he uses me as an example a lot

Rick and Morty’s Stutters

So I’ve noticed in a lot of Rick and Morty fan comics and fanfictions (not that there’s a lot of) that people try to incorporate Rick and Morty’s stuttering, which I absolutely love as a person who stutters and went to speech therapy for several years. However, I often times see people just making them stutter on random words, or have them stutter on literally every word, which is not how stuttering works at all. To help everyone out, here’s a quick guide on Rick and Morty’s stuttering that I complied while watching some episodes. 

Morty’s Stuttering:

Morty tends to stutter more at the beginning of sentences, and at certain conjunctions (connector words that attach two sentences together - think “and”). His stuttering seems to get worse when he is under pressure, overcome by emotion, or when he’s thinking fast. 

He mostly seems to stutter on:

  • the T/Th sound, when followed by an “a” or “e”
  • the J sound, when starting a rushed sentence or saying the word “just”
  • the B sound, mainly when saying the “buh” sound or the word “but”
  • the D sound, mainly when saying the “duh”  or “di” sound
  • the Y sound, usually when saying the word “you”
  • the I, as in the word “I” or “I’m” or on the word “it”
  • the W sound, usually on question words (”Who/What/Where/When”) especially when he’s rushed, or the word “we”
  • the H sound, when starting a question (think the word“how”?)
  • the L sound, at the start of sentences and when followed by “e”

Morty will also say the same words twice in the same sentence when he’s stuttering, because he either is talking too fast and couldn’t get all the words out smoothly or because he stuttered while saying it. A lot of people that stutter do this. An example would be:

“Aw, geez, Rick! Did - did you really have to shoot that alien in front of everyone?”

See? The repeated word was “did”. Here’s an example of him stuttering and repeating some words:

“Aw, geez, Rick! Did - did you really have to shoot that alien in front of everyone? J-Jessica will never talk to me again! Th-that’s it! You’ve gone too far!” 

He also uses “Rick” often times as a “crutch” word, or a word he repeats a lot unknowingly when talking. People who don’t stutter even have crutch words as well, so this is not really related to his stuttering but more to his speech pattern. He usually only repeats his crutch word when talking to or about Rick, which Rick then does in vice versa with Morty’s name. 

Rick’s Stuttering: 

Rick seems to stutter more in the beginning of sentences, in the middle, and when he’s drunk. It gets worse when he’s burping, trying to talk his way out of something, or when he’s angry. 

He mostly stutters on:

  • the Y sound, or more specifically the word “you”
  • the Sh sound, especially when he’s drunk and when its followed by “e”
  • the I sound, especially on “I”, “I’ll”, or “it’s”
  • the Th sound, followed by “a” or “e”
  • the D sound, mainly when saying the “duh”  or “di” sound
  • the W sound, on question words or the word “we”
  • the H sound, on the word “how”
  • the C sound, on words like “can”
  • the M sound, mostly when he’s drunk

He will also repeat his words a lot too, and does so a lot more when he burps in the middle of them. Like I said earlier, he often uses Morty’s name as a crutch word, especially when talking to him, and he will stutter usually while saying it. An example of Rick talking would be:

“Y-you know what, Morty? Maybe I had a reason to shoot that alien! Sh-she was a parasite alien, Morty!, and was going to plant eggs in everybody at y-your school!”

However, I didn’t make him stutter on all of the words/letters/sounds he has trouble with. People who stutter can often times correctly say their trouble words with no problem, if they think about it or if it’s just by chance. I wrote Morty’s sentences like this too, seeing as he doesn’t always stutter on his trouble words either. Also, stuttering usually doesn’t happen more than once or twice in a sentence. 

Example conversation with Rick and Morty stuttering:

“Aw, geez, Rick! Did - did you really have to shoot that alien in front of everyone? J-Jessica will never talk to me again! Th-that’s it! You’ve gone too far!”

“Y-you know what, Morty? Maybe I had a reason to shoot that alien! Sh-she was a parasite alien, Morty!, and was going to plant eggs in everybody at y-your school!”

“I don’t care, Rick! That was one my shot with Jessica! I’m - I’m never talking to you again!”

“Aw, c’mon, Morty! You- you can’t be serious! Th-this’ll all blow over in a week.”

“I-I’m serious, Rick! You’re - you’re such a dick!”

“Fine, you little asshole! We’ll see what happens next time you’re in trouble! I-I won’t help you at all!”

Well, that’s about it for this post. Feel free to add anything or make corrections! I may later edit in some of Rick and Morty’s trouble word/sounds I missed earlier. If you have any questions, shoot me as ask. 

How to let go of your ex once and for all (even if it feels impossible)

It took me nearly 3 years to get over my ex boyfriend. If you have ever been through a breakup, you know it is one of the hardest most heart-wrenching things to go through.

After weeks of fighting, the day came where there was no other option than to break up. When he left my house that day I felt like he had ripped off a piece of my soul. I had loved this man with all my heart, it was a raw all consuming intense kind of love. I couldn’t grasp the reality of what had happened. My best friend came over and I was just lying there with lykke li’s song possibility on repeat. I had cried for hours and there was no life left in my eyes. 

For the first few months after the breakup I was in denial and I went into party mode, but not dealing with the pain slowly started to take its toll. And eventually (also because of some other factors) I fell into a deep black depression that would last for about a year. After the depression it still took me a long time to completely let him go.

It was the hardest and most valuable experience of my life.

So what helped me to let him go?

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anonymous asked:

Can i ask how you go about painting your backgrounds?? They always look so nice and I end up staring at them bc W O W

AWAWA!! THANK U ANON!!!! i actually struggle a LOT w/ bgs thats why most of my artwork doesnt have them.. but im trying to change that…


im no expert in these sorts of things, but i was fortunate enough to be mentored by @snatti who helped me with backgrounds and color theory (PLS GO SUPPORT HIS PATREON HES AMAZING BTW)

there are just some principles you have to keep in mind when painting backgrounds. i always focus on controlling value first and then laying down colors afterwards. ill use these two examples of my artwork to explain. the first is my most recent background piece of lillie from pokemon and the second is my first homework assignment i did with atey during my mentorship

its crucial to control your values since it helps create depth in your artwork and distinguish objects. 

i think there was around 3-4 months between these artworks? you can tell the bottom artwork looks very flat compared to the one on top.

when painting in photoshop, i like creating a new adjustment layer thats just black and white atop of all of my colors to help me see what i need to highlight or darken in terms of values. 

next is color theory AND I STILL STRUGGLE A LOT WITH THIS but ill try my best to explain my thought process??

from hindsight, we identify things by its immediate color as they are portrayed, so when we think of apples we immediately say ITS RED or when we think of trees and grass, we say ITS GREEN. with color theory, lighting, and etc coming into play, we have to change the colors a bit in order for it to make sense and appear realistic. 

here is an example. the colors here are too saturated, wrong values, and do not harmonize well with each other to create a realistic landscape. when we add source of light, times of days, it changes the colors.

lets pretend the time of this piece is somewhere in the morning.. 10am? i changed the color of the sky to be less green and more blue. same goes with the grass also. usually shadows or anything receding will be a cool color.

lets take a look at value again too: 

nice  ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

majority of the colors are warmer now because of the sunset (same with the shadows too)? 5pm-6pm? the grass is no longer green, but rather a muted brown, but you still know its grass.

although one thing that will REALLY REALLY REALLY help is painting from life. painting from the top of your head might be more difficult, but if you observe the way colors work and your surroundings, it will help you immensely.

hope this helps :’3 and sorry for the long post…

Chocobros using Pet Names (Female S/O)

So heres the thing. There are some things I cannot imagine the bros calling their s/o. A lot of people probably think different, but that’s totally chill. I was just thinking about this the other day and wanted to write down my thought process as to why or why not a chocobro would use a certain name toward their significant other. 

I’ll just focus on “basic” names for now. I might add on to this later.

I hope that makes sense. I am suddenly more tired than I usual am? Lol

Noctis is… super awkward when it comes to nicknames. Out of all the bros, he uses nicknames the least. More than usual, he’ll just shorten his s/o’s first name; even if it’s not a name that not normally shortened. He’s creative when it comes to that aspect, really. Other than that… Noctis is physically unable to use a good percentage of your average couple pet names. 

