health accord

ADHD is Real.

I can’t listen.
My mind is a prison.
Tears fall down my cheek.

My confidence weak.
No appetite to eat.
Thoughts race and prevent me from sleep.

Bags under my eyes.
Whats that in the sky?
They tell me its just a phase.

ADD isn’t real.
Why is this such a big deal?
Little do they know it ruins my days.

Can’t focus in class.
Teachers think its a load of crap.
No one understands that this isn’t okay.

I try so hard.
I studied all night!
But I always seem to fail.

Look at my medication.
Look up the facts.
When will they realize ADHD is real.

Reality and daydreams.
Which one is real?
Which is more important;
The lesson in class, or the color of my nails?

My confidence; frail
My complexion; pale
My mind?
A jail.

But I put on a smile.
Make life seem worthwhile.
Because once in a while I can finish a task.

But pretending i’m fine.
Missing homework deadlines.
It’s like i’m hiding myself with a mask.

Don’t get me wrong.
Some people have it worse.
At least I have a roof over my head.

Although i’ve cried.
I’ve never considered suicide.
But others wish to be dead.

So treat me with respect.
Break the stigma.
And educate yourself.

ADHD is real.
It’s an unfair deal.
So you can choose to understand mental health.

I don’t have enough focus to listen.
And thats what your missing.
This is not a choice, this is something I dread.

So next time you judge me.
Next time you label me.
Remind yourself that some with ADHD wish to be dead.

how to shut down 3 ults with 2 HP left aka I desperately needed healing and accidentally dashed through the Genji when I was going for the health pack. Just according to keikaku (keikaku means plan)

( @lynlaeth I was playing with Sato last night when you left and laughed a bit too hard into the mic. A shame you weren’t there lmao)

Important Hindu Deities

Since Hinduism is often not really talked about in terms of pantheon (”all the rage” is with Greek/Roman/Egyptian, MAYBE Norse, depending on the circle you’re talking to), I wanna take the time to discuss some important deities within the Hinduism pantheon. There are other important ‘mythical’ type figures in Hinduism, so this list does NOT include everyone.

My information for this list was taken from the amazing book The Little Book of Hindu Deities by the great author, Sanjay Patel.

  • Ganesha: Best known for ‘good luck’, Ganesh/Ganesha is often spoken to when someone is asking for good luck. He is the son of Shiva and Parvati. He loves sweets! He is the brother of Karttikeya, and is the son of Shiva and Parvati

The Hindu Trinity (trimurti)

  • Brahma: Creator of the world and all living things, he designed the goddess Sarasvati. She was very shy and when she tried to avoid his gaze, he sprouted another head (coming to four heads in total). He can commonly be seen riding a goose or swan. He is the keeper of the Holy Vedas (the story of how the world was created according to Hinduism)
  • Vishnu: He is known as the ‘invisible protector’. He preserves justice and has 10 avatars. He is very popular in Hinduism
  • Shiva: He is known as a meditator, yogi (someone who acts as an inspiration for all is the simplest way to describe this; the Bhagavad Gita, which is a famous holy piece of text in Hinduism, describes it as: fearlessness, purity of heart, strives for wisdom, studies Hindu scripture, is self disciplined, straight forward, is truthful, does not hold grudges against someone, promotes peace, shows compassion for all creatures, does not exhibit greed, is gentle and modest, is not restless, is forgiving and patient and does not hold onto hatred and is not conceited). Shiva is the god of destruction, transformation, and regeneration. Deer and snakes are often associated with him. He is the dad of Ganesha and Karttikeya and husband to Parvati. He can often be seen with a trident next to him, the trident symbolizing creation, protection, and destruction of the universe

Mahadevi (mother goddess)

  • Sarasvati: Goddess of knowledge and arts, she was the first goddess ever to be worshipped in Hinduism. She is the sister of Lakshmi and Parvati. She is a symbol of being a great thinker, a gifted creator, and an independent woman. It is believed that mortal musicians, artists, writers, and students are part of her family. Her companion is a white swan. She is also NOT interested in romance with others.
  • Durga: Shiva suggested to create a new god, and thus Durga was made. She is known to be pretty, fierce, and a great warrior. Hindus celebrate her with Durga Puja, which is a 10 day celebration. She fights suffering and injustice and brings harmony and kindness. She is known to feed animals and people and is a fearless goddess. She can commonly be found riding on lions or tigers. 
  • Lakshi: She is the goddess of wealth and happiness. The Hindu gods fell in love with her when she emerged from the ocean. Shiva claimed her as his wife, but she was only interested in Vishnu. Shiva also already had a wife, so Lakshi became his consort (life partner). She is known for good luck, but she does NOT have tolerance for those who wish to use her for money (such as luck with gambling). Lakshi is known to gift prosperity and often carries an ancient symbol of well being. 
  • Parvati: Parvati has numerous names: Uma, Guari, and Shakti. She was born into royalty. She fell in love with Shiva and visited him often, gifting him with flowers and fruit. Shiva, however, was deep into meditation and never noticed her. Parvati grew extremely frustrated and threw herself into seclusion, going into her own meditation. She wanted to create enough energy from the meditation to force Shiva to noticed her. It worked and he accepted her as his wife. Parvati is the mother of Ganesha and Karttikeya. Parvati is the goddess of fertility, love, divine strength, and devotion.
  • Sita: Sita is said to be made from the earth and be the child of an earth deity because of that. She is an avatar of the goddess Lakshmi. Sita was kidnapped from her beloved. When she was returned to her husband, Rama, people questioned her “purity”. To prove it, she walked through fire, and remarkably, she went unscathed! 
  • Kali: Known as the “black one”, Kali is known to encompass paradoxes. She is not the goddess death (this is a common misconception with her). However, she is the goddess of time, liberation, and is considered to be a loving mother goddess to her devotees. An extremely fierce fighter, Kali defeated a supposedly ”unbeatable” enemy that was causing the other Hindu gods trouble!

