عن أبي بكر الصديق رضي الله عنه، أنه قال لرسولِ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم : علِّمْني الدعاءَ أدْعو به في صلاتي. قال: قل:“ اللهمَّ إني ظلمتُ نفسي ظلمًا  كثيرًا، ولا يغفرُ الذنوبَ إلا أنت، فاغفرْ لي مغفرةً من عندِك، وارحمْني، إنك أنت الغفورُ الرحيمُ .” صحيح البخاري حديث ٨٣٤

Narrated Abu Bakr As-Siddiq: I asked Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) to teach me an invocation so that I may invoke Allah with it in my prayer. He told me to say, ”Allahumma inni zalumtu nafsi zulman kathiran, Wala yaghfiru dh-dhunuba illa anta, fa ghfir li maghfiratan min `indika, wa r-hamni, innaka anta l-ghafuru r-rahim (O Allah! I have done great injustice to myself and none except You forgives sins, so bestow on me a forgiveness from You, and Have Mercy on me, You are the Forgiver, the Merciful). Sahih al-Bukhari 834
In-book reference : Book 10, Hadith 227
USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 1, Book 12, Hadith 796

سلسلة الأذكار والأدعية // Athkar & Invocations Series | 15

Dating a K-popfangirl... Things you'll have to learn to live with (PART 2)

Dating a (k-pop)fangirl… Things you’ll have to live with.

2.1) Children
If you’ve survived long enough to think about children, don’t be offended when we utter the option to adopt. We adore Asian so much that we’d much rather have an Asian Baby than carry our own. Preferably we’d be carrying our own Asian baby… But we’ll settle for less. Don’t even get started on names. Options like Siwon, Jonghyun, Hakyeon will be thrown on the table. You might be able to get her to settle for a second name, but don’t expect too much.

2.2) Timezones
A timezone means nothing to us. 6hr-differences are a piece of cake, at least in the night when we’re watching our biases hipthrust…. The morning after is somewhat less enjoyable. Give us a cup of tea/coffee and put on a soothing song…

2.3) Friends/Meetings
K-pop meetings, or just ‘regular’ friends coming by isn’t your average meet-up. No, it’s of a whole other world. Things will go down, feels will occur and you’ll just have to deal with it. Can’t handle it? Lock yourself up in a small room until it passes. Two or more fangirls together is like twice the spice, but also double the trouble. If someone leaves the band, tears will flow (sorry not sorry)

2.4) Picking a Movie
Wanting to watch a movie, or just a simple tv-show together will never be the same. We will always know a better Korean option or version of it. And if it’s not available… no hold up, it will always be. Korea does it better, end of discussion.

2.5) Humor and Variety
When you have caved and are watching a variety show with your bae, don’t be a sourpuss and try and enjoy. The Korean humor and way of expression it will grow on you, the devil will put your name on the list if you don’t at least make an effort.

Seriously though… give it a shot

2.6) Birthdays

Don’t be surprised when they start singing 'Seng il chook ha hamni da~~’ instead of 'Happy birthday to you~~’. It’s programmed into our minds, and we just cannot help ourselves. Also, the best thing you can ever get us on our birthday is that CD we already have, but this time with an autograph, or maybe some official merchandise…

2.7) Games
Playing games will never be the same. You know a game, we know a Korean equivalent to it. You want to play a game? Let’s make it a competition involving punishment. Preferably using a oversized squeaky hammer or flicking your forehead or wrist.

2.8) Conversation Topics
Get used to it fast or leave, because however you try to steer the boat away from the party-island that is called k-pop, we will inevitably make our way to it, and when we dock, we shall not leave. Every conversation will end up on k-pop, don’t even try, it’s useless. Resistance is futile, we’ll creep up on you.

2.9) Language
Get used to expressions like 'Aish~’, 'Hwaiting’ and 'Ommo!’ because this will be what you hear on a daily basis. You’ll get to know what they mean soon enough, and like everything else, they will grow on you, and you might even start using them yourself without knowing it. It’s like a virus, and it spreads quietly.

2.10) Eating Out
Going to a restaurant will likely involve something Asian, even if it’s just remotely Asia-orientated. Ofcourse we prefer our Bulgogi, Samgyeopsal, Jjigae, Banchan and of course Kimchi! Korean Barbeque is like our Michelin-star. It’s a go-to for us!

Oh and we love us  some bubbletea!!!

2.11) Don’t fear the darkside
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Fangirlmania grows on people, we have our methods. Don’t resist it, it’s how we work. Korean expressions, the food, everything. You’ll learn to love it, just as much as you love us! <3

And if you really can’t handle it? Reconsider, because we sure will…