has something to do with food

anonymous asked:

Can you make a headcanon of the RFA reacting to a Mexican MC because I am Mexican

YOOSUNG 

  • he doesn’t know much about Mexican culture 
  • I mean just typical things like 5 de mayo 
  • or some foods 
  • but besides that he’s totally lost 
  • so you have to teach him a lot of things 
  • but he really enjoys it 
  • like he wants more 
  • ends up being as mexican as you, at least in his heart 


ZEN 

  • he likes a lot of your culture 
  • and how happy your country is 
  • I mean they always have a reason to party 
  • and that is so nice 
  • he WANTS to go to a mexican party one day 
  • and mostly loves the way you talk about your country 
  • he’s really happy to see how proud you’re about your roots
  • ask a lot about movies and productions in there 
  • so when he goes with you he has something to do 


JAEHEE

  • loves the idea of a mexican beach 
  • and relaxing there 
  • and having all that nice food 
  • she just loves it 
  • wants to meet your family because she wants to go serious with you 
  • learns to cook your favorite dish for you 
  • and gets tons of mexican things for your house 


JUMIN 

  • plans a holiday in the moment 
  • like srsly you are going there for months 
  • wants to make sure you don’t feel like forgetting your country 
  • and he goes all the way 
  • like is a really mexican trip 
  • with only mexican food and drinks 
  • but is nice 
  • of course he knows a bit of Spanish 
  • and just for fun you teach him other words
  • and now you get to hear Jumin Han saying “pinche penedejo”


SAEYOUNG 

  • he knows Spanish a bit 
  • but doesn’t get much of mexican Spanish 
  • ask you to teach him how to insult 
  • and sadly for you you do it 
  • now he’s saying “vete a la chingada pendejo” to Yoosung all day 
  • and he gets a mariachi hat to wear 24/7
  • like is literally obsessed 
  • mostly because it makes you laugh to see him 

anonymous asked:

Hi Doc! I hope you're having a decent day. A bit ago I took my pup to a new practice with six vets. We've seen three of them. They all had different approaches to dealing with dog's issue (environment and food allergies) which we were handling somewhat slowly due to tight finances. He's great now, but it has made me curious. At your practice, how much do you differ in dxing/treating fairly common issues? Do you try to be on the same page or are the differences in method helpful?

It depends entirely on what the issue is.

If one treatment for a condition proves to be super effective, reliable and affordable, it will quickly become the dominant treatment method across veterinary medicine. If something works 95% of the time the majority of vets will utilize it.

If you have two treatments for a condition, and both are only effective, for example, 60% of the time, you will find veterinarians that favor each, or both. Generally speaking the more possible treatments there are for a thing, the less consistently effective each of those treatments are. For example there are relatively few different treatments for a broken leg (which is either fixed or not) but there are lots and lots of treatments for chronic pain (because not all are effective or effective enough in all patients).

Allergies are one of these frustrating conditions where lots of potential treatment plans exist, because none of them are close enough to 100% effective to dominate. And if there’s a treatment trial happening, there’s variation in which steps you trial first.

At my work we are fairly similar in how we all treat common conditions. We’ve all had similar levels of ongoing continuing education, and have similar philosophies when it comes to veterinary medicine. We don’t contradict each other where we do differ in opinion though, to prevent confusion for the client.

We will sometimes utilize each other for ‘internal referrals’ though, where we grab another vet in the practice for a quick second opinion. Sometimes it’s about a area of special interest or expertise, sometimes it’s just to know you’re not crazy. Most long term patients end up being managed by all of us, as a team, in this way.

OH NO

Okay so with how extra Iggy is, the dude probably LOVES Halloween. Elaborate costumes! Creative themed food! Shenanigans!

So 15yo Noct wants to do something nice for him by doing some Halloween baking, right, and Gladio (another spoiled rich boy with a butler) agrees because how hard can it be? They look some stuff up on the internet, stuff that is WAY above their level but they don’t know that, and figure they can work it out.

They can’t.

Melting butter! Easy! Good thing Gladio has a sudden realisation just as Noct goes to throw a metal mixing bowl into the microwave!

Electric mixers! Efficient! Until you set it too high for the too small bowl and batter is splattered all over.

Little bits of eggshell in the batter aren’t a problem, right?

There’s a minor (“minor”) flour fight, and the kitchen is wrecked before they even get anything done. But it’s not that hard to clean a kitchen, is it? Iggy makes it look so easy!

Then they decide that recipes are for wimps and start tossing in whatever they can find- that little jar of red stuff looks interesting, ADD IT IN (somewhere else Iggy breaks into a cold sweat, knowing without knowing that his saffron is doomed)

In the end it’s an unholy mess but they toss it in a pan and look at the oven. 350 degrees? Noct’s oven only goes up to 250! They’ll have to leave it in for longer to make up the difference.

Smoke is normal, right?

…THIS MUCH smoke is normal…right????

At least Gladio thought to turn off the oven before they evacuated with the rest of the building, and they’re standing out the front when a sleek black car screeches up, Cor behind the wheel and Ignis already jumping out of the passenger side.

…They weren’t going to admit what had happened, but it was gonna be obvious from the moment they were allowed back into the apartment, so they fessed up.

