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To our amazing Poet and Artist Kim Jonghyun, 

Until the very end, you always have found a way to comfort us even during the hardest of times. I want to thank you for everything that you have done. 

Do I dare say that this may could be the Album of the Year? Maybe I’m too early in the year to be saying this but this truly is one of the best albums I have ever listened to. Every single song has such meaning and I can tell how much work you have put into every song to try and comfort us in some way. Even your MV shows how much you loved performing on stage, creating music with meaning, and sharing your wise words with us all.

You have worked hard Jonghyun. You truly have. Your songs are helping us through this time and I hope you can feel the love from up there. 

Thank you so much our angel, poet, and artist <3

(Please watch and support the MV as well as ‘Poet | Artist’ everyone!) 

this album is for us. it’s to help us. we’re all gonna get through whatever we’re going through and he’s right there helping us do that. it’s made out of absolute and pure love. i’m so thankful for that and for him and for life.

A little tip for parents with children in school (or for children in school to show their parents)

My mom gave me and my sister two days every semester that she called “mental health days.”

Those were days, that for ANY reason, and without having to tell my mom the reason, we could skip the day of school. We’d just tell her we were taking a mental health day and she’d call the school and let them know we were not coming in. 

#1 This helped keep our grades up by lowering our stress levels. I never got a C in any grade school class. The majority of my classes I received A’s. I also took 4 AP classes and they were not weighted. Trust me, it made a difference.

#2 I never felt the need to skip school. I knew if I ever wanted to or needed to my mom would help me. 

Your kids are young and need time to recover. They need some days where they can do nothing but stay in bed for no reason. They need their own space where their privacy is respected. It will make a huge difference.

Stranger Things kids:

*Can’t find Steve in a crowd*


Dustin:

*cups hands together*

We’re about to make a terrible decision, and need a male role model that’s been absent in our lives to help guide us!


Steve Harrington:

*politely pushing through the crowd with urgency while keeping his hair in place* FUCK JUST HOLD ON SHITHEADS DON’T DO ANYTHING STUPID HANG ON.


Stranger Things kids: There he is

If you’re reading this, you’ve been in a coma for almost 20 years due to a reason we are currently investigating. We’re trying a new technique. We don’t know where this message will end up in your dream, but we hope we’re getting through. Please wake up. Help us.

I think baby boomers’ tendency to get very mad at slow service goes hand in hand with their dislike of smart phones. Every situation I’ve been in where service is slow? I just whip out my phone and browse apps for the extra 30 seconds. It’s not a big deal. Meanwhile Landline Howard behind me in line who’s never held a smartphone in his life is bored with nothing to occupy his time so he yells at minimum wage workers instead.

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The Capaldi Era (30/41

Smile - written by Frank Cottrell-Boyce - directed by Lawrence Gough

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Some doodles I did on the side yesterday night ( @blesstale drew Zunde that there ) including Dreby taking his first steps. I saw this kid screaming “NOOOO!” at some meat in a grocery store before running to his mom, so there we go ✌️

Stones for Witchcraft~

Sure, everybody says you should start out with quartz, rose quartz, amethyst, citrine but what about for witchcraft and magic specifically. What stone carries the witchy soul? I will be listing some stones perfect for use in magick to aid and strengthen you.

You probably guessed the first one ;D

1. Labradorite

The Inuit people believe that Labradorite fell from the Aurora Borealis. Another legend claims that a warrior struck the stone with his spear creating the Northern Lights as a result.

This is a stone of magick, it is a stone for shamans, diviners, healers and people seeking knowledge or looking for guidance. Perfect for honing in your strength and power as a witch. Labradorite helps awaken physic abilities, strengthen intuition and create awareness. If you wear labradorite, it will help your innate magickal abilities rise to the surface.

This stone is the most protective stone you can get. It shields the aura and strengthens the energy within. It guards against negativity. Due to this, it is a difficult stone to use in black or negative magicks. Some say it is impossible. Because of it’s protective and shielding quality it is perfect to use when exploring alternate levels of consciousness and doing visionary explorations. This stone will keep you safe from all harm.

Labradorite is good for seeing past illusion and into the truth.


