hellps

When I was pregnant and at risk of dying from complications due to preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome, I remember asking our doctors if there was anything we could do to delay delivery of my daughter and give her more time to develop - even if it meant putting myself in more danger. Perhaps it was selfless, but I also wonder if I just needed the doctors to know that I understood the social contract around motherhood, and that wanting to be “a good mother” was more important to me than my own health and life.

Years later, when I had an abortion rather than put my life at risk again, I wrote that it was, in part, because I had an existing child that needed me. That’s true – but the other piece of it is that I needed to live, too. Not because I was a mother or wife, but because I am a person and I am not done yet.

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Why is bearing children seen as more important than surviving pregnancy?, my latest at the Guardian US. 

Why must the best mothers be dead mothers?

Apollo Justice Ace Attorney in a nutshell
  • Apollo: Yay!! i have my very own game i'm so happy
  • Kristoph: LOL i kill everyone :D
  • Trucy: PERCIIIEEVE
  • Phoenix: hey, so i'm gonna casually take over your game now
  • Apollo:
  • Trucy:
  • Klavier: AAAAAA my GuItar Is on fire HELLP HERr-forehead senpai
  • Lamiroir: MY CHILDREN
  • Phoenix: choose wisely