Ignis nearly murdered them both, but he settled for immediately booking them both in for early Sunday morning cooking lessons.

Oh, and they’re on the hook for cleanup, as well.

AND they have to promise to never pull that shit unsupervised again, or else Iggy is getting Noct moved back to the Citadel, he doesn’t give a fuck.

bellamyblake  asked:

Tell me about your pets babeeeeeeeeeee <3

@bellamyblake We had three dogs before Thor. A schnauzer, Scooter (I grew up with him), a yellow lab, Misty, and another schnauzer, Samuel Princeton (Sammie for short). I still miss them so so so much. But!!! My love. My life. My smol angry bathroom floor pooper son :)

Thor is noisy and steals the majority of the bed and he’s pushy af when he wants your lap and only your lap. he likes to play ball ALL. THE. TIME. especially when you’re trying to do something like make his food. or your food. or take a shower. he can’t be trusted around socks, shoes, underwear, or anything that falls on the floor that looks delicious to him. he also eats all of his plushie toys because he thinks the squeaker is food. and while he loves his ball, he has zero disregard for its general wellbeing lmao. he’s terrified of nearly everything (leaves are scary, the wind is scary, the fireplace is scary, etc. etc.) but he also thinks he’s this Big Scary Dog that can take on the world, when in all actuality if a burglar ever came into our house he’d probably bring ‘em a toy to play with and give ‘em a cuddle lol

He’s a lil shit but he’s my lil shit 😊

goningbehindhisback  asked:

Hey, my boyfriend recently found out about my eating habits and really wants to “help me” but I just want to be thin and like myself. I know he doesn’t understand it, but do you have any tips on how to act or look like I’m eating? Thanks! I love your account 😊

hi, i’d look at the previous ask i answered bc that has lots of tips for avoiding meals etc. you can also talk up all the food you didn’t eat, like if you’re not with him but texting him or something say you ate loads of stuff you didn’t like “wow i just ate a whole popcorn to myself at the movies” “i just ate 2 packets of noodles” “ugh so annoyed i just finished the last packet of crisps/bowl of cereal/ slice of toast”. that way it’ll seem like you’re eating much more than you are. also when you’re with him, chew everything 30 times. this makes what you’re eating take longer and you always look like you’re eating, not taking one quick bite and then waiting for ages between. and finally, if you’re eating with him go for the lowest cal options possible so you can eat as much as possible. just make sure he sees you’re eating and thinks you’re healthy. please stay safe honey

Take Your Gatekeeping and Shove It.

So, this past weekend, I took my 11-year-old daughter to SuperCon to meet her favorite actor (and favorite Doctor), Peter Capaldi.

She wore a little blue TARDIS-decorated dress and some Doctor Who pins, and she nearly cried with joy when Capaldi greeted her for the photo op. He was a consummate gentleman and such a sweet and enthusiastic person.

An hour or so after the wonderful photo op experience, she and I were sitting at a table in the food court area.

A burly, older man plopped down nearby.  He looked at my little girl’s outfit, smiled, and said, “Do you even KNOW anything about Doctor Who?”

WTF, dude?

I was too stunned for a second to even respond, so he started right in with the ‘quizzing.’

“Who are the Doctor’s biggest enemies, and what planet does he come from?” this stranger asked.

Now I had moved past shocked and right into indignant/angry/protective mode.

“I don’t want her to be quizzed on something she loves, because I don’t want her thinking she has to prove ANYthing in order to be a fan,“ I told him.

Looking at my daughter, I said “You don’t owe strangers explanations or information, ok?“  She said OK and looked relieved.

Still he pressed on, patronizing grin and all: “Oh, I just want to be sure parents are raising their kids right.” Then he turned to my daughter again and asked “Who was the first Doctor, then?”

I cut him off right there. “No. I don’t want her quizzed. At all.”

Dude blinked in disbelief, sighed, and left about a minute later.

“Thanks,” my daughter said. “He was making me feel awkward.”

I held her hand and looked into her eyes. “Some men think they can have power over you by making you prove yourself. You never have to do it. They’re just insecure and pitiful, so they want to make you feel like it, too.  It’s not only about fan stuff, and it’s not always just men, but be careful not to fall into that trap, ok?”

That crap isn’t harmless fun. It sets up a pattern of approval-seeking, self-justification, self-doubt, and fear of exclusion that is very dangerous for children (particularly girls).

Fuck that.

TL;DR:  Do NOT come at me, my little girl, or anyone in my vicinity with your condescending, gatekeeping bullshit.

The next time, I won’t make the mistake of even TRYING to be polite.