2. Dendritic Agate AKA Merlinite

Do not mistake with Mystic Merlinite. This is not the same.

This is another stone of pure magic! It is a stone of duality, of light and dark, black and white. It is the stone of good luck and the dark night of the soul.

It is said to be able to help the user recall memories of alchemists and even the great Merlin of Arthurian times (thus its name).

This stone attracts good luck and magick into the life of one who carries it. This stone is good for shadow work, allowing you to travel and see the deep dark parts of yourself. Merlinite, is a very shamanistic stone, aiding you to commune with the natural world and elementals and work with its energies.

It stimulates deep intuition and a psychic knowing. It helps to bring you in contact with teachers in other realms.

A stone of harmony it helps aid the birth of creativity. This stone is not only for the light aspects as it will allow you to see the reality of your own inner darkness.

Use this to bring balance to light and dark, masculine and feminine. Use it to balance any kind of duality.


3. Moqui Marbles AKA Boji Stones AKA Shaman Stone

“Moqui” is the Hopi word for the dead. They say that the dead come around sunset to play with these stones.

This stone is believed to carry two genders, like animals and people. The flatter more oval ones are said to be male while the rounder ones are female. They are often used as pairs. They bring balance to the masculine and feminine energies inside all of us.

Use for inner transformational work. Use them for protection during journeying and out of body travel. These stones prevent negative entities from attaching to you.

These stones are perfect for overcoming fears of any kind, especially death.

They elevate your intuition and help you come in contact and communicate with spirit guides and totems.

Moqui Marbles also help you to become aware of parts of yourself that may be hidden including tendencies or habits that come from past lives.


4. Nuummite

Nuummite is know as the sorcerer’s stone as it is a stone of sorcery and magick. It draws and combines the fiery energies of the earth with the energies of a raging storm.

Nuummite is the oldest stone on earth; it is approximately over 3 billion years old and has volcanic origins.

This stone is good for personal magick, increasing synchronicities and luck, clairvoyance and intuition. Nuummite allows for deep journeying into your psyche allowing you to see your true, authentic self- the good and the bad, the whole of you. This stone will bring you gifts of inner power and self mastery.

A great stone for grounding and highly protective, it shields the auric field and fiercely fends off against negativity, manipulation, and environmental pollutants.

Nuummite heavily draws from wild earth energies.

Be careful. This stone has intense energy and may be too much for some to work with. Nuummite is a strong magick stone and should be taken seriously and treated respectfully. Use with good intent as harmful intent rebounds on the user.

5. Hag Stones

These stones you can find around lakes, rivers, and creeks. They are natural stones with a naturally-forming hole (or holes) straight through.

Hag stones are believed to ward against evil, negativity, curses, illness and nightmares.

The holes inside the stones are used to look through and are said to help you see other worlds, spirits, and even fairies.

Hag stones can be used to enhance the magick abilities of anyone who uses it or keeps one on them. If you cannot afford any stone at this time, look for hag stones outside. They are powerful and have been held as sacred to many ancient Pagan religions for thousands of years.

I’m.. speechless.
Being a shawol for almost 6 years, I’ve loved Shinee and Jonghyun so much.
Jonghyun and his love for music, is absolutely undeniable. He is one of the most outspoken, warm hearted people ever and now he’s gone,,, and im just really shaking.
My deepest condolences to his family, friends and acquaintances.
He was a beautiful man and if he’s peaceful where he is now, there’s nothing more to say to it.
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Idols aren’t superhumans guys. They have emotions too, they have a heart too. Mental health is very important, and losing such a gem of a man like Jonghyun should be a slap on our faces.
Promote mental well-being, please.
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Today, all the fandoms, whether Shinee js your ult, fav or not, please stop fanwards and come together and help us Shawols get through this, because we really need the support.
Its always going to 5hinee in our hearts and we love you and will miss you more than you think we would, Jjong.
Krump krump(TT)💔💓
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Stay strong, my family.

