It’s okay if you can’t deal with everything immediately.
It’s okay if you experience trauma and you need to take a while to sort through it. You are allowed to choose to unpack something when you have the energy and emotional stability to actually wade through it. You don’t have to process everything as soon as it happens, you can put it away until you have the spoons for it and it doesn’t mean you’re repressing it. You’re allowed to acknowledge something has happened and you’re not in a good place to sort it out in your head.
You can take a breather and take your time and process at your own pace.
•Include people who want to be included
• Be understanding of others’ boundaries
• Realize that everyone celebrates differently or maybe not at all
• Scare or chase others with fireworks
• Point fireworks in someone’s direction
• Look inside fireworks to see if they’re working
• Call people names because they don’t like fireworks
• Pressure anyone to drink alcohol
• Be a racist, fascist dick and call it “patriotism”
• Purposely make someone uncomfortable
1. Be bold. For example, don’t be afraid to tell someone what you like about their work, or to comment on something they do well. We usually like people who pay us compliments!
2. Remember that we always have something in common –even if it is just the weather, or a class we are taking. It is better to say something than nothing at all. Hopefully, the other person will respond to your lead.
3. Ask people about their interests or hobbies … and when they respond ask some open questions to keep the conversation going.
4. If you are introverted and find talking to others very difficult, try and prepare a bit in advance. For example, think of some things that might interest others (popular movies, groups or singers, the latest games etc.) Think about how you could use these in a conversation with someone you don’t know.
5. Do your best to act relaxed (even if you feel uncomfortable inside.)
6. Try to sound confident when you talk to other people. For example, don’t mumble, maintain steady but comfortable eye contact, and smile a lot.
7. Make a mental note of some amusing things that you saw or heard. For example, something funny someone said, a fun activity you did with your friends … or anything you think might be of interest to that person.
8. Watch other people who are confident and seem to find chatting with others very easy. Notice what they do – and then learn from them.
Mercury and the 3rd house or ruler of the 3rd indicates an area of life we are interested, engaged, learn with ease, and enjoy teaching.
Mercury in Aries enjoys discussing ideas, themselves, and their plans for the future. They may enjoy teaching people about sports, politics, cars, social movements, and anything that is fresh in their minds.
Mercury in Taurus enjoys discussing their relationships, children, their work, engaging in the life of their friends, the TV shows they have been watching, and their hopes and dreams. They may enjoy teaching budgeting, horticulture, cooking, make up and personal style, and social issues
Mercury in Gemini enjoys discussing whatever is on the mind - this is commonly recently learned information. News and current affairs, school, gossip, as well as more deeper and meaningful subjects can be on the radar. Geminis don’t do - they teach, so Mercury in Gemini people can be found teaching just about anything
Mercury in Cancer enjoys discussing their memories, their family, relationships, and children, especially memories of ancestors, their dreams, their fears and worries, they are highly engaged in the lives of their friends so they become a great point of concerned discussion. Mercury in Cancer people may enjoy teaching business, spiritual matters, childcare, cooking, and photography
Mercury in Leo people enjoy discussing anything they find fascinating - this is mostly themselves and their lover. They may enjoy teaching young people, also anything in the arts, personal style, management, psychology, and politics
Mercury in Virgo enjoys discussing their work, the concerns they have for other people, their pets, the worries they have that nobody realises, and how they think they can make things better. They may enjoy teaching technology, health, manual skills, gaming, self care, because Mercury is the ruler of Virgo they make natural teachers
Mercury in Libra enjoys discussing their relationships, the concerns they have for other people, their hopes and dreams, often themselves to gain a foundation and self awareness, crime, their frustrations at injustices They may enjoy teaching law, design, psychology, mediation, family law, and human resources
Mercury in Scorpio only enjoys stimulating, provoking conversations. They will rarely discuss themselves, but they will verbally evoke demons and truth out of you. They may enjoy teaching psychology, law, science, esoteric studies, politics, and conspiracies
Mercury in Sagittarius enjoy discussing just about anything, they are seeking a worldly experience through the intellect, so they love talking travel, memories, hopes and dreams, cultural differences and similarities, and philosophies. They may enjoy teaching religion, medicine, spiritual laws, global issues, sports, and theories
Mercury in Capricorn enjoys discussing their work, current affairs, powerful issues, social concerns, their family, and what they would like to achieve. Mercury in Capricorns make natural teachers because they are invested in the next generation. Whatever they teach, they will aim to convey with expertise
Mercury in Aquarius enjoys discussing anything wild, out of this world, conspiracies, politics, ideas, spirituality, oppression, social justice, visions, and utopia. They may enjoy teaching technology, social welfare, environmental issues, sociology, and sciences
Mercury in Pisces enjoys discussing the ethereal and the mysterious, spiritual and religious matters, their concerns and the concerns they have for other people, and how they would like to see a better world. They may enjoy teaching child and health care, esoteric studies, anything in the arts, psychology, and healing
another coping post, people have told me to update it a bit and not limit the skills to delusions and auditory hallucinations. so now, the bigger and better coping post for psychotic symptoms (not just schizophrenia!) and i won’t do the “keep reading” thing, even though it’s a veeeery big post, because i kind of want people to see it.
