have no self doubt

marauders: the map N E V E R L I E S

me: it’s a homemade magical map with a built in tracking device that you made as teenagers………what kind of Confidence in your own abilities……..i wish i could be that confident about my shit…………..

My personal hero of Episode 11?

There is so much love, so much passion.
And with this, seemingly small move, she helped JJ to not fall into the depression that is often followed by a severe anxiety attack.
Because let’s face it, that’s exactly what he had. A panic attack.
She snapped him out of the moment… The moment he would probably have drowned himself in self doubt.

She showed him that for HER he is still the best.
And then others join in. Because for THEM he is also the best.

And it’s so pure and speaks to me on so many levels. I cried.
Like a baby. And I’m not scared to admit it.

And that’s what I love so much about Yuri!!! on Ice. It’s so real on so many levels. It shows so many struggles other anime (or shows, or movies) rather hide from because they don’t want their watchers to feel down.
but YoI shows it. It shoots right through our hearts… but then it also shows that there is always light at the end.
Always someone to stand by you.
Always a way to overcome things.
Not alone, but with the people who love you.

I LOVE Yuri!!! on Ice.
Because it’s pure emotion.

✩ Interview with a Mun ✩

➊ How many ships do you have on this blog?

➋ Have you ever roleplayed with someone that just left an unforgettable impression on you?

➌ Which of your ships on this blog is the fluffiest?

➍ Would you say you’re a decent roleplayer or do you have any self doubts?

➎ Have you made lots of friends on this blog?

➏ What’s the one thing you especially love about roleplaying your muse?

➐ Are there any people you’ve been to afraid of approaching?

➑ Give us a rough estimate: How much time have you spent on your graphics? (icons, theme, banners, promos, etc)

➒ Got any memorable threads on here? Care to mention a few?

➓ What were some of the most frustrating moments you had with your muse’s interaction with another muse?

❂ Wild card! (Ask a question of your own!)

One For The Boys

(Check your Mars Sign)

ALPHA: Leo, Gemini, Aries

you are confident and your own man. you do your own thing and have complete confidence in everything you do. you have your self-doubts, but you don’t let it cloud your judgment and logic. you are well liked by almost everyone, and you just have an easy charm and swagger about your presence. women are drawn to your charisma and presence. you enjoy being social and having lots of people around. you are a natural leader 

BETA:  Cancer, Taurus

you are kind of shy and introverted and not very confident in yourself. you are constantly plagued by insecurities and self-doubts and you can never commit to anything in the fear that you will fail in it. you are somewhat liked by people but they tend to look at you rather condescendingly and woman tend to friendzone you. you are nervous around other people and social situations because you’re always afraid that people are judging you. you are a born follower 

OMEGA: Capricorn, Sagittarius

you are the polar opposite of the alpha male but in a good way. like the alpha male you are confident, intelligent and have a sense of charisma about you, but unlike the alpha male, you are completely your own person. you do not need anyone, and you can even be emotionally distant due to your complete self-possession. you trust few people and foster even fewer intimate relationships. omegas do not care for leadership by others as they are perfectly capable of leading themselves 

GAMMA: Pisces, Libra, Virgo

you are sort of the “invisible” guy. there is nothing really spectacular about you. you are not a beta, but neither are you an alpha. your personality and presence usually blends in with the rest of the room and you’re just sort of…there. people like you just fine and you usually don’t have too much trouble with girls, but all the same, there is nothing particularly memorable or remarkable about you. you are not a born leader nor a inherent follower, although you can take on those tasks depending on the situation 

SIGMA: Scorpio, Aquarius

you are a manipulative mastermind. you are a spider waiting to lay your trap. you possess a cunning, intuitive mind and can sway people to your will. you don’t have the casual swagger of the alpha or the omega but you do have a clever presence about you and people tend to be both wary and respect you for that. you can often be even more powerful than the alpha or the omega male in social situations due to your ability to persuade and manipulate them. you are neither a follower or a leader but rather a wild card