Animal Gods

  • Nagas: they were semi-divine beings and were commonly depicted as half-cobra and half-human (and handsome!). Nagas held a dual identity - semidivine and semidemonic. They were known to protect the Earth’s treasures. They were commonly seen as symbols of creation, life, and fertility. They were known to help the Hindu gods on different quests and sheltered Buddha from a terrible storm.
  • Garuda: Known of the kind of birds, he moved at the speed of light! Garuda was known as the messenger to rely messages between gods and humans. He is also known to have a huge appetite. So much so, that Vishnu asked him if he wanted to peck at his arm and eat his flesh. Garuda attempted to peck him, but saw that the god’s skin was impenetrable, and realized he was asked a question by a god! Since this incident, Garuda promised to serve Vishnu
  • Hanuman: He is the son of Vayu and is known as the Monkey King. He can greatly expand his size or shrink to a very small size. He is known to be strong, clever, loyal, and a very faithful friend. He was good friends with Rama (an incarnation of Vishnu). Rama had a younger brother, named Lakshmana, who was injured in battle. Hanuman went to find herbs to help him heal, but was unsure of what to grab. To rectify this situation, he brought the whole mountain of what the herbs were on! 
  • Surabi: She is the mother of all cows. She is a symbol of abundance, nonviolence, respect, prosperity, generosity, help purifies bodies, and blesses people with good health. According to Indian law (India), cows can NOT be harmed. 

I have left off the 10 avatars of Vishnu, demigods, the nine planets, and summaries of some important holy texts in Hinduism. I felt like this list served as a good general introduction to the Hinduism pantheon. This list was NOT supposed to be an ‘in depth’ review of the Hindu pantheon! Again, much thanks to The Little Book of Hindu Deities by the great author, Sanjay Patel.

anonymous asked:

Can you do a Cassian and Reader headcanon with Reader going into labor and maybe some complications (but everything ends up okay!) and cassians fear?!

Never done a head canon before but here goes nothing! x

  • When you go into labor, Cassian is extremely nervous, but he manages to keep a calm, collected composure—more for your sake rather than his of course. 
  • He stands by your side, holds your hand, and he coaches you, reminding you to breathe through the pain that you’re feeling. Even though it’s been hours since you went into labor, Cassian doesn’t dare to leave your side for anything.
  • At first, everything seems to be going well. Both you and the baby are in perfect health according to the holographic screen above your bed in the medical bay. It’s monitoring your vital signs, the baby’s vital signs, and it’s also timing your contractions. It signals that another contraction is on its way any second now and you take a deep breath, bracing yourself for the pain.
  • Instantly, you know something is horribly wrong when you feel a sharp, shooting pain in your lower back. You let out a scream as the sensation intensifies and Cassian clutches your hand, telling you to breathe through the pain. You manage to tell him that whatever you are feeling, it isn’t a contraction and that something’s gone wrong.
  • The holographic screen above your bed flashes red, and not only is your heart rate dropping, but the baby’s heart rate is dropping too. Severely. A medical droid rushes in with two human nurses behind it. 
  • The droid informs Cassian that you’ve had a placental abruption, and that they have to take you to the surgical ward so they can deliver the baby by emergency caesarean. If they don’t, both you and the baby could lose your lives.
  • Cassian can’t go into the surgical ward with you and must stay behind and wait until the operation is over. 
  • During your operation, Cassian is absolutely terrified. He’s never been this terrified over anything in his entire life. Kaytoo tries to comfort him, assuring him that with the proper treatment, both you and the baby have high chances of survival. 
  • The wait is unbearable. Every second feels like an eternity.
  • When one of the nurses finally tells Cassian that the operation is over and that you and the baby are okay, he breaks down in tears of pure relief.
  • He immediately asks to see you.
  • When Cassian walks into the room and sees you, he rushes over to you and takes your hand in his. He kisses you and tells you over and over again how much he loves you. He then asks you about the baby.
  • You smile and tell him to turn around.
  • Behind him, another nurse is holding your newborn baby in her arms.
  • Cassian is in shock for a split second.
  • He quickly shakes it off and squeezes your hand tightly as the nurse asks him if he would like to hold his son.
  • SON 
  • HE HAS A SON
  • Cassian takes him from the nurse and cradles him gently in his arms.
  • He gingerly kisses his soft cheek. He’s grateful to the maker of the galaxy that you’re okay and that his son is absolutely perfect.