Originally posted by tum-binha

Ireland vs Storm Ophelia

Okay so thought I’d let you tumblr guys know some stuff/warnings about Storm Ophelia

  • It’s due to hit Monday 16th (aka tomorrow). Apparently Kerry will face it around 6am.
  • There is a red weather warning for Galway, Mayo, Clare, Cork and Kerry, Limerick, Waterford and Wexford.
  • The rest of the country has an Orange weather warning but that can probably change so be aware
  • There is a high chance of power cuts so remember to get lots of bottled water, torches, candles etc.
  • Charge your phone to 100% and if there are power outages DO NOT use your phone in case you need it for an emergency. Read a book instead or something.
  • In case of floods protect all important documents and stuff. Put all valuable items in high presses.
  • Stock up on food too (Last time we had a storm this bad we forgot to buy food for the house and it was awful)
  • For people who have anxiety about the storm remember that this is only temporary weather and do whatever you can to keep yourself calm. Whether that is reading, drawing or keeping yourself busy by cleaning the house. The storm won’t last forever and I promise you’ll be safe.
  • Check whether or not your school/work has been cancelled to avoid any unnecessary travel

Okay that’s all I can think of at the moment but if anyone wants to add anything to the list feel free to write away. Stay safe Xx

The houses as types of friends I have
  • Gryffindor: Will act like they can beat your ass but forgets about it a day later // Owns a hoverboard // "I hate this song but the guy who sings it has a funny name so let's play it for the 50th time" // Will probably bring you into an abandoned house in the middle of the night and scare the shizzle out of you.
  • Hufflepuff: The Mom™ friend // Will share their lasagna if you're a really close // Respects the heck out of you // "I will beat you!" // "Wait, no pls don't hurt me I was kidding" // Fucking loves cats // "I wear itchy pastel chokers everyday because I'm FABULOUS" // Loves cute nicknames.
  • Ravenclaw: "I would hang out today, but I kinda wanna learn Mandarin first" // Is very open minded and a wonderful person too talk to, unless you say something that they REALLY don't agree with // Actually has a plan but only a 50/50 percent chance of carrying it out // "Awesome, free stuff!" // Won't judge you too hard if your for the right reasons // Knows™ what to do most of the time.
  • Slytherin: "Boi watch me" // Has a resting bitch face // You regret ever angering them // Once swam half a mile to an island on an innertube bc their 7 yr old cousin said they couldn't // Only came back bc they threatened them with no food // "I hate everyone" // Really does hate everyone // "I really don't want to do this but I gotta stay fit and strong and all that shit" // Acts innocent but their friends really KNOW.
Normal Horoscope:

Aires: The night has a thousand eyes, be very careful not to poke any of them. What did the night ever do to you?

Taurus: Be on the lookout for something that looks like its made of driftwood and light. He trades bad memories for fast food cupons.

Gemini: If you come across a library of forbidden knowledge tended by the dead dont try to check anything out. You can only get a card if you’re a legal citizen of an afterlife plane and it would be very embarrassing if you weren’t.

Cancer: Not every day will be one of triumph. You will fail, you will be lost, you will be scared. Fertilizer is made from plants whose time has passed.

Leo: You must be brave enough to produce terrible things. The key is discipline, fuck standards.

Virgo: The internet has made it possible to be scared to talk to girls that are thousands of miles away. 

Libra: Make sure to empty your dream catcher into a wastebasket every couple days. Otherwise you might attract things that try to eat the dreams suck there.

Scorpio: If you’re gonna break rules, for the love of god do it with some style.

Ophiuchus: Hiding under the covers actually works with some things. It is technically a threshold and so some things do actually have to be invited.

Sagittarius: “two birds one stone” Is a misleading proverb. Meteorites hit pretty hard.

Capricorn: Most armor is not resistant to funk based weaponry. 

Aquarius: Harvest from the rich and give to the poor. They wont need the blood for much longer anyway.

Pisces: Make up your own constellations, pray to your own gods, command unknown forces of your own divination. Steal from everything. This is real magic.

If you are young and lost - things I’ve learned so far in college:

1. Do not go looking for validation of your beauty or self-worth from a boy. If you do not already believe in your own worthiness, it can only be dangerous to try to find it from someone else.
2. No one is going to look at you and see all the flaws that are constantly running through your head.
3. Don’t ever regret trying. For once, don’t be the fearful one. Someone needs to be the fearless one. Let it be you.
4. Always be as confident as you are on your good days.
5. Remind yourself that you do have good days. When a good day happens, be grateful and don’t forget it.
6. Forming relationships with people will help you grow and learn. No matter what kind of relationships or how they come to be or end.
7. You are better than you used to be, and you should be proud of yourself.
8. Talking about it with a friend will make you feel better.
9. You are important. You can’t let yourself forget that. You’ve suffered for too long doubting that you were important.
10. There are things that make you love life. When the weather is nice, when someone tells you that you are good at something, when you choose to socialize, when you get a good grade, when you try a new food, when you discover a new song.
11. Compliment people. It will make them happy, and it will also make you happy.
12. Nobody is perfect. Everyone has their insecurities. Fake it till you make it. Fake that you have confidence until you actually do have confidence.
13. Don’t be disappointed if someone doesn’t like you like you were hoping. There are/will be people who do like you a tremendous amount.
14. Don’t be so focused on appearances, but do have the confidence that you are not ugly.
15. There’s no point in comparing yourself to another girl, especially if you don’t know her.
16. Don’t take your friends for granted.
17. Don’t regret staying up late with friends, even if you have school or work the next morning. These nights make college memorable.
18. The less you eat processed foods, the happier you will be. Buy natural foods and cook them yourself.
19. There are people who love you, so why is it that hard for you to love yourself?
20. Always make eye contact and watch your body language.
21. Picking at your skin when you’re stressed about something else is a stress reliever at the moment but you will ALWAYS regret it right after.
22. Don’t let other people ruin your favorite songs.
23. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying meaningless sex. But be prepared for the nights you find yourself feeling unfulfilled and wondering if you don’t deserve more.
24. Sometimes in life you have to hurt someone. But always put yourself first above any boy.