Every day there was self-doubt when I put pen to paper. When I first started writing Hamilton, I had no idea if it was going to be good or if it was just a crazy idea. I had a lot of self-doubt about it,” Miranda told Vanity Fair at the Moana world premiere in Hollywood on Monday night. “But having doubt can be a good thing. If you don’t have self-doubt, you’re probably making some pretty crappy art. Having doubt makes you push yourself farther than you’ve gone before. It pushes you beyond your comfort zone when you’re writing and that helps you get through.
Have you doubted your progress, regretted your choices, put yourself down? Remember that you are doing just fine. Remind yourself right now that no matter what it looks like, you are doing the best you can. And getting better. Encourage yourself, support yourself, and celebrate every little thing about yourself.
—  Iyanla Vanzant
An important message to our fans.

I don’t really know how to begin this. I am trying to find the best way to sugar coat this or make it easier, but unfortunately we will not be able to go through with our tour this December in the UK and Europe. There is no beef, we are not breaking up, nobody is fighting, and nobody is mad at each other. It is a collective decision that we feel we had to make, because at this point it seems to be more of a “wrong place, wrong time” situation than we could have ever anticipated. Honestly, it fucking sucks that we aren’t able to make it over, but there are things that must be addressed in our personal lives and there are people whom we love and are important to us that we need to help and be there for, and we must look after our own personal wellbeing.


For a few years I have been struggling with an ebb and flow of anxiety, extreme self doubt, and unnecessary paranoia. We are lucky enough to have Dan, our merch guy, our agent Jason, and our manager Evange, who we see as more than employees or business partners and more than an exchange of money for our mutual benefits. We were able to bring people into our family that cared as much about what we’re doing as if they were helping to write the songs and convey these feelings with us. We signed to Fearless Records, people who believe in us whole heartedly and have gone above and beyond for our band to foster our growth and reach new people and audiences. We have opened shows, tours, and became friends with so many bands and people whom we had looked up to and helped us when we were trying to figure out who we were and how we fit into this world. We got to be a part of Warped Tour, not once, not twice, but three times, which was something that would only ever happen in dreams that I considered to be too far out of reach to ever manifest themselves in our lives. We have fans who have supported us, cared for us, related to us and our music, and made our craziest dreams possible. And yet I felt that it didn’t make sense, that I was inadequate, unfit, and unworthy to be able to do something that some of my closest friends and I had loved and worked endlessly to achieve. There can only be so much that anybody can take, both positive and negative, especially when dealing with an anxiety disorder or any other underlying mental afflictions and issues for that matter.


I have been doing this current tour sober because I was reaching a point where I was self diagnosing and self medicating something that I still don’t completely understand, but thought that I could temporarily conquer for the sake of being able to do something that we all truly love and believe in. I felt that if I stepped away to receive help it would affect and possibly destroy this beautiful thing that we are extremely lucky to have in our lives. I thought I would be putting myself in front of other people when there are people we could help and reach out to with our music. And most importantly I didn’t want to disappoint all the people that had placed their faith in us, in what we could create, and our potential. I was speaking on stage about the importance of mental health, reaching out for help, and not being ashamed to do so when I was doing the exact opposite. I was worrying everybody close to me, my communication skills were next to non existent, and if I had gone any longer things would have been very dangerous for me. I hadn’t reach the point of no return, but if it went on much longer I would have been in a much worse place.


