healthy reward

Joseph’s true ending is about how Mary can’t take it anymore and leaves his lying cheating ass, which makes Joseph actually think about his actions and how much he hurt his family and the men he had affairs with so he reaches out to his ex Robert who never quite got over him and apologizes and over time they patch things up and Joseph works through his interalized homophobia and learns that gay love can be beautiful and rewarding and more than just an exciting fling and Robert learns to forgive him and they start a healthy, mutually rewarding relationship. Meanwhile Mary takes the kids and leaves town to start a new, happier life and get over her addiction only to become a happy single mom in the upcoming mom dating sim. Roll the credits.

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Keeping fish is not ‘easy’

Keeping fish is not cheap

Keeping fish requires near daily maintenance, frequent hours of research and lots of vigilance.

Fish can live decades, they are not 'throw away’ pets.

Just because you can’t cuddle with them doesn’t mean they deserve any less than the best possible care.

Take the time to do your research and thoroughly prepare before rushing off to the pet store for ANY companion animal. No living thing deserves the agonizing, half life of improper care.

You’ll be rewarded with healthy, happy pets and many many years of enjoyable life together.

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NEW VIDEO! Cheat Day, THE BEST DAY of the Week, After 6 days of healthy eating you are rewarded with a feast of your choice. 

But due to High Grease, Fat, and Sugar your stomach can be in for some horrible pain the next day. 

Well today here’s a protocol to avoid that diarrhea and constipation so you can enjoy your cheat meals and relax like a king! 

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anonymous asked:

Dads react to a dadsona struggling with an addiction?

Joseph
Like most religious men of the time, Joseph would pray for you. He prayed that your struggles would eventually stop and that you learned the path of sobriety. He prayed that, even on your bad days when you felt you would just fall back in your bad habits, you would find peace. On a regular basis, he praised you for staying healthy and even rewarded you with more attention. He himself didn’t understand the intricacies of addiction, but he knew it was hurting you. He knew the day you asked for help, it wasn’t going to be just another lapse. You meant it this time and this time, he would help you through whatever hell you had to endure. If he prayed hard enough, you were going to be okay.

Robert
He wasn’t sure what to do, considering he was suffering through his own addiction. He tried simple things, like taking you to the bar less frequently or only offering you just one shot of whiskey. You had asked him at one point if you two could try being sober together, but he had refused vehemently. Addiction for him was complicated and it required more than just giving up the bottle. But he honored you as best he could. Kept himself sober around you during the day, regardless of how badly he wanted to be drunk. He could see you were trying and that this meant something to you. He wasn’t going to be the one to drag you down with him,no matter how easy that would have been.

Mat
You couldn’t walk into the Coffee Spoon without being questioned. Mat would examine your face, ask if you had anything to drink lately and even took a whiff of your breath if he thought you had been lying. It was all good intentions, you knew that much. He was an anxious person and he had to make sure you were following through. It wasn’t always positive though, due to his surveillance. There were nights you found yourself in a screaming match with him, drowning out any sort of reasoning he offered, only because you didn’t want to admit you had just come back from a binge at the bar. He tried his best and you genuinely appreciated it but you knew he was in over his head. It was only going to be a matter of time before he walked out on you.

Brian
He would have been lying if Brian said he was prepared to take on your addiction with you. He wasn’t completely oblivious to the process, but he had never had to deal with it first hand. There was a lot of misunderstandings, prejudices and the only time he really seemed to get it was when Daisy explained certain nuances. She was only there to help out, but Brian couldn’t help but feel out of his league. He wasn’t stupid or slow; most people misinterpreted him that way. But perhaps he had been so sheltered in his own little bubble, that much more complicated issues alluded him. He often apologized to you, explaining why he felt scared that you wouldn’t get better with him around. You would hush him of course. It was silly to think that innocence was anything but pure.

Hugo
It was as if Hugo had been preparing for this day. Not that he knew you would have fallen victim to such an addiction, but because the man was constantly surrounded by troubled teens. He had seen it take over a person, trapping them in a cycle of abuse and self loathing. He told you one of his fears; that one day he would lose Ernest to addiction. Despite their public relationship, he loved his son and everyday was another obstacle for the both of them. Maybe it was the look in his eyes, but hearing about that gave you strength to continue. Through your journey, you made it a point just to talk to Ernest. Not necessarily about addiction, but just to understand his thinking. You two would get along and everyday you waited for that kind of relationship for him and his father.

Craig
If anyone could understand you, it was your old college buddy. You had seen him go through the same thing so many years ago. He drank until he blacked out, spent all day recovering and would do the same thing the next night. His drunken smile was nothing more than a cover for how painful everyday was for him. You recalled walking in on him sobbing in your dorm one day, broken and helpless. Now, here you were, begging for his help just as he had done to you that day. He obliged of course, knowing the struggle to simply admit you had a problem. He never asked why you started drinking in the first place; that was something for a therapist to indulge. Instead, he focused on the everyday fight. He offered to exercise with you, taking your mind off of the bottle. He would visit and cook healthy meals and just be there. He would smile at you and you knew this time it was genuine.

