Infants do not cry ‘for no reason.’

Infants do not cry to upset you. They don’t have a concept of hurting others and they don’t have any reason to want to do so.

Infants do not have any other way of communicating distress or an unmet need. They do not have a choice about crying.

Do not ever yell at, shake, or punish an infant. They will not learn from this – but they will be upset and afraid and possibly harmed, either in the moment or via problems in brain development.

It’s okay to take a minute to set an infant down and go into a quiet room if you are having a hard time staying calm and comforting, and come back when you have more self-control.

The only way to get an infant to cry less is to meet their needs. If you spend a lot of time with infants you can actually learn to notice when they need something, before they cry about it at all. Most infants show signs of discomfort, hunger, or having a full/wet diaper, before they get upset enough to cry.

Infants whose needs aren’t usually met right away may learn to cry immediately. Regularly not responding to an infant’s crying teaches the infant to panic every time they need something, and the trauma of being so afraid so often as an infant can cause issues with healthy brain develoment.

If a baby is crying, they need something.

  1. Is their nappy/diaper clean and dry? Even if it’s just wet, it should be changed right away.

  2. Are they hungry? A quick way to check is to run your finger over their mouth and see if they try to grab it with their lips.

  3. Do they have air bubbles? You may be able to tell if this is the problem by feeling the infant’s tummy for unusual firmness.

    Infants need to be burped right after they eat to help them get rid of air bubbles that may get trapped and cause discomfort. If it’s been little while since they last ate, it may be more effective to lay the infant on their back and move their legs in a bicycle motion.

  4. Are they too warm/cold? Touch the infant’s hands and feet to see if they need more or fewer coverings.

  5. Are they overstimulated? If it’s too noisy/bright or they’re being touched by too any people, etc., they may need to be held by one calm person with a blanket over their head. Like most people, infants tend to get more easily overstimulated when tired.

  6. Are they able to breathe freely? Infants cannot blow their own nose. A nasal aspirator is an inexpensive tool you can use to help them clear nasal congestion.

  7. Are they in pain? When an infant is sick or otherwise in pain, it may be beneficial to give them pain medication formulated for infants, such as baby tylenol. Always follow the instructions on the bottle and consult a doctor or pharmacist with any questions.

    If a cold doesn’t start to improve within a few days or the infant seems to be in pain but you don’t know why, consult a doctor. The infant may have colic, silent reflux or other issues which can sometimes be treated.

    If the infant is more than a couple months old, they may be teething. Baby tylenol will still help but a numbing paste, like orajel, on their gums may be more effective. They may also need teething toys to chew on or a cold wet (clean) washcloth.

  8. Do they just need reassurance? Infants like being sung to, murmured to, and soothed with rhythmic “shhh”-ing. Calm and steady sounds help reassure them that they aren’t alone and help them relax.

    Another way to comfort an infant is to bounce them gently and rhythmically in your arms, and/or pat their back rhythmically.

    Some infants, including most newborns, may need to be swaddled. A tight swaddle helps the infant feel secure and warm. Ask a doctor, nurse, parent, or YouTube to show you how to do a proper swaddle.

  9. Do they need to be held? The need for touch is the need most often ignored. Infants are significantly more likely to thrive with lots and lots of skin-to-skin contact. They also just need to be held, in general, a lot of the time.

    Being held (especially with skin to skin contact but even without it) helps the infant release hormones necessary for healthy brain development. Being close enough to feel an adult’s steady heartbeat is calming and beneficial for an infant.

    For these reasons and many others, infants need to be held - a lot. Our closest primate relatives maintain constant physical contact with their babies for the first year of life. Historically most humans have lived communally, which allows several people to take turns providing the necessary physical contact.

    Infants don’t need to be held every single moment, but the more they are held, the safer and more secure they’ll feel and the more likely they are to be healthy. A sling, baby wrap, or wearable infant carrier can help an infant get necessary contact time.

    If an infant needs contact to sleep, consider getting a cosleeper cushion to safely allow you or someone else to sleep next to the infant. If that isn’t possible, sleep training where you pick up and comfort the baby each time they cry, and then put them down slightly sooner each time that night, may help.

