have their benefits

anonymous asked:

So i have a "friends with benefits" it's weird cuz it's more then just sex he's there for me when I need him and I'm there for him when he needs me. Before we started sleeping together he had feelings for me but not anymore. I noticed that I've started to like him, I'm 100% sure he doesn't like me in that way so I don't know what to do honestly. Any advice

Dang, friends with benefits can be dangerous for this kind of thing. If you’re absolutely sure he doesn’t have feelings for you but you definitely like him, maybe it’s time to call it day. Otherwise you’ll end up growing stronger feelings and getting hurt. On the other hand you could talk to him. Ask him if he definitely doesn’t want a relationship. If he says he doesn’t feel the same as you then tell him that you’re out. Talking is great because it’s the only way to know for sure how he’s feeling, and he may feel the same, you never know!
Best wishes hun 💞

How I Got Straight A’s in My First Year of University

I was so proud of myself when I received firsts (that’s A’s for those not attending uni in the UK) on all of my assessments in my first year at university. Here are some tips for y’all to try at any point in university. They may be specific at times to my experience—my degree is in the social sciences and humanities, and I’m studying in the UK—but I did try to make them more generally applicable, and hopefully they should be helpful to someone out there.

Part One: Everyday Study Routine

  1. Before the start of the academic year, try to get in a little bit of preparation. See if there are any syllabi or reading lists posted online. You don’t have to pour over them, of course, but do attempt to do something, and have a basic grasp on what will be covered in your classes.
  2. Go to all your lectures and seminars. Unless you absolutely have to miss class because you are ill or have an important obligation to take care of, it’s really important to attend your lectures every day. (Note: if you are struggling with mental or chronic illness or a disability, don’t beat yourself up if you keep missing class. Please take care of yourself.) You may be tempted to just look at the PowerPoint presentation online, but it’s much more effective to be there in person. Often the lecturer may include information or extra explanations which are not included in the presentation. It will also allow you to process the information aurally as well as visually, and you will have the added benefit of taking notes too. You may also be able to ask questions.
  3. Do all the pre-reading for lectures. I know it’s tempting to put it off, but try to work it into your daily routine (because you will have reading to do every day). Inevitably, there will be times where you slip up and don’t have time to finish. If this happens, make sure you catch up on it at some point, because it’s very important to solidifying the concepts you are learning about. Also, the more you read in general, the better you will become at reading (and also writing).
  4. Take diligent notes (for both your lectures and pre-reading), and keep them organized. I prefer to handwrite in a notebook, as it helps me synthesize information rather than just typing it out verbatim—but it is totally up to you. If you do use a notebook, make a table of contents on the first page, where you write the date, topic, class, and page numbers of each set of notes you take. I think it’s a great idea to include your own thoughts and opinions in notes, or linking concepts you are learning to concepts you already know about.
  5. If you have the time, make sure to be reading books/essays/articles and engaging with ideas outside of your regular syllabus. This is one of the most important techniques (in my experience, at least) when it comes to writing essays and answering exam questions. Evidence of wider reading around a topic is a great way to boost the credibility of your argument. It also does wonders to solidify and broaden your conceptualization of certain ideas you may have covered in your classes.
  6. Where possible, try to contribute (as much as you feel comfortable) in seminars. If you are very quiet and reserved, that is totally okay too. I’m with you. But it has helped me tremendously in the past year to push myself to speak up more often in seminars. Talking in seminars allows you to clarify concepts and engage more deeply with the material being discussed (and it might impress your seminar tutor too, though this is secondary to the learning in my opinion).
  7. If you have some nerdy-ass friends, talk with them about your ideas and what you’re both learning in your courses. I can’t tell you the number of essays I’ve written which actually have blossomed out of conversations I’ve had with friends, where they’ve exposed me to topics I’d never heard of before or broadened my view of a concept. Learning from each other in a casual and fun setting is amazing!