Hopefully it wasn’t too bad!

Should my son get the HPV vaccine?

Maya Kumar, MD, adolescent medicine specialist at UC San Diego Health answers:

“According to the Centers for Disease Control, 79 million Americans are infected with human papillomavirus (HPV), with 14 million new infections each year. Many people know about the association between HPV infection and cervical cancer in women. As a consequence, HPV has been dubbed a “woman’s infection.” However, approximately 40 percent of HPV-related cancers occur in men.

The most common HPV-related cancers in men are oropharyngeal cancers, such as mouth, tongue or laryngeal cancer. Women can get these too, but men are three times as likely as women to carry oral HPV. Rarer HPV-related cancers in men include penile cancer and anal cancer. HPV can also cause warts in the head and neck region (example: laryngeal warts affecting the voice box) and on the genitals. While these warts are not life-threatening, they significantly impact quality of life.

Parents have often heard that the virus is sexually transmitted and wonder why their child would need vaccination. Most STDs affect a small proportion of the population and can generally be avoided with safe sexual practices alone, making vaccination against these diseases on a large scale unnecessary. HPV is different. About 90 percent of all men and women will be infected with HPV at some point in their lives, even with safe sexual practices. Even if you only have one partner for your whole life, you can still get HPV and suffer its devastating consequences. HPV vaccination is the only dependable way to prevent it because it is almost impossible to avoid with lifestyle and behavioral decisions alone.

Parents may also wonder why it is necessary in childhood. Vaccines work best when they are given well before a person is exposed to a disease. The CDC recommends age 11-to-12 years old as the ideal time for vaccination. Recently, the CDC announced that if HPV vaccination is initiated before age 14, only two doses of the vaccine (at least six months apart) are required. If, however, vaccination begins at age 15 or older, three doses of the vaccine (at 0, 1-2 months and 6 months) are needed. This may be because the antibody response to the vaccine appears to be more robust in children 14 years and under, so fewer doses still provide sufficiently strong protection.

The HPV vaccine is an extremely safe vaccine. It contains no mercury, thimerosal or any other harmful preservatives. It also does not contain any live virus, or even any inactivated viral components that could cause infection. Because it is a completely synthetic vaccine, getting infected from it is impossible. As with any vaccine there are some risks. However, as of March 2016, almost 90 million doses of HPV vaccine had been distributed in the United States with no new long-term serious adverse effects identified.

On a personal note, I elected to be vaccinated against HPV when the vaccine became available years ago. I would have no hesitation vaccinating my own children or the children of my friends or relatives. So take it from someone who walks the walk: I strongly recommend the HPV vaccine for both your sons and your daughters.”

anonymous asked:

Don't try and make Nolan a victim of Mental Health problems when you've literally never been told that. Do you know how rude that is and offensive to people with real mental illnesses? He's fucked up, end of story.

Excuse me, but it is you who is rude and offensive. Don’t come into my inbox, under annony like the coward you are. Why not say all of this in person? Don’t want people calling you out for it? 

If you want proof about Nolan’s mental health, its right here and not at all hard to find. If you took just a second of your own time you would have found it yourself.


Teen Wolf is a show about transformation – both literally and figuratively – and actor Froy Gutierrez says performing on the show was also a personally transformative process for him. Nolan is frail, both mentally and physically, so I ended up losing 15 pounds while I was playing him.”

According to the Texas-born teen, the newest student at Beacon Hills High School may be one of the most complex characters we’ve seen on the show to date. In our interview, Gutierrez described Nolan as “a wildcard,” “tragic,” “sensitive,” and “off in the head.”

“Nolan is a shy, sensitive sophomore at Beacon Hills High. He plays on the lacrosse team and doesn’t have friends. He is one of the more complex characters introduced this season. He suffers from multiple mental illnesses, making him a bit of a wildcard for both the audience and himself.”

“The larger, darker (supernatural) forces certainly shake things up for everybody in Beacon Hills, but Nolan’s issues were present beforehand and are more local in nature. At the end of the day, after all the stabby behavior, the tragic aspect of Nolan’s story is that all of his actions are motivated by a desire not to be lonely.”’