Damien
You couldn’t ask for a warmer, more caring partner. Since the day you admitted your addiction, Damien had done everything in his power to make sure you succeeded in overcoming it. He researched techniques, praised you for your efforts and asked you how you were feeling. Some days you relapsed, coming home drunk late at night. It bothered him of course, but he understood the path to recovery wasn’t a smooth one. He would lead you back to your bed and when morning came, would offer you a remedy for your hangover. You always reminded him that he didn’t have to stay. You knew you were a difficult case and that he wasn’t obliged to stay with you. He would silence you, offering the warmest of hugs and kisses. He wasn’t going to leave your side and you believed him.

-Mod Auggie-

Whatever you do, don’t think about that Martin must’ve known, he must’ve done the math and known that if three stayed behind and fought the soldiers, two would get away. Because the soldiers had the power and the numbers to fight and capture all five, if they had all stayed, and they had the power and the numbers to find and capture all five, if they had all run. But if three stayed and fought and bought time, then two at least could still run and make it. But of course, there was no coming back for the three that didn’t run. And of course it wasn’t even a decision for Martin that he would stay behind. And of course Gripps and Cross wouldn’t pass an opportunity to wreak some serious fucking havoc, however futile, alongside their leader. Because it meant that Amanda and Vogle, the youngest, the most innocent out of their crew, would have a fighting chance. So, yeah… don’t think about that at all.

Also don’t think about that T-shirt Todd gave Dirk in the last episode. Don’t think about how it’s the same T-shirt that Todd was wearing at the beginning of the first episode, which means… it probably still smells like Todd? Don’t think about Dirk sitting on the floor in his cell at the Blackwing facility, his face buried in the shirt, tears drenching it through to the opposite side of the fabric, as he wonders if he’ll ever see Todd again or if this article is the last thing he has of him. Possibly will ever have of him. Don’t think about Blackwing eventually confiscating his civilian clothes and Dirk begging for them to take anything, take the jacket, take everything, but just let him keep the shirt. Let him keep Todd’s shirt, which might mean more to him than his own life at this point.

Oh, and absolutely don’t think about the fact that the only way the CIA will likely be able to capture Bart is by threatening Ken. Because unlike her, he can get hurt, and can die. Because Bart can’t possibly hope to protect him against an entire army, even with her being Bart and all. So don’t think about the CIA offering her a deal: she comes willingly, she cooperates within Blackwing, and Ken is left alone. But should she ever step out of line…. Well, there are CIA agents tailing Ken constantly and all it would take is a phonecall…. But don’t worry, on those occasions when Bart would have a really good result in one test or another, they’d let her see surveillance footage of Ken as a reward. Ken, healthy and unharmed, buying groceries or just walking in the park maybe, and Bart’s heart would burst with happiness, and she’d know that all her suffering has been worth it.

So, yes, don’t think about any of these things and you should be just fine until season two starts, in which absolutely nothing bad at all will happen. :)

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Karlie Kloss on Feminism, Coding, and (Maybe) Making a Run for the White House

KARLIE KLOSS SUPER MODEL

Conquering fashion and crushing tech, Karlie Kloss is just getting started

by LAURA BROWN
photographed by CARTER SMITH
2017 June issue of InStyle Magazine

Taking an Australian to an Australian restaurant is a very Karlie Kloss thing to do. Heartily recommending dishes (green goddess salad! Avocado toast!) and knowing everyone who works at the joint (Two Hands in N.Y.C.’s TriBeCa neighborhood) is also très Karlie Kloss. Almost 10 years in, her modeling career has encompassed more runways than JFK, more covers than a … cover band, and more campaigns than some presidents (Swarovski, Express, L’Oréal, Adidas). But the St. Louis–raised Kloss remains a Midwestern girl who was brought up right. She’s two years into Kode with Klossy, her 10-city (and growing) program to inspire young girls to learn coding and enter the tech world, and over a year into her feminist studies at NYU (complemented handily by today’s look: a Dior T-shirt that says “We Should All Be Feminists”). But right now she’s just going to extend her illegally long legs under the table for a chat.

LAURA BROWN: At the British Fashion Awards in London last December, you were posing away on the red carpet in a sparkly Swarovski thing, and it was freezing. I just thought, “How does she keep turning up and doing that?”

KARLIE KLOSS: First of all, I’m a Leo, so when I need to turn it on, I do. I enjoy the adrenaline—not just when I’m walking the red carpet but also when I’m on set or in a runway show or even in the small film things I’ve done. I don’t know; I’m going to throw it to being a Leo because I have no other explanation! But I also know the feeling of being spent.