His go to pet name, however, will be “babe” or “baby.” He sees them as casual nicknames… they aren’t too over the top. They’re simple, but still show his affections toward his lover. He’ll most likely use “babe” and “baby” most often while using sweet nicknames. Though he still much rather prefers his s/o’s name. 

Names like “honey,” “darling,” “dear,” and “sweetie,” make Noctis cringe to no end. Why you ask? It makes him think as an annoying, older, married couple. I kid you not. If he notices his s/o is rather fond of pet names, he’ll try his best to address them as “sweetie” every so often.. but gosh it hurts him. 

Depending on the state of the relationship, Noctis has a special nickname for his s/o. I’m sure you can guess what it is. “My Queen,” is definitely a thing for Noctis. He won’t say it casually, however. He won’t call his s/o that over text or during a casual meet up. Like I said, it depends on the state of the relationship. Noctis won’t give this nickname to just anyone. He has to feel extreme feelings to use such a title. He most commonly uses the nickname during intimate moments.

Prompto is the King of pet names, if I’m perfectly honest with you. His creativity is never ending. He definitely uses pet names more so than his s/o’s  actual name. He comes up with new names… constantly. His names definitely don’t fall under the norm. For example, Prompto has called his s/o “my sweet golden chocobo” more than a few times. That’s just the beginning with this boy though. The list is never ending. (If anyone wants me to dive deeper into that list… lemme know next time requests are open.)

Now, this doesn’t mean Prompto doesn’t use the regular couple pet names. He uses those a lot, more so than his creative names. His creative names are a once or twice a day treat. The rest of the day, he uses your average nicknames. “Babe” and “baby” are his most frequently used out of all of them.

Loves calling his s/o “honey” and “sweetie.” You know what he loves more? Being called “honey” and “sweeties”….. and “sunshine.” (I’m going to have to do head canons on what the boys like to be called by their s/o. Stay tuned.) He rarely uses “darling” and “dear.” He feels as if they are lacking some sort of… spunk or uniqueness. To him, those names are like empty compliments. He doesn’t feel much for them. 

Like Noct, Prompto has a “Secret Weapon Pet Name.” Wtf, can you call it that? I guess we’re going to call it that. He does use “my Queen,” every so often, but of course it’s much different when Prompto uses it rather than when Noctis uses it. He uses the term “my love” much more often than “my Queen.” He only uses this during intimate, sweet movements. He doesn’t use these terms lightly either. He will call his s/o these nicknames with the most serious face and a slight blush across his cheeks. 

Gladiolus is a pretty easy guy when it comes to nicknames. He doesn’t really have much of an opinion toward any of the nicknames. He just says whatever he feels is comfortable and what suits his significant other. He wants to make sure he isn’t too overbearing with his pet names.

“Babe” and “baby” are frequently used, but I wouldn’t say they are his most used nicknames. He loves calling his s/o “hun” or “sweetie.” He’s not as creative as Prompto, but he likes to add on to the normal nicknames. “Sweet cheeks” “doll face” and similar names are used from time to time. 

“Hun.” That’s is favorite. I am calling it now. There’s just something about it that feels possessive for Gladio. He can’t really explain his reasoning behind the feeling. It just is how it is and he enjoys it.

A very sweet name he uses on special occasions is “princess” or “my lady.” He loves treating his s/o like royalty. He protects his s/o with a similar confidence and conviction as he does for Noct. But protecting his s/o isn’t his job. It comes to him naturally. He loves caring for his s/o and making sure they’re at their happiest. Calling them “Princess” is just another way of showing that thought process.

Ignis. Oh, Ignis. He’s such a complicated man when it comes to relationships. He never says anything he doesn’t mean. Once in a relationship with our favorite strategist, he won’t use pet names until he is certain that relationship is set to last for a very long time. 

Once the planets are aligned and the time is right, Ignis while finally bestow upon his significant other; a sweet nickname that is cavity inducing. THEY WILL MELT YOUR HEART, OKAY? 

Unlike the other bros, Ignis is not fond of the term “babe” or “baby.” He feels like they are demeaning in a way. He loves nicknames that truly share the importance and adoration Ignis holds for his lover, and “baby” and “babe” don’t cut it for him.

He’s creative like Prompto in the regard of nicknames. He has more self control, though. His nicknames remain regal and elegant, just like the bespectacled man himself. For example, he often calls his s/o “kitten” or “cupcake.” He loves calling his s/o “darling.” That’s his most frequently used nickname. He also is a big fan of “sweetheart” and “dear/dearest.”

Occasionally adds “my” before every nickname.  For example, he will often call his s/o “my darling” or “my dear.” You catch my drift? Of course. Ignis is a lot more possessive than he leads on. *insert heart eyes here*

Now, for the really good stuff. Ignis adores calling his s/o “love” or my “love.” Calling them that is like his drug, pretty much. He loves seeing the smile that comes to their lips whenever the nickname hits there ears. Their reaction brings a smile to his face as well. 

what she says: i love freeze your brain

what she means: If you look at Freeze Your Brain at face value, you could easily interperet it as simply about JD’s fixation on 7/11 and his issues oversharing. But it’s really more about a place that feels normal and familiar and safe in a frightening and new situation. It’s easy to overlook this, as a lot of the song is made to be comedic. Take the lines “When mom was alive/we lived halfway normal./Now it’s just me and my dad,/we’re less formal” for example. During the musical, it’s easy to focus more on Veronica freaking out than on JD’s words and their meaning. This is done intentionally, as if to show that JD hides how hurt he is about his mother’s death with other emotions, as many people do. Towards the end, it is shown that JD uses slushies to control a possible self-harm habit and self-destructive thoughts, and that’s when the gravity of the song hits you. Despite sounding light-hearted, Freeze Your Brain is about a teenager trying to hold onto the one place that makes him feel safe and happy no matter where he is. If you consider the possibility that his mother introduced him to 7/11, it’s also about trying to recapture childhood emotions, despite the fact that so many things have changed.

Best Gift (Tom Holland Imagine)

I know my last imagine was a Tom Holland one too. But today is my baby’s birthday, so I had to do a birthday imagine. I just had to. 

If you haven’t wished Tom a Happy Birthday, then please do! This boy honestly deserves the world.

This was inspired by a request that was submitted to me. I accidentally deleted the request (I’m so sorry to whoever requested for it).  I, however, changed the people in the request. You’ll have to read it to understand. 

I’m also sorry that this is complete shit. Sorry for my potty mouth.

Requests are open (just bear with me)

I hope you enjoy!

You were exhausted to say the least. In your head you were practicing a lot of things. For example, your lecture to Harrison about butting into people’s lives and making you jump onto a plane to head to LA, where he and Tom were spending the latter’s 21st birthday. 

In your head was also how the situation was going to play out. You’d imagine the two just walking in, all happy and probably a tad tipsy from drinking considering he’s legal in the US. Then he’s see you sitting on one of the beds. Then anger would boil his blood. And he’d probably go berserk and attack you. Then the two of him would have to spend the night of his birthday hiding your body. 

You shook your head. Tom isn’t a violent guy. That would never happen. In truth, you didn’t know what you were thinking when you let the most wonderful guy walk away. But now, here you are. Sitting alone in his empty hotel room, waiting for him to come back so you can ask him to be yours again. 

Harrison knew how hurt you both were. He was there through Tom’s late night cries and his daily nostalgic routine. When he called you the first night of your break up to yell at you for breaking Tom’s heart, to his surprise, you were bawling your eyes out too. You were both completely broken.

And he was determined to fix that. 

Haz was on the phone all morning with Tom’s family members. He wanted to make today memorable for Tom, but they were fresh out of ideas. That is until Paddy suggested to call you. And that’s exactly what Harrison did. 

You were reluctant to go. You would be skipping out on work and spontaneously flying to the States all because it was your ex’s birthday. Not to mention, what if groveling for forgiveness doesn’t pan out? Had you jeopardized your job for nothing?

Suddenly the doorknob had wiggled. Your breath hitched in your throat and you felt your heart drop. This could go in two ways: you crying your eyes out because Tom rejected you or you dead in an instant. You shook your head again. Tom wouldn’t kill you.

“And I have one more birthday present for you, mate.” Harrison announced as Tom glumly responded with okay. “Look, man, you gotta pull yourself together. Maybe she can help.”

