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Writing ‘Shippable’ Romances

Anonymous asked: “How do I make a pair ‘shippable’? Like, how do I make their relationship into one that readers will support, and not just wrinkle their nose at?” 

Writers and “shipping” don’t always seem to go together. As readers, we can feel free to cheer on any relationship in series or book we read, but from the writer’s vantage point, there really aren’t usually as many options. It’s kind of hard to explain, but if you, as the writer, can see two characters getting together, you might not even be able to imagine other possible relationships. 

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WHAT THE HELL ARE MACROS?!

Now, if you didn’t already know, I’m a firm believer in IIFYM. IIFYM, or If It Fits Your Macros, is a diet plan that’s gained popularity over the last decade or so. 

Macros, though. What the fuck are those?!

Originally posted by kasugano

Basically, there are two major types of nutrients your body derives from food:
Macronutrients (aka Macros) - where your energy that keeps your body going comes from.
Micronutrients - vitamins and minerals that your body also needs to survive, but not as much. Like. volume wise.

So, if you look on a nutrition label, you’ll see three big things that people watch out for: Total fat, Carbohydrates, & Protein.

From carbs and protein, you get 4 calories per gram, but from fat, you get 9 calories per gram.

WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?!

An increased daily intake of protein is necessary for people who pursue fitness. We eat it to build muscle, and stay full when we’re dieting down. Satiety means staying full, when we’re constantly hungry. (and honestly, I have no idea how @jaxblade does it but when you have an appetite like Luffy or Goku… just saying.)

Originally posted by sudokuyomi

From your carbohydrates, you should get at least 10-15 grams of FIBER per 1000 calories you eat a day. YOU NEED CARBS TO FUNCTION OH MY WORD. Those “carb free diets” are lowkey bullshit. Carbs are in absolutely everything and they’re a key component to how your body gets energy. Your brain can only really function on carbs, and the whole problem with Type 2 diabetes is that your body can’t take in the glucose from your bloodstream.

Just be smart. Don’t completely cut out rice or pasta or bread because that shit is delicious

oh yeah. Sugars are carbs. really simple ones, don’t eat them too often. That’s bad.

Originally posted by nestlekimy

Last but ABSOLUTELY NOT LEAST, we’re talking about fats. Do not, abso-fucking-loutely DO NOT CUT OUT FATS COMPLETELY. That is NOT how you cut weight oH MY GOD

Fats *also* help with satiety. Your body *needs* them to make hormones. Every single one of your cells is made up of a *lipid bilayer* which meaaaans, there are fats. making up your cell membranes. Your brain needs them because *oh my god it’s made up of 60% fat*. The reason why it gives us 9 calories per gram (more than twice as much as proteins and carbs!!!) is because of the chemical structure. It’s broken down in the mitochondria. Now… I wonder why the mitochondria is called the powerhouse of the cell….

Now, of course, there are healthy fats and REALLY UNHEALTHY FATS, but I’ll cover that in another post really soon. <3

Originally posted by animefoodissugoi

Basically, the key to IIFYM is balance. You don’t get a gold star for eating super clean 100% of the time. If you do, and enter this “diet” mentality, you as SO much more likely to fall off the fitness wagon.

This is a lifestyle change, not a temporary quick fix to lose a couple pounds.

Mawiage

-Read on ff.net here

@bleebug. A little extension of the pancake moment. And for @spartanguard for chest hair comments. Because.  And for: @this-too-too-sullied-flesh on her birthday.

Rating: M

He really doesn’t care.

The Charmings have dragged them all throughout town for the past few weeks and pestered him with questions he seldom had an answer to. What kind of flowers did he like? What was his favourite cake flavour? What colour did he want to wear? (Okay, that one he had cared, but he thought the answer of black was bloody obvious.) Who did he want to invite?

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How the Mind Can Heal Your Body

Harness your mind’s ability to heal your own self. Mind can cure the physical diseases of the body by harboring harmonious and healthy divine thoughts, because all physical diseases have their origin in mental ill-health.