What happens when you’re spent?
I book myself out. I take time. I shut off. I don’t post to social media for a couple of days, and I find that to be really rewarding and healthy. It actually reenergizes me to be able to turn it back on and have fun. We’re multitasking women; we all have a lot going on. But you also have to protect yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally and give yourself time.

“Book yourself out”: I know that’s a model term, but metaphorically, it’s a good idea too.
Yeah. Because you know what? It’s not a matter of being lazy—the returns are tenfold: You’ll be able to show up with more energy, more drive, more focus. It’ll pay off.

Are you type A?
I don’t know if I’m type A. I’m super-driven, but I’m not a perfectionist.

Women are always told we can have it all, but acknowledging your limitations is a wonderful thing too. There’s a beauty in knowing what you can’t do.

There’s also a beauty in not trying to figure it all out. Things like Kode with Klossy happened because after graduating from high school, I was fully focusing on my modeling career but at a certain point was uninspired. That’s why I started taking a coding class.

When you sat down for that first coding class, did it feel like, “Oh, great!” or “Oh, s—!”?
I only got myself into that first coding class because I was genuinely curious about it and I met someone who started the Flatiron School … I am someone who if you tell me I have to do something, I’m less inclined to do it, but I took that class because I was really interested in how all this works. It’s how the world is actually built. Code is the secret language that builds all the digital architecture of everything that we rely on. And pretty much a fraction of people know about it, yet we all use it. I’ve always been intrigued by the direction nobody else is going in. Not following the herd.

If anything, the herd is following you, especially when you’re, like, 7 feet in heels.
Honestly, I never owned a pair of heels until I became a model. I remember buying a pair of black high heels from Target in St. Louis because I had to practice learning how to walk in them.

OK, set the scene for me, please.
I had just turned 15—now 18 is the minimum age to model—and started high school on a Monday, and by Friday I was on a plane to New York for a casting call. I thought, “There’s no way anyone is going to book me for New York Fashion Week, but it’s good to go and see people.” I had my high heels from Target and a little black dress from Macy’s that my mom bought me. It became my lucky little black dress that I continued to wear again and again. That was the outfit I was wearing when I walked into Calvin Klein in 2008 and got cast in the show that launched my career. I look back at photos, and I’m like, “How and why did anybody book me?” I was a child! But I was a very tall child. I’ve always been kind of an old soul, I guess.

You’ve always read older. I’m still surprised at how young you are. I really loved those years.
And it was so different. The whole digital situation was different.

Do you think social media makes it harder or easier to succeed?
I think it’s a different ball game. You have to have a strong presence on the runway, schlep around the world to build a book for editorial, work with the right people, and be in the right campaigns. You also have to have a digital presence and brand yourself. Maybe it’s easier to break through now because it’s democratized. It’s not like there are three important people in the fashion industry who are going to say, “Yes, you’re going to be successful.”

It’s the people’s choice.
Right, and that’s what’s really interesting. Something can become successful if it’s a good idea or if it’s going against the grain. It’s hard to predict.

It’s important to have constants in all this, right? How do you manage a relationship with all your travel and everything else? [Kloss dates venture capitalist and health-care entrepreneur Joshua Kushner.]
You make it work. We’ve been together almost five years. Time flies. It’s crazy. He’s a super-solid dude.

Is it nice to know someone’s there?
Yeah. I’ve always been super-close with my family. They are my rock. There’s so much uncertainty in every direction, like, “Are you gonna get this job?” So having a solid crew, whether it’s your family or a partner, that’s a big part of being able to function.

What does being a feminist mean to you?
Actually, I’m taking a feminism class at NYU right now. It’s about the political history of feminism, really, since the ’60s and ’70s. The term “feminism” means different things to different people; a lot of people throw it around without really understanding the weight of it because it is layered. Two women can identify as feminists and have wildly different ways of living their lives. I love what Maria Grazia [Chiuri] is doing at Dior. She’s such a powerhouse. Having women in leadership positions is so important. Hopefully it will happen in the White House someday.

Would you ever consider making a run for the White House?
Never say never, right?

So, we did a superhero shoot together for InStyle. Who’s your real-life superhero?
My mom, for sure. She battled really aggressive breast cancer when my three sisters and I were young. She survived by the skin of her teeth. I’ve grown up completely idolizing her. She’s so strong.

Were you ever into superheroes?
Wonder Woman, of course! First of all, she’s got great style, hair, and accessories. And I love that she’s fearless. She doesn’t need a man. She’s so independent.

Where would you go if you could fly an invisible jet?
I would love to be able to fly, period. Being invisible would be amazing. I’m 6'2", so it’s hard to be invisible, but at times I love just being a people-watcher, whether it’s in a café or the places I travel.

Do you have days when you’re not recognized?
I put on a baseball hat and jeans and a T-shirt and nobody pays attention to me. It’s great. I hope that never changes.

