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13 Reasons Why controversy

Because the response to 13 Reasons Why has been so controversial, I’d just like to point out some things.

As explained in 13 Reasons Why: Beyond the Reasons, the suicide scene was shown BECAUSE they wanted it to be painful for the audience to watch, as well as the rape scenes. Not because they wanted to be gruesome or inconsiderate, but because it is REALITY for so many people in the world and a lot of people like to pretend these things don’t exist or shield themselves from the reality of it; they ignore it because they’ve never gone through it, so they don’t care so much. So then when they see these scenes, they will be made uncomfortable and see what people are really truly experiencing and that it is not something that should at all be sugarcoated or ignored. IT IS REAL.

Secondly, for those saying it’s disgusting for them to show these scenes, THERE ARE WARNINGS AT THE BEGINNING OF THE EPISODES THAT SHOW RAPE AND/OR SUICIDE TO NOT WATCH IF IT WILL AFFECT THE VIEWER IN ANY WAY. These warnings are given specifically so that if you are not comfortable watching or believe it would cause a trigger, you should not even watch. So the fact that people are bashing the show for showing these scenes in relation to them being a trigger, the warnings are already made very clear in the beginning. They did take this step to make sure it wouldn’t just pop up and be any sort of triggers. The producers knew very well to be wary of that.
The show also worked with a lot of psychiatrists, psychologists, and leading experts in teen-suicide prevention. Though this still may not be enough for you to think they did everything right, they again did have the warnings. They are very aware that it could cause triggers and put some people in danger, but THAT IS WHAT THE WARNINGS ARE FOR. DO NOT WATCH IF IT COULD DANGER YOU. VIEWER’S DISCRETION IS ALWAYS ADVISED.

THE SHOW WAS NOT CREATED FOR ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES. IT IS TO SPREAD AWARENESS FOR ALL THE ISSUES (suicide, rape, bullying) AND POINT OUT HOW LITTLE THE SIGNS CAN BE AND HOW MUCH MORE CAREFUL AND HELPFUL EVERYONE IN THE WORLD NEEDS TO BE TO THE PEOPLE AROUND US. As also talked about in Beyond the Reasons, they want to promote teaching boys the proper ways to approach a girl and gain permission to become intimate with her, always getting the YES to teach boys respect for women. This is very important because as most people know, it has always been extremely hard for rape victims to get help because of the “what were you wearing” “were you flirting” “did you lead him on” “did you directly say no” arguments that are so wrongfully executed—instead, 13 Reasons Why knows that this is an issue, as somewhat shown in the scene with Mr. Porter as he questions Hannah. So in the after show, they speak about how parents need to be teaching their children more about consent and less about just protecting yourself, covering up, etc. They are aware that the real issue is with proper consent, and that is a very important message to get across.

Coming from someone who has battled depression and suicidal thoughts and attempts, I must also point out that EVERY SINGLE PERSON, EXPERIENCES, THOUGHTS, REACTIONS, ETC ARE DIFFERENT. What one person suffering depression thinks may be different than another. Hannah Baker’s story is very unique in many ways yet also extremely relatable in many ways to many, many people and girls around the world. JUST BECAUSE YOUR STORY MAY BE DIFFERENT DOES NOT MEAN HERS IS INCORRECT OR LESS/MORE THAN ANOTHER’S. There are a lot of people who can relate to feeling as though you are NOTHING and of no worth to the people around you, just a burden that only disappoints everyone and makes their lives worse. This is a very real state of being and depression and feeling of complete worthlessness that people can reach in their lives, especially some young teenage girls, like Hannah Baker, and even myself, that will lead to suicidal thoughts, attempts, or completely following through with, like Hannah. They believe the world and their loved ones would be better off without them. Again, as someone who has attempted suicide as a teenager and worked for years to fight depression and overcome it, I can say that while the suicide scene did make me uncomfortable and was extremely painful to watch, I was not offended. I knew of the warning at the beginning of the episode, read it, and continued to watch because EVERYONE HANDLES THESE THINGS DIFFERENTLY. I UNDERSTOOD the purpose of including the scene and making it so graphic and realistic. IT’S REALITY, THIS IS HAPPENING TO PEOPLE EVERYDAY AND IT SHOULD NOT BE SUGARCOATED OR SHIELDED FROM THE WORLD; it needs to be made more AWARE OF by those who like to turn a blind eye to it, but it is exposed WITH WARNING. So again, if some feel as though a scene like this would be a trigger, IT IS ADVISED YOU DO NOT WATCH. Everyone is affected differently and they did not just insert it with no consideration for the affect it could have on those battling the same wars as Hannah.