—  screwful 
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Settlement Sheet
This is essentially a character sheet, but it's for towns and other settlements instead of persons. It's intended to help guide the creation process and facilitate reading and organization.

Settlement Sheet (by luckpack)

[The following text may have been edited for accessibility]

“This is essentially a character sheet, but it’s for towns and other settlements instead of persons. It’s intended to help guide the creation process and facilitate reading and organization.

I recommend using it with my [NPC Sheets.]

Below are Google Drive download links. All PDFs have two pages: the first one is the front and the second one is the back. The Form Fillable version has no lines, so you can download and print it without filling the forms if you want.

[Settlement Sheet]

[Settlement Sheet, Form Fillable]

[Settlement Sheet, Printer Friendly]

[Settlement Sheet, Form Fillable, Printer Friendly]

I intentionally left some things out from this sheet:

  • Some DMs like writing down “Notable Items” in their settlement notes, but this has never made sense to me. I view special items as NPC belongings or Quests rewards, not something location specific. 
  • The prices, foods, drinks and services provided by the local inn, as well as the inventories of stores. Rather than writing all this down for every settlement, I prefer having a single document for every store. I recommend checking this [Traders & Merchants homebrew] and this [Shopping Catalog homebrew.] Both can be referred to whenever players visit any and all stores.
  • Town random encounters. I don’t do those, personally.

Of course, if you want to write down any of those you can use the Notes section in the back.

triggeredmedia  asked:

I demand you buy me a Ferrari. If you don’t you are denying my right to one. How is that different than you demanding I buy you food and healthcare? If you say “I need food to live” then you are saying I owe you labor because you exist. The fact that it’s a little labor or a lot of labor doesn’t equation. No one owes you anything just for existing.

So, essential goods are the same as luxury items?

This is the argument you make when you have nothing better to say. When you have no real argument against something this false equivalency bullshit is what you have to resort to. 

You see the world full of individuals who purely exist to exchange labor. What I see is that our society has been built collectively over millennia. Together we have built governments and architectural marvels, sustained our existence and built everything you see around you. There was no single person who labored to create anything, it has taken collective knowledge and skill. 

Now we must ask a question why do we have people that do not have enough to eat?

If we are to believe capitalism, it is because food is scarce and that there is not enough to feed everyone. In this line of thinking, we produce not enough food and supply and demand requires that those that can afford our limited supply are able to secure food while those that don’t have the means cannot. 

But we produce enough food to feed 10 Billion people, while there are only 7.5 billion people in the world.

So if we are producing enough food to feed all, why does everyone not have access to food? How does a system that is dependent on Supply and Demand create a system where there is a surplus of food while 1 in 9 people do not have enough food to lead a normal lifestyle?

Artifical Scarcity is why. We create a system where supply and demand do not actually apply, where companies regularly discard large amounts of perfectly good food in order to drive greater profits for their “perfect food.” This is why you don’t allow capitalist near anything that is a necessity to live. In order to turn a profit, they must create scarcity in something that is not scarce. 

So, if we collectively produce more food than we need worldwide, why can we not feed the world? 

We are calling for taking our existing system and saying, we produce more than enough food for all, everyone must be able to eat. This is not a difficult thing to pull off, and if we lived in a truly capitalistic system the price of food would be so low that everyone could afford it. Basic Supply and Demand would set pricing. 

But to take it a step further, if food was available to all, the price of feeding oneself would be less. In the end, you are arguing that you should pay more for food and healthcare so that a small group of people can become wealthy beyond their wildest dreams while another larger group dies. 

When you argue that a good that is not constrained by supply should be limited all you do is argue that you should pay more so that others cannot have access. 

Do you really have to feel special that bad? Oh, I guess that is why you asked for a Ferrari…

- @theliberaltony

All the Foxes spend Thanksgiving together, but Wymack won’t let anyone eat until they say something they’re thankful for