Maybe when you hit 25 and get real old.
Hopefully I’ll start shrinking too!

When was the moment you knew you’d made it in your career?
I haven’t hit that moment yet, but when I bought my apartment in New York six years ago, that felt like a major milestone.

So you had a mortgage at 18?
Yeah. All my friends were, like, just getting their driver’s licenses.

“I feel lucky I started working at 15—it’s been almost 10 years. I feel like a geezer!”

What do you spend your money on?
I am very ambitious as an entrepreneur and as a businesswoman, but it doesn’t matter how much money I make. I am frugal. I spend money on experiences. I like to take amazing vacations with my loved ones. I like property. I just bought a beautiful home in St. Louis.

That must be wonderful—coming back home with such success.
You know what’s crazy? I bought the house I used to babysit in. My only job before modeling was a $6-an-hour babysitting gig, which, by the way, was great. I feel like I have this Cinderella story, and I’m really grateful for it. It was not the path I was anticipating. Anyway, it’s come full circle for me. I always loved that house.

What’s something you do every day that would surprise people?
Indulge in chocolate in some form. Chocolate is my weakness. It’s my Kryptonite.

If you’re really on a bender, what do you do? What’s your “f— it bucket”?
Halo Top ice cream. It’s lower in calories. I’ll smash a whole pint. I have a sweet tooth. That’s how Karlie’s Kookies happened, because I love sweets.

You’re super-diligent about working out. Do you try to keep it to a certain time every day?
I like to work out in the morning and get it out of the way because it changes how I function the rest of the day. I feel more awake and am more aware of what I eat. Since I’m always traveling and in a different place, I started running. I love running in Paris and upstate New York. I also love strength training. If I work out, it doesn’t immediately change my body, but it changes my clarity, focus, and emotions. My job right now is reliant on my body, but that’s genuinely not why I work out.

What’s your favorite thing to do? Do you cook a lot at home?
I love to cook. I love going to the market and getting fresh stuff and just getting creative.

How ambitious are you?
I want Kode with Klossy to grow. Last summer we had three camps with 20 girls in each one. This summer we have 15 camps in 10 cities and 20 to 25 girls in each class.

All of this and you’re not type A?
I’m grateful that I’m successful at 24 in a way that I never imagined I would be. I feel lucky I started working at 15—it’s been almost 10 years. I feel like a geezer!

What was the last thing you bought for yourself?
I bought this sick handpainted Gucci leather jacket. It was from a special collaboration. My frugal self broke the bank on that one. And also the house. [Laughs]

What’s your favorite thing that you’ve worn out lately?
It was this cute little Dior sleeveless dress that was just way sexy and athletic. I loved it.

Most important, where are the Target shoes now?
My mom has the first crayon drawing I ever made, so I’m sure those shoes are in a box somewhere in the Kloss attic.

For more from Karlie Kloss, pick up the June issue of InStyle, available on newsstands and for digital download May 14.

InStyle

Conquering fashion and crushing tech, Karlie Kloss is just getting started

Taking an Australian to an Australian restaurant is a very Karlie Kloss thing to do.

Heartily recommending dishes (green goddess salad! Avocado toast!) and knowing everyone who works at the joint (Two Hands in N.Y.C.’s TriBeCa neighborhood) is also très Karlie Kloss. Almost 10 years in, her modeling career has encompassed more runways than JFK, more covers than a … cover band, and more campaigns than some presidents (Swarovski, Express, L’Oréal, Adidas). But the St. Louis–raised Kloss remains a Midwestern girl who was brought up right. She’s two years into Kode with Klossy, her 10-city (and growing) program to inspire young girls to learn coding and enter the tech world, and over a year into her feminist studies at NYU (complemented handily by today’s look: a Dior T-shirt that says “We Should All Be Feminists”). But right now she’s just going to extend her illegally long legs under the table for a chat.

LAURA BROWN: At the British Fashion Awards in London last December, you were posing away on the red carpet in a sparkly Swarovski thing, and it was freezing. I just thought, “How does she keep turning up and doing that?”

KARLIE KLOSS: First of all, I’m a Leo, so when I need to turn it on, I do. I enjoy the adrenaline—not just when I’m walking the red carpet but also when I’m on set or in a runway show or even in the small film things I’ve done. I don’t know; I’m going to throw it to being a Leo because I have no other explanation! But I also know the feeling of being spent.

What happens when you’re spent?


I book myself out. I take time. I shut off. I don’t post to social media for a couple of days, and I find that to be really rewarding and healthy. It actually reenergizes me to be able to turn it back on and have fun. We’re multitasking women; we all have a lot going on. But you also have to protect yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally and give yourself time.

“Book yourself out”: I know that’s a model term, but metaphorically, it’s a good idea too.


Yeah. Because you know what? It’s not a matter of being lazy—the returns are tenfold: You’ll be able to show up with more energy, more drive, more focus. It’ll pay off.

