Hi!! I was wondering how long does it take to someone other than dan, marc and jules come out to the world? Or is it like just the three of them are out for 1 HUNDRED years and then this other guy says he's not straight
Depends on whether we’re talking to their locker rooms, it’s kind of an open secret, not trying to hide it, etc, versus actual media statement? Because there are a number of dudes who are the former (and some were before Marc and Dan – this is definitely already the case in the NHL, multiple former players have stated they played with not straight dudes but that information stayed in the room).
Like, Jake was out to the Panthers not all that long after the Marc and Dan thing, Robbie with a lot of the Caps, etc, and Ottawa media knew about Derek and Andy long before the rest of the world did, they just didn’t report on it because they would have never been able to step into that room again had they done so. Ulf doesn’t hide it at all, and it doesn’t really get noticed in hockey media at large. The privilege of not being Marc Lapointe level huge, because you know if David and Jake stopped hiding their relationship there’d be a shitstorm as big as the Marc and Dan one if not bigger, considering they’re both high-profile players.
First guy to come out after Marc and Dan and Jules was a prospect just over two years later in a profile by his hometown newspaper, just a little mention of a boyfriend. Wasn’t a big thing in hockey media because he wasn’t an NHLer yet, (later played in the NHL some, but spent more time in the AHL) but Marc got his agent to get his number and gave him a call and told him to let him know if he needed anything. Marc seethes for years later that he didn’t get NHL time because he came out. Dan privately thinks he just isn’t quite NHL calibre. They’re both kind of right (were he phenomenal he’d have been played regardless, but it did actively hinder him making the roster).
There’s some trickling after that, with the occasional higher profile thing (Andy and Derek’s got picked up nationally, partly because of the Dan connection, partly because of the market, partly because Derek putting his foot in his mouth and then belatedly realising it was hilarious), and by the time we’re at, say FTNS, it isn’t something that would warrant any media attention more than something like player getting married, player’s new baby, etc (depending on the market again) unless it was a high-profile player, which would still be a fairly big deal. Like, Harry was a little paranoid they’d pick up him marching with Erin and Annie, but he was already set on not lying if pressed about his reasons why (no ‘just here to support my sister’ from him if he had gotten a ‘why are you marching?’.)
This isn’t to say no one’s a total asshole about it, of course, just that once we’ve hit retirement age for Marc the way has been paved and trodden pretty well. Most guys in the league personally know and have played with at least one dude who’s out at the very least to his locker room, whether at the level of Marc, to the world, or Jake, who directly told them, or Evan, where it wasn’t confirmed to a lot of people but known throughout the room nonetheless, refs have cracked down on any use of homophobic slurs (sigh), and it’s not ‘worth’ reporting on unless it’s a top six forward, top line d, or starting goalie.