I hope I made it really clear for you to understand. 

x


This is from my best friend who was at a con recently with Froy in a meet and greet room. There Froy opened up about his own struggles with Mental health and then spoke about Nolan’s mental health 

So according to you, Nolan doesn’t suffer with mental health… 

  • Yet Froy has done interviews on Teen Wolf and mentioned Nolan has mental health problems
  • Froy himself confirmed Nolan has mental health problems
  • Other than it being pretty obvious in Teen Wolf that he has some issues

So Im guessing you know more about Nolan Holloway than the very guy who is playing him? 

Having mental health problems is not nice, yet it does not give you a free ticket to come into somebody’s inbox and claim things you haven’t even looked up yourself.

Social anxiety - I have that. Do you know what its like, it’s twitching constantly because you are outside (If you can even get out there due to your own fears) looking around alot at people walking by or trying to avoid looking at anybody at all, stumbling over your speech because you are scared you will say the wrong thing, or being so triggered by what is going on around you that your words get messed up. Sometimes its seeing somebody you know and going over to them just because they seem ‘safe’ and then you end up wondering if you are annoying them by being there or wondering what to say and saying something really odd to them.
… So far, I’ve seen Nolan do most of that, looking uncomfortable by the boy talking to him, Monroe talking to him and he was figity and getting his words out as if they are hard, when he approached Corey and Mason he was pausing all the time… the twitching, the fiddling with the pen before he stabbed Corey. 

Paranoia - Do you know what its like to be sitting on a bus or something and wondering if the person behind you if going to bring out a knife and stab you in the neck because you heard it happen on the news once and now it wont get out of your head… or you think the person is doing something behind your back and you are closed in because your Social Anxiety is acting up and the bus is full and you start feeling like you are suffocating because you cant breath and you are an inch away from having a panic attack and the music you are listening too isnt helping you block it out. It’s being in a lecture hall at uni and suddenly everybody is all talking about you, people walking around are spreading rumours about you, anybody looking behind and up is looking for you because they know something about you and you are yet to know what it is. It’s everybody ganging up on you, even the teachers, all because they know something you don’t…
Nolan is Paranoid that the Supernatural will hurt him or something, try to imagine what is going on in his head. Then the reason why he stabbed Corey to expose him, or beat up Liam to expose him as something scary suddenly makes sense. 

Depression - I don’t even need to go there, but guess what, it sucks. Big time.

So how dare you come into my ask box, claiming I dont know anything about Mental Health. Nolan has Mental Health/issues. He’s not fu~ked up as you so nicely say… It’s you with the problem. 
Not me, not Nolan. 
You
x

So are they gay?

I was thinking I’d share my thoughts about something that’s been bothering me about posts I see regarding Killing Stalking. I see a lot of people mentioning or even fighting about YoonBum and Sangwoo being gay. This just reminded me of when I first talked about what KS was about with a friend and one of the first questions she asked was “Oh, so are they gay?” And even though sexual things happened between the two of them, saying they’re gay just didn’t feel like the right way to describe them. To me, it doesn’t quite fit. 

First of all, both characters had sexual attraction/relationships with women before, so in any case they would technically be called bi or something else. But that still didn’t quite fit to me, I don’t think any label does. Now, most people seem to agree that Sangwoo is actually straight and uses sex as a way to calm Bum down or as what he considers a prize. I think it’s probably more complicated than that but let’s focus on Bum.

I read up a bit on BPD (and I might be misunderstanding something and would appreciate input from people more familiar with BPD), and I found this common symptom:

“A pattern of intense and unstable relationships with family, friends, and loved ones, often swinging from extreme closeness and love (idealization) to extreme dislike or anger (devaluation)” –National Institute of Mental Health 

According to the research I did, people with BPD tend to do something called “splitting”, which means that as a coping mechanism they consider things in black and white, all or nothing. Someone is either the best person in the world or the worst scum of the earth. And I think it’s pretty clear that Bum does this a lot, “loving” Sangwoo when he’s the least bit kind and hating him when he’s not. 

He does this with the girl at school as well (sorry if she has a name I can’t remember or find what it is). When she was kind to him, talked to him and was clearly a victim, Bum saw her as completely good and started to like her. When she started avoiding him, he became obsessed with her.

Other symptoms of BPD are intense fear of real or imagined abandonment, “Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment” and “Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger” as well as trouble controlling impulsive behaviour (NIMH). I think this explains his behaviour after that. He writes her a letter, tries to talk to her everyday, and does whatever he can to keep her, and when it doesn’t work his intense fear of abandonment makes him keep things she touched close just to calm down. When she’s cruel to him by telling him she ripped the letter he gets so angry he starts yelling at her and reveals her sexual assault to the whole class. When she yells at him again he tells her he wonders if guys like her or just her boobs. 

In addition, Bum is shown to be hypersexual. “Boing boing”. Later in the timeline he masturbates thinking about Sangwoo and almost does so again in his bed, he constantly wants sex with Sangwoo even after he beat and abused him. That seems like another topic for another day but this and “boing boing” “you took your clothes off in front of me” “we’re in a relationship” makes me think that he does this with all the women he’s become obsessed with.

