Last night, I cried over it. Today, I’m accepting it. Maybe in a few days, I’ll cry over it again, and that’s ok. That’s growth. Who needs hair growth when you can have mental growth?
(that’s a really bad joke I know I couldn’t help myself.. 😜)
I kept thinking things like “I’ll wait ‘till the New Year to post them” or “I’ll make a video with these photos instead,” but all these thoughts were just deterring me from posting them.
I like to post photos of myself without a wig on my blog at least once a year or so. It’s important to me to make myself visible to others with alopecia that might feel alone, and also important in helping me remember I don’t have to hide it or treat it like a secret. (It’s a little scarier with my rebooted blog because this is a more public blog, and I know that more people I actually know may see it, not just online strangers!)
I don’t ever go out without a wig on, and there are only a handful of people that I feel comfortable to take my wig off in front of. But my goal is to get past that. I miss the carefree feeling of being able to take off my wig to go swimming without thinking about how others might be viewing me. I’m not proud that I’m so afraid to take off my wig to go swimming, even with only my closest friends around.
Having alopecia doesn’t define me. I used to be afraid that opening up about alopecia would cause people to see me as “the girl with alopecia” or “that girl that wears wigs,” but now I know that I am so much more than my appearance. I’m so proud of how far I’ve come in speaking about alopecia, but now it’s time to take the final leap forward– starting to build my confidence without the protection of a wig.
Don’t get me wrong, I love wigs, changing up my wigs, playing with different hairstyles, and I’m so proud that I can finally change wigs regularly without putting myself on the brink of an anxiety attack when people ask me questions about it. Sure, some of that anxiety still comes back now and then, but it’s not debilitating anymore, and it gets easier each time I face it. But sometimes I fear that I use the wig as a crutch. I’m stronger than that. It’ll take time, but I’m constantly working towards improving my confidence, bit by bit. How do I expect to encourage others to be alopecia-body-positive if I’m not even 100% there myself? If I want to have any chance of inspiring others with alopecia to love themselves, I gotta start with myself.
(..I keep getting nervous to post this, thinking, “what if no one even likes it” but then I’m like yo who cares this is something I gotta do for me, the point is not to care how others react, isn’t it? ^-^)
Does finasteride effect how deep your voice gets? I'd like to take it to prevent hair loss/ lessen bottom growth, but I want a deeper voice.
Theoretically yes, Finasteride can have an effect on the voice if taken during the early stages of someone taking testosterone. Finasteride works by systemically stopping the conversion of
testosterone into dihydrotestosterone (DHT). While
DHT contributes to hair loss it’s also largely responsible for
masculinizing effects such as voice changes, body hair,
facial hair, and genital growth. Finasteride reduces the
concentration of DHT within the body by roughly 70% so this would have a
direct impact on the changes associated with it, including the voice. This is why Finasteride is usually only prescribed for folks who’ve been on testosterone for a few years and are beyond the developmental stages of those changes. I understand that certain bodily changes on testosterone might not be ideal but please remember that you can’t pick and choose what changes will occur.
So I have been debating going on T, but I know that there is a chance of losing your hair if you do. My hair is my pride and joy with everything I have, and if I lost it, I would never be happy with myself. My family's men all start to bald by their mid twenties, so unless there is a way to prevent losing my hair for sure, I don't think I should go on T. Do you know any ways to assure I don't lose it?
