So what if you’re alone right now. Embrace it. Go get coffee alone. Shop alone. Drive alone. Watch movies alone. Get to know yourself. Nothing bad can come from riding whatever wave to self improvement you’re blessed with in the moment.
When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small. My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.
Your health should be the absolute top priority. Without it, where would you be now? How would you be able to experience all of the many beautiful sights, tastes and songs of the world? Always take care of yourself, both mentally and physically.
countdown to jackson’s birthday: #KingJacksonDay ↳ abc’s of jackson: z is for zealous
Today is the day we celebrate the most thoughtful, caring,
wonderful, handsome, grateful, funny, loving man alive.
Jackson Wang! I know you’ll
probably never read this but just some thoughts: I really hope you’re doing well. Everyone has been so worried for you while
you’ve been sick and I just hope that you’ve recovered fully. I hope you know you don’t have to force
yourself and push yourself beyond your limits just to please the fans, we’ll
always understand if you don’t feel well enough to meet with us or go to schedules. Your health is always the number one
priority, as you say yourself. We’ll always
wait for you to feel your best, even if it takes ten years, twenty years, one
hundred years! We’ll always be by your
side. I hope you’re able to enjoy your
birthday to the fullest knowing that your fans care a lot for you. Thank you so
so so much for working so hard to make us happy. I love you so much and becoming your fan has
been one of the best decisions of my life.
Happy birthday! I’m so grateful
that you were born. ❤
Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.
jackson puked in front of a fan, fell off a chair and fainted… and, honestly? i am so exhausted. i am so exhausted of waking up with things like “jackson has fever”, “jackson is sick”. he is literally the most important person in my life and it kills me every time something bad happens with him. when will he understand that his health is a priority for us? that we don’t care if he skips an event to take care of himself? that we want him to be okay more than anything? and how this fucking company allowed this to happen to him? regardless of what made him sick, its their job to take care of him and keep him healthy, but, for fuck’s sake, how many times did we complain already about how much they neglect this boy? jackson really needs to fake he’s okay and i wonder if he does this constantly… anyway, it’s heartbreaking the amount of times we use the hashtag “#getwellsoonjackson”, it shouldn’t be like this…
If you think you have injured yourself while binding:
1. Take off your binder, no excuses. You can cause serious damage if you don’t take it off. Take it off and don’t bind again until your symptoms are gone. I’m sorry to sound harsh but your health and safety is priority number one, so please listen to me.
2. Are you in significant pain? Do you have difficulty breathing? Do you cough up blood or any discharge? Does it hurt badly when you try to touch the painful area? If you say yes to any of these questions, go to the hospital. You need immediate medical attention. You may have broken a rib or something worse.
3. If you are able to breathe normally, you don’t cough and it only hurts a little, cool the area for 20 minutes (put ice in a ziploc and wrap a towel around it, don’t put ice directly on the skin!), then rest for 20 minutes, then take a warm shower, then rest again. While you rest, don’t lay down flat - keep your chest elevated! Do not put your binder back on.
4. Does the pain not go away? Do you develop more symptoms? Do your symptoms get worse? Go to the hospital.
Set your priorities straight.As you’ve entered school, you know that your academics are basically one of your priorities, aside from your personal health. You are a student, after all. You should know that you should be making time for all the school work you’re supposed to be dealing with. If you’re having trouble with this, I suggest you write your priorities down, and rank them according to which one weighs the most. This will make you feel much more headstrong and goal-oriented.
Use schedulers and planners. You’re human and it’s okay to forget things. Get digital with apps and programs or get traditional with notebooks and planners. Involve your planning with a combination of both. This really helps especially if you’ve created a system for remembering things more efficiently, eg. color-coding, bullet journaling, weekly overviews, having legends, etc., which leads us to the next point:
Schedule in advance. Complete the difficult tasks, the easy tasks, the medium tasks. Do what you can. Set deadlines for yourself. If you’re fully aware that three weeks from now, you’ll have 3 exams in a day, start studying as early as possible. If you have to attend to an event and have an exam the day after, bring any study material with you. Do homework the day they’re given to you, especially if they’re fairly easy. If they need some research or data collection, make it a point that you do it after class or on the nearest weekend. Break the habit of doing something because a classmate has already started doing his/hers. Instead, do it for the motivation that you’ve set for yourself.
