The Fruits of Patience
When calamity first hits us, the natural human reaction is to be utterly distraught, to be upset beyond reconciliation.
“How could this happen to me?”
“What did I do wrong?”
These are all questions we incessantly ask ourselves over and over, hoping that maybe we find an answer to these rhetorical questions.
If we were to reflect upon the reasons for such trials to befall us, then we would realise that they only happen due to our sins. Now we may have heard it before, I know myself that I have heard and read it hundreds of times…but how many of us actually understand, and more importantly, accept it?
“Whatever of good reaches you, is from Allah, but whatever of evil befalls you, is from yourself…”
Every sin we knowingly commit is never forgotten by Allaah, even the criminal does not expect his crimes to be forgotten by the government, so then how is it with Allaah, the Lord of all the Worlds?
If He so Wills, He can make us taste the consequences of our actions in this life, and if it does happen, we should take comfort in knowing that perhaps Allaah is making us taste the punishment now rather than the severe punishment in the Hereafter.
So how do we deal with this fact once that we have accepted it? Do we cry, lament and bemoan our situation? No. Rather it is upon us to be patient and accept what has happened as happening only by the Will and Command of Allaah.
Some may have patience only after they let out their grief and sadness by wailing or crying, but this is not what we have been taught in regards to sabr.
In a narration reported by Anas ibn Malik (radiyAllaahu ‘anhu):
The Prophet (sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) passed by a woman who was weeping beside a grave. He (sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said, “Fear Allaah and be patient.”
She said, “Go away from me, for you have not been afflicted by a calamity like mine,” and she did not recognize him. Then, she was told that it was the Prophet, so she went to the house of the Prophet and she did not find any bodyguards there. She said to him, “I did not recognize you.”
He (sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said, “Verily, patience is at the first strike.”
[Sahih Bukhari, Book 23, Number 372]
Subhaan Allaah! what a lesson for us! We are taught that to be patient means that as soon as we are hit by a calamity or a trial, if we want to be truly patient, then we must be patient right away.
By doing so, we will be able to taste the true sweetness of the fruit that sabr yields inshaa Allaah.
We also need to realise that our excessive worrying and anxiousness does not do any good for us, we need to make a conscious effort to understand that trials and calamities only happen to us by the Will of Allaah.
In another Hadeeth concerning trials, the Prophet (sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said:
“If Allaah loves a people, He tries them, and whoever has patience will have patience, and whoever is anxious will be anxious.”
(Reported by al-Imam Ahmad; Saheeh al-Jami’, 1706).
It isnt easy, but if we can make an effort not to feel constantly anxious, we will feel the benefits inshaa Allaah. If we are patient, we are patient for our own benefit.
So when something bad happens in your life, control your heart, make a conscious effort to calm the immediate grief that surrounds your soul and just contain it, sit down for a second and just remember that the fruit of patience has fallen into your hands, for you to taste it, you must take a bite by realising that this is the Qadr of Allaah and you must accept it and believe that Allaah has had this planned for you for your own benefit.
The calamity has happened due to our own sins, so does it make sense O my brother to be in a stage of blameworthy grief? Blaming others and worst of all blaming Allaah? (au'dhubillaah).
Be patient and just accept it, it is due to our own sins so just accept it and make an active effort to cut out the sins from your life. Dont start neglecting your duties to Allaah out of grief and hurt, for this is exactly the path that Shaytaan beautifies for us, and inshaa Allaah, Allaah will allow us to taste the sweetness of patience and eemaan, and replace our calamity with a situation that is pleasing to our souls.
May Allaah allow me to take heed of my own advice.
All that is right is from Allaah, and anything wrong, any misquoted Qur'aan, Hadeeth or interpretations are from me, and I ask Allaah to correct and forgive me.