Lack of cheerfulness contributes to physical ill-health. If one is always cheerful and entertains good divine thoughts, one will not suffer from any disease and will have perfect health at all times.

At every moment the body is changing as it reshuffles and exchanges its atoms and molecules with the rest of the universe.

The fifty trillion cells in your body are in constant interaction with each other as they keep your heart beating, digest your food, eliminate toxins, guard you from infection and disease, and handle the countless other functions that keep you alive.

While these processes may seem out of your conscious control, countless research indicates that nothing holds more power over the body than the mind.

To think is to practice brain chemistry. Every thought, feeling, and emotion creates a molecule known as a neuropeptide.

Neuropeptides travel throughout your body and act as receptor sites of cells and neurons. Your brain processes the information, transforms it into chemicals, and informs whole body know if there’s trouble in the world or cause for celebration. Your body is directly influenced as these molecules course through the bloodstream, delivering the energetic effect of whatever your brain is thinking and feeling.

You can activate high levels of interleukin and interferon, which are powerful anticancer drugs by fostering healthy and cheerful thoughts.

It is in your power to continue well and young as long as you like.

By K. Nagori

For those who don't read the pages' description

First of all, read the pages’ description. It’s healthy, quick and informative. It also avoids misunderstandings.


Second. The Snowdin Arc is finished. Yay! It was a wild ride and there’s still a lot to come, so be prepared!


Third. I will take a week off, or so, to wrap up Waterfall, remember dialogues and characters, take references and make lots of sketches. Those sketches will be posted on my patron, but I will upload some drawings here too I guess.


Just to keep you informed!

anonymous asked:

(rape tw) Can you explain why you don't think HIV+ people have a moral responsibility to tell potential partners their status, if that is indeed your position? I understand that if they have an undetectable viral load and they practice safer sex, the risk of transmission is very low, but it still exists, no? I'm just trying to understand. I have HPV and I feel guilty for not telling the man who raped me beforehand, and that's not even a potentially fatal illness, just an inconvenience. (1/2)

(2/2) I want to support HIV+ people and not make their lives harder, but I’m having a really hard time with this perspective from an ethical standpoint.

(anon sorry, i answered this but forgot it in my drafts)

anon, i’m not really sure where this is coming from since i haven’t posted about this in a while [since this came in before my other post got resurrected] but i’ll try to explain (and forgive me, this got so damn long but i’m quite swamped lately and have no time to edit)

i don’t think i’ve said that there’s no responsibility to disclose, and i wonder what made you think i did, but the main point i want to get across is that it doesn’t really matter what i think about the morality of nondisclosure in any given situation — what matters is whether i think it should be a serious crime. this is a separate question because the law isn’t about morality, in this case it should be about public health.

and these laws are a resounding failure from a public health perspective, especially since as written they penalize testing and usually completely fail to take into account the risk level of the activity (including condom use) or even whether transmission actually occurred (even when the charge is “criminal transmission”!). these laws were born out of stigma, not science or real ethics. but you don’t have to take my word for it; this is the accepted position among HIV/AIDS and sexual health advocacy organizations, and even the CDC is recommending that they be reviewed. i really recommend reading what these organizations have to say about it. from a quick search UNAIDS’s policy brief (pdf) seems pretty good and clear but there is much more out there.

i’m so sorry about what happened to you and i want to know that you’re not at fault at all. no rape survivor is at fault for their rape or for the consequences of the rape for the rapist. he chose to do that to you, and he accepted the risks that came with that. that is entirely on him!

i think a major problem with the debate about disclosure is that, as the UNAIDS brief says, it “places […] responsibility for HIV prevention exclusively on those already living with HIV and dilutes the public health message of shared responsibility for sexual health between sexual partners.” this applies to other STIs as well. we all have to take responsibility for our own sexual health, at least when it comes to acts we consented to.

