health & well being

I’m grateful for the chance to have been able to spend moments of my life with you. I understand that it’s over, and I don’t hold any ill feelings towards you. I wish the best for you.
— 

Affirmation of the day.

Dealing with a break up.

anonymous asked:

I know that not studying because of depression is not a bad thing but it is literally not letting me do things. Basic things. I feel like all I do is sleep and feel bad. I'm in therapy, but how can I study languages like this?

Hi! I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I have also battled with depression for years so I know how you feel. Here are some tips:

  • Your mental health and well-being come first. Always. You don’t have to study when you’re not feeling well!
  • Just immersing yourself to the target language is enough, so find a radio station, audio book, or music you like and just listen
  • Make learning languages your coping method or happy activity, something that distracts you from your sadness, calms you down, and makes you feel a bit better
  • Make the most out of your good days and study a little more than usual if you can, but don’t push yourself! 
  • Be understanding and gentle to yourself, be proud of your achievements, and never bash yourself down for not being able to do more
  • Talk about it with your therapist and ask if they have some advice 

This is all I got, I hope it helps. Good luck and take care of yourself, please!  

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A Jin Kiss a day keeps the doctor away!

how to get motivated
  • write out a list of what you need to do and when they need to be done by
  • prioritize. do the most important stuff, the stuff that’ll take the longest, and the stuff that needs to be soonest first
  • put on some good music for things like cleaning, organizing, and chores
  • if you have to do stuff for school like study or write a paper, prioritize that. 
  • but remember your health and well being comes before your education. 
  • if you have stuff you know you need to do, take a rain check for going out with friends. you can go out another time.
  • know why you need to do something. ex: i need to study so that i can do well in my class to get into a good college. i need to clean my room so that the space is calmer. i need to do the dishes because i need to to eat. i need to get up and go to class so that i can get the most out of my education. i promise, there is a positive in everything.
  • remember to eat. remember to drink water. remember to sleep.
  • be grateful for the things you need to do. ex: i’m grateful i have school to study for. i am grateful that i have a room to clean. i am grateful i have food to eat off of these dishes. i am grateful for having an 8am class because getting an education is an amazing opportunity.
  • when making a to-do list for the day/week, put in things for yourself like play with my dog, watch that new harry styles interview, get a starbucks, take a deep breath, drink water.
  • set time goals. if you don’t want to do something or you keep getting distracted, set timers. for example, if you have a chapter you need to read but it’s super boring, set a timer for 10 minutes and see how much you can do in that time. set a goal like “if i can read 5 pages in 10 minutes, i’ll go make my favorite tea”. challenging yourself will get you and keep yourself motivated.
  • know that it’s okay to take breaks. you need them. but keep them under 30 minutes so you don’t get sucked in. (here’s a list of study breaks for every situation)
  • don’t give up; everything is temporary. having trouble understanding your calculus homework? that’s fine. you’re not the only one. take a 5 minute break, stretch a bit, maybe grab a snack, then approach things differently. ask a friend for help, set up a tutoring session, watch youtube videos explaining the content in a different way.
  • remember that you can do anything that you put your mind to. you got this.
[INFO] MONSTA X Wonho will not be participating in today’s ShowCon performances due to health condition

A post was made to MONSTA X’s official Twitter stating that member Wonho will not be participating in today’s ShowCon performances due to health concerns that arose this past Sunday. He was taken to the hospital for a check up, but after finding that his condition has not improved since then, he has once again been taken to the hospital to further monitor his condition. In order to preserve his state of health and well-being, it has been decided that Wonho will not be taking part in the ShowCon that is scheduled for today at 8PM KST.

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rio and evie on their gay space roadtrip <3

Friendly reminder

to do things for yourself. Read a book. Watch a movie. Put on some incense and turn on your salt lamp and put on some relaxation music. Do a face mask. Do a foot bath. Have a bath. Do your nails. Do what you love. Go for a walk. Go hiking. Go see your friend. Pamper yourself, not only physically but mentally. Relax.

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I know love now, and I’m going to prove how strong I’ve become by getting a gold medal in the Grand Prix Final!

- Yuuri Katsuki [x]

This set may have been inspired by the Bedtime Stories chat but I dedicate it to everyone.

This is easily one of my favourite scenes in the entire show. The fact that Yuuri, after years and years of feeling like he was on his own in every endeavour, was able to see that he’s had people loving and supporting him all along really hit home for me. Being able to look outside of himself and see that he’s not as alone as he convinced himself that he was is a huge step.

You hear people often say that you need to have a support network for good mental health. Well, half of truly being able to utilize said network is allowing yourself to accept that it’s there in the first place.