• try to manage your stress -psychotic symptoms has quite a lot to with stress. it’s also important for any mental health issue.
• don’t “self-medicate” - marijuana has shown to make psychotic symptoms worse and makes the risk of falling back into a psychosis bigger. other substances that can trigger/worsen/even cause psychotic symptoms are cocaine, speed, crystal meth, ecstasy, LSD, magic mushrooms and ketamine
• take care of yourself - selfcare, mindfulsness, exercise, eat reguraly and healthy, sleep well… you get the idea.
• know your early signs - it’s good to know when you start getting signs of another episode, so you can adjust your medication or talk to your doctor more often so you can avoid another episode. early signs may be sleeping less or more, isolation, being annoyed or thinking “is medication even necessery?” i
• don’t isolate youself - this is a early symptom for me, before i get a psychotic episode, i often isolate myself and hate the world. that often lead to me being alone with my delusions and they get worse. so try to see friends often, especially when you have early signs.
• relax - voices are often caused by stress, so try to focus on your breathing.
• distract yourself - focus on a task or watch tv.
• ask your voices a question, that you dont know the answer to - if they dont know the answer the voices must be coming from within you.
• background sounds - people have reported that listening to music or having the tv on sort of drowns the voices.
• talk back to your voices - ask them to leave and say no if they order you to do things, remind yourself who’s in control.
• know your triggers - it may help to keep a diary of when the voices are more active.
• medication - modern anti-psychotics are 80-90% effective in revieling voices and will often make them disappear.
• hum or sing - it drowns the voices as well as distract you.
• read out loud - same with hum or sing
• open your mouth really wide - i have no idea why or if this works, but you can try it!
• just a symptom - try to think of your voices as just a symptom, and not something that has a special meaning. after all, it’s just a random thought you can hear.
this is quite a hard one, i haven’t experienced much visual hallucinations, so i don’t personally know what works and what doesn’t. and i don’t find much about it on internet. if you have any coping skills for visual hallucinations, let me know and i’ll include it!
• take a picture - if you’re unsure something is there you can try taking a picture
• turn away - or break eye contact, leave the room. if you don’t see it it’s not there
• shine on them - if you see shadows you can try shining light on them from your phone flashlight
• medication - well, yeah, you get the idea. they work.
• five senses method -
acknowledge five things you can see; four things you can touch; three things you can hear; two things you can smell; one things you can taste.
• keep your pet near - if you have a pet it may help to tell you if something is real or not. if your pet doesn’t react you can assume it’s not real.
• distraction - try to take your mind of it, even though it’s not that simple.
• give them facts - checking facts and statistics may help
• talk about them - in my case, the more i talked about my thoughts, the more unrealistic they seemed. That may not happen to everyone, but it is helpful to talk about them.
• know your trigggers - delusions are also good to know when they’re more active.
• medication - antipsychotis aren’t just helping for your hallucinations, but other symptoms as well - including delusions.
• count from one to three - start by thinking about (visualizing) the numbers in your head and focus on them before saying them aloud to align thought and speech centres of your brain.
trust me, i really wish i knew how to cope with the other symptoms. i don’t personally have much advice, and i can’t find much on internet, but if any of you know how to cope with these symptoms*, let me know and i’ll include it!
*some other symptoms are:
negative symtptoms - this could be not having energy, feeling indifferent towards things and gestures may decrease.
catatonic behaviour - a bit more rare. it’s when the person stops moving and can be completely still for a long period of time.
disorganized behaviour - appears as a decline in overall daily functioning, unpredictable or inappropriate emotional responses, behaviors that can appear bizarre and have no purpose, lack of impulse control.
trouble thinking -
having too much thoughts or having slow thoughts
trouble functioning in social situations, isolation, trouble handling jobs or everyday chores.
also, a big thank you to you guys who come with advice, you’re awesome
Here’s some motivation to finally call back that place that’s hiring
To quit that job that’s tearing you down
To end a toxic relationship
To make the first move on someone you’ve been avoiding for weeks
To start something new after months of telling yourself you’re not ready
To treat yourself to that shopping spree
To call up an old friend and smile again
Today is the day to everything that you’ve ever procrastinated on. To achieve those goals that you never believed you could achieve. To push yourself to get that one thing done. You can do it. Don’t ever tell yourself you can’t ever again.