To say Clay was an easy solution and could have saved Hannah by loving her—no, he could not have saved her by just loving her, that is not what this story is even saying. Hannah does explain at the end of her last tape as she exits the school that some people cared, but she felt it was only mediocre, not enough for her to want to stay and feel NEEDED and truly LOVED. So no, they are not saying Clay could have kept her alive by simply loving her, or that love can save someone, it is much more complex than that. What they are saying is that people can care, but not showing how much they truly care can affect someone in the ways it affected Hannah. It was not just one boy’s love that could have saved her, but the love and care of many people, for them to show that they truly cared about her being alive and DID NOT see her as worthless, an object, just another person on earth. She needed to feel as though they NEEDED her to stay, that they genuinely cared about her as a person and that her life was truly worth something, because she did not feel it was. When Clay says he could have kept her alive if he wasn’t so afraid to tell her he loved her, he simply means he could have given her a sense of hope, a sense of belonging on the earth, that someone truly, whole-heartedly valued her life and her as a human being, not an object.

The actress who plays Jessica also explained that she reached out to a family member who is an actual rape survivor, and she stated that she was pleased that the show was “not shying away from the ugliness” of these scenes because viewers will see what these people really go through–again, another topic that is usually sugarcoated and instead needs to be addressed.

13 Reasons Why is a unique way of telling the story of a teenage girl who committed suicide, and the reasoning for bringing it to screen was MOSTLY to promote awareness and shine light on things that are not talked about enough that the youth suffers every single day, things adults see as “normal teenager struggles,” “small stuff,” “it only feels like the end of the world and really isn’t,” etc. This show is being spread more than even expected, and that is a very good thing for those who are in need of help and have parents or peers that once ignored their problems and will now tend to them.


**an issue cannot be tended to/made aware of/more properly prevented if it is just sugarcoated rather than slapped in people’s faces (those who don’t realize how severe it is) like this show does. it can really change things and leave an impact.

**if you are at risk for triggers and do not feel you are currently healthy enough to watch this show, please take care of yourself and do not watch. or, skip episodes 9, 12, and 13 and read up on them instead. these are the episodes that can be triggers for those at risk, if you weren’t yet aware.

**also feel free to stop by my inbox and talk to me if you need someone to talk to, or just would like to speak more on the subject.

Familial vs. Romantic Love

There is a huge difference between romantic love and familial love.

Daryl treated Beth like an annoyance, like a kid sister, and then at the end, like a peer, gaining respect for her outlook on life in the shittiest of situations.  She helped him see that there were still good people in the world, despite his stubborn, self-destructive kick.  He was her protector.  He felt responsible for her.  He felt like a failure when she was taken, because he felt like he’d lost his last connection to his life at the prison, let another child he wanted to keep alive slip from his grasp.  

Daryl, rough, redneck, foul-mouthed Daryl took it upon himself to look for Sophia, made it his personal mission, couldn’t stand to see/hear Carol cry, went looking for her in the middle of hte night, risked his own life to try to find a little girl that everybody else thought was dead.  Even when her own mother’s hope faltered, he didn’t give up.

I think he felt things for Carol that he didn’t expect, that he hadn’t felt before toward anyone.  I think that’s part of why he lashed out when she said she couldn’t lose him too.  As painful as that moment in the barn is, I think that was the moment he felt in his own mind that his efforts to keep her hopes alive with the Cherokee Rose had failed.  He hadn’t found her yet.  He should have found her already.  I think he was frustrated with himself, put all that on himself since nobody else was.  He went out of his way to take Carol out to that patch of Cherokee Roses and offer an apology for his behavior.  Daryl Dixon apologized to a lady.

People see what they want to see.  They ignore what doesn’t fit into their opinion of a relationship.  They see a familial bond between Carol and Daryl, whether it’s sibling love or parental love, it’s the way they explain how close they are.

They don’t take into account that Daryl shies away from Carol’s flirting but doesn’t avoid her, doesn’t shut her down.  There is a playful undertone to their relationships, and they take his “stop” as him saying “No way in hell, I would never want you sexually” but don’t take into account that from what the audience knows, Daryl has never had this kind of relationship, never been close with anybody.  He was a victim of abuse as a child, to have someone take care of him, to even look at him in a way that isn’t full of pity or disgust, to have somebody tease him in ways that gets him flustered?  That’s something he’s likely never had to respond to.

Carol suggesting they screw around and the following banter that ends with his “stop” was not some shut down.  They laughed together.  They were close.  Daryl was the first one Carol looked for when the group came back from Woodbury.  She put her hand to her stomach and looked utterly gutted when Rick told her Daryl went off with Merle.

Daryl asked about Carol when he came back from his run in Peachtree for meds. He was angry, holding himself back when Rick told him he banished her.  He RAN to her, in front of everyone and held her close and cried after Terminus.  

He wanted to start over.

He followed her out of the church to bring her back to the group.  He had to be physically restrained from going to her when she was hit by the car and taken by the Grady Memorial cops.  Carol held him back from shooting up the place after that little girl he couldn’t save was killed while he stood by helplessly.  He struggled to find a place in Alexandria while Carol hid her true self under the guise of a helpless mother hen who had the taste for flowery sweaters.  They seemed to grow apart with lack of screen time together despite their moments together always showing him looking to her or their brief conversations driving deep to the heart of who they both were.  She could be real with him.  He could be real with her.  

She KNOWS him.  He KNOWS her.  She knew he had to let himself feel the losses, knew he carried that on him.  She knew he was the kind of man who put such responsibility on his own shoulders.  He did it with Beth like he did with Sophia.  He blamed himself entirely.