There’s not much to go on about other women he stalked but I think he did the same thing, split them into good, idolized them, became obsessed, couldn’t control his impulse to stalk them, maybe break into their house, because of his intense fear of abandonment, maybe showed sexual intentions with them and got in trouble with the law for it.

I think it’s not about him being gay and sexually attracted to Sangwoo. I think he saw in university Sangwoo was considered a great person who everyone loved and then  he saved him from sexual assault in the military, so he split him into the “good” category and began to idealize him to the point of becoming obsessed with him, which he considers love. “I did it because of love.” I don’t think it matters that Sangwoo is a guy, he just became obsessed like he would any other person. I don’t think he’s attracted to any other guys or considered that he’s thinking sexually about another guy and that makes him not straight. I don’t think he’s thought about labelling himself as anything. He’s simply obsessed with him.

Obviously I’m not saying people with BPD can’t be gay, discover their sexual orientation, choose a label they feel most comfortable in, etc. But I do feel like in this one case, this is what is happening to this one character. So when I see people say things like “oh yeah this gay guy being tortured, etc.” I can’t help but think,

But he’s not gay. He’s not attracted to guys in general. He’s just obsessed with this one person.

If someone out there has BPD I hope not to offend, I know some don’t think he shows signs of BPD at all. But from the symptoms listed in the National Institute of Mental Health, it looks to me that he does and, as someone who has a mental illness themselves, I think everyone experiences mental illnesses differently and this could just be one of the ways.                                    

All that said, that’s just my interpretation and opinion and would love to know what other people think! Am I onto something? Am I dead wrong? 

Jeez this was long…

TA-NEHISI COATES:

Replacing Obama is not enough—Trump has made the negation of Obama’s legacy the foundation of his own. And this too is whiteness. “Race is an idea, not a fact,” the historian Nell Irvin Painter has written, and essential to the construct of a “white race” is the idea of not being a nigger. Before Barack Obama, niggers could be manufactured out of Sister Souljahs, Willie Hortons, and Dusky Sallys. But Donald Trump arrived in the wake of something more potent—an entire nigger presidency with nigger health care, nigger climate accords, and nigger justice reform, all of which could be targeted for destruction or redemption, thus reifying the idea of being white. Trump truly is something new—the first president whose entire political existence hinges on the fact of a black president. And so it will not suffice to say that Trump is a white man like all the others who rose to become president. He must be called by his rightful honorific—America’s first white president.

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Fat people have been saying this since forever **face palm**

New research shows fat-shaming can be a health hazard

The practice of fat shaming at the doctor’s office can be harmful to both the mental and physical health of a patient, according to a comprehensive new review of research published Thursday.

“Disrespectful treatment and medical fat shaming … is stressful and can cause patients to delay health care seeking or avoid interacting with providers,” the abstract to the new review published Thursday by Joan C. Chrisler and Angela Barney, researchers at Connecticut College’s Department of Psychology stated.


The review examined 46 past studies, which looked doctors’ biases towards obesity and also compared patients’ reports of fat shaming from their doctors with their health outcomes. Researchers found that fat shaming from a doctor can take a significant negative toll on a patient’s health, as it can lead to decreased trust in their healthcare provider.

In extreme cases, it can also cause a doctor to assume that a patient’s weight is responsible for a myriad of health conditions and lead to a misdiagnosis, researchers said.

The findings were presented at the 125th Annual Convention of the American Psychological Association, where Chrisler called fat shaming from a doctor a form of malpractice.

“Recommending different treatments for patients with the same condition based on their weight is unethical and a form of malpractice,” Chrisler said. “Research has shown that doctors repeatedly advise weight loss for fat patients while recommending CAT scans, blood work or physical therapy for other, average weight patients.”

In the review, researchers called for better training for healthcare providers so that patients of all sizes are treated with respect.

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/research-shows-fat-shaming-health-hazard/story?id=49023165

@cesy has been staying with me for two weeks now and it’s nice to have another disabled person around–we get to trade off being The Most Disabled, so I’m not always the one saying, “I can’t do that,” or “Guys, can we walk slower?” and it’s great. We planned an entire vacation around the fact that we would be in pain through the entire thing. (We visited hot springs!)

But it’s hard seeing how great her wheelchair is.

When I was really bad, when there were days I literally couldn’t put weight on my knees because the pain was so great, I thought about getting a wheelchair. I even looked into options and priced things out. But everyone I know IRL–doctors to family to friends–was against it. “You’ll lose so much mobility!” they said. “It’ll become a crutch! It’ll set you apart! It’s so expensive! So much work!”