  • Wymack sets the rule and then tries to not participate, but Abby makes him
  • So he says he’s thankful for his son
  • Nicky’s “awwww” is a lot louder than is strictly necessary
  • Andrew exclusively participates because he wants pie and because Bee is giving him that look
  • He just says he’s grateful for pie, but Neil and Bee look so proud of him for participating
  • Neil is predictably thankful for the team and how they’ve accepted him and given him a home, but he goes into great detail about it
  • Most of the team seems touched
  • Andrew keeps eying the food and resisting the urge to spit out a new percentage
  • Kevin’s thankful that he’s not with the Ravens anymore “even if this team is a giant pain in the ass mess”
  • Renee says something she is thankful for about everyone at the table
  • She steps on Allison’s foot under the table when Allison laughs at her being thankful for her conversations with Andrew
  • Allison laughs because like what conversation has Andrew ever held???
  • Dan’s thankful that the team is actually working together and getting along better and of course she’s grateful for Wymack as a mentor and Matt as the perfect boyfriend and all her friends
  • Matt is thankful for his gorgeous girlfriend and his awesome friends and that Neil’s safe and for his roommate Aaron
  • Aaron is very confused because how the fuck did he rank?
  • Is it just because he’s not around enough to be a problem?
  • Allison is thankful that her family can suck it because they’re champions and to the Foxes for continuing to lose bets and fund her manicures
  • Abby’s grateful that they’re all there with her for Thanksgiving and that they’re healing and safe
  • Bee’s grateful they’re all there together and that Andrew is doing so well
  • Renee has to step on Allison’s foot again at that point
  • Nicky starts off saying how he’s grateful for his family, meaning the monsters
  • But then he gets a little graphic about being grateful for Erik
  • Because Erik managed to fly out and make Thanksgiving and Nicky is on top of the world
  • Erik says he is thankful to have found Nicky and that they all accepted him into their Thanksgiving
  • Aaron says he is thankful Nicky shut up about his sex life
  • Someone insists that doesn’t count and Aaron has to do a real one
  • (Probably Nicky and then Allison jumps on board for the drama)
  • Aaron argues Andrew didn’t do a real one
  • Wymack forces Andrew and Aaron to do real ones
  • Bee agrees and suggests that Thanksgiving’s about family and they should say something they’re thankful about in their family
  • They reluctantly give real ones and it’s awkward af
  • Aaron is given the option to say something nice about his family or sit there and watch them all eat without getting any food himself until he can come up with one
  • So Aaron says he’s thankful for what Andrew said at his trial
  • He means about Andrew saying Drake wanting to involve Aaron was where he drew the line
  • And he means he’s thankful that Andrew shared that to help Aaron at his trial
  • Andrew says he’s thankful the fucker’s dead and didn’t lay a finger on Aaron
  • And then he starts shovelling food onto his plate
  • It’s a toss-up for which of the twins wants to murder Neil more for the looks he keeps giving them after their real turns
  • The twins are just trying to eat and ignore each other and everyone
  • But Nicky won’t stop gushing about them communicating
  • Andrew asks “Nicky, you do see that I am holding a knife. Don’t you?”
  • But Erik’s there and the twins are getting along with each other and Nicky’s floating on cloud nine
  • So he blurts out “Andrew and Aaron love each other and we all witnessed it”
  • Aaron says “Shut up, Nicky”
  • Andrew’s still death glaring, but he also ignores the fact that Nicky said anything else and keeps eating
  • Nicky takes that to mean he can get away with more, so he turns to Erik and says “I can’t believe it, babe. Did you hear it? I am such a good parent”
  • Erik says “Yes. I heard, but he is still holding a knife”
  • Erik doesn’t really think Andrew’s going to stab Nicky over it
  • But better to be safe than sorry
  • And Erik knows it stands a decent chance of making Nicky stop before the twins get really mad

How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: Don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

“You look so healthy!” is a great one.

Or how about, “You’re looking so strong.”

“I can see how happy you are — you’re glowing.”

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say, “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.

—  Sarah Koppelkam (x)

anonymous asked:

Hi! You seem to have become a sort of dinner consultant/therapist/cheerleader, which is delightful. I hope you don't mind if I ask a downer question--how do I will myself to make good food when I'm depressed, and feel deep down that I may not deserve proper nourishment? Than you, you're well.

I suffer from Depression, Bipolar, C-PTSD, ADHD and Memory Issues and yeah, I really get that feeling of not having the energy/focus/self-worth to make dinner.  I’m not a therapist or nutritionist, so all I can offer is things that have worked for me, and hope that some of them work for you:

It’s Better To Eat SOMETHING Than Nothing

No really.  There are a LOT of days when I’m too tired, too distractable or just too Blugh to cook.  And for days like that, I have microwave meals, or “put in pot and add water” things, like Mac N Cheese.  They’re not Organic, or Nutritionally Balanced but everything I’ve been told by every doctor and therapist I’ve had: EATING SOMETHING, EVEN MICROWAVE MAC OR CHIPS IS SO, SO MUCH BETTER FOR YOU THAN EATING NOTHING.

Food is not an all-or-nothing deal.  Humans have an amazing ability to take in nutrition from darn near anything that doesn’t kill us, which is part of the reason we’re all over the dang planet.  Any food is good food, esp when you haven’t eaten all day because your brain has been playing a shitty surrealist version of reality for you all day.

So when you CAN cook, cook, but if you can’t, don’t worry too much.  Just get something down your throat, and live to see the next, better, day.

Related: If you can’t do a full meal, but you CAN add *extras* to things to help you.  Tortilla Chips Depression meal? Add Salsa!  BAM! VEGETABLE SERVING!!  Can of beans? CHEESE.  OH LOOK, MORE PROTEIN.  whatever you can add is like, extra credit.  Good job you!