Daryl knew if Carol knew about Abraham and Glenn, she’d go right to the war, and it was after speaking with her, hearing it from her own mouth, he knew he had to lie to her, because he didn’t want to lose her and didn’t want her to lose herself.  He threatened a possible ally with death should any harm come to her, regardless if the harm came from Richard himself.  He doesn’t feel RESPONSIBLE for Carol.  Carol knows him better than anyone.  He knows HER.  He can’t stand the thought of losing her.  Not just because he’s lost so much, but because the idea of her being in harm is the one thing he cannot process.  He can’t lose her.  He loves her.  She means more to him than anything or anyone else.  Losing her would be the last straw for him.  So he lies to her, because he loves her, because he can’t lose her, too.

anonymous asked:

"i love you why did you leave me? Did I do something wrong?" Please also remember his mother died in a fire while he was off playing with the neighborhood kids. This is the second time he has lost the most important woman in his life when he was away from home. Daryl would obviously have been thrown right back to the moment he realized it was his house that was on fire, and his mom who was just gone. He absolutely would have felt like the helpless little boy he was when she opened the door.

Yes Nomy absolutly correct there. This a part of Daryl’s backstory that does not get talked about as often. The impact of that  kind of loss early in life. 

I was actually thinking about that when Carol told Morgan to tell anyone they knew that she was ‘gone’ and then Morgan tells Daryl that. It made me think of the story Daryl told Carl about his mom back in Season 3, in an effort to comfort the child, that there was no body ‘it didn’t even seem real.. she was just… gone..” And often times that’s worse because there is no closure, and for a child, it’s just like she left. This trauma happened so early in Daryl’s life and most likely left an unconcious imprint. Especially aided by the subsequent horror that was his life afterward. 

Daryl definitely lacked this important female influence in his life and contributed to the person he is now. His life had and a large part still is dominated by alpha males, who in his early life seemed to beat him down before he could grow the strength to resist it. A violently abusive father and an emotionally abusive brother  were the main influences in his life. He lacked the nuturing of a female figure in his life until Carol came along  gave him that along with the understanding as well.  And the unconditional love as well. Its not wonder she represents so many things to him now. And is in Norman’s words, more important to him than anything.

On the porch at her house he was very much that kid, a confused hurt child who didn’t understand why this person, who he loved so much, just disappeared on him. And that early loss I think would definitely play a part in his psyche at that moment. A grown man can feel this way, can be thrown back into what to him feels like a similar situation, only here, Carol wasn’t truly gone and here she was and he was still hurt. Still wary of that hurt again.  It is a testament to how much he loves her and how she means to him that he felt this way. 

A feeling he had every right to feel at that moment. Its still on his face when she hugs him, that confusion of love and hurt that only a child can have, that manifested itself in an adult  who has been through hell and back recently. 

The sight of Carol brings out this vulnerability that he tries to hide from others. Like she is with him, there’s no faking it there. 

(resuing this lovely gif by @hypernovadust)

He dosen’t fully hug her here even though he wants to. He just needs an explanation. Maybe even needs to know it wasn’t something he himself did or could’ve done. 

Sometimes I hear people confused by Daryl’s constant need to blame himself for all the shitty things that happen to him and the people around him, but I think i’ve always gotten it.  As a kid, losing his mom like that when he wasn’t there could definitely be an initial trigger point for his guilt complex, even though he had absolutely no blame, but many child psychatrists have said often feel guilt for these things, because, kids, unlike adults don’t think in the same rational ways. If you think about how hard it is for adults to deal with these things, imagine a child trying to. 

And if you combine that with the abuse he suffered in which he was most likely told things were constantly his fault than the guilt complex Daryl has makes perfect sense. 

Now there’s Carol, who is, without a doubt not only the most important women in Daryl’s life, but maybe the most important person to him in general, being just ‘gone’ of her own volition. This a women is pretty everything to him and she chose to leave this time. 

The funny thing about it is, and maybe even the most heartbreaking thing, is that he dosen’t appear to be all that angry with her, even though he’d have a right to be. He just seems hurt. Like that little kid who didn’t understand why his mother went away (in his mind) and now theres this woman he loves so damn much and she went away too and there was no goodbye. Nothing. Just gone. 

Maybe in his mind it was partly because of something he did or didn’t do. He knows a bit better now. He understands it and the last hug told a different story.

(another lovely one by the above artist :) )

Carol means the absolute world to him. That me is fairly obvious. The fact that the she can reduce to him that child he was is just another sign of how close they really are. And how much allows himself to that vulnerable in front of her, the way she does with him. 

That to me is one of the many many things I love about th relationship. 