Look, let’s get one thing straight: Driving a manual wheelchair is a pain in the ass. Or more to the point, a pain in the shoulders, neck, and back, because using it is hard. It’s so hard to get in places because nobody ever thinks their space has to be wheelchair accessible; even when it’s designed for it, there’s always some fucking floor display or sign or bags or something where you need to go. You get stared at, people try to move you without your consent, and half the time they won’t talk to you at all. If @cesy is having a day where she can just walk with two canes, she does that over taking the wheelchair because of how much work the wheelchair is. (And if she can take one cane instead of two, she takes that, because not having a hand free to hold things is also a pain in the ass.)

But because I didn’t have a wheelchair?

My social life was limited to anything that didn’t involve walking more than three blocks.

I almost never went out into nature, unless it was in a car.

I took thousands of milligrams of painkillers a day and gave myself an ulcer.

I never exercised, because I came home exhausted and in pain from walking all day and immediately collapsed into bed, often too tired to make food or eat it.

I had to quit two jobs because their incidental walking and standing pushed me to my physical limits of pain and fatigue.

I got illegally fired from a job because I was in too much pain to stand at the till and my employer didn’t want me to sit.

I can’t even actually list all the things I can’t do because of my limited mobility, because I’ve just gotten resigned to the fact that I’m in too much pain to go to dances, parties, museums, shopping malls, or art galleries.

I am so happy my friend has this amazing resource in her life to help her out, but as I see her use it, I am so bitter that I have gone all these years without it, and would have to face enormous resistance if I tried to get it now. A wheelchair would have made so many amazing things possible for me. It would have made my life richer and fuller. But the attitudes against mobility devices are so strong, I was told that my life was “better for my health”, and according to my doctors, @cesy is the one “compromising her mobility”.

anonymous asked:

Hello wonderful peoples of Tumblr, This is a weird question but I was wondering if you knew any mental health statistics for those in computer engineering? I am thinking about going into the field and know some careers like Dr.’s have higher rates of depression etc. Any light you can shed would be greatly appreciated 😊

Hello! I don’t know any specific statistics for professional engineers, but I can tell you that students, particularly STEM grad students, face very high rates of mental health issues. Likely it a combination of previously undiagnosed disorders, a very high stress environment, burnout, low salary as a student, and the high-pressure competitive tech industry. Think about it, to become a computer engineer, you have to have at least a BS degree. In order to get into college, you have to get good grades, and in order to get a good job, you have to have gone to a good school and get good grades in your computer engineering classes. Computer engineering, and all engineering, really, is considered one of the hardest, most-technical fields in college. So, unfortunately, there’s a lot stacked against you if you have mental health troubles already.

According to a recent article in Science Magazine, depression afflicts almost half of STEM grad students at UC Berkeley. The article has some info from various departments, check it out! http://www.sciencemag.org/careers/2015/05/depression-afflicts-almost-half-stem-graduate-students-uc-berkeley

Another thing that I’ve heard is that even once you survive school and get to an ideally high-paying job, the competitive, high-pressure nature of tech fields make it so that employers often expect you to work long hours without much care for work-life balance.

HOWEVER! Especially while you’re in school, there are many resources specifically designed to help you feel supported and succeed! Nearly all schools offer mental health counseling, crisis counseling, tutoring, support groups, wellness activities, and more. For example, my school offered 10 free counseling sessions as well as pet therapy dogs that came to campus. Choosing a good advisor, maintaining a solid friend group, and having non-school/non-work related hobbies will help.

Once you’re in the workplace, it might be harder since you have to seek resources yourself, but computer engineering jobs are “good” jobs, you will most likely have health insurance benefits and be able to seek counseling if needed.

Please take care!– Mimi

anonymous asked:

-slides open window- hello // customer: go get your fat manager // me: .....ok 😐

If I find that customer I’m going to sit my fat ass on top of them while their face is down in a big ol’ mud puddle. Wtf is wrong with just saying “manager”? Besides, they’re eating at a fast food establishment(I assume based on the window). So I doubt they’re in peak health or shape according to society’s impossible standards. Eat your burger and stfu. -Abby

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ETA –  In the past, the global gag rule meant that foreign NGOs must disavow any involvement with abortion in order to receive U.S. family planning funding. Trump’s version of the global gag rule expands the policy to all global health funding. According to Ehlers, the new rule means that rather than impacting $600 million in U.S. foreign aid, the global gag rule will affect $9.5 billion. Organizations working on AIDS, malaria, or maternal and child health will have to make sure that none of their programs involves so much as an abortion referral. Geeta Rao Gupta, a senior fellow at the United Nations Foundation who previously served as deputy executive director of UNICEF, gives the example of HIV/AIDS clinics that get U.S. funding to provide antiretrovirals: “If they’re giving advice to women on what to do if they’re pregnant and HIV positive, giving them all the options that exist, they cannot now receive money from the U.S.” [x]

Originally posted by imthehuman

Compassion: The Way to Peace and Happiness

by His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama

“I believe that no one is born free from the need for love. And this demonstrates that, although some modern schools of thought seek to do so, human beings cannot be defined as solely physical. No material object, however beautiful or valuable, can make us feel loved, because our deeper identity and true character lie in the subjective nature of the mind.

