her love for chuck is unconditional

Heeey, I finally did a better drawn/colored-in version of my Wordgirl-sona/self-insert!

She’s short, chubby, with messy dirty-blonde hair and, aside from a pair of rather pretty green eyes, isn’t particularly outstanding to look at. She has no super powers and is a normal citizen, save for the fact that she attends a therapy group almost entirely populated by villains. 

Her new therapist put her in a group with Chuck, the Butcher, Lady Redundant Woman, and Dr. Two-Brains, and despite a few initial misgivings, she ended up fitting in quite nicely, coming out of her shell and even helping them out with their problems if she could. Though she has no villainous inclinations of her own, they’ve taken her under their collective wing. In return, she offers emotional support, advice, and unconditional love. She’s both like a mother and a little sister to them.

Kaylee’s got her own demons to face, what with her medical and psychological issues and multiple traumas, and while she’s a huge mess personalitywise, she’s trying her best at least.

Selfless Love

Of all the adjectives that could be used to describe Chuck Bass, selfless probably wouldn’t be your first choice. And, talking about him in general, I can’t help but agree; other than being a naturally selfish person, Chuck was raised in an environment that encouraged him to see “the world” as something he was destined to “own” and, also, to seek power through an always greedy ambition. This view of life doesn’t seem to leave much space for other people’s needs. Yes, surprisingly, Chuck has often put Blair’s needs – and, overall, his loved ones’ needs – before his own. And her happiness.

Contrary to Blair, who has a dreamy and romantic side, before falling in love Chuck has never valued happiness; his cynic way to see life kept him from thinking that it was important, or, as a matter of fact, possible (“Happiness is not on the menu,” he says in the pilot and there’s no sadness in his words, only bitter irony and not so vague mockery). I’d say he considered it a naïve illusion at best, something really far from the coldly realistic and corrupted world his eyes could see – and understand.

Blair overturned his concept of happiness. Although, looking at the bigger picture, Chuck kept a sceptic detachment towards the general idea of happiness, she made him see that it was possible to be happy by her side, or, better, that happiness was conceivable because of her.

In other words, she irremediably became his reason to be happy. It’s important to underline the fact the Blair was the first person who loved Chuck unconditionally; as brave as she is, she broke through the walls he had built to keep everyone from seeing his fragility – which he considers unacceptable – and reached his core. She was the first person who saw him as a whole and who accepted him a whole. This kind of unconditional love – that is almost maternal – is what allowed Chuck to trust her. She managed to bring him to show her his weaknesses and to let her understand him in a profound and total way. Blair’s acceptance, and all of its implications, was in many ways the key to Chuck’s happiness: his chance to feel loved, safe and comprehended in an emphatic way, that went beyond his often paralyzing fear of showing emotions.

From the moment he gave her his heart, Chuck has been sure of the fact that she was his only possibility of happiness. She was the one, the only one he could foresee a future with and, also, his balance. But it hasn’t always been clear to him that he could be the same for her.

For a long time Chuck has thought about himself as unworthy of Blair and her love. He wasn’t simply scared of hurting her, he was also scared of not being the right person for her. On a deeper level, Chuck is an incredibly insecure person; although the façade he presents to the world is a portrayal of arrogance, self-importance and carelessness (and these are all things that Chuck is, and not just a cover), at the same time he has a terrible view of himself. Feeling unworthy is something that has been a constant in his life. The reasons behind this self-loathing are many and it would take another essay to explain them all, but in general it’s safe to say that, at least till some point, Chuck feels a certain sense of “resignation” towards himself; he can’t be better than the “failure” he thinks he is and he can’t overcome this sense of inferiority he has, especially when it comes to Blair.

If in earlier seasons this feeling of unworthiness mixed with a lack of courage (I’m thinking about 2X23 and how Chuck let Blair go, convinced that he couldn’t make her happy), later, after all the hurtful mistakes he made and the pain he knows he caused her, it becomes – at least from his point of view – pure awareness.

Season four finale is possibly my favorite season finale. It’s heartbreaking and beautiful, poetic in a tragic way. Chuck’s greatest fear, that thought that has always haunted him, becomes true through Blair’s words: he knows for sure he can’t make her happy, because she tells him so. Chuck, a deeply damaged and fragile character, doesn’t have the means to understand the nature of her words. The happiness Blair is talking about would be more accurately described with “lightness”; it’s happiness seen only on the surface, it’s a juvenile happiness, that has a little to do with the depth of Chuck and Blair’s love. Chuck can make Blair happy, but that light serenity isn’t all he can give her. And, from this point, Blair will follow a journey that will lead her to understand that no one can and that light and darkness are both part of life and that pain is an inevitable part of love. But Chuck doesn’t know – he can’t know.