Part Two: Assessment Time

  1. When you are given notice about big assignments coming up, such as essays or group projects, try to start working on them ASAP. Trust me, I know how hard it is. This is coming from someone who has dealt for years with chronic procrastination issues and nearly didn’t graduate from high school because of it. But you must start planning as soon as you possibly can, because the due date will come screaming up and before you know it, it’ll be the night before the deadline and you won’t have a clue what you’re writing about. Work it into your daily schedule if you have to. One great tip is to write down the deadline as being earlier (say, a week earlier) than what it actually is. This will prompt you to start earlier than you normally would have.
  2. Do a shitload of reading, widely, from multiple sources. Read everything you can on the topic you are doing your assignment on. For a basic literature review, this means looking through at least 20+ sources. That doesn’t mean carefully perusing each one front to back; it means looking through all the relevant literature to find a few great sources which will really give you a coherent argument and a big picture of the topic at hand.
  3. Keep your sources organized. I use Paperpile, which is a Chrome extension that allows you to save and organize academic sources. I make a folder for each assessment I am working on, and anything I find relevant to my topic, I save it to the folder. This will be a life saver for you when you actually go to plan your paper and also do the referencing.
  4. Content is important, but perhaps even more important is your argument and structure. This mostly applies to essays, but you can apply it to other types of assessments too. Try not to structure your argument in terms of blocks of content—e.g. Paragraph 1 is about Topic A, Paragraph 2 is about Topic B—but rather in terms of how you are laying out your argument. Make sure each part of your essay flows into the next, so that you are, for example, setting up a kind of dialogue or narrative between the different sources you’re using. Also ensure that any point you are making clearly relates back to your main thesis.
  5. If you’re a perfectionist like me: train yourself to remember that there is no such thing as perfect. Try to imagine what the perfect essay would be like. Can you imagine it? It’s probably pretty difficult, right? That’s because there is no such thing as a perfect assignment. Remind yourself of this, constantly. Tell yourself that you will be okay with just doing your very best. If you think about it logically: handing in something that is perhaps not your best ever, but handing it in on time and doing pretty well, is infinitely better than attempting to have a “perfect” essay but handing it in late and failing the assignment.

I hope this helped some of you! Best of luck and happy studying this year—go knock ‘em out! xo


Twitter sketch commish by two of my friends

t h e s e  t w o  w i l l  b e  t h e  d e a t h  o f  m e  (⊙‿⊙✿)

i haven’t finished me:a yet - and i will! i want to know the rest of the story. but this game has already burned me way too many times. i’m sorry i can’t be more positive - trust me, i tried, i have been holding out hope despite every shitty thing that happens and all the garbage i see, but… i just can’t do it anymore.

bioware is supposed to care about this. this is what they’re known for.


originally i drew this for bsd rarepair week day 2 (hanahaki theme)

then i realized i was missing the purpose of the event if i was planning to draw more ranpoe later down the line, so i kind of ended this prematurely?? idk i’m not too happy with how it turned out though

so your waiter makes a mistake..they might still have kids at home? paying off student loans? need to make rent this month? need to eat, need to survive? human error is no reason not to tip 

🥑 fruit factoids 🍉

Here are some fruit factoids that will help you to stay healthy while restricting. Stay safe, ladies and gentlemen. ♥

Grapefruit 🍊: one of the healthiest citrus fruits, high in vitamins, minerals and is known to aid in weightloss and reduces insulin levels. 110 calories in 1 grapefruit.

Pineapple🍍: nutritional superstar, Pineapple is rich in vitamin C and manganese. Its bromelain content may fight inflammation and reduce the risk of cancer. 82 calories in 1 cup.

Avacado 🥑: low in carbs, high in potassium. Avocados are rich in healthy fats and potassium, both of which are well known for their role in promoting heart health. 240 calories in 1 Avacado.

Blueberries: Blueberries are rich in a few important nutrients. They have a high antioxidant capacity and immune-enhancing properties, which may protect the body from illness.

Apple 🍎: Apples are very nutritious. Their nutrients, antioxidants and fiber may reduce the risk of disease, improve digestion and metabolic rate. 95 calories in 1 medium apple.

Pomegranate: Pomegranates have wide-ranging health benefits. They are incredibly high in antioxidants and other plant compounds that can help reduce inflammation and prevent disease. 144 calories in 1 cup.

Mango: Mangoes are rich in vitamin C and soluble fiber. They also contain plant compounds with antioxidant and anti-inflammatory effects. 200 calories in 1 fruit.

Strawberries🍓: Rich in several nutrients and antioxidants. Eating them may help control your blood sugar levels and reduce your risk of some diseases. 4 calories each.

Cranberries: Rich in several nutrients and antioxidants. They also contain beneficial plant compounds that help prevent urinary tract infections. 46 calories in 1 cup.

Lemons 🍋: Rich in vitamin C and other plant compounds that may promote heart health, boost weight loss and help prevent kidney stones. 17 calories in 1 fruit.

Durian: Rich in nutrients and plant compounds that can provide some promising health benefits. 350 calories in 1 cup.

Watermelon: High in water, nutrients and antioxidants. It is also particularly high in a powerful antioxidant called lycopene. 47 calories in 1 cup.