even if it may seem to make sense on a moral level, placing the entire responsibility on people who know they’re positive for HIV or any other infection just doesn’t work. there will always be people who don’t know their status or can’t know their status for sure because they were exposed too recently. these people can’t disclose, yet if they are HIV+ they pose a much greater transmission risk than people who know they’re positive because they can’t possibly be accessing treatment, because transmission risk is highest in the acute infection stage when they’ve first contracted HIV, and because they’re less likely to be taking the additional safer sex precautions that they’d take if they knew.

there is still a profound stigma against people living with HIV and other STIs. when we’re influenced by this stigma, we’re likely to focus on finding someone to blame for transmission (or even the possibility of transmission). when we reject the stigma, we can focus on effective methods of prevention which involve helping everyone accurately judge their risk level and make informed choices to protect themselves.

you mention that safer sex with someone with an undetectable viral load is very low-risk (so low-risk, in fact, that i don’t think there’s ever been a documented case of transmission under these circumstances) but that any risk is too much. it’s fine if you feel that way; you set your own boundaries. but sex with someone who doesn’t know their status is much riskier. so is it morally permissible not to disclose to your partners that you don’t know your status? and should not disclosing that be a crime?

i don’t think most people think so, or they haven’t thought about it. to a lot of people, not knowing their status is normal, because their sexual choices are governed by assumptions: they assume that they are negative, for HIV, HSV, etc., and they assume that everyone they have sex with is negative, unless they say otherwise. they assume this partly because of lack of education, and partly because of stigma. we think of people with STIs as dirty, reckless, less than virtuous. we don’t want to think of ourselves or the people we’re intimate with that way. but of course, people with STIs are not those things — having an STI is an entirely morally neutral characteristic of a person. and these assumptions about ourselves and others aren’t sound. they are actually an obstacle to STI prevention.

so these debates trouble me because they obscure the fact that the best practice for everyone is to get tested regularly, disclose what you know about your status (including whether you know it!), and ask about your partner’s status, making it clear that it’s safe for them to be honest. and when we place all responsibility on people who know they’re positive, we validate our assumptions that everyone is negative, but we have to challenge those assumptions if we want to protect ourselves and each other. we have to acknowledge that when we decide to have sex based on the assumption that our partner must be negative, we are taking a risk. even in a world where everyone who knows they’re positive disclosed — and i believe most do — this would be a risk.

the sooner we can accept this and reject stigma, the sooner we can take steps toward more honest and open communication in our sexual lives and make healthy, fully informed choices, the sooner we can stop the spread of HIV.

Honestly I can’t wait to get to my goal weight and post progress pictures on Facebook and when people say, “OMG what’s your secret?? I can’t ever lose weight 😭” and I can say, “Eat more fruits and veggies and try moving more Sharon, boom, magic.”

Ninja

Pairing: Spencer Reid x Reader (Criminal Minds)

Summary: Spencer and Reader find a stray kitten, and reader immediately falls in love with it, and tries to convince Spencer to take it home with them.

Word Count: 1,124

Warnings: stray, sick animals (better to be safe than sorry, i guess)

Other Notes: this cat is actually my uncle’s and she was the inspiration for this <3. also, it’s a little long so i put a keep reading! :))

“You know, I never thought you’d be into live music,” you said to your boyfriend Spencer as you walked slowly together through the dimly-lit park.

He squeezed your hand tighter, making you smile, “Why would you think that?”

“I don’t know,” you gave a shrug, “It just doesn’t seem like you.”

He laughed, “Well, as you know by now, I’m always open to new things,” he grinned slyly, bending down slightly to give you a kiss.

“Oh, is that so?” you met his lips, cupping your hands in a way that framed his face.

He deepened the kiss more as the wind blew around the two of you. You thought you heard a sound, but dismissed it the first time as the breeze. You pulled away from Spencer when you heard it again.

You looked to your side, “Did you hear that? It sounded…like a cat?”

Spencer looked confused, “No, I didn’t hear anything. You sure?”