And he can’t stand the idea of not being able to make Blair happy, because her happiness is what he values the most. It’s, at this point, his priority. His love for her, in this circumstance and in many others, is heartbreakingly selfless; he is willing to give up on his own happiness (as I said, Chuck knows he could only be happy with her ) so that she can be happy with someone else. Actually, it’s even deeper than this: in this moment, Chuck is giving up on himself. When watching their goodbye scene in 4X22, you have to keep in mind the fact that Chuck does not know how to be himself without Blair. Blair, the person who loved him and took care of him, is his reason to be “Chuck Bass”. It will be recurrent, in season 5, his feeling of emptiness (“I feel nothing”, “I have nothing”) and his struggle to live without her, to the point that he claims that he’s merely “surviving”, like an empty shell.

In the moment he chooses to let Blair go, Chuck is painfully aware of all of this. Yet, he is ready to condemn himself to an unhappy, hollow life for the sake of Blair’s happiness.

WHY I SHIP CHAIR

Why do I ship Chair?  No, it’s not because Chuck and Blair look great together.  Even if that’s always a plus, just because they look good doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a good relationship.  

There are so many reasons why I ship Chuck and Blair that I honestly couldn’t put it all into words, but I’m going to try to at least convey a fraction of all the reasons I love Chair so much.

Nobody’s perfect.  Both Blair and Chuck possess their fair share of flaws, but they’ve also shown some great sides to their personalities.  It’s easy to appreciate someone’s good qualities, but I think everyone can agree it’s not always easy to accept others’ flaws.  But the absolutely amazing thing about Blair and Chuck is their ability to completely embrace one another’s great characteristics along with all the imperfections.  Blair has always been the one by Chuck’s side, even as he struggles with restraining his dark side.  In Season 2 Episode 13, Chuck strikes out angrily at everyone because of the shocking news of his father’s death.  When Chuck leaves the penthouse, everyone tells Blair to just let him go, but she refuses and runs after him instead.  She doesn’t give up on him and stays with him for the rest of the night, making sure that he’s okay.  In Season 3 Episode 12, she encourages him to mourn his father and lets him know that she’s going to be there to support him because she knows what a difficult time he’s going through with the anniversary of his father’s death.  Chuck is the only person who has never once asked Blair to change for him.  Blair grew up with her mother constantly belittling her and telling her to be more like Serena.  Nate wanted Blair to be different as well, as shown by his conversation with Chuck in Season 2 Episode 21.  He asks Chuck, “Was it stupid of me to think Blair changed?”  And Chuck’s response to Nate shows just why Chair works so well—“I mean, it’s stupid for you to want her to be anything other than she is.”  Louis needed Blair to be the perfect princess for him and even asked her to abandon her own friends.  Dan, when talking to Serena in Season 5 Episode 24, says “I thought she’d changed” regarding his relationship with Blair.  Even Serena, Blair’s best friend, has wanted Blair to act differently at times.  But when has Chuck ever asked Blair to be anything other than who she is?  In his opinion, the greatest compliment he can give her is reminding her of who she is.  He tells her not to forget she’s Blair Waldorf in Season 3 Episode 4, because in his mind, there’s no specific quality/side of Blair that he loves.  He loves every single part of Blair and doesn’t believe she has to be any different in order to be amazing.  In Season 3 Episode 3, he tells Blair, “You’re special enough on your own.”  To him, there’s nothing better than Blair being as herself as she can be.  That, to me, is unconditional love.  In Season 5 Episode 10, Chuck tells Lily, “The idea of unconditional love is as quaint as the Tooth Fairy or environmentally-friendly dry-cleaning.”  Even though he says that, Chair’s entire relationship displays this very idea.  Chuck and Blair always love one another, even when they both show their dark sides.  Unlike the other characters on GG, they don’t judge one another for their dark sides, instead they encourage and support one another through their darkest hours. 