Do not let an infant cry and cry for help and not give it to them.

Drown Me In Your Love (Grayson Smut)

Summary: Requested by anon: “Gorgeous human, could you write a storyline where Grayson (please with G) and his girlfriend have an argument, not an angry one but a teary filled one and Grayson approaches her as she’s crying and there’s heavy SMUT involved as they make up, it’s not aggressive but very passionate and intense? I just heard the song ‘Too Deep’ by Ritual and Delilah and its got me feeling all kind of things and just need to read something you write based on this song, maybe along the lines of my suggestion? xx”
Word Count: 4,008 (longest imagine I’ve written omg)
Warnings: Cunnilingus, daddy kink.
A/N: So, this is the work that I had gotten halfway through when tumblr crashed. I had to rewrite it so it didn’t come out as good as I expected it to. But I hope I did this justice and I hope you like it. Also, I’m still not very good at smut but I’m gonna practice and get better hopefully. Listen to Too Deep for the full effect!

“Are you sure you’re gonna be okay?” Your friend’s voice sounded through the phone and you stopped yourself from scowling.

How were you supposed to answer that after the large bomb she had dropped on you?

“Yeah.” You answered, voice coming out breathy and quiet. You knew that you weren’t gonna be okay, though, and judging by the small indignant noise that your friend let out on the other end of the receiver, she didn’t buy it either.

“Look, maybe it isn’t what it looks like,” Your friend brought you back from your dark thoughts. “Just don’t do anything stupid.”

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You Make Me Better

BASED ON THIS POST by @bleebug and subsequent comments from @thesschesthair and @seethelovelyintheworld Thanks ladies for this inspirational prompt, I had a great time writing this.  Thanks to @laschatzi and @xhookswenchx for read through and beta services!

Also on ao3 and ffnet

CS Neighbors AU where Emma is a nurse and Killian is her definitely-faking-it hypochondriac neighbor who uses illnesses and injuries as an excuse to talk to her.


Emma had just put her dinner together and sat down on her couch with a nice glass of red wine, and Netflix ready to go. The upside to working in a small private practice was for the first time since attending college, Emma Swan had a somewhat normal schedule. It allowed her peaceful evenings to herself to do what she pleased. Tonight she’d been home from another long day for a mere half an hour and was beyond ready to relax.


“I should have turned off the goddamn lights,” she muttered.

“Swaaaan!” the interloper persisted, pounding on her door again.

The downside meant a certain pesky neighbor soliciting free medical advice on the regular. Rolling her eyes, she put the television remote and her glass of wine on the coffee table, knowing he wasn’t going to let up.

It wasn’t that she couldn’t be neighborly, but Killian Jones was a menace. The man was a hypochondriac of the worst kind - a fake hypochondriac - some new illness ailing him weekly. She flung her door open just as he was poised to knock again. The breeze it caused carried in his scent, and Emma was olfactorily assaulted by just one of the real reasons Killian Jones drove her crazy.  The next havoc he wreaked on her was the sight waiting before her. Killian Jones, shirtless… again, gingerly propped up against the frame of her door. Last time he’d shown up shirtless he’d insisted that a tiny mosquito bite on his back was a case of the shingles. She wondered if his shirtless visits were nothing more than a chance for him to flaunt his altogether delicious chest: just the right amount of definition and muscle covered by taut skin that pulled as he gesticulated his every word, all overlaid with beautiful black chest hair that descended into a thin trail disappearing under the waistband of his pajama pants.

“Swan, thank the gods you’re here, lass. I need medical assistance.”

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One Night Only [Chapter 1]

Jackson can’t put you in his past, not before he gets one last night with you.

Genre: Angst

Contains Text Images, Flashbacks throughout.

You exhaled deeply as you sent the text, giving into Jackson. You knew that you shouldn’t continue seeing him. You couldn’t allow yourself to be pulled back in. You weren’t sure if you would be able to recover this time around. You thought back to the night he left you without any sort of explanation.