DEVELOPING COMPASSION

Some of my friends have told me that, while love and compassion are marvellous and good, they are not really very relevant. Our world, they say, is not a place where such beliefs have much influence or power. They claim that anger and hatred are so much a part of human nature that humanity will always be dominated by them. I do not agree.

We humans have existed in our present form for about a hundred thousand years. I believe that if during this time the human mind had been primarily controlled by anger and hatred, our overall population would have decreased. But today, despite all our wars, we find that the human population is greater than ever. This clearly indicates to me that love and compassion predominate in the world. And this is why unpleasant events are news. Compassionate activities are so much part of daily life that they are taken for granted and, therefore, largely ignored.

So far I have been discussing mainly the mental benefits of compassion, but it contributes to good physical health as well, According to my personal experience, mental stability and physical wellbeing are directly related. Without question, anger and agitation make us more susceptible to illness. On the other hand, if the mind is tranquil and occupied with positive thoughts, the body will not easily fall prey to disease.

But of course it is also true that we all have an innate self-centredness that inhibits our love for others. So, since we desire the true happiness that is brought about by only a calm mind, and since such peace of mind is brought about by only a compassionate attitude, how can we develop this? Obviously, it is not enough for us simply to think about how nice compassion is! We need to make a concerted effort to develop it; we must use all the events of our daily life to transform our thoughts and behaviour.

First of all, we must be clear about what we mean by compassion. Many forms of compassionate feeling are mixed with desire and attachment. For instance, the love parents feel for their child is often strongly associated with their own emotional needs, so it is not fully compassionate.

Again, in marriage, the love between husband and wife — particularly at the beginning, when each partner still may not know the other’s deeper character very well — depends more on attachment than genuine love. Our desire can be so strong that the person to whom we are attached appears to be good, when in fact he or she is very negative. In addition, we have a tendency to exaggerate small positive qualities. Thus when one partner’s attitude changes, the other partner is often disappointed and his or her attitude changes too. This is an indication that love has been motivated more by personal need than by genuine care for the other individual.

True compassion is not just an emotional response but a firm commitment founded on reason. Therefore, a truly compassionate attitude towards others does not change even if they behave negatively.

Of course, developing this kind of compassion is not at all easy! As a start, let us consider the following facts:

Whether people are beautiful and friendly or unattractive and disruptive, ultimately they are human beings, just like oneself. Like oneself, they want happiness and do not want suffering. Furthermore, their right to overcome suffering and be happy is equal to one’s own. Now, when you recognise that all beings are equal in both their desire for happiness and their right to obtain it, you automatically feel empathy and closeness for them. Through accustoming your mind to this sense of universal altruism, you develop a feeling of responsibility for others, the wish to help them actively overcome their problems. Nor is this wish selective; it applies equally to all. As long as they are human beings experiencing pleasure and pain just as you do, there is no logical basis to discriminate between them or to alter your concern for them if they behave negatively.

Let me emphasise that it is within your power, given patience and time, to develop this kind of compassion. Of course, our self-centredness, our distinctive attachment to the feeling of an independent, selfexistent [“I”], works fundamentally to inhibit our compassion. Indeed, true compassion can be experienced only when this type of self-grasping is eliminated. But this does not mean that we cannot start and make progress now.

HOW CAN WE START?

We should begin by removing the greatest hindrances to compassion: anger and hatred. As we all know, these are extremely powerful emotions and they can overwhelm our entire mind. Nevertheless, they can be controlled. If, however, they are not, these negative emotions will plague us (with no extra effort on their part!) and impede our quest for the happiness of a loving mind.

So as a start, it is useful to investigate whether or not anger is of value. Sometimes, when we are discouraged by a difficult situation, anger does seem helpful, appearing to bring with it more energy, confidence and determination.

Here, though, we must examine our mental state carefully. While it is true that anger brings extra energy, if we explore the nature of this energy, we discover that it is blind: we cannot be sure whether its result will be positive or negative. This is because anger eclipses the best part of our brain: its rationality. So the energy of anger is almost always unreliable. It can cause an immense amount of destructive, unfortunate behaviour. Moreover, if anger increases to the extreme, one becomes like a mad person, acting in ways that are as damaging to oneself as they are to others.

It is possible, however, to develop an equally forceful but far more controlled energy with which to handle difficult situations.

This controlled energy comes not only from a compassionate attitude, but also from reason and patience. These are the most powerful antidotes to anger. Unfortunately, many people misjudge these qualities as signs of weakness. I believe the opposite to be true: that they are the true signs of inner strength. Compassion is by nature gentle, peaceful and soft, but it is very powerful. It is those who easily lose their patience who are insecure and unstable. Thus, to me, the arousal of anger is a direct sign of weakness.