“You make it sound like a hooker’s in here-” Tom lightly chuckled as he entered the room behind Haz. “(Y/)- (Y/N)?” His voice cracked, tears shining in his eyes. Tom took your appearance in. You looked tired and-well- sad. Your eyes were puffy and red and full of sadness. “What are you doing here?”

“I’m not a hooker, but happy birthday, Tommy.” You whispered, tears unexpectedly falling from your face. “I love you.” 

You thought he’d walk out or scream at you. But he did no such thing. Tom stood there staring at you in awe for a few seconds before rushing over to you and crushing you in a hug. 

“Is this real life?” He muttered, you felt his tears falling from his eyes. 

“Yes, babe it is. I love you so much. I’m so dumb for letting you go.” You cried. 

Harrison smiled in the corner of the room watching the scene unfold. Tom and you just held each other in silence as you cried. 

“I love you, too.” Tom whispered back as you both pulled away from each other. He looked over to your mutual friend. “That’s the Best Gift, man.” 

OMG I’m sorry it sucks. I have not gotten used to writing on Tumblr. I’m so used to writing for assignment. I don’t know how to write well anymore! I’m crying! UGH 

Everything Has Changed - Part Two | Jughead Jones

Originally posted by purple-pizzaprincess

Pairing: Jughead x Reader

Description: After finally coming face to face with Jughead after six years you don’t get the reception you’d exactly wanted.

Warnings: #angstyjughead

Word Count: 2162

A/N: I am sorry this is so long, omg. I tried to cut it down but I don’t want to rush straight into everything because I know personally I like seeing things progress and stuff, y’know. BUT ANYWAY. I hope you enjoy it and let me know what you think <3


It felt like time had come to a stand still as you stared across from each other. Six years. That’s how long it had been since you’d laid eyes on each other. By sheer coincidence you’d sat yourself down next to the person you’d been looking forward to seeing for all those years. He was so different yet the more you looked at him, the more you saw that he was still Jughead. He was still that boy that had made your childhood years the best they possibly could be. All you wanted to do was speak and say something but nothing came to mind. What were you even supposed to say to someone you hadn’t seen in six years? A simple hello definitely wouldn’t suffice. Thankfully for you Jughead was the first to speak up, his voice so quiet you barely caught it.

“You still have it,” he stated, his eyes locked back onto your necklace. Out of habit, your hand went to grip the little crown as you moved your gaze to glance at it too then back up to Jughead.

“Yeah. I… haven’t taken it since the day you gave me it.” Admitting that might have sounded really lame to some people but it meant the world to you. It was the one thing you had left to remind you of him and your past life in Riverdale.

For a moment you were sure you saw the hints of a smile forming on his face. He looked away from the necklace back up to you. “I never thought I’d see you again.”

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anonymous asked:

genuine question. what would have been a good way for the crewverse to show that the whole owning-pearls-like-slaves thing is wrong and avoid the whole cutesy pearl "oh look they're so pretty and beautiful let's completely ignore that they're treated as objects" thing that they have now

okay lemme write out how it couldve been portrayed well

-all the CG’s are actually disgusted by the pearls treatment
Garnet and Amethyst didnt really appear horrified when they saw YP, aka an enslaved Pearl. Only pearl really did. and even when Steven found out about their “role”, he only defended OUR pearl. there was no, “hey! all pearls can be useful, peridot! and pearl is a great example of this!”
-their outfits are less sexual
most of the time when i see people designing pearls for their gemsonas, its like a silkier version of their “owner”’s. i have never liked how the HW Pearls wear skimpy leotards and thigh highs, etc. its creepy af to me. why couldnt YP wear idk an actual “ballerina outfit” (a lot of ppl seem to view them as that so) or like, a mini suit, to fit Yellow’s aesthetic?
-they’re not just “dolls”
remember in YD’s first appearance, how YP was kind of portrayed as a secratary for YD? why cant that be their role? that wouldve been cooler and made more sense. the Diamonds are rulers, they dont have time to take every report. When BD was revealed, her Pearl wasnt doing anything, just standing around. A HUGE downgrade from what they were first implied to be like.
-Imply that the Diamonds go through pearls like candy
this is just one of my personal headcanons that was proved to be wrong, but.
when i first saw the Diamonds, as dictators etc, i was convinced that BP was dead by the present in canon. That Blue would get mad and just shatter her, then order a new one. I thought YP Would have died to, cuz of peridot. this is kinda morbid for a kids show, yeah, but a lot of other fans also thought this was how it was when they were introduced. even if they didnt do that, they couldve made them reform with new outfits to imply SOME sort of mistreatment/abuse.

in summary, i dont like how pearls are said to be mistreated but then never actually shown to be mistreated. show me the pearls being upset. let them show how tired they are of their situation. let pearl liberate them. seriously.

anonymous asked:

Any thoughts/fave moments on the new gaming vid? :^) bless us with your words pls

ahhhh god they just seemed so happy and chill in this video didn’t they? i enjoyed it quite a lot. it was unexpectedly funny in places and pretty typics bants for them and i loved that phil voiced pretty lengthy opinions throughout it. i also thought dan went out of his way repeatedly to signal his awareness of the audience gaze, making this an interesting video in that it was simultaneously more calm and less “produced” or over-performed but also v self-aware (whereas normally when dnp get super in their heads about recognizing that everyone is watching them they become v persona-y and overdone.) i’ve divided up my thoughts for each of them and thought i’d go sort of question by question (they are bolded)!!! i think in general there aren’t too many profound conclusions to be drawn from this video–the thing about their being super aware that this is going to go out to their audience of millions is that they become more restrained in saying anything actually illuminating about their more serious thoughts/feelings. but that being said there were obvi a solid number of noteworthy moments