Actually Learning To Cook

So actually learning about food safety, spice theory, what happens chemically to food when you cook it and how to make different styles of cuisine confers a whole bunch of cool benefits for my sometimes-garbage brain:

  • I really like reading and learning new stuff, so making it a “learning a new thing” makes it less like a chore and more of an Interesting Distraction.
  • This doesn’t have to be any form of academically rigorous.  Like, watching cooking shows, looking up stuff online, or hell, googling stuff in the middle of the supermarket if something is on sale and you’re curious but don’t actually know what to do with it.   Good Eats and America’s Test Kitchen are both very educational and soothing to watch.
  • Also cooking shows are GREAT for both my anxiety and stimulating my appetite
  • Reduces the number of Thinking Spoons to actually make dinner.  If I have a general working knowledge of what things taste good and how to make them, it’s a lot less effort than trying to look up and follow a recipe.
  •   GO AHEAD AND USE SHORTCUTS.  No, really.  Those frozen cutlets of fish you stick in a toaster oven? GREAT.  pre-mixed seasoning? AWESOME. Frozen veggies are already cut up and are just as good as fresh.  Like if you don’t have the energy to do something, pre-made stuff is FANTASTIC for getting something healthy into your system for honestly not that much money or less in some cases.

Being Responsible For More Than Myself

The thing that has helped me take care of myself was getting engaged and a dog.  My mental illness has a neat shortcut where when I can’t do things for myself, I can magically do them for other people.  When I cook, I’m cooking for both myself and for my fiance.  Being responsible for making sure he eats a few nights a week is the biggest driving force in getting me to stay on enough of a schedule that I’ll be capable of cooking.  (He cooks other nights and whoever cooks, the other does the dishes.)

I realize that getting hitched is not in the cards for everyone and that’s hardly a reflection of one’s worth, but there are ways to add responsibility to your life if that helps with executive function.  Prior to meeting my fiance, My family had an elderly German shepherd with a sensitive stomach and I cooked him chicken and rice every night for three years on the vet’s recommendation.  Or maybe you cook for a neighbor once a week.  Or tie feeding your cat to you having dinner as well, becuase you can’t take care of fluffy if you’ve got low blood sugar, right?

Eating Is Self-Care, Like Taking Meds or Wearing Comfy Jammies

Another thing that helped me: Realizing that eating made me feel better.  Literally, if I keep my blood sugar stable (Prone to hypoglycemia), my mood’s better, I get fewer headaches, and so on.  What’s Healthy is different for everyone and I recommend talking to a nutritionist at least once to get an idea on what might be unique to you.  Most gyms, community centers or clinics will have someone on staff to help, but you should start by asking your GP for a recommendation.

So when I start too feel poorly, my checklist is “When was the last time I ate? Am I craving something?”  (Along with “Am I dehydrated?”  staying hydrated also helps with appetite issues) and I fin that I usually am.  Sometimes it’s salt, sometimes it’s a whole head of broccoli.  Food is our body’s main means of getting what it needs to survive and giving your body what it needs (even if it’s fat and sugar and carbs, which yes, you need sometimes) will make you feel better, I promise.

Eating Stuff You Actually Like 

Bananas are, allegedly, really good for me.  Potassium, vitamins, good fats etc.   They also taste like satan’s own diabetic mucus and I’m never gonna eat one if I can’t help it.  Just, No.  Don’t force yourself to eat things just becuase they’re healthy.  That’ll only make you hate eating.

Like I mentioned before, you, presumed human, can draw nutrition and calories from darn near anything.  So go boldly, and try new foods and spices and cooking methods and find things you actually enjoy eating.

  • Remember all those veggies you hated as a kid?  Try them again as an adult, because your taste buds literally change over time and things taste way less bitter than when you were a kid.  Try different cooking methods too- anything brassica is like 500% better tossed with olive oil, salt &pepper and roasted on a sheet pan. 
  • HOW you cook things makes a huge difference in both how they taste and how stressful cooking is.  Wanna leave something in a crock pot and forget about it until the timer goes off? AWESOME. Grilling becuase  you prefer something more engaging becuase you’re bored? ALSO GREAT.  Try out different cooking methids to find out what tastes good and is fun to do,
  • Are you one of those people that likes, 3 things, and can have them every night for eternity?  GO YOU, with your pre-planned menu!  Maybe call up a nutritionist to see if you need to be taking some extra vitamins, but really, this is fine too,

Ok this has gotten a mile long and kind of rambling but I hope it helps you!

Lasagna

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Request:

Could you do a PeterxReader chat where all the avengers try to find peter a girlfriend but then they find out you’re dating him? Could you please make it as funny as possible? Thanks!   


Tony has created a chatroom.

Tony has added Peter, Vision, Y/N.

Tony: Hey kiddos. What do you want for supper?

Clint has joined.

Clint: LASAGNA

Bucky has joined.

Bucky: LASAGNA

Pietro has joined.

Pietro: LASAGNA

Tony: Pietro, you are old enough to make your own dinner!

Pietro: so are the old men!!!!

Tony: They are Manchildren.

Bucky: I’m telling Steve!

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SCOOBY  -  DOO  SENTENCE  STARTERS  !