There isnt a lot you can do, especially if you are genetically predisposed to MPB. There is no guarantee it would happen to you though and if it did when it would. You could potentially be on T for years before, or if, it happened. There are some things you can do but they’re not really preventative measures as it would defeat the purpose of being on T as the effects would counteract it. I have talked about that before here:
T is something you could always try and see what happens. If you did start to experience any hair related problems you can always come off it. It would not continue if you stopped as the action of DHT would be removed. You wouldnt suddenly lose it all overnight. It wont just all fall out. What happens with it varies. Some experience thinning, others receeding hairline. Loss tends to start to be noticable if more comes out than grows back which results in patches. If you noticed something starting to happen you could always stop at that point and/or start a treatment. As I said you could get years out of it so if you were able to be on it for long enough to obtain the other masculinising changes you wanted you could then try a treatment option for it. If it wasnt to help much again you can always come off T if you needed to. Some of the changes would be permanent so you would retain them but not others
Simple answer is there is no guaranteed way for it to not happen. if anything like that could be done it would be something worth millions. As it is there are some treatment options but they dont work for everyone and success with them will vary. Whether you want to try T or not is up to you. Its something you could try and stop if you wanted to. What happens, when and to what extent cant be predicted though
Male hair loss is discussed in the media far more frequently than female hair loss. They are both pretty traumatic, but for some reason female hair loss is forgotten about. I personally have struggled with rapid hair loss over the span of a year or so and have gotten professional treatment and advice, so I feel I’m pretty qualified to give my own advice!
1. Diet, make sure you’re getting enough nutrients (especially iron, that is a big one for healthy hair) 2. Silica treatment, it comes in tablets and gel form (you mix it in water and drink) and will DRAMATICALLY change your hair (and nail!!) strength and thickness, and grow lots lots more.3. Use really good hair products and use them in the correct way but also the best way for you. Obviously not everyone is in a position to buy super fancy expensive hair products, but try and make sure they have keratin in them, but without silicone. Try doing a hair mask every week (I do one every time I wash my hair and my hair is so silky).4. Heat. I know its hard, but really try not to use heat products on your hair, this makes a huge difference. Make sure if you really need to use heat to use a good heat protectant product, but the thing is, most of them do not work at all. To test if your heat protectant works spray it on your wrist and then blow dry your wrist. Does it hurt? Well then it doesn’t work.5. For the love of all that is holy, DO NOT USE HAIRSPRAY EVER OH JESUS. It’s not the hairspray that does that damage, its the getting rid of it that does, no matter how you do it it’s detrimental to your hairs health. Try using a dry shampoo or something lighter for volume.6. If you’re going through a period of extreme hair loss you may deal with mental health/self esteem problems. For me its been about a year and a half since I started rapidly losing my hair, and most of its grown back but will never be the same. It sucks I know. For me the thing that gave me back my confidence hair wise were extensions and this magical thing called hair luxe. Hair luxe is basically makeup for your hair, it attaches to the hair folicles and beefs up every single strand of hair, its honestly life changing.
My name is Robbie. I am only 17 lbs, maybe 7 yrs old and they say I am a mini Schnauzer.
I had a bad reaction to fleas so my hair is growing back. I also had a
dental and feel so much better. I love to eat. I love to cuddle. I love
to be held.
Like the leaves on a tree.
My body shakes with the wind.
Some days it aches from the pressures going on outside and in.
But like a leaves on a tree sometimes my hair falls
I try not to be in despair.
Like a tree.
I try and have faith.
My hair I see as leaves.
Like a leaves on a tree .
I know when I’m ill .
When I’m stressed .
When I’m unbalanced.
When I need help .
Like a leaves on a tree they shed .
Like leaves on a tree we all know they will grow back .
Like a tree it has faith in its branches to create new growth .
Like leaves on a tree they know when it’s time to let go .
Like leaves on a tree they know they don’t have control, whether they stay or if they go.
Alopecia teachers the art of letting go .
Teaches understanding and empathy.
But most of all it teaches us to have faith and hope in ourselves,
To be a tree is,
to have faith in its growth .
To have faith in its strengths, and its weaknesses.
Like a leaves on a tree .
It’s teachers me to Learn to let go.
It teaches me to know what it’s like to have faith.
It teaches me the magic I have to let new leaves grow and to let go once more.
But most of all it teaches me about the greatest things in life.
Like a leaves on a tree it’s the smallest things that create the beauty we see in this world.
By. Priscilla Feleppa