  • the boy was so assertive and even sassy in this. i was excited. lil comments throughout like, ‘I’m a bit concerned that you’re seeing it as a brown circle .. new video: getting dan’s eyes checked,’ or ‘life isn’t grand theft auto guys,’ or just the way in which he delivers the ‘let me tell you my answer’ during the monkey question .. he was just so forthright in voicing his thoughts and taking no shit and i was rly loving it the whole time, bless him
  • when introducing the vid dan talks about how the audience will judge them but phil quickly follows with a reassuring ‘we’re learning things about each other’ and i thought that was interesting like he wants to insert that note of authenticity to push back against dan’s comment. i mean i rly doubt they’re doing this game to learn a single damn thing they don’t already know about each other but phil with this comment is trying to make us feel more like we are watching them do something genuine on a chill afternoon at home, instead of something that they are literally performing for us. cool cool 
  • illegal firearm: good stuff. a lovely demonstration of phil’s ~lateral thinking~ and tendency towards constructing a fuller narrative for whatever info is presented to him. 
    • i liked that he kept asking for more information and questioning dan w details like “how do i know they’re illegal” “whose drawer” etc. and dan tries to move on and end the speculative questioning but phil literally says “wait” to keep talking about the methods he would use to evade being accused of any crime if the firearm was in his own drawer. 
    • also his voice is so northern here when he’s like ’then they’d know i didn’t touch it’ the way he says ‘touch’ yes good
  • the power to stop time: this one was mad interesting. 
    • first of all. they’re not sleeping. phil only slept 5 hours. we’ve written so many posts about their being tired and rushed in their content bc they were churning out so many vids in the time before they left for australia but damn, to hear phil confirm he only slept 5 hours is p cray. it’s no wonder they were soooo ‘chill’ in this. they’re tired. 
    • with respect to the actual question tho. i love phil asking ‘what is a pervy stuff’ and dan being so done w phils attempt at maintaining innocence. but then i also loved dan trying so hard not to smile when phil is grinning and clarifying that he doesnt mean that he doesnt know what a pervy stuff might entail but just that he needs to know ‘how pervy are we talking.’ lol dan is so amused and fond. then phil actually laughs so hard at dan saying ‘as long as u don’t leave a trace’ which is great bc phil’s unfiltered/genuine reactions to sex talk that aren’t trying to be revolted or unaware or uncomfortable are great
    • phil’s actual real time go-to thought for what he would do with this power is sneaking into a locker room and he says it with a glaring lack of gendered pronouns. noted. in conjunction with his interest in abs this is very fascinating information to me. 
    • and then dan is very insistent phil would do the pervy stuff even after phil states he’s going with disappearing from a convo. he signals it while phil is explaining his choice then even explicitly says ‘you tell the audience that.’
  • trapped in sewer: phil would lick a foot. dan needs us to know so he repeats it. ok sure fine
  • shitting when sitting: phil is a creative. the iron pants solution, king of innovative undergarments 
  • mike tyson fight: 
    • the synchronized ‘why would u let him win’ was cute. 
    • dan saying ‘punch me dad’ is so chill now. like. no one gives any fucks. and phil is at the point where he literally agrees and says ‘guess that’s why’ 
    • i’m constantly shook about character development it’s starting to be unhealthy
  • visiting space: ok the first and only thing this made me question is whether we have ever heard phil utter the word orgasm. have we? i actually don’t think we have and i was laughing at how much he evaded saying it in the way he talked about this question. g-rated phil may be long dead but he’s still keeping things as clean as he can, given the circumstances. dan did not try and insinuate that phil is just saying moonwalking for the audience. so dan is fine saying phil rly wants to perv if he had the power to stop time, but he draws the line at insinuating phil wants to orgasm in space. good to know dan has (completely arbitrary) boundaries. 
  • ah yes. the already iconic monkey question: several noteworthy lines.
    • p: i would spoon a monkey for sure. he didn’t miss a beat w that. confident statement of interest in animal intimacy from phil. splendid.
    • p: k-k-mar-kiss? i didn’t say kiss? d: that’s non-sexual it can be like a friendly kiss, a romantic one. interesting to me in that it confirms that dan draws distinctions between friendly (platonic), romantic, and sexual intimacy but that he also sort of equated platonic and romantic. on twitter he stated in a reply that he thinks friendly kissing is like a cheek kiss in greeting. its likely that romantic kissing is something more than that and more like the spooning and whatnot he suggested, but he lumps both of them into this category of a loving and intimate relationship. meanwhile sexual kissing is obvi ,, sexual kissing. but cool to hear a little bit about the way dan conceptualizes these categories
    • d: (about acting like a married couple) that could have a lot of drama and tears. you’d fight non-aggressively. i mostly think he’s using the common dumb jokes that society makes about marriage as being a loveless trap but also interesting that he went right to that dig and didn’t rly laugh about it or try to make it seem like a joke. he just said it and it’s sort of weirdly specific. ofc we can easily speculate that this might reveal some of dan’s thoughts about marriage or rly just his thoughts on a long term relationship bc it’s less about the institution of marriage. but i have doubts on whether that’s reasonable since, as i’ve been saying, dan is v aware he’s being watched and i doubt he’d take this as an opportunity to voice his thoughts about marriage and commitment and what is likely to happen when two people “act like a married couple” 
    • d: i mean you couldn’t have anyone else in your life if you have this loving relationship. ah i love this one. dan confirming that whether or not sex is in the equation, a loving and intimate relationship would mean there would be no space for another person in phil’s life is just. good. unlike the marriage comment i do think we can analyze this one a bit further bc it’s almost a throwaway comment–it’s not the punchline or centerpiece of what dan is saying making it more likely to be a reflection of how he really feels. and it’s not a common thought to be honest, that if you’re in an intimate/loving relationship you can’t have anyone else in your life, meaning it doesn’t seem like some common joke he’s just repeating. i take it to mean that dan sees romantic love as a true marker of closeness and connection with someone–a closeness that you can’t and don’t share with other people whom you do not romantically love. and that that intimacy doesn’t have anything to do w the sex that you may or may not be having with the person that you love. what a romantic fuck. honestly spoken like a man whose best friend and long term romantic love are one and the same. 
    • p: let me tell you my answer. i would spoon the monkey and watch some game of thrones and then go to bed in separate rooms. honestly, to me, this is the least interesting comment in this whole exchange. i know a lot of people think this sounds oddly reminiscent of dnp’s relationship or something but i genuinely think phil was in this scenario in his head. maybe he’s pulling from real life when thinking about the elements of being romantically intimate w someone that he could use for his example (aka spooning and game of thrones) but i think he’s rly thinking about the monkey and how not to spend too much time with it in this scenario, hence the sleeping in separate rooms addendum. idk. he’s talking about a relationship w a monkey yall i dont think he’s going to use that as a proxy to give us a thinly veiled clue about his day to day habits with his not-as-yet-confirmed boyfriend. mostly confused that a lot of people are treating it as “confirmation” that dnp don’t have sex lol


  • ‘this is really going to say a lot about our personalities and you’re going to judge us.’ he opens strong with that audience awareness. it carries throughout the video.
  • house is on fire: probably the most interesting of the dan questions.
    • dan looks so uncomfortable as soon as phil inserts himself into this scenario by saying that he (phil) would be “all the people.” the sigh is so real bc dan clearly did not want to treat this like a serious question but phil framing it as dan needing to choose between his own life and a kitten’s life and phil’s life suddenly really ups the seriousness of it. 
    • i feel for him. that’s honestly such a fucking difficult question to answer. i thought of the closest relationship in my life which is my sister and what i would do if she was like ha ha who would u save me or yourself and then having to actually think about both of those horrifying scenarios. either dan lives and has to live without phil or phil lives and has to live without dan and like jfc how r u supposed to pick or even try to take that seriously idk
    • i say all of this to add more context to dan’s answer and the sarcastic ‘bc the internet is watching,’ that he adds to it. i genuinely think dan was uncomfortable with this question and i also fully empathize with that so i think the sarcasm was added as a way to treat it more like a joke like ha ha i guess i’ll save u bc i’m a good person not ha ha i guess i’m picking this bc idk what to do since this question is horrific
    • ‘everyone is inherently good,’ says phil. ‘or at least that’s what i want to believe.’ i always think the thing w phil+optimism is a bit overhyped but like damn if he’s rly out there trying to believe this, then that’s p cool and very very lovely
  • everything turns into gold: there was def a dan rant about physics or monetary inflation or something that got cut out of this question bc he yells about it being stupid then there’s a v glaring jump cut then he’s saying ‘in a universe where this makes sense,,’ lol idk whether to be relieved or intrigued about the fact we didn’t get to hear it
  • phil dead and he’s been hanging w the twin: i loved the bit when phil asks dan to ask him a question only phil would know the answer to and dan responds, essentially, that there isn’t a question he could ask phil bc ‘you’ve been fernando the whole time.’ dan is wrong lol the question doesn’t say that the best friend has always been the twin–just that the best friend died at some point in the friendship and was replaced w a twin, unbeknownst to dan. i love that dan can’t even entertain the possibility that phil could be replaced with someone at some point in their friendship like nope too outlandish it’s obvi just saying phil has been a person w a different name all along .. in which case, as dan rightly points out, there’s hardly a dilemma. it’s just that you didn’t know your friend’s real name. what is the point of that. lol. a cute and probably unintentional way of avoiding any of the emotional weight of this scenario and i love it
  • dan as pres: dan thinks he’d be good in the role of president. he probs would be ok
  • spider: i am very fascinated by the way dan leans kinda forward and mostly into phil at 9:04 when he’s talking about being a spider and exploring someone’s body. why did he do that. what is he doing idk
  • become a god: 
    • making fun of lads and lad culture. i’m into it. i am always into them lowkey shitting on toxic masculinity. so funny. 
    • again phil tries to insert himself in the scenario by saying that if dan chose to incinerate earth he’d be incinerating phil, but dan was absolutely not having it 

overall they are cute and clever and good at knowing where to draw boundaries about the things they talk about but to do so in a gentle and natural way for the most part so this video was good and interesting but probs not revelatory but still very entertaining and funny and sort of soft in unexpected ways so i really liked it. i really like them xx 

(what would you do if…)

About Greek forms of love: Please take note

{About eros and agape mostly, and how they are misrepresented, so *please* don’t scroll past this, I keep seeing posts about things that have nothing to do with what they mean even so many months later!}

OK, Yuri On Ice has a permanent place in my heart and they have done really well in their effort to portray different cultures, countries and their citizens respectfully and accurately. Also the fandom is sweet and respectful and you all do your best to portray unfamiliar concepts well, but for the most part these concepts get misrepresented. So I ’m finally writing this post to explain them properly. So for all of you sweet people who have taken a liking to these concepts and/or like to write fics/meta/edits including them, please take note of the following. I will try to explain as much as I can.