Are you type A?

I don’t know if I’m type A. I’m super-driven, but I’m not a perfectionist.

Women are always told we can have it all, but acknowledging your limitations is a wonderful thing too. There’s a beauty in knowing what you can’t do.

There’s also a beauty in not trying to figure it all out. Things like Kode with Klossy happened because after graduating from high school, I was fully focusing on my modeling career but at a certain point was uninspired. That’s why I started taking a coding class.

When you sat down for that first coding class, did it feel like, “Oh, great!” or “Oh, s—!”?

I only got myself into that first coding class because I was genuinely curious about it and I met someone who started the Flatiron School … I am someone who if you tell me I have to do something, I’m less inclined to do it, but I took that class because I was really interested in how all this works. It’s how the world is actually built. Code is the secret language that builds all the digital architecture of everything that we rely on. And pretty much a fraction of people know about it, yet we all use it. I’ve always been intrigued by the direction nobody else is going in. Not following the herd.

If anything, the herd is following you, especially when you’re, like, 7 feet in heels.

Honestly, I never owned a pair of heels until I became a model. I remember buying a pair of black high heels from Target in St. Louis because I had to practice learning how to walk in them.

OK, set the scene for me, please.

I had just turned 15—now 18 is the minimum age to model—and started high school on a Monday, and by Friday I was on a plane to New York for a casting call. I thought, “There’s no way anyone is going to book me for New York Fashion Week, but it’s good to go and see people.” I had my high heels from Target and a little black dress from Macy’s that my mom bought me. It became my lucky little black dress that I continued to wear again and again. That was the outfit I was wearing when I walked into Calvin Klein in 2008 and got cast in the show that launched my career. I look back at photos, and I’m like, “How and why did anybody book me?” I was a child! But I was a very tall child. I’ve always been kind of an old soul, I guess.

You’ve always read older. I’m still surprised at how young you are. I really loved those years.

And it was so different. The whole digital situation was different.

Do you think social media makes it harder or easier to succeed?

I think it’s a different ball game. You have to have a strong presence on the runway, schlep around the world to build a book for editorial, work with the right people, and be in the right campaigns. You also have to have a digital presence and brand yourself. Maybe it’s easier to break through now because it’s democratized. It’s not like there are three important people in the fashion industry who are going to say, “Yes, you’re going to be successful.”

It’s the people’s choice.

Right, and that’s what’s really interesting. Something can become successful if it’s a good idea or if it’s going against the grain. It’s hard to predict.

It’s important to have constants in all this, right? How do you manage a relationship with all your travel and everything else? [Kloss dates venture capitalist and health-care entrepreneur Joshua Kushner.]

You make it work. We’ve been together almost five years. Time flies. It’s crazy. He’s a super-solid dude.

Is it nice to know someone’s there?

Yeah. I’ve always been super-close with my family. They are my rock. There’s so much uncertainty in every direction, like, “Are you gonna get this job?” So having a solid crew, whether it’s your family or a partner, that’s a big part of being able to function.

What does being a feminist mean to you?

Actually, I’m taking a feminism class at NYU right now. It’s about the political history of feminism, really, since the ’60s and ’70s. The term “feminism” means different things to different people; a lot of people throw it around without really understanding the weight of it because it is layered. Two women can identify as feminists and have wildly different ways of living their lives. I love what Maria Grazia [Chiuri] is doing at Dior. She’s such a powerhouse. Having women in leadership positions is so important. Hopefully it will happen in the White House someday.

Would you ever consider making a run for the White House?


Never say never, right?

So, we did a superhero shoot together for InStyle. Who’s your real-life superhero?

My mom, for sure. She battled really aggressive breast cancer when my three sisters and I were young. She survived by the skin of her teeth. I’ve grown up completely idolizing her. She’s so strong.

Were you ever into superheroes?


Wonder Woman, of course! First of all, she’s got great style, hair, and accessories. And I love that she’s fearless. She doesn’t need a man. She’s so independent.

Where would you go if you could fly an invisible jet?

I would love to be able to fly, period. Being invisible would be amazing. I’m 6'2", so it’s hard to be invisible, but at times I love just being a people-watcher, whether it’s in a café or the places I travel.

Do you have days when you’re not recognized?


I put on a baseball hat and jeans and a T-shirt and nobody pays attention to me. It’s great. I hope that never changes.

Maybe when you hit 25 and get real old.


Hopefully I’ll start shrinking too!

When was the moment you knew you’d made it in your
career?


I haven’t hit that moment yet, but when I bought my apartment in New York six years ago, that felt like a major milestone.

So you had a mortgage at 18?

Yeah. All my friends were, like, just getting their driver’s licenses.

What do you spend your money on?

I am very ambitious as an entrepreneur and as a businesswoman, but it doesn’t matter how much money I make. I am frugal. I spend money on experiences. I like to take amazing vacations with my loved ones. I like property. I just bought a beautiful home in St. Louis.