  • It looks like a mystery to me.
  • I can already taste those chocolate-covered hotdogs.
  • I’ll wait here and when you find out, send me a telegram.
  • Can I help it if my first toy was a garbage disposal?
  • I’m so scared I wish I had a ham sandwich.
  • It sure would help if we could find another clue. .
  • Well, we saw a very strange character running around out there.
  • Besides us there is no one else on this island.
  • We know we didn’t imagine all those kooky things that happened.
  • Maybe the moonlight was playing tricks on you.
  • You shouldn’t believe everything you read.
  • Soap? I hardly use it myself, but why not?
  • Creeps and Crawls! They sure picked the right lawyers for this job.
  • Come on, ______. Where’s your sense of humour?
  • I’m beginning to think that following ghosts is safer than following you two!
  • Another mystery bites the dust.
  • I have to figure out why my trap didn’t work.
  • Oh, good gracious! What is that?
  • Why do you need more money?
  • What about this locket we found where you were digging?
  • Well, guess we owe you kids thanks.
  • Like, uh-uh– Like, who–who is this? ❞
  • The real mystery has just begun..
  • You don’t know what you’ve uncovered.
  • You should never have brought that locket out of the cave.
  • Gang, we have a mystery on our hands!
  • Think you could come and get us?
  • I guess we’re here for the whole night.
  • I left a few pages blank, you know, for future traps.
  • Rule number two: stay in your rooms, no matter what you hear.
  • I’m starting to smell a little… funky.
  • Like, I’ve got a bad feeling we’re gonna find out.
  • Are you trying to set me up with - him/her/them? ❞
  • Anyone with hair that perfect has to be guilty of something.
  • Does this mean you finally accept what I want to do with my life?
  • Wow, who are you trying to impress? ❞
  • Like, what can I say? Junk food and me have a very special relationship.
  • I have no idea what you’re talking about.  ❞
  • You promised me you were going to start caring more about your appearance.
  • What in the name of whole wheat toast is going on?
  • I didn’t know this year’s prom theme was terror and pandemonium.
  • I need to tell you something and I need you to listen.
  • Isn’t it obvious? My looks are starting to fade.
  • But what are you doing here? Why have you been sneaking out?
  • Like, you don’t hear many monsters from other dimensions scream for help.
  • Why can’t anything in this town ever turn out to be real?
  • Hooray! Hip hip hooray! Hip hip hooray!
  • Hey, little muffin, how ‘bout you and me go for a moonlight ride?
  • All I know is, since my dad owns the place, we get free refills.
  • Did you break into the armory and steal a rocket launcher?
  • Don’t be so hard on yourself. You tried to do a very brave thing.
  • I’m going to have to let out an unearthly howl and destroy you.
  • I would have gotten away with it if it wasn’t for you meddling–
  • Zoinks!
little things that can help you if you have bpd (part 2)

Here is the link for part one.

  • Learn how to tolerate the distress; Usually, people with BPD suffer from suffocating situations on their daily life, due to mood swings, constant anxiety, dissociation symptoms, etc. If you want to get help with that, self-soothing techquines are commonly used on DBT. Okay, but how can I learn how to self-soothe?
  1. First, control your breath; If you look into the part one, I gave some tips about it, but here are some new things: breathe through your nose for three seconds. Hold your breath for five seconds and let the air out of your nose for three seconds. Take the air out of your diaphragm (stomach region) and not just out of your chest. After controlling your breath, release the tension on your shoulders, slowly rotating them to the back for three/four times. Then, rotate them forward. Repeat as necessary. After all of this, if you can, please take a rest, just close your eyes and lay in your bed or in a comfortable place.
  2. Look for something that distracts you; I talked about having a list about what makes you happy in the part one, so if you could use it for this, that would be great, but if you can’t, that’s okay too, there are other distraction options. Please remember that you need HEALTHY distractions, so please stay away from junk food, drugs, self-harm and others. For some people, it helps to count numbers till 100, but not everyone has patience or can really get distracted when they do it, so here are some activities that may help you: cleaning your house (a suggestion by a lot of therapists to people who suffer from anxiety or depression, it’s not just some “neurotypical useless advice”, it really helps and some studies and people can prove it). Read a book or write something; usually, we get distracted in our daily life by daydreaming about things, so when you actually need to stop paying too much attention to the world around you, it’s great to bring your creative part if you can. Reading a book and writing can help you to create images in your head, you can even write or draw about what is bothering you, so your violent thoughts will be on a paper, not on your actions. (also, there is nothing wrong about having violent thoughts, since you don’t act like them, you can’t control your feelings or your mind and that’s okay). Look at what is around you and challenge yourself to small games; sometimes when I go out, I like to count how many red/blue/green cars I can see, or what combinations I can create with their plates, for example, a plate with letters and numbers: what word can I remember with every letter? or call a friend or someone in your family and try to talk with them, if you think it will distract you.
  3. Accept the reality and your current problem; Even unconsciously, people with BPD tend to escape the reality during a stressful situation, specially by dissociating, that’s okay if you do it sometimes to distract, but doing it often can affect your everyday life. Instead of freaking about a problem, sit down and try to think about it rationally, for example, if your friend is not replying you, you can stop for a moment and think “Okay. They’re not replying right now, but maybe x thing is happening and I can deal with it.”. When you accept the reality, in that case, that your friend is not replying to you, you avoid paranoid thoughts. “Okay, my friend told me to meet them right now, they’re a little bit late. That’s it and it’s okay, I’ll deal with it.”. Encourage yourself by your thoughts telling yourself you will deal with the situation, it will give you more confidence. Also, accept that not everything is perfect, I know that’s VERY hard, because people with BPD tend to overeact to every minor incovinience, but it doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Study your current situation and see the negative points, talk to other people about it, research about people that went through the same things. Everything has negative and positive points.
  • Practice mindfullness; There are some videos online, but it’s better if you look for a professional. It makes it easy to develop a wise mind, but you have big problems with dissociation, please research about it, because I’ve seen that it may cause problems.
  • Pay attention to your relationships; People with BPD have a lot of troubles with relationships, which is something that affects our mental health. The fact is that relationships are very important to everyone, since we are social animals and if you pay attention on how you act with people and how they act with you, you can have a better regulation on your emotions. First, identify what are your triggers, for example, self-harm, when someone ignores you, abuse… Tell the other person about it, so they’ll avoid these things. ALWAYS talk about something the other person did that hurt you, don’t keep things to yourself, it’s more likely to create problems if you don’t talk than if you talk. If the person really cares about you, they will cope. In the end, you will have a better knowledge about what makes you happy and what makes you feel bad.
  • Try to find a hobby; I know that is one of the main things someone you will tell if you say you have a disorder, but this is really important, specially for people with BPD and I’ll tell you why. This is something I’ve been discussing with my therapist and the thing is: if you don’t keep your mind busy during a time (not all the time, that’s not healthy) it will create a sensation of void and BPD makes us feel empty sometimes. BPD never let us feel things slightly, so a simply feeling of boredom can become a sensation of completely void. Keeping your mind busy will help you to entertain you and avoid those empty feelings. If you don’t like anything, please try new things, there are a billion of things out there to try.