Olives: provide a variety of vitamins, minerals and antioxidants. These may reduce the risk of heart disease, cancer and osteoporosis. 4 calories per olive.

Blackberries: are a good source of many nutrients and beneficial plant compounds. Their antioxidants and anti-inflammatory properties may lower the risk of chronic disease. 62 calories in 1 cup.

Oranges🍊: containing some important vitamins, minerals and antioxidants. These may reduce the risk of several conditions such as kidney stones and anemia. 45 calories in 1 small fruit.

Bananas🍌: provide several nutrients and plant compounds, including resistant starch and pectin. Bananas can have benefits for exercise, blood sugar control and digestive health. 95 calories in one medium banana.

Red and purple grapes 🍇: Rich in nutrients and other plant compounds that can decrease inflammation and lower your risk of disease. 105 calories in 1 cup.

Guava: High in vitamins, minerals, fiber and antioxidants. It may reduce inflammation and help prevent certain cancers. 38 calories per fruit.

Papaya: Nutrient dense and rich in antioxidants. Eating it may reduce your risk of cancer and improve digestion. 67 calories per fruit.

Cherries🍒: Rich in nutrients and antioxidants. They also contain melatonin, which may improve the quality of your sleep. 77 calories per cup.

Hope this helps! ♥🍓♥🍒♥🥑♥🍊♥🍇♥🍋♥

To sum it up:

Liam, honey, I get the anger issues and the urge to beat the crap out of Gabe, but there are better ways to deal with the pent up frustration. Sex for example, very good for releasing tension. And you have Theo right there, right in front of you, looking like a snack. So use that (or him) for your own sake. I don’t think Theo would mind.

i think you can probably commentate on the fact that it’s curious that most NFL players are black men and most of them didn’t support kaepernick’s protest, but what can explain that on a structural level is simply that having more wealth means activism will have less and less benefit to you. being a “radical” or doing “radical acts” politically means you run the risk of losing whatever spoils of capital you’ve gained. the people who revolutionized society were exiled, murdered, hunted, slandered in state press, sanitized in history books and at times jobless and unemployable. if you have the social safety net of an NFL player, it is more in your favor to be complacent rather than standing for something.

Best bros on vacay

Snape: Was one of Voldemorts most trusted Death Eaters, was in with a bad crowd since Hogwarts, clearly showed prejudice and hate towards muggleborns, later showed this same prejudice even included one Lily Evans, the love of his life, told Voldemort about the prophecy. 

Snape: I regret everything I wanna help you stop Voldemort 

Dumbledore: I believe it 

Sirius: disowned his family and defied every thing they stood for, is best friends with James Potter since day one, joins the order of the Phoenix right after Hogwarts, was the best man at James wedding, is named Harrys Godfather. James and Lily Potter insists they trust Sirius with their lives. 

Sirius: is sent to Azkaban labelled “voldemorts right hand man” for the murder of James and Lily Potter, 12 muggles and Peter Pettigrew. 

Dumbledore: I believe it 


Originally posted by the-red-cube

What Lovers Do: Part 1

Fandom: Marvel

Pairing: Bucky Barnes x Reader

Summary: You have a friend with benefits relationship with the Winter Soldier himself: Bucky Barnes. You two have gotten the routine down: wake up, train, mission, come home, have sex, then act like nothing happened. It’s worked for you for a while now. But now that Bucky’s starting to see someone seriously, you don’t know what to do with yourself.

Warnings: implications of smut, ANGST

A/N: I got too excited so I decided to just post the first part today! If you want to be tagged in the series, please send me an ASK. EDIT: Tagging is now CLOSED. 

You and Bucky laid on the bed, naked, sweaty and panting. You just went three rounds of your “bedroom exercises”. You stared at the ceiling still in the post-sex haze.

“I’m seeing someone.” Bucky sais breaking the silence.

You turn your head to look at him, but he continues to stare at the ceiling, “Oh?”

“I think it’s getting serious.”

Your mouth suddenly feels really dry. You knew this would happen eventually, but you figured you’d be the one to break it off. Not Bucky. You wished it was you to find someone. But no. You couldn’t. Not when the guy you just had sex with was the one for you.

“What’s her name?” You looked at him teasingly, trying to hide the pain.

Bucky smiled, “Melissa, but she goes by Mellie.” Bucky turns to you and props his head on his hand, “Y/N, she’s so beautiful, kind, and funny. She knows about my past and she accepts me for who I am. It’s-It’s so amazing. She’s so amazing.”