That must be wonderful—coming back home with such success.


You know what’s crazy? I bought the house I used to babysit in. My only job before modeling was a $6-an-hour babysitting gig, which, by the way, was great. I feel like I have this Cinderella story, and I’m really grateful for it. It was not the path I was anticipating. Anyway, it’s come full circle for me. I always loved that house.

What’s something you do every day that would surprise people?


Indulge in chocolate in some form. Chocolate is my weakness. It’s my Kryptonite.

If you’re really on a bender, what do you do? What’s your “f— it bucket”?

Halo Top ice cream. It’s lower in calories. I’ll smash a whole pint. I have a sweet tooth. That’s how Karlie’s Kookies happened, because I love sweets.

You’re super-diligent about working out. Do you try to keep it to a certain time every day?


I like to work out in the morning and get it out of the way because it changes how I function the rest of the day. I feel more awake and am more aware of what I eat. Since I’m always traveling and in a different place, I started running. I love running in Paris and upstate New York. I also love strength training. If I work out, it doesn’t immediately change my body, but it changes my clarity, focus, and emotions. My job right now is reliant on my body, but that’s genuinely not why I work out.

What’s your favorite thing to do? Do you cook a lot at home?


I love to cook. I love going to the market and getting fresh stuff and just getting creative.

How ambitious are you?

I want Kode with Klossy to grow. Last summer we had three camps with 20 girls in each one. This summer we have 15 camps in 10 cities and 20 to 25 girls in each class.

All of this and you’re not type A?

I’m grateful that I’m successful at 24 in a way that I never imagined I would be. I feel lucky I started working at 15—it’s been almost 10 years. I feel like a geezer!

What was the last thing you bought for yourself?

I bought this sick handpainted Gucci leather jacket. It was from a special collaboration. My frugal self broke the bank on that one. And also the house. [Laughs]

What’s your favorite thing that you’ve worn out lately?

It was this cute little Dior sleeveless dress that was just way sexy and athletic. I loved it.

Most important, where are the Target shoes now?


My mom has the first crayon drawing I ever made, so I’m sure those shoes are in a box somewhere in the Kloss attic. (x)

anonymous asked:

What are your thoughts on the subject of "fixing" someone who has same gender attraction, specifically within the LDS church? Do you believe that it is nature or nurture that has made them that way?

That word “fix” indicates the person is “damaged.” Take it for what you will, but in response to prayers, I’ve clearly received the answer I am not broken.

Research has disproven “Conversion therapy,” also known as “reparative therapy.” It doesn’t “fix” the person and actually is harmful to them, particularly minors. Conversion therapy results in increased risk of depression, anxiety, drug use, homelessness, and suicide.

Every major medical and mental health organization in the United States  condemns the use of conversion therapy.

Nature or nurture? I think this video does a good job of presenting research in an easy-to-understand way. Nature seems to be the clear answer.

Rather than wanting to “fix” someone, recognize this is a natural variation in the human condition and has been with us throughout history. Instead of fighting it, how about we work to integrate LGBTQ+ people into society & church, to help them live happy, healthy, rewarding lives rather than trying to repress and shame them into fitting the lifestyle that works for your orientation.

Unpopular Wings of Fire Opinion #2

Sunny rejecting Starflight was a good thing. By her backing out of a situation that was uncomfortable to her, she displayed that unrequited feelings are, in fact, a real occurrence in everyday life, even though Starflight was good to her. In addition to this, it develops Starflight’s character more by teaching how to deal with rejection and how to process/deal with his feelings for her, showing the audience that it is possible to heal from such wounds, even though most media doesn’t. Moreover, Sunny’s lack of romantic attraction can be read as her being aro-ace, which is beneficial for positive LGBT+ representation in media as well as disproving the common idea that aromantic asexual individuals are cold, withdrawn, introverts, and that platonic relationships are just as healthy and rewarding as romantic ones.

Star vs the forces of Evil is doing what LOK tried to do. But not half assed.

So, legend of Kora. Love it or hate it. I think we all can agree on one thing. Their whole love triangle thingy fucking sucked and made some of their characters seem pretty unsufferable at times.

I personally hate this kind of stories with a great passion and instantly lose a lot of interest if I hear something like it is involved.

So how come Star vs the forces of evil managed to pull of a love triangle (?) Without fucking pissing me(and a majority of their fanbase from what I can tell) off?

Well for starters, they have one clear rule. Their characters aren’t fucking assholes.

Let me elaborate, in LOK when Kora had a crush on Mako in season one and he was dating Asami Korra tried to break them up.

That made Korra pretty unlikeable for me personally for a while. Not because she was jealous, but because she lacked the respect for both Mako and Asami and their feelings.

Then Mako started developing feelings for Korra, and started neglecting Asami and hurting her feelings. He also never tells her about the kiss he shared with Kora.