Prevent causes of distraction. There are only 24 hours in a day, and a fraction of which we use for fulfilling our basic necessities. Utilize the remaining time for productivity. Delete social media apps if you have to, or turn off your internet. Better yet, turn off your phone and exchange phones with your roommate or your friend. Keep it. Forget about it for a moment. You can always leave your feed but it will never leave you. You can always return to it after you’ve done your work.
Multi-task!I can never stress the importance of learning multi-tasking enough. Whenever I’m in a long meeting, I usually bring my laptop to review notes or write a paper. Of course, it would seem rude to some so it’s better if you would give them a heads-up. If I’m in a class I find easy and if the professor allows us to study or drift off, I usually study for other classes that I need more attention in. While I take showers, I discuss the exam material from my memory out loud. If you have to wait in line for some errand, bring a book. Sometimes while doing my night care routine, I would listen to audio recordings of my professor. Some of these examples may come off as rude or off-putting, I know. But that’s just me. You can always find other safer situations where you could practice multi-tasking.
Now, not tomorrow. If you happen to finish a scheduled task and got a little free time, it gives you all the reason to do some of the things you have scheduled for other days. If you can do it now without any constraint, why would you choose to do it later?
Ask for help.If a friend’s not too busy, don’t be afraid to ask for a little help! You can ask them favors of proofreading your essay. You can ask them about the notes that you didn’t take down of. You can ask them about how this certain professor’s exam types. The possibilities are endless. Just know the right people and places. Don’t dwell too much on tiny details. If you have misunderstood a certain topic, ask your roommate, ask the person next door. Go to the nearest library. Check the internet for answers. You can consult your teacher or professor. Don’t be afraid to ask for a little assistance. No man is an island.
You have all the time on your hands. If you believe that you can do it, and if you really want to do it, you will. Taking up other commitments and responsibilities is never a problem, as long as you know you can handle them without sacrificing another. You are always allowed to say no. If you have as many organizations as me, remember that work should never get in the way of your priorities. Just keep in mind that everyone has their certain limits, and you do too.
If all else fails, CLUTCH IT!!I’m not joking, I’ve done this multiple times. I came out alive but I have to admit that not all of my crammed output had the best marks (although some of them did!). If you don’t want to be in this heart-racing situation, then be as diligent as possible with your work! Make it a habit.
Always remember that these tips may or may not help anyone the same as it did with me, but I’m glad that I have this opportunity to get this out there. Find your rhythm. I know it takes time, but don’t stress yourself too much because all of your efforts will be successful. Some efforts may just be rewarded in ways that you didn’t plan to, while some just lead you nearer to your dreams. Just keep doing you, and you’ll get through this.
one more thing about internalized homophobia. suppressing or trying to ignore your desire for sex because of shame caused by internalized homophobia is a thing that happens. but the goal in telling you this isn’t to say that there’s some minimum amount of sex that you should be wanting or having. it’s simply to give you more complete information that may help you understand yourself and come closer to a place of comfort and peace.
as you grapple with issues like this, remember that your priority is your needs, your health, your happiness. not what other people want from you, and not conformity to political ideals — yours or anyone’s. the idea is to take steps to become more comfortable with yourself, not to try to force yourself to be some way you feel you ought to be.
we’re all affected by internalized homophobia, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. if you suspect your low interest in or comfort with sex may be a defense mechanism influenced by internalized homophobia, i think the next step is to work on feeling better about being gay or bi, for example by spending more time with gay and bi people — not to pressure yourself into sex you’re uncomfortable with. whether or not that changes how you feel about sex, whether you want it a lot or not at all or anything in between, you’re fine. after all, your job isn’t to be some kind of perfect shining beacon of liberated sexuality. your job is to be ok.
