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How To: Constructively Critique and Accept the Fact That We Aren’t All Perfect

So, you read a story or a chapter.  You’ve either loved it, hated it, or feel ambivalent about it.  However, there was just this one part of the piece that really interrupted the flow of your reading enjoyment.  You hem and haw over leaving a review, worried that anything you say could be taken the wrong way, but all you want is to truly help the writer improve in his or her craft.  Finally, you decide against it, because you just don’t want to deal with any possible backlash.  So you either click out of the review feature or you leave a general “good” and move on.  You’re sure someone else will tell them what they did.  They’ll improve then.  Someone will say it better, so why would you take the time to do it?

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anonymous asked:

I'm a psychology student right now who plans on going into social work, and holy hell you have educated me so much on your disorders that I can't help but thank you for giving me more insight on lesser known issues that people deal with on a regular basis, so thanks a bunch for informing people of what you deal with because education truly is a fantastic way to solve an issue. ps: your way of dealing with anon hate is phenomenally positive and I commend you for your ability to educate kindly!

Thank you. My hope has always been that I help educate the uninformed, give people in similar situations words they can use to answer these kinds of questions, and also to help me find a way to take the negative and turn it into a positive.

I think my mental health would suffer if I didn’t have a cathartic way of dealing with the hate I receive. Being popular on the internet, there is no way to avoid hateful messages. It doesn’t matter how nice you are. You will get hate. No matter what.

I can turn off anonymous and it will still arrive in my email, my disqus comments, or they will make a fake tumblr account. Turning off anonymous just means that shy people who want to say lovely things are denied that chance. I can’t ignore the hate completely. It doesn’t work for me. I have to deal with it or it will fester inside and make me sick.

Every time I respond to the more hateful messages I get a lot of people asking me why I “feed the trolls.” Sometimes they actually rebuke me for responding. 

Maybe your message will help them understand.

I know they are trying to help, but I am about as tired of hearing “don’t feed the trolls” as I am of hearing “fake illness.”

anonymous asked:

Tell Sid to get the fuck out of the NHL. Never won shit in his life. I'd rather pick a homophobe who at least can reach 100 points and lead his team to a 5-game winning streak in October than some guy who can't even hit a PPG or score a goal or even win a Cup. Go root for another player, Crosby is a fucking loser.

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Why it's so hard to stop online harassment: algorithms won't stop abuse

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Systems that rely on humans to report content, and even more humans to process those reports, are in theory going to be more sensitive to context than automatic algorithms, but even those are avenues for abuse by bad-faith actors from all across the ideological spectrum. See, for example, the lawsuit currently proceeding against Stefan Molyneux, a prominent men’s rights activist, who is being sued for fraudulent use of the DMCA in taking down a YouTube channel dedicated to criticizing his podcast for misogyny. And it’s not just copyright enforcement mechanisms that are used to stifle open discussion of misogyny. When one woman confronted her street harassers, secretly filmed their reactions, and uploaded the videos onto YouTube, her videos were taken down “as a violation of YouTube’s policy on nudity or sexual content.” When BuzzFeed asked about the takedown, a YouTube spokesperson responded saying, “With the massive volume of videos on our site, sometimes we make the wrong call.” Even with real people on the other end to look at the context of a complaint, bad decisions are made. But automated systems won’t even take context into consideration.

Read the whole story here.

kenhew  asked:

Hi, I love your blog. I was just curious (as a new account) are there any do's and don'ts when it comes to being an equality account? Thank you! ❤️❤️

THANKS! This question requires a way longer answer than I can give right now,but here are a few suggestions to get you started.

1. Do

- Read and follow other equality tumblrs and like and share great posts when you see them. Spread the love!

- Follow blogs that represent experiences outside of your own. Cis? Follow trans bloggers. White? Follow POC bloggers. The more diversity in your feed the better. 

 - Make sure you get your facts straight. No matter how righteous your cause or good your intentions, it undermines your effort if you put out arguments based on incomplete or missing information.

- Tag for trigger warnings. TW rape, TW abuse, etc. The last thing you want to do is trigger the very people you’re trying to help!

2. Don’t

- Feed the trolls. You will get a ton of bullsh*t in your inbox. That’s what the trash can is for. See also the “block” button. My motto is, “I’m here to fight gender oppression, not other tumblr users.” 

This one can be tricky because it’s very easy to get pissed off by troll messages and want to battle. That’s a waste of time and energy. I’d rather educate 10,000 people than fight with six.

It helps to remember, “Keep your focus on the mission, not your ego.” Don’t take stuff personally. If you see a hateful message, you don’t even owe the troll the courtesy of reading it. Delete and block if needed.

Good luck with your blog!!! 

anonymous asked:

omg have you seen that one anti destiel shithead had misha sign an anti destiel/castiel post hahahhahahhhhahahahh sorry but i have honestly never seen a fandom more pathetic than this i cant breathe im lauginf hdjlbgdigsutdovhi

Here it is.

But I implore you, everybody, please don’t go over there and comment on their Twitter. I can guarantee you they’re gleefully reveling in the fact that this is already their most famous Twitter post. Don’t give them any more infamy/fame. Feeding trolls just makes the trolls bigger. Don’t help them become a BNF. We should regard those people more as exhibits in a zoo – go have a look, if you can stomach it, but don’t try to interact.

  • “My cousin.” Yeah right.
  • “Misha never even bothered to look at what he was signing.” Help me out here, people who have met Misha in autograph signings: Does this sound plausible to you? My impression is that he looks at everything he signs.
  • Misha could have been tricked into signing this, if “the cousin” taped a picture or something over the text.
  • If he signed that thing as is, he certainly read the text – malicious character hate against his character. How does “cuz” have the gall to hurt and insult Misha like that. While thousands of Misha fans would give anything to meet him but can’t afford it, “cuz” paid money to go up and insult him to his face.
  • “My cousin is actually a casgirl.” Yeah, no. No cas!girl would do that. That’s super transparent, just like the super common “I actually ship Destiel, but the show is about 2 brothers…”
  • This form of fandom warfare where people get the actors involuntarily involved by bringing signs to photo ops and stuff like this SERIOUSLY NEEDS TO STOP. That is so humiliating and demeaning to the actors. Jesus.

But something good came out of this. Something great, even. In direct response to the hate, a bunch of Misha minions on Twitter went and donated money to Random Acts and tweeted their receipts with the hashtag #WeLoveMishaCollins.