Thanks for the ask hon :)

You know what’s great about chapter 520 and it’s title

A lot of things

-Irene/Erza thing has been put to rest
-We get to see our boi Natsu
-hopefully some inspiring words from igneel
-hopefully natsu taking a stand and being like “I ain’t no demon bitch I’m a fuckin dragon because I AM IGNEEL’S SON”
-hopefully a cure for natsu’s fuckin seedlings of death
-okay but nalu, I need it
-natsu could actually wake up and my heart is racing at the prospect
-gray. We could see gray again
-juvia. Could like. wakE UP TOO

-everyone could wake up and there can be a hugging party and happy is HAPPY AGAIN and Lucy isn’t worrying herself goddamn near death over natsu as much and natsu is happy because FUCK, HIS WIFE IS ALIVE AND HE LOVES HER I MEAN LOOK AT HER HAIR AND HER SPARKLING BROWN EYES, LOVE, MAN, LOVE AWAY, and gray and juvia have a fuckin makeout session while porlyusica is like “fuckin idiots” and evergreen and brandish are just hugging it out and whispering about all of their otps

This turned into a headcanon whoops I am not sorry

anonymous asked:

Imma admit somethin to you Cake. So initially imma admit, I found the second sexy times car scene kinda awk only cuz I wanted to see more synchronization from them or whatevs. I know, I'm ashamed, I was also upset that it was so rushed, blah,blah. Anyways but NOW I fucking love it and think it's the hottest thing. Lemme tell you the fact that it's rushed makes it hotter cuz it just means they can't get enough of each other. And she rolls on top but like all sloppy and he grabs her bootay! LOVE

I mean… I’m just glad you came to your senses, sis. Because yes, the way they’re rolling around all frantic and unsynchronized is exactly what makes it so hot. He’s in such a rush, he can’t even wait for her to get her clothes off, and she’s just like, fuck it. He’s grabbing and groping and kissing on everything and it’s just… whew. I’m in love with everything about that scene, except the fact that it’s so short. But even then, it tells you everything you need to know about their sex life.

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FAVORITE SHIP: Remadora

If you didn’t see this one coming, then you haven’t spent much time on my blog. 

Remadora is one of my favorite ships, full-stop. Inside the Harry Potter fandom, outside of the Harry Potter fandom. It’s just…I love them.
I’ve already covered that I love Remus because he reminds me of myself, but Tonks reminds me of who I wish I was (and the facade that I put up). She’s clumsy, a bit punk, non-conformist, fierce, and determined. 
When you put them together, they’re both halves of me…so…that’s cool.

They’re also just incredibly cute. I mean, she doesn’t care about his age or poverty or illness, all she cares about is him. She loves him, absolutely loves him. 
And you know what? He loves her, too. I mean, he’s a hard-headed git who thinks that he doesn’t deserve love, but in the end, they’re just……..tragically beautiful.

ted tonks hcs bc why not:

  • was going to be a rugby player when he grew up
  • like. his dad used to love it and had that kinda build anyway and would coach ted as he grew up
  • ted goes to a little league after school and his family would crowd around the tv on weekends and watch the game
  • comes from a family of woodcutters. i’m serious
  • grows up watching his dad chop wood and swinging a lil tiny axe of his own and working with like. miniature pieces of wood
  • never had very much?? but had like. the ideal childhood
  • i’m talking living in a cottage in the woods and going to a tiny state school, getting real muddy from trainings and running through bluebell-scattered meadows until his lungs were raw
  • one day he’s working in the yard w his dad when he’s like ten and he stops chopping wood and his dad’s like ‘what’s wrong ted?’ and he sighs and is like ‘dad. i just don’t understand’
  • ‘don’t understand what buddy??’
  • ‘why we have to chop wood when we can just do this’
  • and he makes a really sharp chopping movement with his arm
  • and five feet away the massive hunk of oak his dad’s been hacking away at for the past two hours just. splits clean in half
  • his dad’s mouth is agape and he calls into the cottage like ‘sweetheart! come out here, would you??’
  • and they puzzle around ted for a while and try to work out the kinks but within five minutes of looking at him with really quizzical expressions theyr just like. holy fuck our kid is amazing.
  • and by this time ted is not only smart enough but humble enough to keep it under wraps and he doesn’t even have to do it for very long anyway
  • bc a year a later they get the letter from mcgongall and ted’s dad calls him out to the living room of the cottage and they all start screaming and hugging and crying bc. their little teddy is going to magic school
  • heads straight off to scotland and starts at hogwarts and he fucking loves it
  • like care of magical creatures and herbology and anything v outdoors-y. it reminds him of home
  • he does get v homesick ngl
  • esp for his mum
  • and coming from such a tiny, well-knit community as well?? he really struggled to leave behind all the friends he’d grown up with. his rugby team in particular.
  • but the lie was easy to get around considering that his parents just say that they’re sending him off to a larger boarding school near london where he can pursue rugby
  • and ted was kinda a primary school heartthrob anyway and like. it doesn’t help when he comes back during the holidays looking gorgeous and cheeky and several feet taller than the last time
  • he is. well. he’s gorgeous
  • he grows up before he grows out so there are a few years around the 14-year-old mark when he’s v tall and v lanky but only a few people can tell that he’s set to be one of the most broad-shouldered fucks in the grade
  • and by the time he’s sixteen. well.
  • he gives andromeda black a fucking heart attack
  • bc he waltzes into school on the first day of sixth year and he’s all 6ft and broad, broad shoulders and sandy-coloured hair, these really cheeky bright green eyes and a roguish grin that’s so shit-eating it’s no wonder half the school go into cardiac arrest
  • he practically lives in flannel shirts ngl
  • and it’s not really a surprise that he’s a hufflepuff?? bc like
  • he practically lives in the kitchens and thrives off the warmth and light of it
  • gave quidditch a shot on the recommendation of the school considering the fact that he’d make a great keeper but?? doesn’t really get into it
  • it’s not the same as rugby and he can respect that but it’s not enough for him to get on a broom
  • he’s kinda traditional and straight-laced?? idk it’s just the way his mum raised him
  • courts girls v ceremoniously and has a thing abt flowers and where to buy the best ones in season
  • but yes. holds the door opens, pulls out the chair for them to sit down on, offers to take their coat, etc.
  • classic 1950’s gentlemen ok
  • patronus is probably some kind of terrier let’s be honest
  • struggles w andromeda bc. here he has the most amazing, beautiful woman and he’s just. so enamoured w her but he can’t do anything abt it??
  • he wants to give her all the best things in life and everything that she deserves but he can’t
  • he can’t take her out on dates, he can’t leave her flowers, he can’t tell her he loves her
  • and he respects her boundaries and waits for her every day but it still hurts
  • it hurts not to be with her
  • and that’s how he knows he’s in love with her
  • it’s probably like when they’re sitting at their respective house tables and she’s w her sisters and he’s w his mates and they lock eyes and he’s grinning at her but she can’t smile back
  • and it kills him and the fact that it hurts him so bad just makes him go ‘fuck it’
  • and that’s when he knows
  • goes home as often as he can to visit his parents
  • really wanted a little sister when he was younger and was like?? probably really close to getting one
  • but his mum got sick when he was in hogwarts, when ted’s around the 16/17 mark
  • and she dies and the most lost he’s ever felt is when he’s back in the house w his dad and she’s not there
  • it’s so empty and cold and quiet. like. so fucking quiet
  • his mum probably only met andy once before she died and even though she never got to see them get married she like. fucking knew
  • she fucking knew it and ted tears his whole room apart bc she knew. she knew even when he didn’t. even when none of them knew
  • and he stands in the church yard on the day of the funeral
  • and the grass is incredibly green and the day is incredibly bleak and grey and his dad has never looked so old in his life
  • but across the graveyard he can see this really dark, muddied figure
  • and she makes her way towards him and her hair is braided out of her face and her eyes are red and her face is ashen and tight
  • she’s dressed all in black and moves v softly
  • and then andromeda black is standing right in front of him and ted can’t breathe
  • but she reaches out to him and even though she’s several feet shorter than him she doesn’t waver as she holds him and he sobs raggedly into her shoulder
  • she was always the strongest out of the two of them. the most unbreakable. and she holds him and holds him and holds him in that sea of green and grey and doesn’t let go
  • he gets out of the grief of it the only way he knows how. out and through.
  • and with andy holding his hand and several hundred cups of tea he’s like. not ok but he knows that he will be, one day.
  • he was probably a really good photographer?? like he gets v invested in the world of film photography and fucking loves it
  • has no idea what he wants to do when he grows up but again. loves the idea of photography
  • probably that fucker who loves camping in the countryside i’m not even joking
  • revels in his v simple lifestyle and wants nothing more for himself
  • nor does he want anything more for andromeda
  • ted represents everything she could ever want, simplicity and safety and freedom
  • i think one of the first dates he ever takes her on once they’re out of hogwarts would probably be horseback riding and i mean. come on
  • she’s like ‘is this fucker for real’
  • they’re both like. nineteen when baby tonks is born and she’s sleeping rlly soundly in andy’s arms and her hair is just changing softly, pink, blue, pink, blush, purple, mint, and back to pink again
  • and they both wondered how they managed to make something so little, so perfect
  • and she’s the closest thing to the little sister he always wanted but she’s not. she’s his. and she’s better. and he loves her.
  • i mean. loves her. adores her. adores watching her grow up, takes such good care of her, encourages her idiosyncrasies and teaches her to ride a bike and plays rugby with her, watches her climb trees and buys her a scooter for her fifth birthday
  • and one day they’re all together in that little cottage on the edge of the woods and like.
  • they’re all there
  • and they’re all together
  • and it’s the happiest he’s ever been in his life
  • basically hot af broad-shouldered ted tonks with his roguish grin and steady hands and a heart of gold
True Love’s Kiss

based on this post.


It’s my fault that he’s here.

Well, maybe it was the dragon’s fault, but I still should have done something about it. Simon was channeling all of his magic into me, practically leaking energy. And I couldn’t control it.

The dragon was taking a huge breath, getting ready to incinerate both of us, and I was really fucking freaked out. So, I kind of just unleashed Simon’s magic and it ended up turning the dragon into a lizard. And throwing Simon into a brick wall. Hard.

So now he’s here, at Watford, in the hospital wing, in a coma. And I can’t even make some snide comment about how he’s drooling because he can’t hear me.

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Let’s talk a little about “I love you.”