Feel free to ping me, if you have no one to talk about this to:)

maybe this is more me talking to myself but… especially for us older fans where fandom things are viewed as “silly” or “childish” i just want to remind myself (and you if you need it) that it’s not silly or childish or stupid to feel whatever emotions you are feeling right now.  I know many of us are having to keep it together at work or school or whatever and it’s so hard and I don’t feel like I can talk about this with people in my real life because it’ll be brushed off as fandom things or something that shouldn’t affect me as deeply as it does.  But… 

it’s not silly.  

it’s not childish.  

it’s not stupid.  

shinee and all its five members have seen me through some of the highest and lowest points in my life and I love them more than I can ever put into words and that love is real and genuine and it is not, and will never be, silly or childish or stupid.  our pain is a reflection of how deeply we love jonghyun and how strongly we are feeling his absence.     

so feel what you feel

process your grief however you need to

and know you aren’t alone in your pain, even if you feel like you have to keep it hidden from those around you

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Daisy Johnson in Agents of SHIELD: ‘Farewell, Cruel World!’

Things that mean a lot to a little

  • Praise!!! Even just “good girl/boy/little”
  • Attention in any amount
  • Checking up on us randomly in the day
  • Falling asleep on the phone together
  • Any pictures you send
  • New cute pet names
  • Doing anything/everything to encourage little space
  • Not necessarily understanding breakdowns/triggers, but helping us through them
  • Messages consisting of any action between ** (like *kisses you* or anything else)
  • Reading to us. It can be a news article just read. A cg’s voice is sooo soothing
  • Joking around
  • Treating us like you treat your friends
  • Supporting major decisions
  • Being super patient with us

Messy Witch App Recommendations

These are some apps I have that I think are witchy related, and I’ll explain each one below. I got all of these for free for Iphone, idk about any other smartphone. 


1. Labyrinthos Academy

This was my first tarot app by Tina Gong which uses the Golden Thread Tarot deck, which is very simple and easy to learn from. This app goes through the cards and their meanings through memorization games. It’s very useful for beginners to learn the basic meanings for each card. There is also a daily card feature where you can log your interpretation, but I never used it much because it’s isn’t the best feature of the app. This one is definately best for using the memorizing games to learn specific meanings. 


2. Golden Thread Tarot

Another tarot app by Tina Gong, obviously it uses the Golden Thread deck. This one’s main function is a daily card where you can log your interpretation. The log also allows you to record your emotional state and specific feelings you had when reading your card. Then you can look at how many times suits or numbers come up in readings, and your most frequent feelings based on week, month, and year. I think it’s a great logging feature so you can keep checking your emotional state day by day. It also has a tarot database where you can look up any card through a search. It also has a collection of spreads. I use these as guidelines for physical cards, but you could also use this app as a digital deck which is also really interesting. What I don’t like about these is that it asks you to write you question after, and honestly, sometimes I forget to ask it before and it messes up the reading. You can also click on the cards after you flip them to see definitions but you can’t do that once you’ve started to log it, so if you forget you can’t go back. Otherwise, pretty good recourse app, I use it to look up meanings from the database a lot. 


3. Luminous Spirit Tarot - 

Yet another tarot app by Tina Gong, this time using the Luminous Spirit deck by Labyrinthos Academy. This is most similar to the Golden Thread app in format and features and function, however, it used a different deck and focuses on teaching tarot through connection with the moon. So for anyone particularly devoted to the moon, I would recommend this one. Instead of daily cards, this app keeps track of the phases of the moon. You come up with a monthly goal or focus and as the phases change you do a full reading about that topic through the cycle. It also asks you to meditate on your question by “charging the moon” where you can really focus on what you need to be asking. It keeps track of your readings and you can use the digital deck, but unlike the Golden Thread, it allows you to look up the meanings of the cards as you write your interpretations and helps you relate them to their position in the spread. This one is best for learning how cards function in spreads and in relation to each other. It also has a database and if you’re not in love with the Golden Thread deck, this deck is more realistic pencil drawings in black and white which has a more soothing appearance. Very simple and useful!