Chuck and Blair also possess this deep connection with one another because of how well they understand each other.  They can accept each others’ flaws rather than look down upon them because they are able to empathize with each other like none of the other characters can.  They relate to each other on so many levels and they understand each other so well that they have an almost telepathic connection.  In Season 3 Episode 21, Blair says, I have an idea,” and Chuck replies, “I’ve already had it.”  And even beyond coming up with the same ideas simultaneously because of how alike they are in their way of thinking, Chuck and Blair empathize with one another.  It is this ability to put themselves into the others’ shoes that allows them to accept one another’s flaws so well.  In Season 3 Episode 4, when Blair proclaims nobody would understand what she’s going through at NYU, Chuck understands.  He knows what a difficult time she’s having fitting in, and he knows she has too much pride to admit it, so he applies to get her into Columbia, where Blair can actually feel at home.  When Chuck is crushed in Season 3 Episode 13 because he feels like he’s never going to have a real mother, Blair empathizes with him and tells him, “But that doesn’t mean you’re alone.  I love you, Chuck, and I’ll always be your family.”  She understands how alone he’s feeling so she reassures him she’ll always be there for him.  

In the movie, Frozen, Olaf tells Anna, “Love is putting someone else’s needs before yours!”  Chuck and Blair have continuously shown that they value the other’s happiness more than their own.  In Season 3 Episode 3, Blair is ecstatic because she’s given the opportunity to join a secret society.  Instead of seizing the opportunity, she chooses to give it up because she knows how much Chuck needs someone to believe in him.  Chuck also constantly puts Blair’s happiness above his own, as seen in Season 4 and 5.  In Season 4 Episode 22, one of the most moving Chair scenes, Chuck lets Blair go because he believes she’ll be happier with another man.  He tells her, “You deserve your fairytale.”  Again, in Season 5, he is presented with the perfect chance to ruin Blair’s wedding, but he chooses not to.  He is once again putting Blair’s happiness above his own.  In Season 5 Episode 1, Dan almost completely wrecks Blair’s chance at fulfilling her fairytale because he selfishly wants Blair for himself.  Then in Season 5 Episode 13, Dan releases the video that humiliates Blair and Louis at their own wedding, and then proceeds to point the blame at Chuck.  Even though Blair later enters a relationship with Dan, Chuck still makes the decision to pay off her dowry, almost bankrupting himself in the process.  He’s clearly putting Blair’s needs above his own, as he tells her, “I just wanted you to be free.  And whom you choose to love with that freedom is up to you.”   

 At the beginning of GG, Chuck and Blair are introduced as the villains of Constance/St. Jude’s.  Chuck was the unrepentant bad boy and Blair was the bossy Queen B.  I believe that a great relationship is one where the two people in the relationship genuinely make each other better people.  When I first began watching Season 1 of GG, I wasn’t the huge Blair fan I am today.  But when she began her relationship with Chuck, the viewers were able to see this whole other side of her.  She finds the power to let her guard down and be herself, instead of the plastic, perfect Blair she felt like she had to be with Nate.  And in Season 3 Episode 4, Blair is ready to give up on NYU.  But Chuck tells her, “NYU is hard.  But Blair Waldorf does not give up.”  He supports her and helps her gain confidence in herself, which is extremely important seeing as Blair has suffered from self-esteem issues her entire life.  Though Chuck has always had a good heart, he has struggled with negative influences that cause him to make the wrong decisions and go awry.  And he did make many bad decisions.  But in the Season 4 finale, Chuck finally learns to be unselfish and put someone else before him.  He truly matures and changes into a better person in Season 5—and all of this was because of Blair.  Blair causes him to want to become a better person.  In Season 5 Episode 6, he apologizes to Blair for everything he’s done to her and he tells her, “Starting tonight, I’m going to take care of myself.”  Because of her, he chooses to seek out therapy and try to make himself a better man.  In Season 6 Episode 1, Chuck tells Blair that he’s fighting against his father because he wants to be a man, not a boy, when in a relationship with her.  Chuck actively strives to be a better person because he knows Blair deserves an amazing guy, and he wants to be that guy for her.  