First off, I’m talking from a point of view of writing and storytelling. I’m no expert, but there is logic that goes into writing scenes and arcs and setting up and paying off various things. Scenes are finely tuned machines. Decisions have been made. Words were put down in a deliberate order to create a specific effect.

So. The show introduces a concept in the “I love you” scene:

It’s hard to say “I love you” when you actually mean it.

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25 Reasons Natsu and Lucy are canon and meant to be:

1. Natsu managed to break the love charm on Lucy in the first episode, which can only happen when you see your true love.
2. Natsu is ultra-protective of Lucy, always desperate to save her and threatening anyone who so much as makes her cry or even remotely unhappy. Happy has noted that when it comes to saving Lucy, he won’t listen to reason. He himself said in episode 206, “ If you know me, you know I don’t let anyone get away with hurting Lucy’s feelings.”
3. Lucy only really blushes around Natsu, whether he’s just saying her name or thanking her or “flirting”. Especially in situations where Natsu shows he cares for her very much.
4. Natsu is always seeking out Lucy’s attention or space, like the numerous times he’s been in her room, her bed,her bath. In episode 5, 10 and others like them, he has insisted they do things because they’re a team. Also, he likes to incorporate himself in anything she’s doing with kinda bogus excuses for doing it, like episode 222.
5. In episode 127, the one with invisible Lucy, he was the only one to unconsciously and instinctively remembers Lucy, proclaiming she “completes” him. Lucy is so essential to him and everyone can see it. He even declared that they had to be together on missions, otherwise it “wouldn’t be the same”.
6. At times, Natsu is very considerate of Lucy’s feelings, like when her dad died and he was yelling at those brats for being idiots or when he thought she was stalked and kept watch over her. Also, when she is worried about her rent, like in episode 51 and 124, he tries to find a way to help her.
7. Lucy is the only one Natsu loans important things to, such as his scarf and jacket/vest (episode 226). Lucy is protective of the scarf because she knows it’s important to Natsu.
8. Can’t stand it when Lucy leaves or he doesn’t know where she is, like in episode 29, when they thought she left the guild or 51, when she disappeared before a mission and he went chasing after her to make sure she was okay.
9. He notices about everything concerning Lucy, even if it’s negative, like how much she weighs and things like that.
10. When future Lucy went to heaven or whatever it was, that Natsu was waiting for her, running down to grab her hand so they could have more adventures together.
11. Natsu was especially affected when future Lucy was killed, crying, insisting on keeping his promise and determined to get future Rouge for murdering Lucy.
12. Episode 73, he was so sad when Lucy couldn’t come to the festival and couldn’t seem to have fun without her. He ripped up a rainbow sakura tree so Lucy could see it, despite knowing their would be consequences. But her happiness mattered more.
13. In episode 112, when they were talking about the next episode and Happy asked Natsu if he thought of anything besides food, everything he listed had to do with Lucy. Happy even said to write it all down, meaning there was a lot more that Natsu thought about concerning Lucy.
14. When Lucy is in danger, his first priority is to rescue her. Like the Infinity clock arc, the Edolas arc, the time she was taken by the royal guards for the eclipse project, etc. Basically, he can’t stand it if she’s potentially hurt.
15. He’s called her cute, a goddess, really nice, tough as nails, incredible, weird (I think he thinks that’s a compliment), she’s called him a nice guy, dependable, and sweet. ‘Nuff said.
16. Happy has been saying for a while that they likeeeeeee each other and we’ve seen before that Happy’s theories were right, so why not this theory?
17. In the majority of the theme songs, they’ve displayed Lucy and Natsu as the main characters, now along with Erza, Gray and Wendy, meaning those five are linked together and since Wendy has Romeo, Erza has Jellal and Gray has Juvia, Nalu will ultimately happen.
18. They trust each other and work the best out of everyone. Majority of their adventures are with each other. Whether they work solo or a duo, they have complete faith in the other.
19. Natsu seemed jealous of Dan, demanding he stop the lovey dovey crap with her.
20. When that wedding moment happened in episode 163, when it looked like Lisanna would be with Natsu, they ended it with Lucy and him together, meaning they are paired together.
21. Episode 177, he whispered her name in his sleep. Just…HE WHISPERED HER NAME IN HIS SLEEP! And they tied Natsu up to stop him from going after her. Then, he gave up his position in a fight, something he loves, to save her, meaning he must love her more.
22. Knows Lucy’s scent enough to recognize it anywhere, like when he knew future Lucy was Lucy by smelling her or in episode 226, when he caught her scent despite the bunny suit blocking it.
23. Lucy was the only one he said goodbye to in episode 265, albeit by note which was kinda cowardly, he still gave her a parting gesture. Everyone else, he just left hanging. Then, when he came back, he was so happy to see her and vice versa.
24. Natsu also said in episode 277 that he could tell when Lucy was upset, meaning he’s in tune with her feelings a lot more than it may seem. He must pay close attention or at least be close enough to her to notice her. And you know Lucy knows Natsu enough to know him.
25. They have these moments that seem insignificant, but when you pay close attention, they all lead to the same conclusion: They are meant to be!