Being sober has helped opened my eyes to the fact that it wasn’t the weed, alcohol, or a possible dependency that was shutting me off from everything and everyone I cared for. It definitely did not help with the excess I became accustomed to, but in the end it was my mental health that needed to be addressed. I have had an erratic sleep schedule that sleep aids haven’t been able to curb, which with my current state can be extremely dangerous overseas with adjusting to jetlag. I need to be present, sharp, and focused, and at this point I feel that as great as this tour could be it would have an extreme emotional and mental toll on my wellbeing. I have been experiencing manic swings that in some cases lend themselves in positive ways and have made me more productive and sociable than I’ve been in a while, but when the smoke clears I am left feeling stressed, stretched thin, paranoid, depressed, and more anxious than I have ever been. There could possibly be a hereditary chemical imbalance and I need to seek professional help and care for my wellbeing if I am going to continue to contribute doing what we love with integrity and dignity. How am I supposed to tell people to love themselves for both their strengths and their flaws when I haven’t been doing that myself? 


We are going to be finishing this current tour with The Wonder Years, Knuckle Puck, Moose Blood, and Seaway with the help of these amazing people, who we are privileged to be close with and have the support system they have been more than willing to provide for us. I want to reassure everybody that Real Friends, as a band, as people, as friends, and as a family are in a good place. 


Personally, I need help and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I don’t have to get better for anyone other than myself, and I am finding the self worth to admit that. I may have a problem that is out of my control at this point in time, but now I have the ability and strength to recognize that I can continue taking steps to eventually have control over it. For the first time in a while I have a good feeling about the future and need to take measures to make that a reality. We are working on a rescheduled tour for the first half of 2017 and hope to announce these in the next few weeks. If you don’t want to wait until then refunds are available at point of purchase.  We want to figure out a way to make this tour even more special when we are able to make it back, especially because we don’t get too many chances to come to the UK and Europe. When we do this, everything will be right. Everything will feel right. Everything is and will be fine, sometimes it just takes work to get there.


Thank you for taking the time to read this and for making so much of the good in our lives possible.  


With love and understanding, Dan.

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Do you have any idea how many attempts it took me to get kageyama just so i could draw this stupid comic¿¿¿

Here’s the test in case you want it :-)

To young lesbians

You don’t have to “verify” or “test” your lesbianism by being with a man “just in case”. In that young lesbian self-doubt stage that some of us have, you don’t need to double-check yourself by “trying out” being with a man. 

Too many times have I heard older lesbians lament the fact that they slept with men as a form of self-hate and self-harm, or to try to convert themselves to be straight. My heart breaks for them

Too many times have men said to me “just try it” or “but how do you know you’re a lesbian if you’ve never been with a man?” or “there’s no harm in experimenting!”

Don’t worry, young lesbians, you never have to be with a man. There are lesbians who have lived their whole lives without being with a man. You know you’re a lesbian by the fact that you’re solely attracted to women. That’s it. 

Reasons why I relate to Aristotle Mendoza

• mom has told me i have no friends
• low self esteem and self-doubt
• but not afraid to fight you
• likes dogs
• low key very gay

I’m scared to love you. Scared to let you into my head, if I let you in you’ll have to stumble over all of my self-doubt, all of my negative thoughts, my fears. I’m scared if you see all of the cobwebs in my heart that you won’t want to bring the necessary things you need to clean up my damaged heart. I’m scared that you will only love the nice parts, the parts I pretend to be when the morning light is shining. But when the night brings out my inner demons and I howl with the wolves in the night will you be able to handle the blood on my lips.

so I had an informational interview with a very nice attorney at a firm that does the kind of work I’m interested in, and I was hoping to follow that up with an actual interview for an open position. However, (1) they have not contacted me in over two weeks, and (2) when I reached out to the woman I spoke with, she politely said they’re contacting candidates this week, implying that if I don’t get an email they’re not interested.

So I’m doing the thing where I quietly let a dream dissolve so it doesn’t knife me in the gut three weeks down the line when the disappointment is for sure—

except that my career counselor just keeps chirping things like “WAIT AND SEE” “SOMETIMES BIG FIRMS MOVE SLOWLY” and it is not helping.

“That loss of self-awareness can be so dangerous, so that’s when I have days when I have healthy self-esteem and things are in a great place, and I have days where 
self-doubt is my primary emotion, and that’s okay, because that means you’re living a human, emotional, unaffected life.”