I don’t like Nesta.
But she is an awesome character, who is very complex and strays away froom the traditional YA “goodness” we usually encounter, so I very much respect her.
So it very much pisses me off when people have grown so used to the idea that women (especially those we read about) must be pure of heart, that they lose respect for complex, dark, and not necessarily good female characters.
It is much like how people react to Aelin, a cocky, smug, intelligent female character, who, if she were male, you all would be fawning over.
The things you respect and love Kaz Brekker for, you shame and mock Aelin Galathynius for.
You enjoy it when characters are complex . At least, when they’re male.
You enjoy it when a character has a bit of darkness in them. Unless they are female.
You write AU’s with dark!male characters, but when a female is written with those characteristics that you so love, you are repulsed.
You love the intelligence and scheming that is written for a male, but when a female shows it… That is when the internalized misogyny rears its ugly head.
So when you hate on Nesta for being a bit selfish, or cold, look at the characters you idolize or cherish.