You don’t understand. I — I made a grave mistake in marrying Tonks. I did it against my better judgment and I have regretted it very much ever since. Don’t you understand what I’ve done to my wife and my unborn child? I should never have married her, I’ve made her an outcast! You have only ever seen me amongst the Order, or under Dumbledore’s protection at Hogwarts! You don’t know how most of the Wizarding world sees creatures like me! When they know of my affliction, they can barely talk to me! Don’t you see what I’ve done? Even her own family is disgusted by our marriage, what parents want their only daughter to marry a werewolf? And the child — the child — my kind don’t usually breed! It will be like me! I am convinced of it — how can I forgive myself, when I knowingly risked passing on my own condition to an innocent child? And if, by some miracle, it is not like me, then it will be better off, a hundred times so, without a father of whom it must always be ashamed!
— 

Remus Lupin, Deathly Hallows

I honestly think that this is one of the single best pieces of dialogue that Remus has ever given us. This is so insightful, and it’s a really nice window into the real Remus that nobody ever gets to see. He’s not the teacher Harry is accustomed to anymore: he’s been stripped down into something smaller than all of his disguises, to bare his raw feelings on his sleeve such that it becomes clear that Remus is breaking down.

“I did it against my better judgment and I have regretted it very much ever since.”

This is a lie, but not exactly without truth. Remus loves Tonks. He loves her so much that it actually scares him, because he’s never let himself love someone else before. But he’s also scared because he feels that he’s ruined her life by becoming her husband, and he loves her–which means that even though he does care for her, he has hurt her simply by loving her back. Remus is afraid of himself and his affliction, and even though he does everything in his power and then some to make sure Tonks is not directly affected by it in any way (aside from helping care for Remus) he is convinced that just through power of association that he has ruined Tonks’ life. He feels that he is toxic to others by sheer presence alone. He doesn’t regret marrying Tonks because he doesn’t love her, he regrets marrying Tonks because he thinks that in doing so he has permanently scarred her, hurt her. His arguments for not being in a relationship with her are not personality based. They aren’t even about her. They’re about him, about what he offers Tonks as a man.

“I am too old for you, too poor….too dangerous….”

That little pause between the words is actually a huge giveaway. Yes, sure, he’s much older than Tonks, he hasn’t got a lot of money to provide for her, but he is also very dangerous and the fact that that was the last thing he said (particularly after hesitating) means that it is the most important thing on his mind.

“You have only ever seen me amongst the Order, or under Dumbledore’s protection at Hogwarts! You don’t know how most of the Wizarding world sees creatures like me!”

This is–sad. Actually, legitimately sad. “Creatures like me.” Remus doesn’t even consider himself human. He believes that he is second class or lower, unworthy. He believes that he is tainted, and that even though his body is human and his mind is human that because he suffers from this disease that he is no longer a human, no longer a person. Remus sees himself as a creature–something subhuman, and indeed something wild and dangerous. He believes that the Order treats him with respect because he is under protection from Dumbledore, but is clearly suspicious that they would not feel the same without the Order binding them all together through necessity. He suspects that they harbor misgivings about him because he’s a werewolf–and why not, when that is exactly the sort of thing that made even his own best friend turn on him in the First War? He’s suggesting that even Harry might think of him differently if he had been raised like the rest of the Wizarding world, and that people like him and James are a fluke of nature who go against everything the rest of the world believes about werewolves, and he’s probably right. (Arguably Harry would change his mind, just as Ron did, but if he had been raised by, say, the Weasleys or another wizarding family he would share the commonly held beliefs in wizard society just like Ron did.)

“Even her own family is disgusted by our marriage, what parents want their only daughter to marry a werewolf?”

I wish we knew more about whether this was true, because Andromeda Tonks was no typical witch. She married out of the Black family and rejected their pureblood mania before having Tonks with the Muggle-born Ted Tonks. She was burned off the Black family tree. I think if anyone could support an unusual marriage in the name of love, it would be Andromeda. And Ted? Remus’ child is named after him. I don’t think a poor relationship fosters such an act. Truthfully, I think this is Remus digging deep into his own fears and loosing track of what’s real. His anxiety is so out of control that he’s essentially lied to himself about what is actually happening. In his mind, how can they not hate him? They must hate him. They have to hate him. He can’t fathom it. Any dislike Tonks’ parents may have of him is automatically, to Remus, the result of him being a werewolf. And this compounds his anxiety immensely.

And the child — the child — my kind don’t usually breed!

Again, more of Remus dehumanizing himself. Remus doesn’t say “my people,” or “werewolves don’t usually”, he says “my kind.” His species. And he uses the term “breed”, which sounds primal. Humans don’t “breed,” they give birth. They procreate. Animals breed.

“-how can I forgive myself, when I knowingly risked passing on my own condition to an innocent child?”

