parents were like “you can only have one drink at dinner” and on the one hand, this is totally fair, they are paying, it is their prerogative, but on the other hand: crowded restaurant, unfamiliar food, unfamiliar environment, unfamiliar humans, obligation to make conversation since unfamiliar humans are Extended Family. likelihood of sensory overload in anticipated conditions: approx. 75%. but i have to go anyway!!! last time we went to dinner with Family Friends it was at their house and they provided alcoholic beverages in abundance since they themselves drank abundantly.