I try to take a selfie every day. I do this because my goal every day is to be happier than the last, and I want to see how I change.
The weird thing is that, being transgender, I feel better about myself than I ever have. Not much changes for me personally anymore. But I also notice how the world still treats people like me. I am extremely lucky to get by with most people assuming I’m a cis woman, but I speak openly about my personal situation to try and change people’s perceptions.
Everyone reading this needs to understand. Trans people are EVERYWHERE and we all deserve respect. Tell someone they look good today. Spread love, not discrimination. I’ll do what I can and, if possible, you can try to help too. Help everyone know they’re allowed to love themselves because nothing in this world is more true than that. 💎
Every moment we face the big question of what to do with the rest of our lives. Mostly, we push that question aside and continue doing what we were already doing with our lives. In quiet moments of discontent, that question occurs to us, and the possibilities and impossibilities both seem frightful.
For some, that question is all consuming. Young and old people, making major life decisions for themselves, applying for schools or jobs, choosing, changing or losing careers, entering or exiting relationships, or looking for, or facing, a change in their life will often torture themselves with the question of what to do with the rest of their lives.
The question should not be so painful. The pain is the overwhelming weight of an idea of what we are and what a successful life should include and exclude, and in wondering how it might be possible to get there from where we are. When where we are is painful, it is natural to want to get someplace else. It is not hard to imagine that, with a few fortunate changes in circumstance, we would find contentment in our lives and follow a rewarding path toward happily ever after. The question of what to do with the rest of our lives, begins with the extremely fortunate circumstance that we have a life and options. What we will do with the rest of our life is impossible to fathom.
Feeling contentment in the life that you have and with who you are is a reasonable goal and one you can begin to pursue now and for the rest of your life. Feeling contentment with your life and who you are will only help you in creating the life that you want for yourself. To find contentment now, look at your life as it is. Look without any judgement and with compassion. See what you have. Think of your friends, family and people whom you love. Think of the people who love you. Think about things that you are good at doing. Think of things you like to do. You can feel contentment, even while some or many things are not as you would like them to be. In this moment, things are as they are. You feel as you feel. In the next moment, things will change and you will adjust to how things will be then. For the rest of your life, that is what you will do.
For the rest of your life, you will have your breath and your body. Whenever you are faced with the question of what to do with the rest of your life, use your breath to remind yourself to check in with your mind and body, see what you are feeling, see what you are thinking, remember to be compassionate, and you will choose wisely about what you should do in the moment, and for the rest of your life.