Eros: it’s not physical attraction or sexual love. And it certainly isn’t sex appeal. It’s a passionate emotion that may or may not include sexual attraction, it’s first and foremost romantic love. You may be young and not sexually active or be in the asexual spectrum and still be in love. Basically anywhere you ‘d use “x is in love” that’s where you ‘ll use eros.  In love = feels eros. In short, eros is passionate romantic love. You can follow this up with adding the precise feelings and types of attraction x person feels (romantic, sensual, sexual, aesthetic attraction). The word erotic originates from eros and it often means something sexual, but that’s a part of eros not the definition. In modern Greek we say x is erotevmeni/os (f/m) which means x is in love, we don’t say x feels eros (sexual feelings/attraction).

That “show me your eros” line? Completely nonsensical and really irritating. It makes eros sound like it means sex appeal or sexuality when it means the feeling of being passionately and irrevocably in love!!

I ‘ll quote myself from another post: Someone who feels eros for another person doesn’t necessarily love them in an unconditional way, they just have strong feelings (see above) about them. How they act in a relationship largely depends on the nature of the person in question (if they are egoistical, possessive or thoughtful and respectful).

And this is where you can find one of the differences from agape. Because

Agape: In it’s first and foremost definition it’s unconditional love. Yes, in Greek it’s also used as simply love, like it does in English, (but not always, you wouldn’t say I love this post it’s meant for people/animals or things you feel really strongly about “I love my job”. You‘d use “really like”.) So while it can be used as simply love, it’s true meaning is unconditional love, and it comes in every form, between friends/lovers/parents & children/family menbers/anyone. The best example in the show is both Yuuri and Viktor being willing to give up their skating careers for the other to be happy. But the issue that bothers me the most is the godlike agape I keep seeing. There’s nothing about agape that relates to the christian god whatsoever. You can use it if your god means a lot to you to describe your love for him or the love you believe he feels for you as well. But that is one use out of many and it has nothing to to do with the true meaning of the word which by the way originated in the ancient times. And personally it irks me to no end to see a word that means unconditional love be used for a god whose whole legacy is allowing his believers (and everyone else) to get hurt, tortured, killed and what else, oftentimes in his name. But that’s a rant for another time. In short, agape means unconditional love or simply love, and can be used to describe any type of feelings (platonic, romantic, parental etc.)

Also, when a person feels eros combined with agape, it is true unconditional romantic love. It’s the type of love we see in great love stories, where the characters are so in love and care for the one they love so much that they are willing to sacrifice themselves or things important to them in order for their loved one to be happy.

Moving on to other forms of love I ‘ve seen explored.

Philia: love between friends, friendship.

Storgi: it’s not family love or parental love. It’s one way agape manifests, it is tenderness/fondness/affection. It comes in every form of love stated above. If I am feeling storgi about you I am feeling warm and fuzzy affection about you and if I am going to show you that, it will be with tender gestures, like a caress, a hug, a homemade meal, with my being a good listener when you need me to. I ‘ll show you by taking care of you. It is mostly used when talking about gestures rather than feelings.

Philautia: Narcissistic, egoistic, extreme self adoration, a word that is never ever used in Modern Greek and most Greeks will give you a puzzled look if you use it and will have to open a dictionary to remember it. The main reason it’s worth a mention is because everyone in the fandom upon hearing the definition instantly recognizes: JJ.

So, that’s all I can think of right now, I wasn’t planning to write a post like that, (and it’s unpolished and imperfect, having written it fairly quickly) but I have seen too many posts misrepresenting these concepts for me to stomach it any longer. On that subject, I ‘ll say once again that everyone who has tried to tackle these concepts has been respectful and done their best to portray them accurately even if sometimes they didn’t manage to do so. I am more sour about the show to be honest, they should have done better research. Even so, the end result was so great and YOI means so much to me personally that in the end, it’s fine :).

If anyone needs help with understanding and using these concepts, or for anything Greek related feel free to message me, I ‘ll do my best to help you out :)


i know im never online these days, but lots of things are happening in my life, good things. 

like, im starting hormones soon, for example and y'all know i love the name riley/rei, but i didnt quite feel it as mine. i chose it bc it was gender neutral, but i dont identify as non binary anymore, so i decided to go for a more masculine name. 

 if you all could start call me CASPER that would be swell. 

im also using he/him pronouns now, instead of ne/nim/nis, so theres that too.

all i ask is to pls share this post so more people will know! thank you, i love you all, 

casper 👻

anonymous asked:

Sherlock said he likes his doctors clean shaven, so why did John have a luscious sex moustache in Sherlock's dreams, aka in TAB?

At times like these, nonny, we could turn to historical researches, which can tell us much about facial hair in the Victorian era. For example, here are some thoughts by @mathildalocks, and I’m pretty sure @weeesi found some information about Victorian moustaches and clean-shavenness and queer male identity during their research prior to TAB, which I frustratingly enough cannot find right now.

As for me, I prefer a psychological explanation. You see it’s simple. Recall that, upon his return, Sherlock was shown this picture of John:

And then he did this:

Well, lots of people in our little corner of fandom have talked about this moment, and how Sherlock is thinking about The Smooch in the new context of The Mournstache. And sure, John subsequently shaves and yeah, Sherlock “prefers his doctors clean-shaven,” but let us not forget that Sherlock, for this glorious moment and probably for the rest of the afternoon, sincerely thought that he would, upon their reunion, have the opportunity to kiss John and his moustache, and experience the full bristly goodness of that bedecked upper lip. He probably talked himself up to it. I’m sure it was a major topic of introspection: how it would feel, that scratch of upper lip as John pulled him down for a kiss, the rough abrasion of it, John’s hands on him, pulling him tighter as he left the first hints of scratches along Sherlock’s jaw and neck.

I’m sure it was a source of anxiety at first, but soon, after just a little while, it probably became a point of excitement. Sherlock might have imagined having to control himself, at least a little bit, to stop from giggling as John’s moustache tickled his skin, as John kissed his way down, lips and tongue working the soft skin of Sherlock’s belly, the brush of John’s bristles, as John rushed to undo Sherlock’s trousers, and push them all the way down past his thighs. 

Although John shaved (for Sherlock, of course it was for him), it’s probable that a tiny leftover bit of longing and wonder got stuck somewhere in Sherlock’s mind, and that my dear friend, is all the explanation I really need for this:

May god have mercy on our souls, but especially Sherlock’s.

swift-as-a-deer  asked:

How would you fix up the prequels in Star Wars? Especially with regards to exploring Anakin's transformation/arc, given that Anakin goes from preventing the (immediately required) execution of Palpatine to killing lots and lots of innocent Jedi children/warriors in about 10 minutes of screen time and a few(?) hours of in-universe time. Thanks

*cracks knuckles* Tagging @the-winged-wolf-bran-stark in this, as we’ve talked about it before. 

Big important change right off the top: let the actors improvise, experiment, and riff off each other with their dialogue, as often happened in the original movies. George Lucas is great (nigh-peerless, actually) with concepts and storyboards, but he himself has admitted he’s not great at dialogue, especially romantic dialogue. This was the #1 problem with the prequels, and I think the interesting, surprisingly risky stuff about this trilogy would’ve gotten more attention if the mediocre-to-awful dialogue wasn’t slapping everyone in the face every few seconds.

After that? For me, the #2 problem was how many intriguing ideas and characters didn’t get fleshed out while Lucas lavished time on stuff he didn’t need or just wasn’t working. For example, while the Gungans did allow Georgie to give us some lovely visuals…

…that alone doesn’t justify their existence. They’re tiresome and super racist in conception, as are the Nemoidians. In terms of non-humanoids to lavish more time on, go with Kamino, as that was easily my favorite part of AOTC.

That also leaves the primary antagonist role—and a lot of screen time—open in TPM. Use that narrative space to beef up Darth Maul’s role significantly and move up by a movie the introduction of the Separatist movement and Count Dooku (while changing that embarrassing name; low-hanging fruit, I know, but that doesn’t make it any less true). Position Maul as a mercenary working for the Count, while hinting that he’s really Sidious’ mole inside the separatists; start the PT with Maul kicking off the Separatist movement by attacking the Republic and the Jedi in some instantly memorable fashion, rather than something something trade dispute. Keep the whole “faction rebels against the Republic which is too schlerotic to respond properly” plot framework of TPM, but give the antagonists some real heft. Use their rebellion as a way to interrogate and investigate the failings of the Jedi and the Republic. Because that was, by far, the best idea in the prequels: the Jedi and the Republic didn’t just lose, they failed. Neither of them could handle the challenge Palpatine posed. 

