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Lillian: “So, do you guys know the gender yet?” 

Oliver: “Actually we don’t want to find out before the big day”

Frank: *whispers* “Oh my god, here we go ..“

Lillian: “What do you mean you don’t wanna know? How am I supposed to decorate and get the room ready if I don’t know the gender?” 

Awa: “What??” 

Lillian: “The nursery. Oliver told us that you guys don’t have space for a kid so we agreed that you guys could live with us for a while” 

Oliver: *clears throat* “Actually mom, I haven’t discussed that with Awa yet ..”

Lillian: “What’s there to discuss? Neither of you have any money and your house doesn’t even have one bedroom, what are you gonna do? All sleep in the living room? That is the recipe to get your child taken away from you..” 

I know obviously both sides will have people who do it, but why do tucutes resort to violence and aggression so easily? I’ve yet to come across a truscum being violent and aggressive if their opinions are not agreed with apart from anonymous trolls, but I’ve personally encountered several people wishing harm on me personally and others who share my opinions, and the “anti truscum” tag is filled with death threats and derogatory bullying statements towards truscum. And yet *we* are called the “”“violent and harmful”“” ones

No matter what fandom we enter, no matter what genre we love, no matter how much we stay in our lane…we, as Black women, are constantly going to battle over characters that look and represent us in many ways. We are constantly having to fight against the racism, sexism, anti-blackness and the hatred that Black female characters receive in every fandom. I have seen so many irrelevant posts, comments, gifs about their disdain for a character or a ship (that always feature a Black woman) make their way into our tags…only for those who original posted or comment agreeing with the disrespectfulness of the post to act naive and ignorant when called out. Leave us alone! We don’t bother no one yet we’re constantly attacked, and our characters are constantly dehumanized because they dare to be more than just the sassy black friend to your favorite female character. Because they dare to be more than just the warrior and killing machine to your favorite characters. Because they dare to be a three-dimensional character who’s development is not to sure the purpose of your favorite characters. Y’all hate the fact that there are starting to be so many black women characters that aren’t falling into y’all Black Women troupes, and that pisses you off. Y’all mad because we’re doing away with being the ones that have to over empathize, to be the nurtures, the protectors, the fighters, the comic relief, the rescuers, etc…to your favorite characters.

I’m so tired of fighting against the Black Woman’s Burden. The burden of fighting everyone’s battle, while we are left to fight our own by ourselves. I have seen so many ladies like Tara Thornton, Michonne, Abbie Mills, Bonnie etc..constantly fighting the battles for your favorites and the moment they stop and start fighting for themselves only…the hate intensifies. I mean how many times was Michonne hated because she wouldn’t open her mouth to speak?…despite people not know her or her traumas. How many times have she fought and gave her all without questioning to people who treated her like crap as soon as she enter what was supposed to be safe havens according to Andrea? Yet she still received hate like no other, and now people are in our tags preaching to us about hate and how to act when it comes to characters who haven’t even made an appearance…sound familiar? Tara Thornton did everything for her best friend despite what was going on in her personal life. Yet she was hated on for daring to challenge your favorite? Because she didn’t bow down to your favorite characters and challenged their idiocy. Lets not forget that Tara was one of the most…if not the most traumatized character on the show. So how dare she wear her scares and wounds on the inside. How dare she not be quiet about her pain, because that’s what a lot of y’all like…right? For Black Women to never remind y’all that we’re human unless it’s important to your cause.

So stop lying to yourselves with the…it’s an innocent comment or suggestion when you come into our tags or ships. So stop asking us “can we call get alone” and to “stop the hate” when we never asked to be excluded from said solidarity, and it’s not use trying to strip away anyone’s humanity. Stop telling us that you don’t see race or color because you see it. You see it every time you say comments of I can’t see this, insert black woman, with the white male lead because they just don’t LOOK right together. I can’t see them in a relationship because she’s more like a brother to him…forgetting that you just stripped her of her sexual orientation because in order for you to see her as a woman. You will then have to see her as someone who can be considered attractive, and therefore so can a straight white male..who so happened to be a fictional character and one of, if not, the lead of the show. Not to mention that y’all wouldn’t mind pairing this, insert black woman, with any black male character on the show whether it makes sense or not..anything to get her away from your favorites huh?

Its like y’all hate that we, as Black women, would want it all. Yes, we do want to be vulnerable and strong at the same time. Yes, we do want to be the princess (who get rescued by the Prince), and a Queen at the same time. Yes, we do want to be badass and delicate at the same time. Yes, we do want to be independent and loved at the same time. Yes, we do want to be in a healthy relationship without losing our individuality at the same time. Yes, we want to be loved, cared for, respected, important, valued, and humanized at the same time. Why do we have to choose if y’all don’t have to choose?

So if y’all have a problem with a Black Woman wanting to be humanized, and not used to farther development your favorite characters. If y’all have a problem with Black Woman wanting to be more than a purpose for your favorite character to have a sassy Black friend, or the black killing machine who’s purposed is to always jump in the way and risk her life to save your favorite then stay out of our tags. If y’all don’t want receive any type of love and affection from anyone outside of your narrow view of thinking…then stay out of our tags. Were not your desexualized badass killing machines who all of a sudden don’t want any time of love and affection, but will happily give ours away. Stop leeching off of us. Stop draining us. Stop demanding that we take the pain without any kind of reaction. Stop stripping us of our humanity, and then sugar coding it as something different because that’s really the only way y’all can see us. As someone who’s sole purpose on these shows is to give servitude to your favorites without receiving the same in return. Y’all want us to cry for y’all, fight for y’all, play with y’all, love y’all, dance for y’all, teach y’all, protect y’all, rescue y’all, care for y’all, etc…and then when it’s time for the same in return. Were denied that access because, let’s face it, y’all don’t see us as anything else but to play servitude to your favorites because it’s so natural to y’all. The natural order to things.

If you can’t respect us, then leave us alone. Stay out of our tags. Stay in your lane, and stop swerving into ours with your ignorance and hidden racism so you can dehumanized our Black women characters. Leave us alone!

God, if only the people who found GA ‘problematic’ would stop posting about her being ‘problematic’ over and over and over again. it’s incredibly exhausting. My favourite posts in the tag are the ones from bloggers who openly admit that they have never heard of her/are not a fan/know nothing about her, yet have dedicated their entire blog for the past 48 hours about how disappointed they are in her. Yes, she posted a shitty tweet months ago. We all said it was shitty then, we all agree it’s still shitty now. But you know what? Those who constantly seek tolerance on this website could really do with showing a little tolerance themselves. Tolerance, acceptance and understanding is achieved through educating others, not cutting them out or cutting them down. Posts such as ‘GA and KM need to die’ do nothing to strengthen your discussions. 

seeing as though my attention span mimics that of a small rabbit ( is that the term… ) i have decided to construct another PERMANENT STARTER CALL, mainly because the old one was put out at a time where i wasn’t entirely active, now I am attempting to get back to a relatively active state. If you like this post you agree to the following:

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