So I encourage everyone to take a moment and look around. See that there are people around you that love you and are willing to support you. They may be friends, family, pets, co-workers, etc. There’s no mould that people need to fit into to say “I have a real support network”. Everyone has someone that loves them.

If we can take any message away from Yuuri’s struggles and apply it to our own lives, then I encourage it to be this one:

Remember that you are loved and if you allow yourself to look, there will always be someone there who is ready and willing to support you.

Essential Oils Masterpost

Some tips: 

  • Never take an essential oil internally, it can really hurt you
  • Always use a carrier oil (e.g. olive, apricot, jojoba, etc) to use on the skin. Add one drop essential oil to the carrier oil and apply on skin
  • Most of the neuro-stimulating ones on the list below correspond best with aromatherapy applications (either sniff the bottle or add to a humidifier). The links at the bottom of the post can give you more information about how to apply and use essential oils 
  • Never put an essential oil on the inside of your nose, ears, eyes, mouth or genitals

The following index is paraphrased from packets of information I received while in massage school:

  • Basil Used since antiquity for chest infections, digestive problems, and jaundice. Good for headaches, migraines, head colds, and mental fatigue. Stimulating if used in small doses, sedating if used in large quantities
  • Bay Laurel Expectorant, antispasmodic, and carminative. Encourages confidence, fortitude, inspiration, protection, directions, and creativity. Particularly indicated for chilly, congested individuals who lack energy and confidence. Assists by stimulating the rational and “higher mind” b helping to renew one’s belief in one’s own boundless potential. Ignites the fire element– elevates the spirit and sparks inner vision. Bay Laurel is contraindicated during pregnancy
  • Bergamot Uplifting, good for depression and anxiety. Encourages release of pent-up feelings, helps to redirect nervous energy away from unproductive behavior. excellent deodorant and (when combined with Lavender) is an effective insect repellent. Anti viral
  • Black Pepper Antispasmodic, carminative, tonic, and stimulant. When added in small doses to massage oil, can help with muscular pain, stiffness, and fatigue
  • Bulgarian Rose “A miracle of nature” Disperses worries, anxieties and sorrows. Shows us love. Expands our awareness. Enhances the  frequency of every cell, brining balance and harmony, feelings of well-being and happiness. “Here is spring returning with chars of the roses. See only their cheeks and the bitter plant of sadness will be uprooted from your heart.” -Hafiz 
  • Cardamom General tonic of body’s vital energy, brain and nervous system– can aid concentration and help with relaxation when worried/tense. Can help restore an “appetite for life,” reminding us of life’s true abundance and restores desire for contentment. 
  • Carrot Powerful tonic action on the liver and gall bladder. Good to aid healthy skin– restores tone and elasticity and may reduce wrinkling
  • Cedarwood Antiseptic, astringent. Gives immovable strength in times of crisis. Can restore a sense of spiritual certainty. Helps to take a negative/threatening situation and transform it into an experience from which we can derive strength and wisdom. Cedarwood is contraindicated during pregnancy
  • Chamomile Can help relieve nervous stress of any kind, but is of greatest benefit for problems associated with a build-up of tension i the solar plexus. Eases tension of the excessive ego-desire and the frustration, resentment and depression that frequently follow. Helps to let go of fixed expectations, calmly acknowledge our own limitations, and more readily accept the help and support that other can manage to give. 
  • Chamomile - Roman Calming and relaxing. Helpful in overcoming headaches and insomnia. Soothing and antiseptic, reduces inflammation. Relieves PMS symptoms, soothes muscular aches and pains. 
  • Cinnamon Antiseptic. For nausea. faintness, depression, nervous exhaustion, and other stress related conditions. Helps clear the head. 
  • Citronella Insect repellent. Can be effective in keeping house pets away from plants and soil.
  • Clary Sage Good for stress. Powerful muscle relaxant. Warming and antispasmodic. Can help with menstrual issues. Strengthening, relaxing, mentally & emotionally uplifting. Allows inspiration to flow. Excellent household disinfectant.
  • Clove Teeth and gum complaints. Anti bacterial, anti fungal, anti infectious, anti inflammatory, anti parasitic, anti septic, anti viral, immune stimulant. Reported to influence healing, improve memory, and create a feeling of protection and courage.
  • Cypress Astringent. Good for oily skin. Tonic to the circulatory system. Antispasmodic. Helpful with menstrual issues. Insect repellent. Helps cope with and accept difficult change– encourages the process of taking in and letting go. Has the potential to unearth the fears that block change. 
  • Dill Has relaxing effect on nerves, muscles, intestines, and the respiratory system and pacifies spasmodic attacks
  • Eucalyptus Globulus Lung complaints. Strengths respiratory system. Insect repellent. Cleans air in treatment room and home. Sore throat. Apply under the nose and on each side of the nose for sinus relief. Reported to enhance health, well-being, purification and healing
  • Fennel Treats cellulitis. Can help regulate menstrual cycle and reduce symptoms of PMS and water retention. Useful in menopause. Can help nursing mothers. Valuable in counterbalancing alcohol poisoning an in the treatment/rehabilitation of alcoholics. May help prevent build-up of toxic waste in the body. encourages self-expression, freeing the feelings of stagnation, inviting us to communicate freely without fear or inhibition. Fennel is contraindicated for children under age 6 and for people with epilepsy
  • Frankincense Increases spiritual awareness and assists meditation. Improves attitude. Strengthens immune system. Introspection aid