You have him a small smile, the smile not reaching your eyes, “I’m happy for you, Buck.”

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Rocket: “We’re from the union.”
Kraglin: “The union?”
Rocket: “We represent workers in all intergalactic industries, both legal and illegal.”
Kraglin: “Oh, of course.”
Rocket: “Are you feeling at all degraded or oppressed?”
Kraglin: “A little. We don’t even have dental.”
Rocket, turning to Groot: “They don’t even have dental…”


• You will have heard this time and time again DRINK WATER. Just do it, it’s so worth it, for your skin for your hair, brain, body. Everything is made better by drinking some water.

• Herbal teas work magic. (Is it not just hot flavoured water). It doesn’t have to be green (although I do highly recommend it as it helps with weight loss and metabolism etc etc)

Here is some other green tea alternatives:

- Mint tea ~ it’s delicious and refreshing. It improves digestion, reduce pain, eliminate inflammation, relaxes the body and mind, can cure bad breath, aids in weight loss and boosts immune system

- White tea ~ contains the same types of antioxidants as green tea. It has many health promoting properties including boosting cardiovascular health, helping to lower cholesterol, reducing the risk of cancer and enhancing weight loss


If you have a sweet tooth stock up on fruit, I am slowly but surely giving up those sweet treats because I stocked up on so much fruit. It also helps down there like there is no tomorrow.

- Grapefruit - is one of the healthiest citrus fruit. Besides being a good source of vitamins and minerals, it is known for its ability to aid weight loss and reduce insulin resistance. It has also been proved to lower cholesterol and help prevent kidney stones. It may also be useful for weight loss.
I love it for breakfast it’s so freaking refreshing.

- Pineapple - is rich in vitamin C and manganese. Its bromelain content may fight inflammation and reduce the risk of cancer.

- Avocado - I know, I know. It’s ridiculously good for you as it a healthy fat and contains potassium both of which help that big loving heart of yours.

- Blueberries - are rich in a few important nutrients. They have a high antioxidant capacity and immune-enhancing properties, which may protect the body from illness.

- Apples - are very nutritious. Their nutrients, antioxidants and fiber may reduce the risk of disease and improve digestion.

- Pomegranate - have wide-ranging health benefits. They are incredibly high in antioxidants and other plant compounds that can help reduce inflammation and prevent disease.

- Mangoes - contain vitamin C and soluble fiber. They also contain plant compounds with antioxidant and anti-inflammatory effects.

- Oranges - contain some important vitamins, minerals and antioxidants. These may reduce the risk of several conditions such as kidney stones and anemia.

Those are my favourites but you can also have

-Cranberries (that 🐱 will be delicious)
-Lemon (put it in your water)

• Vegetables

I know I sound like a mother but EAT YOUR GREENS it’s so good for you.

Kale and Spinach in my opinion taste like shit but they are so good for so get them into your diet through smoothies or pasta sauce idc just eat them.

Now to the good stuff

- Carrots - are the most amazing veg I eat them like a rabbit. Get some carrots whole, they are crazy cheap depending on where you come from, chop them into sticks and snack on them like they are the last food on earth. Carrot soup is also amazing. If you have a spiralizer thingy you could put them in pasta or noodles it’s so good

- Broccoli - tonnes of vitamin C and K and even protein. If you are trying to give up meat for whatever reason eat loads of broccoli as it’s packed with protein.

- SPOUTS - yes sprouts everyone hates them. I grew up loving these green balls of goodness and if you cook them right so they aren’t soggy and have some firmness they are delicious.

- Peas - I love them they are amazing eat them with everything. Packed with iron and folate they are great for women.

- BELL PEPPERS - red green and yellow peppers are amazing. They have so much vitamin C which is amazing for you and your skin. Stuffed bell peppers are amazing, filling and so cheap.

-Green onions
-green beans
-sweet potatoes

Are also great options.


• Cut fat off all your meat it’s just so beneficial

• Stop drinking soda and fizzy drinks. I never drink them but everyone who I know who did and stopped lost so much weight so quickly and it never reappeared.

• Eggs are amazing if it suits you eat then if it doesn’t don’t. Do your research about what you eat

• Stop eating so many sweets and chocolates it’s shit for your body and your skin. But don’t forget to treat yourself.


• Grill don’t fry your food it earns that it won’t cook in its own fat cause it will drop through the grill rack.

• DO YOUR RESEARCH about what you eat and make your own decisions just make sure they are healthy ones, ensure you live a long and healthy life.

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the plan was to stay up late and watch movies all night, but the first movie isn’t even over and they are both falling asleep