It’s not the fact that Mako’s feelings changed that is the issue here but that he was dismissive and ignorant of Asami’s feelings and lied to her.

Then Mako and Kora started dating but their relationship was really disfunctional, they break up and Mako and Asami kiss while Kora was missing. Both confused due to recent events and their lingering feelings. However, Kora reapears and doesn’t remember their break up. And Mako is too chicken to tell her the truth.

Mako really didn’t benefit from these storylines.

After that stuff went a lot smoother with Korasami being the target of the show now. However it still was pretty annoying and the show itself had to call themselves out on it during their show recap.

All of their actions were fuled by Jealousy, confusion and attraction,

However their motivation doesn’t justify their behavior and it was honestly hard to believe that those guys would really stay friends in a believable scenario.

I’m not saying Kora was a bad show in it’s entirety, it was flawed but enjoyable, especially in it’s later seasons, but that’s honestly something they should have cut out of their show entirely.

Now lets look at Star vs the forces of evil and see how they handled their love triangle thingy.

We start off pretty good, Marco has had a long time crush on Jackie and Star is very supportive of him. Star herself has a rather superficial crush on Oscar. There is also her ex boyfriend Tom who is trying to get back together with her but he doesn’t get really relevant until later. Star and Marco’s friendship grows without any romantic implications and only vague hints twoards their feelings for one another.

Then Marco finally starts presuing Jackie more seriously. They start dating and Star get jealous but is still in denial. She tries to be supportive but ends up doing something stupid, spying on them with a dark spell. That has bad consequences. Instantly. She is still in denial at that point and tries her best to be supportive of Marco’s and Jackie’s relationship until she finally realizes her actual feelings, which have been there from pretty much the start, however she doesn’t tell Marco because she doesn’t want to make things weird between them and between him and Jackie. But then she needs to leave earth and decided that she didn’t want to leave with a lie standing between her and Marco.

Star valued and respected Marco and Jackie. She never once did something to intentionally harm their relationship and when she did do something toxic she instantly suffered consequences. With LOK a lot of their characters didn’t suffer the consequences of their actions until several episodes later or not at all. That made forgiving said characters a lot harder. Svtfoe often presents characters who misbehave with consequences to their actions in the same episode they committed said. Tom for example also instantly got frozen(literally) for lashing out on Marco during the blood moon ball and got called out when he tried to manipulate Star into getting back together with him he gets called out, realizes his mistake and apologizes and guess what, Star does not instantly forgive him. His actions have consequences and he has to make a genuine effort to make things okay again.

Anyway, back on course. The battle for Mewnie happened and Marco has to go back home, leaving without his hoodie because Star stole it. She starts acting obsessivly and kinda creepy. Ponny head calls her out (with little success) but then she realizes her mistake herself as she realizes she threatened the laundry knight over a stupid hoodie which smells like her crush.

She sents the hoodie back to Marco and tries to concentrate on being a better princess and make up for the damage her actions in the past few month has caused.

Then she meets Tom during the silver bell dance where said ignores her. She gets mad and tries calling him out but it turns out he actually had her best interest in mind, believing she was with Marco now due to the events during Song day.

He said he finally understood she wasn’t into him and was giving her space, respecting both her and Marco in extension.

That is rewarded as Star discovers resurfacing feelings for him and finally considers giving him another chance. Yes they argued shortly before but that was due to both being confused and overwhelmed by the situation. Neither was hurting the other intentionally nor was it really something either of them were responsible for there was just a lot of mis communication going on.

Then she realizes Tom really is making an effort to change himself and that he is doing it for himself and not to gain her back. Again, that is rewarded and Star and him get back together.

Seeing a pattern? Toxic behavior is punished while healthy behavior is rewarded.

Honestly, the writers know exactly who their target audience is and tries really hard to completely smash the ‘everything is allowed in love and war’ narrative so many shows followed before.

It’s the same is going on on Marco’s side really (however this post is getting too long so I’m not gonna list it)

All of these characters experience similar situations and emotions as the LOK characters, however they understand (or learned to understand) that romantic feelings don’t give you a exuse to disrespect the feelings and relationships of others (yet along lowkey cheat on your partner and then lie to them!!!). Yes love is confusing. Yes sometimes you do stupid stuff because you are confused and jealous. No your actions were not justified and you have to carry the consequences.

However, at the same time it’s alright to make mistakes at times as long as you truly are trying to better yourself and learn from your mistakes.

If you feel like you have issues try searching professional help.

It’s okay to ask for advice too talking with friends and family can help you a lot.

Honesty and communication is a key to a relationship both if it is romantic or platonic.

All of these messages are conveyed in that subplot. You see what’s going on? They are using a love triangle and actually are doing something meaningful with it! Which is honestly awesome!

anonymous asked:

can i have headcannons of ushijima as a dad please?

