he's an adult who makes the wrong choices

To all the people commenting that D.va is 19 and an adult in regards to Som.va...

Where the hell were you when there was bunnyribbit discourse? I’ve gotten 5 page dissertations on why Lucio is too old for D.va. That to ship D.va and Lucio romantically is skeezy and problematic. That Lucio would be preying on her (also this is Lucio we’re talking about too, the only preying he’s be doing is if someone asked him to do an impression of a preying mantis). But now Sombra’s out and D.va’s magically an adult? Don’t get me wrong, I agree with you. D.va can make her own choices and if you want her to be with Sombra go ahead. I’m just a little suspicious on why “D.va is an adult and can choose who she wants”  idea is suddenly coming in droves.

I mean, I try to not think about the fact that Black men are often banned from being paired White/Asian women in the media because Black men are often portrayed as thugs, savages, and “players” and they couldn’t possibly be paired with the Pure White Woman™ and the Meek and Shy Asian Woman.™ And even worse all those stereotypes I just listed are terrible for all parties above. Also my family is in show businesses. My mother has come  home after overhearing an outrageous comment about how this black male character would be “too intense” to be a white female character’s love interest (ain’t that a trip?). So in comes D.va and Lucio who talk to each other like they’re equals and enjoy each other’s talents. And it’s a biracial pairing with both as POC? I instantly called up FedEx for next day shipping, bruh.

“But Som.va is a PoC biracial ship and lgbtqa!” You’ll probably message in my inbox. Again, that’s friggin awesome. But that fact the you pick and choose battles and ignore people getting shamed for liking Bunnyribbit and then turning around and defending Som.Va makes me give you the side eye. And yes, its a female/male ship. I say f/m because it is not a hetro-ship because I headcanon Lucio as bisexual and D.va as demisexual. *holds your face close to mine* But even if they were both straight, a biracial PoC couple is underrepresented in the media and needs representation. *lets go of your face*

So we know it ain’t age when you guys weren’t speaking up because Sombra is whopping 11 years older than D.va, while Lucio is 7 years older. So then what was it?

Originally posted by theprincess-1994

You know what Logan gives Rory that no one else does? Autonomy. Logan has always always always respected Rory’s choices. Rory drops out of Yale? Logan doesn’t like it but knows Rory is an adult who can make her own decisions. Rory decides to take an internship with his dad? Warns Rory what Mitchum is like but doesn’t stop her. Before having sex with Rory? Asks for verbal consent- twice. When Rory wants to date him? Tells her upfront that he’s not a boyfriend guy so she has the chance to back off. Logan is literally the only person in Rory’s life that respects Rory can make decisions on her own, regardless of whether he thinks she’s right or wrong.

Today I tried to work but ended up ranting about how a film where a man must find a lover or be turned into a lobster in a dystopian society has too normal an idea of relationships (Potentially triggering?)

The film is literally called the Lobster, and is set in a world where being in a relationship is compulsory.

If you are an adult and single for more than 6 months, you are turned into an animal of your choice (in the case of the main character, a lobster). He’s near the end of his time to find a new partner and so checks into a hotel specalising in hooking people up. After his attempts to make a partnership go wrong, he tricks the woman he was trying to partner with into being turned into an animal before fleeing and meeting a group called the Loners, who go the other way and reject all romantic relationships to the point that they dig their own graves rahter than have someone left around to handle the burial. The leader of the Loners bans all relationships to the point were when one of them falls in love, she gives him the choice between shooting his love interest or being shot himself. He chooses the former, confirming her idea that all romantic relationships are ultimately fake.
The main character and another one of the loners fall for each other, initially due to their shared experience of being short sighted. She is caught and blinded, and the movie ends with him trying to work out whether to blind himself in solidatary, since they bonded over their vision, or not to. We don’t see the result.

My big issue with the movie is that, while it is trying to satire social beliefs about romance, ultimately it comes down firmly at what I think most people would consider the social default. The word aromantic literally never appears in the script, and while the Loners are portrayed as victims of the social forces (literally hunted down with traq darts by people trying to extend their time as a human), the actual idea of permenantly being single is never really explored by the movie in a non-overblown way. The main character still ends up in a relationship, and the message is more about the importance of being careful with how you enter relationships, not actually challenging the underlying social idea that a romantic relationship is a universal good.