please leave a comment if it was helpful, check the part one and i’m sorry if my grammar wasn’t very correct, english is not my native language.

remember that everything here is theoretical and it’s hard to apply these tips in your life, things will not suddenly change. but i believe in you and things take time, so don’t give up on getting better.

Why I adore the idea of the Inquisition as extended family

The inquisition as extended family to Cullen and the Inquisitor’s kids would be WONDERFUL I mean, ‘c mon:

  • “BULL she is too young to drink don’t give her that!”
  • Bull, I received a message from their school that a Qunari showed up to tell a bully that  ‘if they say one more bad word about ‘his friends’ that they’ll end up on the pointy side of a sword’. Seriously? You didn’t even ask me to come along?
  • kids piggybacking on Iron Bull (plus points if their mom ever ‘rode the bull’ because puns which go right over those kids’ heads but not over Cullen’s)
  • “THEY’RE ALSO TOO YOUNG TO JOIN THE CHARGERS KREM!”
  • Leliana, I know you mean well, but stop gifting them daggers please because they’re leaving them all over the place and we nearly stepped on one yesterday.  
  • What do you mean Leliana gave you a pet nug? Another one?
  • LELIANA ARE YOU SERIOUSLY USING MY CHILDREN TO SPY ON US? IS THAT BY ANY CHANCE RELATED TO THE RAVENS CIRCLING THE HOUSE?
  • *Dorian giving the kids fashion advice* *it results in the little ones showing up with fake mustaches which was not his idea but he is moved by the gesture* “They wanna be like you Dorian.”
  • If any of the kids turns out to be a mage, Dorian’s becoming their mentor, point final. Vivienne takes over when he doesn’t have time for their lessons.
  • (Dorian’d be the godfather of my Inquisitor’s kids btw. Hands down.)
  • The kids hanging around with Cole, especially when teenagers, cause he helps them make sense of all that they’re feeling and what others are feeling. As a result they become super emphatic and understanding people.
  • Cole loves how open-minded kids are and happily babysits whenever asked.
  • Sera, Josie and Dorian teaching those kids to do and love what- and whoever they damn well please.
  • Pranks with Sera, so many pranks with Sera. Cullen and the inquisitor know there’ll be trouble when Sera and the kids dissapear for a little while.
  • Varric helping in teaching the little ones to read and write.
  • Varric reading their works and giving pointers on how to make them better, encouraging them to keep writing and keep getting better at their craft.
  • Little ones staring at Varric in awe over all of the stories, including of their parents ‘holding hands on the table’ (side-eyeing the inquisitor and cullen).
  • Cassandra’d be their godmother and yeah she’d cry when asked.
  • Cassandra teaches the kids to be true to themselves and if the kids don’t go to their parents, they go to her when something serious is happening
  • Cassandra does mock-fights with the kids using wooden swords when their dad isn’t doing so.
  • Cassandra teaches the kids eyeliner.
  • She made them promise not to tell Varric about it, but when they’re grown up they discuss story lines and ships from Varrics books with her.
  • (The kids low-key ship Cassandra and Varric cause reasons.)
  • If any of those kids has diplomatic ambitions, Josephine will happily teach em the ropes.
  • One of those kids is gonna be Josie’s plus one for some formal events.
  • Josie is the one who brings the kids gifs, delicious foods from diplomatic trips mostly, and talks to them about the beauty and strength in diversity.
  • Josephine and Leliana giving the small ones musical instruments cause #ex-bards
  • Vivienne shows them how to look confident even when they don’t feel they have the upper hand.
  • Vivienne entertains the kids with trivial magic tricks when nobody’s looking. When someone notices, she denies it and winks at the kids afterwards with a smile.
  • “Mommy, daddy, I saw a wolf-elf in my dream last night and he told me he knows you!” *wide-eyed Cullen and Inquisitor cause oh shit*