henrybeerbohmtree

lisztaffe replied to your post “when i was little (about 9 years old) i had some guy friends pressure me into showing them my “lady bits” when i really didnt want to. i mean, im not affected badly by it or anything, but only now do i realize how wrong of them it was to do that, and how i should have responded by telling them “no” more forcefully and told them to go home if they asked me again.”

Don’t think about how you “should have responded”, you were only 9-years-old. No one should expect a 9-year-old to have any responsibilty whatsoever over the situation. (though even if you had been 30 it wouldn’t have been your fault)

henrybeerbohmtree replied to your post “when i was little (about 9 years old) i had some guy friends pressure me into showing them my “lady bits” when i really didnt want to. i mean, im not affected badly by it or anything, but only now do i realize how wrong of them it was to do that, and how i should have responded by telling them “no” more forcefully and told them to go home if they asked me again.”

You were only 9, there’s nothing you “should” have done! Don’t feel bad because your 9-year-old self didn’t yet have the emotional resources to tell friends no when they were pressuring you!

dearsocietywtf replied to your post “My bf went through a stage of constantly asking me to give him head in public, which I was uncomfortable with but did a few times because I felt bad for always refusing, and I found out the other day he told a male friend who told him he was “lucky to have a gf willing to kneel anywhere lololol” and I feel embarrassed & disgusting & used. This was almost a year ago but I just found out & he apologised but I don’t know what to do. I feel really horrible and angry.”

End it with him immediately- YOU DESERVE BETTER.

glitchbunny replied to your post “My bf went through a stage of constantly asking me to give him head in public, which I was uncomfortable with but did a few times because I felt bad for always refusing, and I found out the other day he told a male friend who told him he was “lucky to have a gf willing to kneel anywhere lololol” and I feel embarrassed & disgusting & used. This was almost a year ago but I just found out & he apologised but I don’t know what to do. I feel really horrible and angry.”

You have every right to feel that way. He broke the trust in the relationship by saying something so crude to a friend and treating you like a piece of meat. If you stay with him he’s going to need to do more then just saying “sorry. ”

henrybeerbohmtree replied to your post “My bf went through a stage of constantly asking me to give him head in public, which I was uncomfortable with but did a few times because I felt bad for always refusing, and I found out the other day he told a male friend who told him he was “lucky to have a gf willing to kneel anywhere lololol” and I feel embarrassed & disgusting & used. This was almost a year ago but I just found out & he apologised but I don’t know what to do. I feel really horrible and angry.”

Break up with him! You consented to give him head in public as a favor to him. You didn’t consent to have it blabbed and joked about. This is a major major breach of trust and I say dump him!!

katielynnvegan said: I don’t think I have any useful tips but: *HUG* sorry you have to go through that.

henrybeerbohmtree said: Ugh I’m so sorry. That is so so horrible. I don’t really have any advice except keep reading this blog and any other tumblr social jusctice blogs you can find, it will help you love yourself and keep a healthy perspective as much as possible

ajulian said: Tell your dad, when he isn’t angry, that what he did was disrespectful and hurt. And if that is too scary (you know your situation best) it’s all right to stay quiet until you are somewhere safe and then cut them out of your life.

somethingsomethinginmay said: This happened with my Mum and I told her it was unacceptable to act like that with my sister around, don’t be ashamed of standing up for your siblings. My parents both agreed I was correct at least in that respect.

couragecrowd said: My mom used to do stuff like this all the time. I’m so sorry. I can’t really give u advice except to keep standing up 4 ur sister and 2 avoid taking 2 ur abusive parents. Mine are still p bad and I’m 22 and have been out of the house for a year….

leviantha said: sounds alot like my parents, too, only less vulgar and physical. it might be best to go and stay with a friend for a few days with your sister, some one you know you can trust. just tell them the situation and ask to stay.

awaitingmyescape said: Find a way to get out. You shouldn’t have to go through this

purplecrescents said: I am so sorry!! I don’t really have tips except getting outta there when it is possible and you have somewhere safe to go… But I am always here if you ever want/need to talk!

waanderingstaar said: That’s fucking abuse.

yo-zuri said: My dad told me that my depression and PTSD were real and I should be thankful that I didn’t have kidney stones like my godmother. It sucks having someone, especially a father, tell you what you’re going through isn’t real. He even denied taking me to get treatment when he…

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henrybeerbohmtree replied to your post “So my friend introduced me to a friend of her’s about two weeks ago and we’ve been talking ever since. I’ve been really busy with interviews and other things and he always complains about not being able to meet up with me, so today I told him that I have most of this weekend free and could hang out with him. He suggested I come to his house, drink a few beers, and watch some netflix with him. I’m nineteen and I don’t drink in any fashion, aslo I’m weary of being anywhere private with most men. I”

What the fuck? Your suggestion was totally reasonable and chill! Sounds like a major red flag, watch out for this guy :/

dovahsebrom replied to your post “So my friend introduced me to a friend of her’s about two weeks ago and we’ve been talking ever since. I’ve been really busy with interviews and other things and he always complains about not being able to meet up with me, so today I told him that I have most of this weekend free and could hang out with him. He suggested I come to his house, drink a few beers, and watch some netflix with him. I’m nineteen and I don’t drink in any fashion, aslo I’m weary of being anywhere private with most men. I”

fuck that shit. never feel guilty about refusing to meet someone you don’t know in public. NEVER.

searchingforathorntree replied to your post “So my friend introduced me to a friend of her’s about two weeks ago and we’ve been talking ever since. I’ve been really busy with interviews and other things and he always complains about not being able to meet up with me, so today I told him that I have most of this weekend free and could hang out with him. He suggested I come to his house, drink a few beers, and watch some netflix with him. I’m nineteen and I don’t drink in any fashion, aslo I’m weary of being anywhere private with most men. I”

Sounds pretty predatory