Tips for Those Who Find Self-Affirmation Super Difficult:
•Use other people to see yourself. Think about your best friends, favorite characters, etc who have flaws and think about how much you love them anyway. Think about how a friend or someone reading a book about you would describe you
•Take it slow. I love those posts telling everyone to think of themselves as strong beautiful precious land sharks or whatever, but some people aren’t ready to believe that yet and saying the words just feels like something you’re supposed to say and not something you mean. You can work up to big affirmations by starting with little ones; “I’m pretty good at math and I have nice eyes” might be easier than starting off with “I’m beautiful and a genius”
•Start off deconstructing negative thoughts. It can be hard sometimes to convince yourself that you’re great when your head won’t stop screaming “but I’m useless and gross!!” or whatever. Try to rephrasing those thoughts so you can continue to self affirm- remind yourself that most people aren’t completely awful and that there are many things that you do well
•Make lists. List your positive traits, and then think about one specifically and convince yourself of them one at a time. List your goals and then the ways that your positive traits can help you achieve them. List all the times in your life where you’ve felt proud or good about yourself and use them like little Patronus memories to ward off bad thoughts.
•Visualize your affirmations. It can be infinitely more effective to think about all the times you’ve been generous in your life than to merely say “I am generous.”
•Spend time around people who talk to you the way you should be talking to yourself. It sounds kind of dumb, but at times even people who insult you in a completely friendly way as a joke (“are you coming to the party bitch?” etc) can contribute to you being able to say those things to yourself, even if it’s harmless. Conversely, being around people who talk to you positively can really, really help it sink in.
•Figure out what tone best relays self affirming information to you. For some people, it’s the cute and non-threatening pictures of animals telling you to be kind to yourself. For some, it’s imagining the affirmations to be coming from a person or character you think of as wise. For some, it’s trying to make it sound as logical an argument as possible so that there’s no room for self-doubt. Sometimes you need them all at different times.
•If using words at all to self affirm is difficult or problematic for you, try other ways of reinforcing the information. Do things that make you feel good about yourself and highlight positive qualities you have, like volunteering or creating or whatever it might be. Reward yourself when you do something good or reflect on something that makes you good. You can even self affirm through movies and music.
•Sometimes broad definitions help. Try to remember that your definition of being a good person has to be flexible; it doesn’t hing solely on being a good parent or friend or boss or writer. For most people, being able to define themselves as a good person is the basis for their positive sense of identity, so try to remember that there are MANY different ways to be a good person that are not contingent upon never screwing up
1. Learn to recognize when you are feeling stressed – This will help you to reduce your stress before it is expressed as destructive anger.
2. Work on developing your empathy – Trying to see things from another’s perspective often helps to dissipate intense emotions.
3. Decide to respond instead of react – Although the way we react often feels automatic, we can actually choose how we’ll think, feel and respond. This is empowering, and the road to freedom.
4. Change your self talk - Listen to the conversation in your head and learn to modify extreme, unbalanced thoughts. Look for exceptions to “you always” thinking, and reframe “you must” or “you should” demands.
5. Learn to be assertive – Honest and open communication about your wishes, needs and preferences can stop resentment building – so it doesn’t turn to anger.
6. Adjust your expectations – Often anger is triggered by a difference between our expectations and what we actually get. Thus, sometimes it is better to adjust our expectations so they’re more in line with reality.
7. Forgiving doesn’t also mean forgetting – Although it is healthy to sometimes let things go, that doesn’t mean we weren’t hurt, upset or offended. The difference is we’re choosing to move on with our lives, and we’re not being controlled by external events.
8. Remove yourself from the situation – Retreating temporarily or “taking time-out” provides some space to think about the “best thing to do”. Thus you maintain control of yourself and circumstances.
Somebody should make a resource management sim game about a veterinary hospital.
You’d start out with a little clinic and a budget, and get to choose which equipment you invest in, like Xray or Ultrasound, what types of surgical equipment and lab set up you have, etc and just one vet.
Your vet gains experience by the caseload they see.
You get to set your opening hours, and basic prices. Occasionally ‘special’ cases will pop up that either ask you to work for free/goodwill, or are aggressive clients, or otherwise unusual where you can make a choice of action. You also get to see assorted comments pop up from social media about your practice, whether the vets are likable, whether you cost too much etc.
Over time, if your practice is profitable, you can hire more vets and staff, buy more equipment, expand the building or hire a locum so your sole vet can have a break.
Hired vets and staff have assorted stats detailing their experience, interests, skills, mental health and burnout. They might even have other stats like ‘alcoholic’ or ‘bird phobia’. Sometimes they will get injured or need to take parental leave. Manage them well and everything’s good. Manage them badly and they quit, one way or another.
It would be interesting to see a game from a management and behind the scenes reality side rather than the ‘save all the cute animals’ side of things that we usually get. Might also help the general public understand what happens when you’re constantly told you’re too expensive, regardless of your costs.
I can agree. Mental illness in the black community gets overlooked and swept under the rug. And because of that we tend to self medicate and find other ways to cope. Drug abuse, alcoholism; mentally or physically abusing others are just some of the ways some black people cope. It becomes generational cycle/curse. When it comes to children and teens, black parents don’t understand and they don’t know how to help. They feel as though we are immune to mental disorders, which is not true. There are many kids growing up around the country, from wealthy families to broken and impoverished homes with depression and other mental illnesses. Mental illness does not discriminate, it can effect any and everyone.