1. Your time is the best gift you can give. – In your relationships with others, nothing you can give is more appreciated than your sincere, focused attention. So don’t listen with an agenda or the intent to reply. Hear what is being said with the intent to truly understand.
2. You have the power to make a big difference. – Everyone in life wants to be loved and accepted. Your greatest achievements in life will be the direct result of finding this love and acceptance within yourself, and radiating it out to those around you.
3. What makes us different is what makes us special. – Don’t be too quick to judge others or bully them for being different. And don’t put up with those who call you “a friend” and then judge and bully you. Let go of the need to prove yourself to everyone else, and you’ll free yourself to accomplish what matters most to you.
4. Love is meant to be shared. – So many people save their ‘loving.’ They consciously avoid putting their heart into their relationships, surrendering, opening up, and sharing, because they want to save it all for the right people (best friends, lovers, etc.) But the problem is when the right people come along they don’t realize it, they don’t know how to open up, and they don’t know anything about the act of loving.
5. You have to love yourself too. – The best thing you can do to improve the quality of your relationships is to work on loving and healing yourself.
6. Praise and recognition matters. – Give genuine praise. This is an investment in them that doesn’t cost you a thing, and the returns can be amazing. Be sure to follow this rule: “Praise in public, penalize in private.”
7. Small gestures of kindness go a long way. – It seems like such a small thing, but in our busy lives we often forget that a kind word, a helping hand, or just a smile and a quick “thank you” can create a bright spot in another person’s life.
8. Without honesty there is no friendship. – Honesty is the first chapter in the book of all wisdom. Honesty is the only path forward. It’s always better to tell people the truth up front. So don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts. Telling the truth and making someone cry is better than telling a lie and making someone smile.
9. Loyalty means the world. – True love and real friendship aren’t about being inseparable. These relationships are about two people being true to each other even when they are separated. When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but an obligation.
10. Reaching out and staying in touch is important. – Stay in touch with those who matter to you because they’re worth the extra effort. Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of. Paying attention to these people is always a priority.
Hey guys! This has nothing to do with PJO but a week ago, when I came back from running, I found this dying baby on the street without too much hopes, so I started to take care of it, take it to the vet and feed it.
Now, luckily, it’s better, and if everything goes well, on Monday it could go fly and be free.
So, can I ask you a favor? Can you wish for it recovery? It health is the only thing that occupies my mind now.
There are nights I lay in bed, hoping for a miracle to occur, hoping for you to light up my phone screen. That hope is what is slowly killing me. I live on every single day yet I am dead on the inside; I am not living, just surviving. I fight the voices and I fight the demons in my head, they’re whispering, telling me how much more people would like me if I had just died, reminding me of how much of a failure I was. There were nights I needed your reassurance, condolence, love and for you to sit and fight with me, but I never asked. I would never ask. I would not burden you. My love for you grew every day, I was aware of how much it was draining me and I was aware of how much it killed me every single day, but it was okay. It was okay because I chose you over myself, to have you was worth the pain. I saw the world so brightly in your crystal green eyes which burnt so vibrantly, but not tonight. Tonight I will chose myself, I will fight alone, I will hope for a life where I do not have to be dependent upon somebody, who makes me feel badly for being this way. Tonight, I will fight alone and I will love myself.
According to the report, more than one-third of African-Americans currently get their health insurance through Medicaid and 1 in 10 of them would lose coverage under the GOP plan.
The ACA allowed states to expand the number of people eligible for Medicaid to any individual or family making up to 138% of the federal poverty line. The Republicans’ replacement plan would roll back that provision over a number of years. Read more (3/17/17 11:47 AM)