So, when a problem first arises, try to remain humble and maintain a sincere attitude and be concerned that the outcome is fair. Of course, others may try to take advantage of you, and if your remaining detached only encourages unjust aggression, adopt a strong stand, This, however, should be done with compassion, and if it is necessary to express your views and take strong counter measures, do so without anger or ill intent.

You should realise that even though your opponents appear to be harming you, in the end, their destructive activity will damage only themselves. In order to check your own selfish impulse to retaliate, you should recall your desire to practise compassion and assume responsibility for helping prevent the other person from suffering the consequences of his or her acts.

Thus, because the measures you employ have been calmly chosen, they will be more effective, more accurate and more forceful. Retaliation based on the blind energy of anger seldom hits the target.

FRIENDS AND ENEMIES

I must emphasise again that merely thinking that compassion and reason and patience are good will not be enough to develop them. We must wait for difficulties to arise and then attempt to practise them.

And who creates such opportunities? Not our friends, of course, but our enemies. They are the ones who give us the most trouble, so if we truly wish to learn, we should consider enemies to be our best teacher!

For a person who cherishes compassion and love, the practice of tolerance is essential, and for that, an enemy is indispensable. So we should feel grateful to our enemies, for it is they who can best help us develop a tranquil mind! Also, it is often the case in both personal and public life, that with a change in circumstances, enemies become friends.

So anger and hatred are always harmful, and unless we train our minds and work to reduce their negative force, they will continue to disturb us and disrupt our attempts to develop a calm mind. Anger and hatred are our real enemies. These are the forces we most need to confront and defeat, not the temporary enemies who appear intermittently throughout life.

Of course, it is natural and right that we all want friends. I often joke that if you really want to be selfish, you should be very altruistic! You should take good care of others, be concerned for their welfare, help them, serve them, make more friends, make more smiles. The result? When you yourself need help, you find plenty of helpers! If, on the other hand, you neglect the happiness of others, in the long term you will be the loser. And is friendship produced through quarrels and anger, jealousy and intense competitiveness? I do not think so. Only affection brings us genuine close friends.

In today’s materialistic society, if you have money and power, you seem to have many friends. But they are not friends of yours; they are the friends of your money and power. When you lose your wealth and influence, you will find it very difficult to track these people down.

The trouble is that when things in the world go well for us, we become confident that we can manage by ourselves and feel we do not need friends, but as our status and health decline, we quickly realise how wrong we were. That is the moment when we learn who is really helpful and who is completely useless. So to prepare for that moment, to make genuine friends who will help us when the need arises, we ourselves must cultivate altruism! Though sometimes people laugh when I say it, I myself always want more friends. I love smiles. Because of this I have the problem of knowing how to make more friends and how to get more smiles, in particular, genuine smiles, for there are many kinds of smile, such as sarcastic, artificial or diplomatic smiles. Many smiles produce no feeling of satisfaction, and sometimes they can even create suspicion or fear, can’t they? But a genuine smile really gives us a feeling of freshness and is, I believe, unique to human beings. If these are the smiles we want, then we ourselves must create the reasons for them to appear.

COMPASSION AND THE WORLD

In conclusion, I would like briefly to expand my thoughts beyond the topic of this short piece and make a wider point: individual happiness can contribute in a profound and effective way to the overall improvement of our entire human community.

Because we all share an identical need for love, it is possible to feel that anybody we meet, in whatever circumstances, is a brother or sister. No matter how new the face or how different the dress and behaviour, there is no significant division between us and other people. It is foolish to dwell on external differences, because our basic natures are the same.

Ultimately, humanity is one and this small planet is our only home. If we are to protect this home of ours, each of us needs to experience a vivid sense of universal altruism. It is only this feeling that can remove the selfcentred motives that cause people to deceive and misuse one another.

If you have a sincere and open heart, you naturally feel self-worth and confidence, and there is no need to be fearful of others.

I believe that at every level of society — familial, tribal, national and international — the key to a happier and more successful world is the growth of compassion. We do not need to become religious, nor do we need to believe in an ideology. All that is necessary is for each of us to develop our good human qualities.

I try to treat whoever I meet as an old friend. This gives me a genuine feeling of happiness. It is the practice of compassion.”

anonymous asked:

I'm getting a Pembroke Welsh Corgi soon, and I just wanted to know, what are some common health problems with them?

According to PetMD:

The Pembroke Welsh Corgi, which has an average lifespan of about 11 to 13 years, is prone to serious health concerns such as intervertebral disc disease and canine hip dysplasia (CHD), as well as minor issues like epilepsyand degenerative myelopathy. Lens luxation, von Willebrand’s Disease (vWD), progressive retinal atrophy (PRA), and urinary stones are also noticed in the breed on occasion. To identify some of these issues, a veterinarian may recommend hip, eye, and DNA tests for the dog. 

For future reference, here is a list of breeds from PetMD which describes their temperaments and health issues. -C