I could keep ranting on forever about this, but I’m going to stop it here.  There are just so many reasons why I love Chair that this would just end up being never-ending if I kept going.  But basically, Chuck and Blair always fight for and never give up on each other.  They both have a unique understanding of one another’s personality and character.  They’re so supportive in their relationship and every day, they influence each other to be better people <3

anonymous asked:

I really don't understand the hype about Dan and Blair, I am in love with Chuck and Blair!! I was wondering if you could explain why Dan and Blair are totally WRONG for one another! Just so I can explain to my friends with a strong argument hahaha

To be honest, the show itself did a pretty decent job of showing why they were wrong for each other. Blair clearly never gave half a shit about Dan, his life, his feelings, etc., she just liked how much he worshiped her. And meanwhile, the Blair he was worshiping wasn’t even the real Blair- Dan saw her vulnerable side, decided that was the sum total of her personality, and constructed this fantasy in his head of a misunderstood damsel-in-distress. He thought scheming “wasn’t her”, he thought he could “change” her (the fact that he even thought she needed changing is an obvious red flag)- he just never loved or even understood who Blair really was. And the second he saw the real her- the Blair who was always and would always be in love with Chuck- he turned on her with predictable viciousness. 

So basically, Blair never cared about Dan, beyond how much he liked her, and Dan fell for a version of Blair he’d constructed in his head. And in the process, they managed to hurt and alienate most of the people who loved them. Seriously, what’s even rootworthy about that relationship?

I can understand why some people might have considered them compatible based on personalities/common interests, but that’s ignoring two factors:

1) Sharing similar interests makes you compatible as friends, not necessarily as a romantic match. You don’t fall in love with people simply because they like the same books and movies that you do.

2) There are other facets of their personalities that are completely incompatible. Dan considers himself an intellectual, and as such, he disdains the shallow materialism of the UES… but Blair is an elitist, and is not only part of that world, but wants to rule over it (and if you say she shouldn’t want that, or that she needs to become less shallow, you’re missing the point- and making the same mistake Dan did).

Blair wants to rule the UES as part of a power couple, with a partner who’s ambitious, wealthy, overtly successful in the same way that she desires for herself. And that’s why I think she never truly respected Dan- he’s a beta male, when what she really wants is an alpha male. That’s not a denigration of Dan, for the record (I’m married to a very lovely beta male myself). But I think even the most hardcore Dair fan has to admit that Blair viewed Dan as more of a subordinate than an equal, and that’s not a relationship dynamic that’s ever going to work. Dan coddled her instead of challenging her, much like Louis- and while Blair enjoyed the unconditional adoration, I think it made her not really respect either of them. And from Dan’s perspective, I think there were facets of Blair’s personality that he was simply never going to accept. He never approved of her scheming Machiavellian side, which is why he ignored it, tried to change it, blamed it on Chuck, etc. But that’s part of who Blair is, who she’s always been. It’s just not what Dan wants. He wants an inherently good-hearted, genuine person, i.e., Serena.

At the end of the day, Blair deserves someone who loves her for who she is, and Dan deserves someone who views him as an equal- and this makes them fundamentally incompatible. 

Anyway, hope that answers your question :)

TB also wrote a very on-point summary of why their relationship sucked, which you can find here.

anonymous asked:

I don't think you should be giving Jason so much hate. Alycia has a schedule with Fear of the Walking Dead, and she couldn't stay on The 100 for very long. Yes, killing her off sucks and we're all heartbroken. At least the last memory Clarke and Lexa had together was showing their unconditional love to each other. He didn't kill Lexa because she was a queer character. He needed to come up with some way to end her role, and he wanted to introduce AI 2 somehow.

My problem stems from the fact that Jason literally lead us on. He took us by the hand, lead us to a cliff, the chucked us over. He doesn’t care. He purposely used a queer ship he knew from the beginning of the season wasn’t going to end up working out, because Alycia has other commitments, to gain higher ratings for the 100, which is incredibly 1) gross, because think of all the young queer girls out there who just watched a relationship that had been cultivating for 6 god damn weeks get ruined in one fell swoop (right after an amazingly portrayed sex scene that showed Clarke and Lexa being completely loving toward each other with nothing but affection and care oozing out everywhere), 2) just straight up poor writing on the 100 writer’s part. Killing the lesbian to further the plot is honest to god one of the most over-used plots in media, ever. And it was entirely for shock value. We thought we were safe. Kim Shumway said that a queer relationship would have a good chance of surviving. But then something like this happens, which is queer baiting at it’s finest, and it kills any hope of seeing well portrayed, canon queer relationships on tv. And, really? Heda, the one who united of the 12 clans, bringer of peace within those clans, visionary badass gets killed by a stray bullet? What kind of arbitrary, lazy writing is that? So that’s why I’m so furiously angry at the 100 and Jason right now. There was so much he could have done differently, but he chose to be lazy and rely on over used tropes.