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Roasted red pepper hummus veggie wraps for LUNCH 👅👅👅 Everything from Trader Joe’s of course! I’m sooo hungry after a fun busy day today. I finally have a laptop you guys! Shiny and new ☺️ So guess what that means?? NEW STUFF for y'all! I’m working on a website, YouTube videos, and the best thing: an e-book FULL of my favorite vegan recipes!! 🎉🎊💥 I will also include shopping lists, meal plans, lots of tips on how to save money, and helpful advice on how to start a vegan lifestyle! If you have any questions you’d like me to answer in the book, or any suggestions, let me know because this e-book is for ✨you✨ so I want it to be perfect!! Launch date for the book is no later than Nov. 25th. AHHH I’m too excited!! 😘😘

Instagram @ vegannomadchick

anonymous asked:

How would the boys react as holding their newborns for the first time they gripped one of their fingers and the babies smile in their sleep?

How would the guys react to holding their newborn for the first time? ☺

I’m answering two asks in one here since they’re so similar.

LEO: THIS PROUD PAPA ARE YOU KIDDING HE HAS A BABY HES A DAD WHAT. Leo would smile down at his lil babe, his eyes crinkling in the corners as a happy sigh escapes him. For once he isn’t the leader or a brother or a son, but a dad, and he couldn’t be happier.

RAPH: OMG WHAT DO I DO WHAT IF I HURT EM OH NO OH NO OH NO. He would be freaking out, in his mind he’s too large to hold such a tiny thing and would crush it in a heartbeat. Once that little finger curls around his own (as much as it can, anyway) he melts. All the rage and fear and worry oozes out of him, until all that’s left is a giant teddy bear who will rip out your throat if you so much as sneeze on his lil one.

DONNIE: IS THE BABY OKAY WHAT ARE ITS VITALS I NEED TO RUN A CHECK UP. He’d be in full doctor Don mode, ready to do everything to make sure it’s healthy. After it wraps its fingers around his own, he’s a goner. He pulls the baby closer to his chest and whispers to it, telling it about all the exciting wonders of life, and right away this little one has got its papa wrapped around it’s fingers like they currently are, but metaphorically this time.

MIKEY: HES A DAD WOW MUCH ADULTING VERY RESPONSIBLING LOOK AT HIS CUTIE. He’s an excited daddy who can’t wait to take his kid boarding and play him in video games and omg so much to do. Mikey is a big bundle of energy until that little baby wraps its fingers around his and gazes into his eyes, almost like its staring into Mikey’s soul. Mikey grins, blue eyes wide and vibrant, until the baby starts crying. It’s going to be a long night….

Hardships & Joys

Characters: Taehyung x Reader
Length: 2448 words
Genre: Fluff
thank you @shadehasamagiccarpet (the numbers thing still has me weak) for inspiring lots of this

and @donewithjeon I think you might like this one ∩(︶▽︶)∩

The cold porcelain under your fingers grounded you from the sickening feeling of nausea cursing through your body. You could feel the cold sweat covering you, making your hair stick to your face as you knelt in front of the toilet, shivering from the cold tiles on your naked legs and the exhaustion of retching over and over again until your stomach was empty and your body worn out.

You leaned your forehead on your arm, resting in that position over the toilet bowl for a minute, waiting for another wave of nausea to hit you, when you heard his voice.

“Babe? What’s wrong?”

He sounded worried and it took you more effort than you would’ve thought to raise your head and look at him.

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@vegannomadchick’s wraps have had me drooling for the last 2 weeks so I decided to take a cue from her for lunch today 👅💦 but let’s be real, no one does wraps like she does 😍 I threw in some hummus, hot sauce for a little kick, baby spinach, a black bean + corn burger, chopped cherry tomatoes, and sliced avocado 💕 plants make me happy 🍃🌱🌿

Kale Wrap

Last Sunday morning, I was totally famished when I got home after the shopping in the weekend market with mother in law, so I decided to make myself a quick wrap before I put away the grocery.