This would also give the Separatist movement a distinct ideological tenor and dramatic reason for being other than just “swarm of droids and/or idiots to be manipulated by Palpatine.” The Count needs to genuinely believe that he’s doing the right thing, taking on the corrupt and shiftless powers that be both in the Republic and on the Jedi Council, with no idea that he’s being manipulated by the Sith. Indeed, build up the Count throughout that first movie as a dark mirror of Qui-Gon. That’ll make it more meaningful when Obi-Wan and the Count cross paths in AOTC–and you need to spend a lot more time on that dynamic. Cut half the Battle of Geonosis to make room.

Thus, when the Separatist movement is finally destroyed in ROTS, it’ll carry some weight: they saw the problems, but put their faith in the wrong people. And that, of course, dovetails perfectly with Anakin’s own story. To your question in that regard: his turn to the dark side needs to be seeded into his overall worldview instead of just his knee-jerk emotional reactions. There’s a little of that in AOTC (“then they should be made to”) but not nearly enough. Spend a lot of time on Anakin arguing with Senators and Jedi Masters about their approach to the war, politics, and life in general. Have him develop theories about politics and the Force that have a gut appeal compared to the older and not-actually-wiser heads around him while still being worryingly close to Fascism In Space. Stick with the original concept of Padme founding the Rebellion, and have this political schism be the cause of their relationship falling apart. She too is frustrated with the Council and the current leadership of the Republic, but is horrified and walks away from him when she learns he sided with Palpatine. Anakin hesitates for a moment, but then hardens his heart and turns on the younglings; Vader is born. 

fridahidle  asked:

What are some real life examples/situations that someone can use or visualize to determine whether they use Ti or Te?

Hi there! We came together and put together our thoughts on this –


In a way, because Ti is my dominant function, it’s also one of my hardest to describe. I usually only recognize it for what it is in contrast with the Te users in my life. To wit: I know a Te dom, and we disagree a lot. During a disagreement over Star Wars the other night, he says:

Te-dom: “When everyone goes to see Episode 6 in December - “

Me (Ti-dom):” Episode 8. The next one is episode 8, Episode 6 is Return of the Jedi.”

That’s what my Ti is like. I want things to be exact and specific. True, that’s also my Si talking (details, specifics) but mainly from my Ti, especially in debates, it’s very important to me to be precise and exact; in fact, it’s more important to me to be specific and certain of what I’m talking about than to actually win or  even complete the debate.

In the workplace, I want to be thorough. My  bosses constantly need me to be in ten places at once, and I go crazy not being able to thoroughly complete each step in the process of the task at hand, to be exact and know that I have followed every rule and completed every part of what’s at hand. I get teased for being so precise; I don’t just want to get the job done, I want to get it done exactly and precisely right. I can’t just put the bottle of wine back in the general area of the wine, it has to be in the exact spot that type of wine is supposed to go.

To paraphrase from my favorite show, “(my) logic does not resemble (most) earth logic” (Buffy). I have systems of understanding for how things work. I can’t just watch a TV show or a movie, I have to figure out how that show or film fits into an overall system of analysis about how things work. I don’t just watch an episode of Buffy, for example; my mind goes into overdrive trying to process the symbolism in it, the philosophical underpinnings, or even something simple like what this interaction between my personal OTP or ship indicates about their relationship. I struggle to sleep a lot at night because my brain goes into overdrive as soon as there’s no immediate task in front of me, with trying to analyze what happened with this and that. There is just no shutting it off; I even try to analyze my dreams while I’m having them. I’m at times so matter-of-fact that I take everything literally and don’t sense when people are just joking.

These are all various ways in daily life that I use my Ti.


Te is Hermione telling Ron, someone she hardly knows, that he’s saying it wrong and then pointing out the correct way to do it. Why? Because it’s right. It’s seeing something incorrect and correcting it. As simple as that. Te is Gwen being anxious that Peter is always late because there are times set and plans in motion and they aren’t to be broken. It’s concrete and it’s happening.

Dominant Te, especially, is blunt and to-the-point. It is immediate action and rectification of problems. When given tasks at work, I instantly draft my to-do and size up the scenario. A strength of Te, especially at work, is assessing a situation very quickly and just acting. Exerting upon the environment a logical system of events or actions and utilizing lists to keep on top of tasks and priorities keeps things straight and narrow. While some may not like lists or to-dos, I find them imperative to success. I also see that some might not immediately take action or execute a plan (versus taking some time to do extra planning, etc.), where my Te allows me to do so confidently. I like being in leadership roles and typically volunteer for them. I prefer to have authority and like to lead.

When faced with something new or unknown, Te is proactive. More often than not I consider past plans or strategies I have seen and then implement them (Si and Te working in tandem.) Depending on the situation, a to-do list (obsessed, maybe?) will be drafted or a schedule will be created. Then, as quickly as possible, the plan will be implemented. Just as important - research and references. I like to discuss the problem with someone knowledgeable or resourceful if at all possible.

In general social situations, Te is Spencer Hastings constantly correcting her friends’ grammar and steamrolling her plans onto them and expecting them to adhere. I think I definitely have controlling behaviors and I tend to lead. Most of my friends are more go-with-the-flow than I am and sometimes this can lead to conflict. I tend to face conflict head on, pushing the envelope where others may like to cease for harmony. Making new friends is pretty easy for me, though there are certainly different levels of friendship. Making base-level friends – that is, friends who are more like acquaintances – is simple. Sometimes this is something that is simply productive. Making good or best friends takes something special in common and then, once I trust someone, we typically become close very quickly.

Dating is something that I find to be interesting across personality types. While I think dating can be fun and interesting, it’s somewhat stressful for me. I don’t want to waste time dating someone if it’s going to be unproductive or not yield results. I like to give 100% or none at all, which is something generally true about me in anything. I like to be able to commit to something completely, whether it be at work or in another aspect of life.

In terms of understanding vs. execution for the sake of execution, I do like to understand how something works or why it works but if that’s not an option I’ll just do what needs to be done for the sake of the project. This happens often at work, where I’ll need to figure something out and will simply follow the necessary steps but won’t have the time to really get into the depths of the why or how.

I may stop to analyze something for fun, trying to dissect and understand, but most often I am only going to see that the object or system works in the way that it is meant to. If something breaks, I’ll fiddle with it and most likely refer to research or a manual (my Si maybe?) and try my very best to fix it before just ordering another or seeing if someone else knows the trick!

Hopefully this helps! If you have more specific questions we are happy to answer as well!

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WORD COUNT: 2,687 
sorry it’s shorter than usual

warnings: swearing, violence, blood, choking (not in a sexy way) & talk of kidnapping and Stockholm syndrome 

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Two hours, they’d been gone. Two hours, that you’d been left all alone. Most people in your situation would think about leaving, about running away. Not you. Something in your blood told you to stay put. What kind of Stockholm Syndrome was this madness?
Jungkook had let you have full roam of the house, an interesting concept considering only hours beforehand you were their prisoner. Their werewolf prisoner. Even after 120 minutes alone with your thoughts, your mind couldn’t process that you weren’t you any more, that you weren’t human any more. Distracting yourself from the unanswered questions you managed to take a good look at your surroundings. The house itself resembled something from a TV show, the walls were decorated with eccentric wallpaper prints and there wasn’t a spec of dust to be seen in the entire building.

Walking into the brightly coloured lounge area you jumped out of your skin and a piercing scream almost escaped your lips when a man you didn’t recognise stood in the doorway. He looked down at you in surprise, though he didn’t budge an inch. There was no denying he was handsome, apparently a running theme in this household, dark chocolate hair adorned his soft features, his eyes were large and feline like, hiding beneath thick eyelashes and an abundance of negativity.

Who the fuck are you?” He spat as he clasped his hand around your neck, slamming your back into the nearest wall.