BEST DAD IN THE WORLD

-totally lets his little kid climb all over him and carries his kid on his back whenever they want.

-pins up all their drawings and letters to him on the fridge and has them around his desk at work.

-carries a picture of his kid in his wallet at all times and frequently takes it out to stare at

-is so supportive in whatever his kid chooses to do/ like

-if his kid likes sports he goes to every match and makes them feel so happy even if they’re not very good or if they lose

-if his kid chooses to do art or acting, he encourages them so much even if he doesn’t understand more technical terms (this happens when the kid is a bit older)

-he helps them fill their room with inspiration, posters, photographs, trophies/ awards if they have any

-sometimes has to be tough to get them to eat healthy food but always rewards them with TV or playing games

-favourite pastime is playing with his kid in the bath and listening to their crazy stories as they make him a bubble beard

Pisces(f) + Cancer(m)

Honestly, this is one of my favorite pairings :))
Both of them are water signs, hence they are able to understand each other better than anyone else can. This is one of the couples you think will only exist in movies, because the way they look and treat each other with so much care and affection is simply so surreal. They will never run out of topics to talk about, as both are creative and intuitive, making their conversations interesting and engaging. However, they are both emotionally very weak and insecure, which is a downfall for their relationship as there will be nobody to pull them back up on their feet and bring them back to reality.
All in all this relationship is a very healthy and rewarding one with more pros than cons in it, thus indicating that it would progress quite smoothly with hardly any obstacles to cross.

Requested by anon 😀

anonymous asked:

Do you think Sue and Tom would still be married if the massacre didn't happen?

Probably yes.  A significant part of the rift that grew between them had to do with their vastly different styles of grieving and processing through the loss of their son and the atrocity he committed.  Sue needed to reach out to others to heal and also incorporate her loss in a public way so as to help others. Tom preferred to keep it private and buried a lot of stuff to try to forget so that he could move on with life.  She wanted to do things and he wanted to not do anything.  Eventually, this was a loose thread that once pulled, unraveled everything about their relationship and evolved them into different people that couldn’t connect and support each other in their marriage in a healthy, rewarding way anymore.  What Dylan did altered them irrevocably.

5/18/17 - What I want to see (in novels)

What I want to see more of in novels (but especially romances):

Diverse leads who are written as interesting, well-rounded human beings

Women in control of their stories

Characters whose body autonomy is not violated as a plot device with the consequences neatly swept away

Stories written in a man’s POV showing him vulnerable, and not toxic, in love

Consent as part of foreplay

LGBQT characters written without stereotypes and being the heroes of their own stories (read: stop killing them off)

Characters with PTSD depicted as having healthy, rewarding relationships 

Characters who aren’t afraid to ask for help or go to a therapist when they need support

Established couples having sexy times

Relationships formed between people who are divorced

Single parent leads

Couples over the age of 30 being successful in their relationships

Leads who are not necessarily wealthy and privileged. Give me a romance between a low-income, working-class couple, unemployed folks, people who have been laid off and are struggling. Because everybody deserves a good story.

What do you want to see?

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TV Shows of 2016

↳ 50/50. You’re The Worst

Sometimes I think I like to punish myself with my continued watching of You’re The Worst. Not because it is a terrible show or a guilty pleasure but because it has a tendency to rip my heart out and stomp all over it. If S2 was brutal when dealing with Gretchen’s clinical depression then S3 was merciless at playing with the audience’s emotions. We had Jimmy attempts at dealing with grief over the death of his father and their very complex relationship, we had Edgar’s PTSD reach breaking point and we had the continued bad decisions of Lindsay. You know things are bad for the rest of the characters when Gretchen is the most balanced and healthy character.

Yet the reward of watching the show this harsh is worth it, it can be incredibly funny and even sweet in its own cynical way and the kind of issues it deals with are ones which demand to be told. It may be hard to watch at times but only because it feels so very real.

Also, I’ve been listening to more podcasts lately on my walks and I listened to this one about creating habits with Abel James (fat burning man) and Gretchen Rubin. They said that when trying to create a habit and giving yourself goals and rewards to encourage yourself, you should only set rewards that put you deeper into the habit.
So if your goal is to run 4 times a week, your reward is new running shoes. If your goal is to cook healthy food, your reward is a new cooking appliance. If your goal is to take your lunch to work/food prep, your reward is new Tupperware or lunch box and so on!
This is so obvious but something I’d never really thought about before. When I’m doing well with my diet, I always want my reward to be a pizza or something like that. This completely undermines the idea of making this lifestyle an everyday habit!

Glyndermothers AU

Alright, so! 

Cinder and Glynda, during their Beacon days, have a healthy, rewarding relationship. 

They move in together after school, they are happy, just having the time of their lives…

And then Glynda’s old friend Summer has a dangerous mission, so she asks them to babysit while she goes on it, since her husband refused to let her go alone.

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