halal relationships

Good treatment of the husband

From the various forms of good relations are:

1) Tolerating his mistakes when he errs.

2) To mollify him when he is angry.

3) Giving him a sense of love and respect.

4) To speak kind words and (display) a sincere smile.

The Prophet (صَلَى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاَلِهِ وَسَلَم) said:

تبسمك في وجه أخيك صدقة

“Your smiling in the face of your brother is a charity.”

So how about if this is done by the wife for her husband?

5) Paying attention to specific matters like food, drink, and clothing, as it relates to type and time.

The woman should know that when she implements these matters it is not an attack on her identity or belittlement of her status. Rather, this is the path to happiness, and there will never be any happiness except in the shade of a husband who she treats well.

✒A woman’s guide to raising a family, pages 36-37 by Sheikh Salih Al-Fawzan حفظه الله

📕Sahih: Reported by al-Tirmidhi (no 1956). This Hadith has been declared to be Sahih by Sheikh Albani رحمه الله تعالى in Sahih Sunan al-Tirmidhi (no. 1956).

Relationships & Ramadan

To be honest, before Ramadan my dream husband was the typical “tall, dark and handsome” and that is partially because of our society’s perception of male beauty. But after experiencing the blessing of Ramadan and having the chance to get closer to my Lord, I found that I truly want somebody that loves and praises Allah just as much as I do and someone that is on top of their deen. As females I know we sometimes want the male attention because it makes us feel beautiful and special, but sisters it took me a while to figure this out but I am telling you the guy that doesn’t lower his gaze and treats you like an object as opposed to an actual human being isn’t worth it. I want a man that brings me closer to my Lord not one that leads me astray and Inshallah we will all find someone like this.

Update: Dating Life

Many people believe that dating is forbidden in the eyes of Islam. In this article, here, you can read more about why I disagree with that notion. I wrote previously about a guy named J, in these articles: here and here

Sadly things didn’t work out; he and I never did met up in person. It seems that we didn’t have the same values and he didn’t mind stringing me along. Ever since I gave up on him (just a week or so after moving out to Walnut Creek), I have become a little wary of meeting anyone else on any other dating website.

Surprisingly, I’m not too heart-broken or upset about it. When I moved here, I was busy with Ramadan, my new job, and then I was busy with Eid. Now, I am swamped with work and I also have a broken toe. Quite honestly, I want true love and happiness. But I would like to think that it will happen when I am ready. It’s not a big deal.

People are saying that Sana needs an “original” storyline and that Yousana is too much like Evak but they don’t seem to fully understand how important this relationship between two muslims is going to be. How many muslim fictional couples do you know? How many shows do you know that deal with the issue of halal relationships (which I’m sure they’re gonna deal with since Yousana is endgame)? None. I can’t think of any. That’s why this is important. So how about non-muslims just stay silent about this season and stop giving their opinion on what is original about muslims and what isn’t? Can we all just appreciate they fact that the life of a teenage muslim girl is finally being portrayed in a series? And that she is the main character? Like, a whole season dedicated to a muslim girl. Do you realize how rare that is?

Start a relationship the Halal way so that it can have Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala blessings and it will last forever. In sha Allah. A Haram relationship will be cursed from the start and will end in a brutal heart break. That’s why Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala forbids anything other than the Halal why because of the outcome and the pain you feel. SubhanAllah! He is only looking out for your most valuable possession (your heart), and what is best for you.