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Just for Fun

I had one anon request for Soulless!Sam smut, and one anon request for Sam overhearing your desire for him in a conversation with Cas that ended in teasing and rough smut. I combined the two for this dirty little piece. Hope you enjoy! XOXO

Word Count: 2550

Warning: smut, language

“Can I ask you a question, Y/N?” Cas looked at you across the table, blinking furiously after staring at your laptop for at least the last hour.

“Of course, Cas, what is it?” you replied, glad to take a break from the huge and insanely boring text in front of you.

“It’s about the pizza man.”

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The Video That Convinced me Eleanor Wasn't Real

Here is a quick Gif of the one that sent me over.  This is not my Gif.  I am always cautious of Gifs bc sometimes they can be taken out of context.  For that reason I always try to find the original video.  Watching the full video is much more compelling.  I had to actually watch it multiple times so that I could watch each person separately.  I will warn you it actually is very sad and got me super fired up.  But it also was like a lightbulb for me.  Like, oh.  Ohhhhhh.  OMG, nooo he’s so sad and I hate it.  He’s like a sparkly sunshiny ray of happiness usually so seeing him like this was really horrible. The worst.

Look for yourself.


Let me break this short clip down. 


:01  Zayn seems to ask Harry if he is ok, or checks in with him

:03  Harry’s hands cover his eyes.  He looks upset.  I would say he is crying (and I do believe he is) but will fully admit to not knowing for sure.  What I do know for sure is that this motion he makes with his hands over his eyes is a very classic indication of someone being upset/angry/frustrated….NOT HAPPY.   

:08  Someone hands Harry sunglasses which he puts on straight away. To cover his eyes.  

After his eyes are covered, you can see Harry make his way over to greet the fans which actually breaks my heart a little more bc he is still friendly to fans while under stressful conditions.  He is just such a good person.  I will fight you on this.  Don’t fight me.  You can obviously tell from the video that this is being filmed by a fan as she’s calling to Harry for his attention.  It looks to be the back entrance to the building.  Furthermore it looks unexpected for the fans to even be there.  Anyone in any situation who was crying or upset would want to immediately cover their eyes to conceal this emotion.  If this was the only thing you could see in this short clip, it might not be enough for me.  So I went back….multiple times.  Let’s move on.


:01  As stated above, Zayn looks to be checking in with Harry to see if he is ok.

:10  Zayn makes a motion with his thumb to the guards?/modest? to suggest “get her the hell outta here”

I think Zayn’s hand motion in this video clip was the deal breaker for me tbh.

After that you can see him hanging back and carefully watching Harry (to see if he’s ok?)


:02: You can see Louis come to the door w/ Eleanor and they are stopped and positioned by (?looks like Marco from management to me but who knows) for a photo-op.  If these were paps, they would have simply taken shots.  Paps don’t pose you.  They were posed.

:10  Immediately after the pictures are taken, Eleanor walks away from Louis with another man (guard? who knows) without even so much as a backwards glance.  No goodbye hug or kiss.  No hand squeeze or love tap.  NOTHING. Neither of them said goodbye in any way to one another. What person in any relationship doesn’t say goodbye???.

Louis isn’t looking at her.  He doesn’t watch her leave.  He’s stressed and you can plainly see it.

:15  Louis is looking at Harry while running his hand through his hair, yet another indication of stress, upset, frustration.  I have noticed over time that Louis fusses w his hair when he’s anxious, stressed, a lot. Bottom line:  he’s not happy either.

At the end when the video cuts off you can actually see Louis turning to look at Harry again.


Niall is so interesting.  Everyone calls him the captain (and I agree) although if I’m honest it seems to me that Liam and Zayn are equally supportive of H/L.  I do notice Niall is also used as a diversion of sorts a lot. This is a perfect example.

:03  You can hear the fan saying “Hi Harry” and the others calling for them. You can see Niall beeline straight for the fans while Harry has his eyes covered with his hands and is facing away from them.

:06  He’s hugging the fans now while Harry gets sunglasses.  He’s distracting them from his distress.

Summary:  Harry is upset, and in my own opinion crying.  It seems obvious to me that he is upset about Eleanor. He can’t look at her or even Louis for that matter and I think you know why.  Zayn checking on him and then motioning for their people to get her out of there supports this.  Why would Zayn do this otherwise?  What is his reason for getting Eleanor out of there asap?  Louis is stressed.  He has been thrust into a photo-op while his BF is upset.  He is worried about him as you can tell he does not even spare a glance at Eleanor as she walks away with another man.  Rather he keeps looking at Harry (who is not looking back at him) and running his hand through his hair.  He turns away and at the end turns back to look at him again.  Whoever surrounds them know Harry is upset as well.  They get him glasses immediately and move to get Eleanor away very quickly.  Niall is a cheerful happy distraction to the few fans who likely weren’t supposed to be there in the first place.

Eleanor is I’m sure a lovely girl but she is not now nor has she ever been Louis GF.  This video was the last straw for me.  I am a huge believer in body language and could go on forever on examples of these but that shall have to wait for another post on another day.  I saw everything else but still questioned this “relationship” w/ Eleanor.  I saw this and that question was answered.  It is beyond obvious to me that H/L are involved in a romantic relationship and have been since the beginning.  I actually feel bad for those who can’t see it or choose not to as they are missing out on something magical.

I leave you with a quote by Vernon Howard 

“Learn to see things as they really are, not as we imagine they are”

anonymous asked:

I've noticed Jensen shuts down or says Destiel doesn't exist only when he does panels with Jared. But when he does panels with Misha he gives or tries to give a more honest meaningful answer about their characters relationship. He doesn't shut it down so quickly. Thoughts?

So like I said in the previous post  [x], I feel like this has less to do with the specific question being asked, and more to do with Jensen’s overall personality. Now let me preface this by saying, I don’t think that Jensen loves Jared more than Misha or vice versa—I think they’re both his best friends and he loves them equally. Their friendships are different however, and that makes all the difference in how Jensen acts when he is alone with either of them. Age has a lot to do with it; and I will use myself as an example here: I have (had … one passed away) two best friends who I adore with all my heart. One friend is younger than me by a few years, and the other was my age—older only by a couple months. Although I love them equally, I acted completely different with each one when we’d hang out. My younger best friend is like my little sister. I want to protect her first and foremost. I feel like that’s my job, so even though we can both get crazy and silly when we’re out and about, my first reaction whenever she suggests going on some new adventure, is to be calm, subdued and think “is this a good idea?” because—well, that’s the role I’ve always played in our friendship. I am the older, “wiser”, moral compass of the two and I need to help her navigate the best paths through life.

Now my other best friend … she and I always got into stupid situations together—and I was usually the one spearheading those plans. We would be loud and obnoxious and weird, because we weren’t necessarily “looking out for one another” (although, we did that too) but we were always trying to push each other a little further outside of our comfort zones. We saw ourselves in each other, and therefore, we saw our strengths and our weaknesses for what they were, and we tried to improve our lives—together. Whenever one of us got too “protective” of the other, it usually caused conflict, because neither of us played that role in the relationship. We were “equals” when it came to authority … and I think that is more the way Jensen and Misha see one another. Jensen looks at Misha as that crazy guy with no inhibitions whom he wants to be like; so when they’re together one on one, it’s like he has permission to let down his guard. When Jensen’s with Jared however, he needs to be in that big brother-protector mode. He watches over Jared as the guy explores his own limits.—  and don’t get me wrong, I think Jensen loves that role. That’s a deeply ingrained position for him, not just because that’s what he plays opposite of Jared on the show, but Jensen is a big brother in real life, and he’s used to being that protective watchman for his little brother and sister as well. I know I love being that person for my younger best friend (as well as my biological younger sister). I love being the one she can lean on, depend on, look up to. It’s very important to me and I think it’s extremely important to Jensen. Just look at how he acted when Jared had to leave Rome early because he was having a hard time with his depression. Jensen wanted nothing more than to protect that man, and he was a little anxious since Jared wasn’t within eyesight—he wanted to be able to make sure that he was okay.

So how does this affect the way he answers questions, you ask (to finally get back to the matter at hand) well, everything that I already pointed out, explains why Jensen responds differently in similar situations. When he and Jared are on stage, Jared usually does most of the talking, and Jensen jumps in when he feels it’s necessary. And any question that a fan asks him directly is usually answered in a brief and vague sort of way. Jensen is not long-winded when he’s on stage with Jared because his focus wants to be on Jared. He wants to be able to stand back a bit and “keep watch” and that’s easier when Jared is the one doing all the talking, so Jensen will keep his own answers brief.