  • Geranium Antidepressant and antiseptic. Astringent. Promotes speedy healing. Can help with PMS & excessive fluid retention. Stimulating effect on lymphatic system. Tonic on liver and kidneys. Conveys a feeling of calm strength and security, helps with anxiety. Ideal for the workaholic/perfectionist who has forgotten imagination, intuition, and sensory experience. Helps to reconnect to our emotional sensitivity, relaxed spontaneity, and healthy thirst for enjoyment
  • Grapefruit Cooling, cleansing, and decongesting. Mild diuretic. Clears the psychological heat and congestion that result from deep-seated frustration and self-blame. Clarifying, refreshing. It works to rid the “heavy” feelings that accompany angry disappointment, allowing us to perceive and accept more realistic goals. 
  • Helichrysum Italicum Promotes blood circulation. Good for ear complaints. Reported to cut through barriers. When we lock up inside and get angry and don’t want to forgive, we create barriers which keep us from going forward in our lives. Uplifting to the unconscious. depression, lethargy, nervous exhaustion, stress related conditions.
  • Jasmine Good for apathy, indifference, listlessness, nervous exhaustion, stress-related conditions. Produces a feeling of optimism, confidence and euphoria
  • Juniper Antiseptic and diuretic. Detoxification. Astringent. Good for acne. Good household disinfectant. Stimulates appetite. Works to break through psychological stagnation and consolidate will power. Helps to purge the worry and self-absorption that is rooted in a fear of failure. Restores determination to overcome life’s obstacles. 
  • Lavender Calming, soothing, balancing, normalizing. Restores unbalanced state of mind/body back to a state of balance where healing can take place. Relieves muscular pain and menstrual pain. Works to calm any strong emotions that threaten to overwhelm the mind.
  • Lavender - Wild “A miracle of nature; when in doubt, use lavender” 100s of uses. Excellent for burns and depression. When everything has been tried without success, try lavender. 
  • Lemon Purifying air and water. Promotes sense of well-being. Invigorating, enhancing and warming. Promotes sense of feeling lighter. For depression and sadness. Lightens egocentric concerns.
  • Neem Anti fungal, antibacterial, anti viral, helps with acne, scabies, eczema, psoriasis, rash, shingles, ear complaints (do NOT place in ear canal, massage it behind the ear & down the neck with a carrier oil), insect repellent (bio-safe insecticide), helps with old wounds that aren’t healing, helps with tooth decay, external application for tumors, external applications for sore throat and chest congestion Do not take internally
  • Neroli Restores equilibrium, Focus in the Now, healing mind, body and spirit
  • Patchouli Grounding, brings one into the physical. Sedating, calming, relaxing. Reduces anxiety
  • Peppermint Antispasmodic. Warming and stimulating. Can help with stomach upset, cold, and flu. Also has cooling effect that can be helpful with fever. Stimulates the brain and aids clear thinking. Can help with shock. Enhances concentration and absorption, but also helps facilitate the digestion of new ideas. 
  • Ravensara “A miracle of nature” Anti viral, good for first signs of flu or cold symptoms, immunostimulating properties. Can alleviate cervical & thoracic pain and soothe the stressed when combined with Lavender essential oil. Excellent for respiratory tract complaints. Revitalizes those suffering from physical and nervous fatigue. Nerve tonic. Shakes up lethargy and those avoiding responsibilities. Relieves the depressed and reassures the anxious. Muscular relaxant and pain killer. Helps with joint pain. 
  • Rosemary Specific for lung and respiratory ailments. Good expectorant for coughing fits. Excellent for ear-nose-throat complaints. Good for healthy hair. Stimulates memory and opens the conscious mind. Mental fatigue. Useful for cleaning the air within the treatment room or home. Relaxing foot or full body bath.
  • Sandalwood Centering, calming, appears to stimulate a parasympathetic nervous system (i.e. relaxing) response). Reported to increase oxygen around pineal and pituitary glands
  • Spearmint Antioxidant, helps support the respiratory and nervous systems. May help open and release emotional blocks leading to a sense of balance and well-being.
  • Spikenard Regulating on the nervous system and heart. Good for nervous tension, anxiety, insomnia. Works to replace despondency and resentment with acceptance and compassion. Indicated for individuals, who, searching for spiritual certainty, struggle in vain to find the stable ground of faith. Allows us to surrender. Grounding
  • Spruce - Black Grounding and relaxing. Balances the body and releases emotional blocks. Purifying and cleansing. Helps to release blocks to prosperity and wealth. Helps with arthritis, immune depression, sciatica, hyperthyroidism, and fungal infections. Stimulates thymus/adrenals.
  • Sweet Orange Energizing and calming
  • Tea Tree Cleansing and purifying (Has 100s of uses)
  • Thyme - Red Stimulates the production of white blood cells, stimulates circulation, raises low blood pressure helps to revive and strengthen both body and mind. Good for chronic anxiety
  • True Melissa Reported to bring out gentle characteristics within people
  • Valerian Excellent for nervous exhaustion brought on by emotional excitement, anxiety, mental chatter, restlessness, and stress-related disorders. Good for nervous headaches, migraines, and to generally soothe and calm the mind. 
  • Vetiver Clears heat, nourishes, calms and uplifts. Strengthening and grounding. “Imbues us with the calm, reassuring strength of Mother Earth and her deep sense of belonging.” Sedates, yet restores, centers, and reconnects us, closing the gap between spirit and matter
  • Ylang Ylang Calming and relaxing. Can help instances of shock, fright, anxiety, and anger. Can help reduce low blood pressure. Antidepressant, aphrodisiac, sedative. 

