could be like that one day!”

That’s what representation should be.

I wish this J-Pop group didn’t sell their sexuality. They’re known for being gay. Their album sells and their music video streams because their audience fetishizes their homosexuality more than they actually enjoy their music, dancing, and the hard work put into them creating and releasing content.

And that sucks for not only them but the gay community as well.

- Admin Dayna

I like watching glee Top 10s (or Top 50s, or 40s, or 15s, whatever) since I still love glee and I like hearing people’s opinions but there are two things that bug me:

  • people who put Unique in the “Best Male Solo” lists or a variation of that
  • people who still refer to her as “Wade ‘Unique’ Adams” like, guys, her name is Unique I mean, do we still refer to Laverne Cox as “deadname ‘Laverne’ Cox”?
Laverne Cox Knows My Name

No, I’m not kidding.

As a handful of you know, I’m from Lexington, VA originally. Last night Laverne spoke at Washington and Lee University, one of the local colleges, and the school is also where my mom works as a human resources coordinator. For the last several years, my mom has helped the retirees from the college figure out their health insurance plans and how to best plan for the worst case scenarios. It’s my mom’s job to make sure people have happy and healthy lives, and she works tirelessly.

Since my mom works at W&L, she gets first dibs on on-campus events, like Laverne’s. I was jealous beyond belief that my mom was able to go see her speak. She even messaged me before the event began, and I told her I was so jealous I could die. I’ve also missed Kristen Beck, another trans woman I deeply admire and respect. So safe to say I was stewing. I told my mom if she, somehow by the grace of God, got the chance to speak to Laverne, to tell her that I absolutely love her and all her work, from acting to activism. I didn’t think she’d get the chance, though.

Boy, was I wrong.

I was on Skype with a dear friend when I got a frantic text from my mom telling me to call her. I quickly hopped off Skype, and called my mother to make sure everything was ok.

She was smoking in her car trying to calm down. She told me that there was a Q&A after Laverne’s talk, and my mom wanted to ask her what she could do as a parent to better support me, her trans son, and the community at large.

But right before she went to speak, there was a man who went before her. From what my mom told me, this guy basically said he didn’t get. To him, women were born women. Men were born men. There was no cross over. “I just don’t understand,” is what my mother told me he kept saying.

Once it was her turn, my mom said that it seemed like the guy’s comments had bothered Laverne, and I can’t say I’d blame her if that were true. It’s hard to come in and be vulnerable to strangers, and to know that some of them will probably reject you.

So instead of asking her question, my mom decided to talk about her journey with me as I’ve figured myself out over the years. She told me that started out by giving a cliff notes version of our story. Mom told me she said something along the lines of, “My youngest child was born of the female sex. At 8 years old, she came up to me one day and said that she felt like a room that didn’t have any furniture in it. At 14, she came out as a lesbian. And at 21, I consider my son to be born.”

My mom told me that talking about me made her, Laverne, and probably everyone else in the room cry. God knows I had tears streaming down my face as she recounted the evening.

As she finished, she said, “Oh, and my son absolutely loves you!”


So she told her. Laverne Cox spoke my name, and knows I exist.

Words can’t even begin to express how proud I am of my mother. She stood up for me, for people like me, and made herself vulnerable to people she didn’t know. She told my story, our story, and moved a lot of people. I emailed with my mom this morning, and she said all of her work study students were hugging her, and other people in her building were approaching her to say they’d heard her speak. Mom said after the event, she had people came up to her to hug her that she didn’t even know.

It hasn’t always been easy with my mother. We fought quite a bit when I was younger, especially after I came out the first time. She didn’t understand how I could know something like my sexual orientation at a young age. We argued, grew apart, but I knew she always loved me underneath it all.

The same thing happened when I told her I was transitioning, though not to the same extent. I wrote her a three page letter explaining everything, and handed it to her before I got on a plane to live in Guatemala for the next three months. My mom struggled with the news, and I honestly think it was better she had time to deal with it away from me. It gave her time to really think her feelings through, and not have to worry about dealing with me at the same time.

I always joke and tell people that I broke my mom, and that’s why she’s been so accepting since I transitioned. The real answer, however, has nothing to do with me. I was blessed enough to be born to a mother who learned the key lesson that Leelah’s, and countless other trans youths’ parents failed to learn; you cannot be a bigot AND love your child.

So my mother put away her biases and fears as much as possible, and dove headfirst into my world. Through a combination of her own research and conversations with me, I’ve watched my mom blossom into this wonderful, loving mother who truly loves and accepts me for exactly the person I am. The road has been rough in a few places, and this journey is one that never truly ends, but I’m so happy I have my mom by my side. She’s made me prouder than I could ever articulate. I love her so much.

And that’s how Laverne Cox learned my name. Because of my amazing, brave, incredible mother.

Remember her name: Leelah Alcorn. Her identity is being erased. She is being memorialized by her incorrect birth name. To quote Laverne Cox, "Misgendering a trans person is an act of violence." This goes also for those trans persons who are defending Ms. Alcorn's parents who continue to use the wrong name and pronouns. A trans GIRL died. Those who misgender her and use the wrong name are accomplices to her death.

thoughts from the second ep of oitnb:

  • the lady with the lipstick is still cute as hell
  • theres another cute girl shes latina idk her name
  • 3 or 2 mins of laverne cox okay i can get used to this
  • where is sierra unclefather???