With Misha however, he doesn’t need to be the protector (in fact, he might need a protector from some of Misha’s craziness every now and then … which is why Jared and Misha can get along so well).  So he can break into these long winded, deep, enthusiastic answers to questions because he knows that Misha is perfectly fine in the meantime, and probably doing something crazy behind him while he talks. So no matter what question he’s answering, whether it’s something simple or something about ships or what have you—Jensen will speak more, be more open, be more free with his words because he doesn’t have to take things as seriously with Misha around. More likely than not, if things start getting too serious on stage, Jensen knows he can count on Misha to break the tension at just the right time.

With my best friend who was a little older than me—I knew that when I started to get a little too loud, a little too crazy, she would always be there to quiet me down and to distract other people from my awkwardness. I think that’s how Jensen and Misha’s friendship works. Their reactions have nothing to do with any specific question that they get asked, and everything to do with the roles Jensen, Jared and Misha all play in each other’s lives. Each one is vital to who they are, and they all managed to slip perfectly into those places. They each fit together like puzzle pieces, and the final image is that of three best friends who make each other so happy and feel so complete, that their joy becomes infectious and radiates through anyone who sees it.

So we need to stop assuming that one particular action or one particular response is a blanket-emotion for Jensen’s (or anyone’s) life. Every situation is unique, but if you dig deep enough, you can find the real reason why someone reacts the way they do—and nine times out of ten, it’ll be due to love and a feeling of necessity rather than one of hate and loathing.

Jensen is a complex human being, but when it comes to Jared and Misha—his mannerisms become pretty simple. He loves them both. They’re both his best friends, and no one, solitary moment on stage is going to prove otherwise.

Emotion and Pacing in comics

One of the reasons that I love comics so much is that there are many valid ways to approach the medium. When I make comics, the parts I’m most concerned with are character and story. Everything I draw on the comic page is in service to character and story. Because of my focus on those two elements over, say, experimenting with my art and page structure, I will sometimes get criticism that my work is safe or boring. This is probably fair criticism! I don’t do a lot of experimenting with paneling or challenging storytelling or explicitly challenging artwork in my comics, because right now that’s not what I’m interested in. Maybe I will be more experimental someday, but not right now, with the kind of stories I want to tell. :)

When I make a comic, my goal is for my readers to be engaged with the story I’m telling, and the characters in that story. That’s also what I look for when I want to read a good comic. I want characters to love, I want a story to be engaged with.

For the most part, I struggle with drawing comics (most artists do, if we’re honest ;)), but there are some parts of comics I think I have a good handle on. I feel like I’m strongest when portraying emotion on the page, and I’m good at drawing those scenes out and making the reader feel what my characters are going through. Some of the techniques I use to convey emotion came from being obsessed with movies when I was a teenager, and some techniques are stolen from my holy trinity of influences: Jeff Smith (Bone), Hiromu Arakawa (Fullmetal Alchemist) and Naoki Urasawa (Monster, Pluto, 20th Century Boys). 

Of the three artists I’ve mentioned, I consider Urasawa especially to be a master of emotion and pacing. When I first started reading his comics, it was like light struck my brain; finally I saw what I’d been trying to do for years right there on the comic page in front of me! I like the way he lays out his emotional scenes a lot. Here’s an example (read right to left): 

Urasawa uses repeating panels and decompression to draw out the emotions of a scene. In this single page there isn’t a lot of movement. It’s literally just two characters staring at each other, but the tension rises going from panel 1 to panel five. Gesicht (the man)’s expression doesn’t change between panels two and five, but we literally feel his anger rising off-panel, concluding in the close up in panel 5.

There’s an excellent You Tube channel called Every Frame a Painting (I’m sure you’ve heard of it, but if you haven’t, please go watch all the videos! There aren’t many, and they’re all really informative). My favourite video is this one, about editing:

This video hit on something that I strive for in my comics: emotion takes time. When I draw a scene that is emotional, when characters are struggling with something, or celebrating something, or being challenged, I want my readers to feel what the character is feeling, and one of the best ways to do that, for me, is to take my time. To give that emotion time to breathe on the page. 

I’m going to use some scenes in my graphic novel The Nameless City to illustrate how I use decompression and pacing to underscore the emotion in my comics. To avoid spoilers and because this is getting a little long, I’m going to put it under a cut. Please read on! :)  

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Making ear defenders available to your autistic child

I think most people would be surprised to know that my son has some auditory sensory processing issues. I’m purposefully not specifying hypersensitivity (being more sensitive) or hyposensitivity (being less sensitive), because the same person can experience both hypersensitivity and hyposensitivity in the same sense (auditory, tactile, etc.), from day to day or even from hour to hour (or different types of input - e.g. for auditory if could he different frequencies). Back in November 2015 my son told me that “sometimes I can’t hear quiet sounds, only loud sounds and very loud sounds and sometimes it is a problem for me.” That would obviously be describing hyposensitivity - but not all the time, and yet he is also obviously hypersensitive at other times, when he has put his hands over his ears.

He doesn’t tend to show any obvious distress for people to notice, but the signs are there if you are paying attention. (Again, this is a problem with the high-functioning / low-functioning labels and illustrates the argument against using them - people would look at my son and describe him as high-functioning (friends have!) but all that really means is that his struggles are less visible, not - as people seem to think - that he has hardly any or that they are “mild” and “nearly normal”, and that therefore he doesn’t need any consideration).

I had sometimes wondered about trying getting my son a pair of ear defenders, but not being very knowledgeable about sensory processing at that time, or how it affected my son (and I wouldn’t profess to be an expert now, just better than I was!) it wasn’t something I attached much importance to, he seemed to be managing fine.

Then (this was years ago) our family went to a fireworks display at a friend’s house. One of the guest families had brought loads of ear defenders for the kids to wear (most of them very young), so that they could fully experience and enjoy the fireworks without being scared by the loud noise. My son had coped with fireworks in the past by having hands over his ears, or being inside. Now he enjoyed using ear defenders in amongst lots of other children doing the same, and it was brilliant! As the family left with all the ear defenders, I thanked the mum for bringing them, and she insisted on gifting me a pair for my son, which was such a lovely thing to do and I am so grateful for. They’re not used a lot, but when they are used they are so helpful!

Examples of when the ear defenders have benefited my son:

Fireworks night.

Vacuuming. Before I get the vacuum cleaner out I always warn my son and ask if he’d like his ear defenders - he always does, and is perfectly happy being in the same room as me vacuuming with his ear defenders on - he’s even enthusiastically joined in and helped me before :)

Extra quiet time. His ear defenders live hooked onto the side of his bed. He has occasionally worn them in bed whilst reading before going to sleep.

Supporting a friend of my son’s playing a musical instrument he was learning, by watching him perform in a mini concert. My son was perfectly happy watching with his ear defenders on.

When my daughter wanted me to take her and her friends on a shopping trip to a busy indoor shopping centre/mall on a Saturday afternoon. My husband was out for the day so I knew my son would have to come with us and it worried me. My daughter had newly started high school and made new friends so I didn’t want to have to say no to her for her first ever shopping trip - she’d organised it and it was really important to her, but my son and I would have to accompany them to each shop, mostly waiting outside. I took my son’s iPad with us, and also packed his ear defenders. I think the ear defenders were invaluable! He chose to wear them the whole time we were there, with his zip-up hoodie’s hood up over them, which concealed them a bit. Near the end, he didn’t have the hood up, and I noticed that I seemed to get a few sympathetic glances from people which I found disappointing, but I was proud of my son for feeling confident about wearing them visibly. I had expected us to have to leave before my daughter and her friends had finished shopping, but we didn’t, and I think having the ear defenders with us was a big reason for that. (My son and I also took a break in a cafe before the end, something he’d been keen to do as part of the trip, and he’d used his iPad whilst waiting for the girls to come out of shops.)

So even if you think your child is coping without ear defenders, they’re easy to obtain and not expensive, so you could give them a go. Let your child try them out, explain that people from various occupations use them in their work, for example builders on a noisy building site. It doesn’t cut out all sound, just makes it less. Make them available to your child and let them express when they want to use them, you’ll be giving them the power to make their environment more comfortable when they need to.