More About Essential Oils:

You CAN Be A Morning Person

This was from a well deserved Sunday Brunch a few weeks ago. Sometimes you just gotta post up next to the Marina, eat some bacon and split a bottle of champagne with your Best friend. This obviously was a very enjoyable morning but unfortunately by body isn’t down with it every day so we have to find ways to enjoy the morning, EVERY MORNING!

We all know we can tell our body feels a certain way as soon as we gain enough consciousness in the am. If I ate pizza at 2:00am compared to having a lean dinner at 8:00 pm, I can feel the difference in my stomach as soon as I roll over. If I wash my face before I go to bed I can wake up and enjoy the 30 second eye rub compared to not washing my face and waking up to a heavy oily setting while I lay there and wonder how much mascara I got all over my pillows. Not Fun. Then your eyes are all swollen and shitty looking and you can bet that you’ve got about T-minus 2 days until that acne kicks in. Literally like a meteor, and there’s no way to avoid it now.

Have you ever heard the phrase, “When you drink tonight, you are borrowing happiness from tomorrow?” Little corny but true. I think some of us are at a point that we’re borrowing happiness from next month. But your mood for tomorrow is generally set by how you feel in the morning and it’s determined not only by if you drank the night before or not but if you overall took care of yourself.

Did you eat well? Did you brush your teeth and wash your face? Did you take a second to think about what you have going on the following day so you are prepared? Did you get at least 6 hours of sleep? Did you drink enough water the day before or are you waking up with your fingers swollen on to your rings?

Do you have a morning routine or do you wake up and watch 73 videos on your phone then go back to bed because you can’t think of anything to do?

Personally, I get up, make my bed, clean up my house, throw some clothes on and go to a café to wake up and see what I have going on that day.

So if you want to get moving a little bit and actually not want to kill yourself by 9:00 am, then try a few (or all) of these tips and notice the difference in your energy and mood every day !

- Drink water through out the day ( at least 4 16 oz bottles)

- Wash your face/ brush your teeth – it catches up to you not only tomorrow but in the long run if you don’t.

- Make sure your room is as dark as it can be when you go to sleep so you don’t interrupt any of that glorious shut eye.

- Don’t eat after 8:00 pm

- Make your last meal of the day some veggies and protein because there is hardly any sodium. (No late night Chinese meals. That salt is gunna stick to you like white on rice)

- Work out for at least 30 minutes at some point during the day. You’ll sleep better.

- Have a general idea of some things that you want to get done the following day so you have motivation and a sense of urgency to get up.

- Whatever your alcohol intake is right now, cut it in half.

 

Do it for yourself!! You’re the only one that can :)

 Until next time,

Chelsey Rose