This is simply an organic wholewheat wrap lined with a little carrot hummus and filled with chopped freshly bought kale and tomatoes. Pretty good hunger fix before our lunch!


News that the little cog had been grievously wounded had circulated through her favourite gambling den rather quickly. the little Lamb who never cheated cards. who alway knew how to brighten the mood and who was never unwilling to help somebody fix something had almost been killed while out on a business trip. 
Some patrons disliked this more than others. One cared enough for her to do something unusual.

Karitsa, who was original to be housebound until she healed and removed from rosters until she was healthy. now found herself wrapped tight in a blanket and being pushed along by a Woman in Showman’s attire with a bowl of stew in her lap.

 From Mask covered face to the bright stockings on her legs. Dressed like some human twist on a Harlequin, Exclusively in maroon and white colours for an unknown reason.

it did not matter. she was pushing a bundled up and confused Karitsa in a wheelchair. just up the road from Vicca’s hide out.
the presence of blanks began to chill Karitsa’s weakened body and mind. but it did little to phase the woman pushing the chair.

eventually. she would reach the door and knock. Hopefully, her client had sent a warning for visitors in advance. 

“Madam Vicca, I have Business with you. Not of the Violent Nature.” the Masked woman’s voice was Metallic and clearly disguised. but loud and clear to whatever may be at the door.


Turned my leftover corn tortilla wraps into pizzas! Best pizzas I’ve ever eaten, including vegan and non vegan ones. Corn tortilla wraps with arrabiata pasta sauce, creamy spinach pesto (spinach, a little olive oil, walnuts, nutritional yeast, herb salt, pepper, lemon juice and garlic), mushrooms, tomatoes, olives, fresh arugula and nutritional yeast ✿

o31: Reincarnation

Notes: I was originally gonna make the last prompt the only one featuring Sarada, because it seemed really special to end with her for this topic <3

but I couldn’t help bringing her into more pieces because she’s perfect and makes SS even more complete and beautiful TT^TT

I just kind of wish I put her into a lot more prompts since she’s only mentioned in a few :’( I don’t know how to write Sarada very well, so that’s something I have to (and will) work on!

Thank you for accompanying me throughout yet another sasusaku month! I hope you guys had just as much of a great time as I have! Here’s to many more. Special thanks to the mods–sakurasass, sasukesass, and saradasass for organizing this event. Mwah ~

NOTE: here, sarada is born in konoha :) no traveling fic, sorry!



Sasuke sees a new life—a perfect life—in baby Sarada.


The birth is quick and nearly painless. Sakura goes into labor at ten, right as he’s about to cradle her to sleep, when she gasps and jumps out the bed.

“I need to go the hospital.”

Sasuke does not hesitate. He helps dress Sakura, making sure his wife is warm and comfortable, and slips on some clothes for himself. His hand is secured onto her belly, protecting her from all sorts of harm that could possibly affect their child.

“Don’t worry,” she gasps through contractions. “You’re so overprotective.”

“I have to be.” He kisses her ear and leads her down the stairs. They have no car, it’s too late to call a taxi, and Sasuke can’t afford the risk of teleporting her there.

“Ah, Sasuke-kun!” she squeaks. Sasuke scoops his hands underneath her back and knees and carries her out the door and towards the hospital. It is empty outside, a cold breeze fluttering through the city. The only sounds accompanying them are the chirps of crickets and the pitter-patter of Sasuke’s footsteps against the dirt.

Tsunade, of course, is called to the room to help deliver the baby. She brings along Kakashi, who, in turn, has an overeager Naruto clinging to his arm in sleep-deprived excitement.

“When is it coming?” he shouts. “Come on, Team 7 baby, come on!”

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Many people still believe that HIV will always lead to AIDS and ultimately a diminished life. This is far from true. With the advancement of medication, HIV is treatable and far from a death sentence. Those who are HIV+ can still live long and healthy lives. But, this is why it is so important to get tested! HIV can go unnoticed for years and it is only with proper diagnosis and treatment that one can achieve a full and healthy life.
This wraps up STI Awareness Month! If you would like some resources on where to get tested confidentially, I can help you out!