sana is under so much stress because she, as a muslim woc, grew up putting extra effort aka emotional labour into noticing, avoiding, handling and sometimes even taking care of White Feelings ( like the Fragile White Ego at the slightest hint of their racist behaviour ya know ), and not only for survival reasons ( fighting against her bullies ) but also for friendship. that is why she notices when her friends are upset and she knows how to talk to them and help.
as for her friends? their lack of effort put in this friendship other than a few texts without any follow up ( or the ‘i know you’re stressed but something good happened to me i want to talk about me :D’ text lmao ) shows an inability to perform emotional labour and thus failing in being Good Friends
and yes i’m saying it’s a White Phenomenon esp in this racial dynamic bc whites are so used to everything accommodating to them while poc constantly have to be aware of how we presenting ourselves as well as how people are perceiving us bc guess what we actually suffer from being ourselves more often than not and it’s ridiculous when we talk about it and whites still think we are just whining and spreading negativity
well guess what this is our lives try live in it for a second and imagine never getting to run away from it