Remus is going back to his own childhood, to his own ingrained feelings about Fenrir Greyback. He’s comparing himself having a baby with his wife to the savage act of purposely infecting a 4-year-old child over a put down. He’s essentially saying that once he agreed to consummate his marriage, to make love with his wife, that he became no better than Greyback because he knew he could infect an innocent person and chose to go ahead anyway. Remember, up until Teddy Lupin was born, nobody knew whether lycanthropy could be transmitted through childbirth because Teddy Lupin is actually unprecedented. So Remus is heading into completely new territory with his condition as well as facing his internal guilt at what he thinks must automatically be the outcome.

And if, by some miracle, it is not like me, then it will be better off, a hundred times so, without a father of whom it must always be ashamed!

“If, by some miracle, my child is spared being a werewolf, he’s going to be much better off without me in his life because I am nothing but a source of shame who will ruin his entire life from the very start just by being his father.” Remus is really laying on the self-loathing thick here. This isn’t about his worries anymore, this is him slamming on himself and digging the knife further into his chest because he thinks he deserves it. Remus can’t hide the fact that he loathes what he is in private conversation–it just comes out with his tone. But this is him outright proclaiming to be the monster everyone has always told him he is, because no matter the kind of person Remus may be he is still a werewolf and still as unworthy to raise a child as the monsters he knows all too well. Remus would rather not be in the life of his child at all because he thinks that, just like Tonks, the only thing he can offer it is pain and hurt, and he loves it–and Tonks– too much to burden them with what he is.

And so he goes to Harry, seeking to join him on what is effectively a likely suicide mission to deal with the Horcruxes. He wants to disappear, and if he dies in battle at least he will have died heroically and perhaps that will minimize Tonks’ hurt at having lost him: her husband was a hero, at least he was that.

Remus is ultimately thankful that Harry yells at him, because it gave him the shock enough to be able to take a step back and realize how far he was deluding himself and how wrong he was. He saw that rather than being the brave man and suffering for his family, he was abandoning them. And Remus proved his Gryffindor nature by plucking the courage to go back to a very pregnant Tonks and demand the forgiveness of an incredibly powerful auror. And more than that, he found the courage to be a father and raise his family even knowing the risks. Even if it turned out to be groundless, the act of facing his fears is remarkable. And this little piece of the Deathly Hallows is perhaps my favorite for that reason.

headcanon: naruto

so i don’t know if they would have used vows in their wedding, but imagine Naruto trying to write his if they did. imagine him pacing the room, practicing out loud the words he’d already written down, and then dramatically dropping to the floor to scratch them out because damn it they’re not good enough

imagine him carrying a little notepad around with him for an entire week, jotting things down and scribbling down a really good thought when it came to him in a moment of ah-ha! inspiration. maybe while he was walking with Hinata, or watching her prune and plant flowers, or seeing her pause to help someone while they were out shopping, imagine him just being repeatedly floored by her and ending up with a notebook full of one-liners and single thoughts on why he loves her and what she means to him.

imagine him sitting up at night trying to string everything together, to make it sound perfect and flow perfectly, instead of the choppy sentences he’d managed so far. imagine him getting frustrated and disappointed in himself, ripping the pages and angrily crumpling them up before throwing them into the growing pile in the corner. 

imagine him wishing Jiraya were around because damn that man may have been a perv but he could string words like no other. so maybe he goes to Iruka instead and paces in his living room, just rambling about Hinata and what she means to him, how he was in idiot all those years, how much he loves her and how he always, in some way he didn’t understand, always loved her and imagine Iruka writing it all down and the two piecing together the perfect vow for Naruto to recite tomorrow

now just imagine him standing before his beautiful beautiful bride and completely blanking on everything and just whispering “I love you”.

(he ends up reciting the vow to her later on their honeymoon)

anonymous asked:

Man that killervibe scene where Cisco had said "I think about all the memories I cherish the most and you're in every single one of them Caitlin" hit me really hard. It was my favorite scene! I mean she did not say anything really harsh to him afterwards like she did when Julian had told her that he loved her. I mean she could have said "I hated the memories you were in" but she didn't. This makes me think that part of her still is Caitlin! What was your favorite scene?

The fact that Killer Frost didn’t retaliate says a lot, obviously Caitlin is still looming on the outside - her facial expressions in that scene said it all.

My favourite scene was definitely that one.

So inside out spoilers ahead….


I’ve come to the conclusion that Bing Bong is the darkest thing Disney/Pixar has ever done.

I know what you’re thinking, but what about Mufasa/Bambi’s mom? That’s dark yes but at least their children were aware of what happened. Riley won’t ever know. It didn’t mean anything to her cause she didn’t know, she hadn’t even thought of him for years!

That was Bing Bongs whole arc, it was him accepting he’d never be important to her again, that he wasn’t ever going to be part of her life again. He could never take her to the moon.

He made the ultimate sacrifice for Riley because of how much he loved her and it doesn’t mean anything to her at all. He cared about her more than anything and he was nothing more than a vacant memory to her, he’ll never be anything more than that to her and all he wanted to do was play with her one more time…and he never got to.

It literally hurts so fucking much.

i find it so pathetic when people say that when a guy cries over a girl it means that he really loves her i mean, it’s not like a girl who cries over a boy doesn’t love him just as much
im not gonna cry over someone who doesn’t mean shit to me
just understand that all people show emotions differently and stfu