4. Seventh Sphere

Yes, it’s by Tina Gong, however, instead of another tarot deck, this is a Lenormand card deck. It has some short lessons about what a Lenormand Deck is as well as a database like the last two. It has another logging system, more similar to the Golden Thread or Labyrinthos Academy apps than to the Luminous Spirit one. It doesn’t have you meditate on your question beforehand but it gives you a list of interpretations to think about. Because this is a different deck, I don’t mind this set up because it helps me learn each card’s meaning through practice and how to use this set of cards. Also, this deck is gorgeous! Like screw all the other decks I was dreaming about this is first on my list when I get spending money again and want another deck. 


5. Stone - 

So this is the most simple app on this list. It is literally just a list of pictures of gems and crystals and you can click on any and it will show you its properties and a well-written description of it. That’s it. I don’t have my own correspondences for crystals or anything so it’s easier for me to use this. 


6. Planets - 

Okay, this one is cool. This is basically a digital sky. You can hold it up to the sky and move it around and it will show you exactly where all the stars, planets, and constellations are in real time. You can also set it to 2D mode where it rotates like a compass. There is also a section that will tell you the visibility of each planet and the moon, and if you click on each it will give you more details. I think you can also zoom in on planets and stars but I don’t use that much. I recommend for witches who like to time their spells to celestial movements or have a hard time of visualizing or don’t have access to look at the night sky always. 


7. PlantNet - 

This is one of my most popular post on here and it was a goddamn typo. Yes, this is PlantNet, not plannet. I got it, thanks. But seriously this is a super great app for identifying plants on the go. You take a picture of a plant and it searches a database for a list of possibilities of what it could be then, links you to their Wikipedia page. It’s not 100% accurate but it’s cool and sometimes useful. 


8. Infinite Storm - 

This is an audio app that I use for meditation on the go. You can customize the noises, the types of rain, the intensity, if you want thunder or not, and add other sounds. It’s simply lovely. 


9. Yummly - 

I just downloaded this today but I already love it. It’s just a food app but I’m a kitchen witch so, yeah. I have a couple food apps (tasty, pintrest, etc.) but I’m excited about this one. It customizes your feed by your food preferences and you can list your allergies and food you just don’t like. You can add recipes to lists and make a grocery list. You can search by what you’re in the mood for and you can even find recipes based on what you already have so you don’t have to go shopping. I miss cooking and hoping that this will give me a few more good recipies to try that are different than the same 6 that keep appearing on my pintrest feed.


These are about all the ones I have so far that I like. I used to have others but clearly haven’t used them enough to keep them. If you have any witchy apps you love send them my way, I’d love to check them out!

shlav week day7: free day

shiro and slav are in love in every reality confirmed

PSA!

don’t report ana/mia blogs. you aren’t helping ANYONE! in fact you’re making their current condition worse. just because their account gets shut down does not make them all the sudden not ana/mia. also no one develops an eating disorder from a pICTURE! being in this community i know that it’s kinda hard to find these blogs. you have to actually look for them. so why are you going out of your way looking for us just to hate us. someone would have to search to be here meaning they probably already have an eating disorder. without a lot of my ana buddies i probably would not be here. they help me stay safe. our convos are not at all saying we’re too fat or anything like that. it’s making sure you’re achieving your goals, alive. we always check up on one other making sure they aren’t putting themselves too far into danger. making sure they don’t fast for too long. making sure they don’t push themselves too hard. making sure they’re okay. we are loving and caring in a weird way. just leave our community and let us be us. we cant just stop this illness. we would if we could. so just let us help one other through this horrible illness.

There’s Nothing Wrong With You

One of the best pieces of advice I ever heard was “There’s nothing wrong with you”. 

It was a Monday morning and I was relaxing with friends in a hotel pool after playing Lollapalooza. A lady bobbed opposite me sipping a ginormous glass of rose, and we started chatting. She was a stylist and told me that, when her clients tried outfits on and looked at themselves in the mirror, she would tell them “There’s nothing wrong with you”. I asked her why and she said, “because we all think there’s something wrong with us ”. It was such an odd, simple notion, but I felt like a little flower had opened up inside of me. It hadn’t occurred to me that it could be a universal feeling. There was always something so wrong with ME, I hadn’t considered that other people might feel the same. The comment stuck with me like glue for the next year. 

