Reason #13: Where is Jon’s “heart in conflict”?
Let’s play devil’s advocate here and say that J/D shippers are right and Jon was actually madly in love with Queen Dracarys…let’s imagine this to be the case…
Then how come we don’t get to see Jon expressing any kind of inner turmoil or struggle, or indeed any sort of regret or reflection about the fact that his decision making progress might be in some way blinded or influenced by his feelings for Dracarys? He knows what became of Robb who had an extremely similar kind of scenario going for him…Jon knows and he REMEMBERS…
And yet, IF - as some Joncarys shippers might argue - Jon was (like Robb) so incredibly taken with
lust love and doesn’t give a shit about the North, his family, or how his people will react to his bending the knee, basically throwing all of them at Dracarys’ feet “out of love” - then WHY do we never see him express this in any shape or form (a simple “I love you” anything approaching this - that is not ‘boat banging’). The scene leading up to the boat bang could have done this SO easily: Jon comes to her, he tells her how he feels, she assures him that they will find a way to reconcile their love with the expectations and fears of the Northerners, they kiss, they bang. End of story.
But nope. Jon hesitates, but we do not know why - and if his hesitation was indeed Jon’s only moment of thinking “Keep the North or Bang the Dragon?” and then deciding “Fuck it, imma get me some dragon ass!” this would be the worst two second conflict played out silently in the dark, making Jon seem more lecherous than Pycelle and at the same time more stupid than Robb…
Why is the only conversation Jon and Davos have about his “feelings” for Dracarys Jon assuring Davos that No, he is NOT interested in her, even if she’s beautiful, he is all consumed with worrying about the WW and the North. Why is there no scene where Jon tells Davos that he is in love with her - and that he is not SURE what what to do, that he is losing sight of what is right or wrong to act, or that he must try to be both ‘true’ to the North and ‘true’ to Dracarys - his supposedly ‘great love.’
Why is Jon so SURE that he knows what he’s doing and that he is in CONTROL of the situation, to the point where he pulls moves in the dragon pit that NO ONE understands, but that leave him still with the upper hand.
GRRM is often quoted by fans with his great love for “the human heart in conflict with itself” which is supposed to be at the core of his story of ice and fire…
So…why do we not get to “see” Jon’s heart “in conflict with itself” when there is so much to be conflicted over? His family, his honor, his loyalties, his home, his father’s legacy, his brother’s mistakes, his “Sister” whom he swore to protect, to not let anyone touch her again, his beloved other siblings whom he thought dead (that scene alone: that “non-reaction” of Jon’s to Arya and Bran’s arrival at WF had me think “Is this all we get in terms of Jon’s inner world - no joy, no feels, nothing?”)
If I had to describe Jon in S7 in three terms they would be: (in)control, guarded and Knowing.
We all know that IF Jon had gone the EXACT same path as Robb (KitN - then falling for the “wrong” woman and prioritizing his relationship with her above all else) it would not only paint the entire show and its writing as repetitive and unimaginative to the tenth degree BUT it would also reveal Jon to be by far the DUMBEST character on the entire show, someone who still believes that it is ok to think with his dick rather than his brain while he full well KNOWS that doing so has cost his brother his head and his title, broken his family, enslaved the North to the Boltons and Lannisters and broken his family’s legacy and all their alliances in the North. MORE SO: Jon not only has the warning example of Robb, hell, he FELT the KNIVES going into his body, he EXPERIENCED the consequences of unreflected actions based on emotions rather than rational thought.
Jon, too, is a SLOW LEARNER. But he LEARNS.
We know that if Jon was truly in love with Dracarys he would have been seen to SUFFER some kind of conflict of “home” or “heart” and we would have known about it. It would in fact have made the entire supposed “courtship” a lot more credible if we had been able to really see inside Jon’s head and heart in this season and seen the struggle there regarding Dracarys and regarding the North that he seems to just have flung at her as if it mattered nothing to him.
Jon gave Dracarys the North when he did not need to do it, when in fact, in a situation where it made zero sense to do it. He called her Queen when he need not have done it, because she already saved him and his men and said she believed him. These are things that only two sorts of people do:
Someone who is so thirsty for dragon ass that he can’t contain himself and spills his sudden, uncalled for effusions of loyalty to her like verbal diarrhea…
….or someone who knows exactly what he is doing. Someone who has much more at stake than just who will sit on the stupid iron chair. Someone who is *desperate* to secure the usage and power of three nuclear dragons; someone has spent all his waking time planning to defeat the Night King, the White Walkers, all their zombies, to save his home, the North, his family, his people(s) (meaning the Northerners AND the Wildlings) from almost certain death. Someone who has thousands of lives, men, women, children depending on him, looking to him, trusting him…
As Sansa once said: “Jon is Jon.” when explaining to Brienne why she trusts him so implicitly and assuring her that he will “protect” her. Always. Now, Jon may or may not become known as “Aegon” at some point, whether we like it or not. But of one thing I’m convinced:
Jon IS Jon and he will NOT be Robb Stark 2.0.
If Sansa tells us this, I believe her.