You walked in the general direction of the sound, away from Spencer, who was standing still. “Yeah, listen.”

You were now closer to the thing that had caught your attention. “Y/N? What’re you doing?” Spencer hissed quietly, as you had now entered a dark alley, and he had lost sight of you.

You didn’t answer, but instead moved to the corner of the alley, and leaned down to where you could see the small creature that was huddled and shivering underneath a cardboard box.

“Hey, pretty kitty,” you coaxed the tiny kitten, “It’s okay, I’m not gonna hurt you.”

Spencer had now caught up to you, and was waving the flashlight on his phone. With it, he caught sight of the cat. “Y/N! What the hell are you doing?”

“Spencer, turn the light off, you’re scaring it!” you swiped your hand in his direction.

He covered the flashlight with his palm slightly, so it was still illuminating the darkness a little. “Y/N, are you crazy?! Do you know how many diseases stray animals can carry?”

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u kno. i honestly dont think eating disorders can be like portrayed in film in a healthy way,, like ik that for me i used like every single ed related movie as like ‘thinspo’ and like ‘diet tips’ and like 98% of the time the eating disorders arent like realistcally portrayed ,, like i am All For talking more abt eating disorders but like im abt doing it in a healthy/informative way like ,, not making a comedy film that is triggering an unhealthy and Shitty like To The Bone (2017)

When it comes to sex, consent means to give permission. The only way to know if you have consent is if your partner gives you an enthusiastic “yes” in a way that is totally clear to you.

 Not sure? Ask. 

 Don’t get a “yes?“ STOP!

 What does it mean to keep consent ACTIVE?

Keeping consent active means continuing to check in with your partner and make sure both people feel comfortable, safe and respected during any sexual act(s).

Everyone has the right to decide whether or not they want to have sex. Decisions about sex need to be made together. If one partner does not want to have sex, then the couple should not have sex. It is both partners’ responsibility to ask for consent before any sexual activity.

Remember to Keep Consent Active!

“This love triangle could be fixed by polyamory!”

Sometimes, when watching my favorite television show, or movie, I wonder how much of the “relationship problem” story arc could be solved with non-monogamy. On one hand, all is solved. On the other hand…. wait. There is no other hand. It’s just that. A quick fix. 

As a sexually fluid person, I get frustrated with token queer characters that are there just to fill the slot and make the show more “diverse”. Most times, the character is just that: their sexuality. The last thing I want right now is some strictly monogamous person who’s idea of polyamory is what they’ve seen on Sister Wives or some kind of cult they saw on the news once. I don’t want my trio to be shoved into some situation that the writer doesn’t understand JUST for representation in media.

The problem, with me, lies in a couple things. The first being that polyamory doesn’t “fix” anything. In my opinion, it actually is a hard choice followed by a lot of self work. It is like relationships on Expert Mode. I have read so many people tell me of their struggles because they want to use polyamory to fix problems in a failing relationship. While, if approached in a healthy and informed manner, it can save a relationship (ie: libidos not matching, someone is by orientation polyamorous, etc.). But in these love-triangles we see in pop culture, the problem lies already in a lack of communication, honesty, and perhaps in the fact that the characters are simply monogamous humans. Which leads me to my next point: Monogamy is a valid relationship style. If only one character in the trio is strictly monogamous, welp… this triad thing isn’t going to end well. 

The humor we find in these love-triangles often stem from a lack of communication, honesty, or complete misunderstandings. While I am so ready for polyamorous representation in pop culture (in a healthy and non-stereotypical way), the whole show would have to change it’s dynamic and how it handles characters in order to do so.

But Mimzy, we just want to ship these characters together! Stop raining on our fun!
Cool, awesome, there’s nothing wrong with that. Keep doing what you’re doing. I just want to address that polyamory does not fix all things, it is not some magical answer for everyone, and there is nothing wrong with monogamy. 

I hope some of you lovely humans write and write and write tv shows, books, movies, and whatever until healthy polyamory is something we don’t think twice about.