Illustration by Lan Truong

 I lived most of my life feeling like there was something deeply wrong with me. Everything I did was somehow geared towards fixing the parts of myself I thought were bad or ‘broken’. There was also an odd safety in being broken. I could quietly blame it for anything that went wrong in my life: “It’s not my fault: I’m f**ed up and I am very sorry!”. For a while, I had counselling, and though it was extremely helpful, I started to feel uneasy at the idea of chatting about my problems, potentially for years, if I chose to. Like, really… When would I be fixed?

For me, life =  Experiences + reactions to those experiences. The only power I have is choosing how I react to them. So, though I might have uncomfortable emotional reactions, I can choose to a) accept these emotions, instead of resisting them, and b) not interpret my thoughts as the Solid Gold Truth. Whatever your problems may be, (diagnosed or not), they don’t equate to you being broken. In my own life, it’s been unhelpful to think of mental health problems in this way, particularly when you’re struggling. You are who you are at this moment in time, and you’re doing your best. Brains are plastic. People can, and do, change.

Illustration by Lolrel

  If you follow my music, it probably won’t come as a big surprise to know that I’ve dealt with mental health issues for a long time. There have been 3 things that have helped me decrease periods of depression though. For anyone in the same position, I hope this helps.

1. Meditation

This changed my mind + my life. I started doing meditation in 2013 after Electra Heart had ended. I was burnt out and desperate for change. I took no classes, read no books - just looked at a 5 minute explanation on the internet. I didn’t even do it every day. Just 20 minutes in the morning or evening. In the beginning, I felt a little dubious about the idea of “wasting 20 whole minutes” on meditation each day. But here’s the thing: Meditation is like a vacuum for your mind. It sucks up all the dust and rubbish thoughts. I can easily waste 20 minutes looking at something on the internet that I’ll never think about again, so I can invest 20 minutes in something that changes the quality of my life. This blog described Meditation as “one of the best responses to modern information overload”. I truly believe it can be an antidote to our digital lives.

Illustration by Lolrel 

2. Exercise

I know, I know. When you’re depressed, the last thing you want to do is go outside INTO THE REAL WORLD! But if you’re bottom-of-the-barrel depressed, you have nothing to lose. For years I loved to declare that I “didn’t have a body that could run”  (in order to escape ever having to actually run). But when I start meditation, the negative thoughts about myself decreased and I started to want good things for myself. The motive of exercising was not to lose weight, so it had a different energy to it.

3. Identifying With Thoughts

The reality is, I still deal with depression, but my reaction to it is different. I am more aware of its mechanisms so I don’t take my thoughts as seriously. I try not to identify with a thought and interpret it as truth just because it came into my mind. Why? Because the way I think and respond to events is largely based on my past experiences, so how can I know that my thoughts are my own and not coloured by my past? This is why I don’t always trust my thoughts, particularly when they are of the negative variety. A book I hugely recommend on this is called “Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle. 

I’ve wanted to write this post for a long time for people who struggle with similar issues. Our culture has taught us to see happiness as some kind of end goal, but for me, the best thing about it is that it doesn’t stick around forever. Human beings need to experience some level of suffering in order to evolve emotionally and consciously. And though depression often feels like you’re stuck, or stagnating, it can also be a healthy way of your mind telling you that something isn’t quite right, and that it’s in the process of changing. We tend to view sadness as something unnatural, or negative, but perhaps viewing it as a necessary process might help us accept the low periods, and move through them more easily.

Before writing my last album, I honestly thought that I had just been born unhappy and that depression was a permanent part of me. I don’t believe that anymore. When I was writing ‘FROOT’ I felt like I was kissing goodbye to a big chapter of my life. That portion of my youth was heart-splitting and lonely at times, but it was also dazzling and beautiful. And that’s how life is for a lot of us. If only I’d known all those years that it was just part of being human.

Ask a question or share a thought here.  

Love, Marina

c-roitre  asked:

Has it ever been scary being such a loud voice for a community that isn’t entirely accepted yet?

It’s not scary, it’s empowering. But it can be frustrating too, because you don’t want to be put in a box and you’re also trying to break boundaries and explain concepts to people that they aren’t used to, and help normalize things through your art. And people aren’t used to that, and they question it, and THAT’S frustrating.