May I brag for a sec? I promise I’m going somewhere with it:
Yesterday I had one of my girlfriends ask me how the hell do I know so many successful - well respected guys, and if I had gone back to being a sugar baby. It caused me to have a moment of self reflection: she was right, I’m the only person I know in their 20′s with so many successful/influential close friends and I’m a fucking nobody with a pretty face and a good vocabulary.
Soooo many women have had terrible online dating experiences and I’m the biggest online dating advocate ever. It lead me to want to share what I do in order to meet the best of the best. I think many of you will appreciate it and take away a few things.
1. Post classy pictures…but be an undercover sex symbol ;)
One of the reasons I have completely given up hope for anyone on seeking arrangement is because many people post trashy, tacky pictures. Think about the man you’d like to date. Does he care about his reputation and his public image? If he cares then so should you. I have a rule I go by: on dating sites, don’t post anything that doesn’t look like something Yolanda Foster would have on her dating profile. I love Yolanda Foster. Find a trophy wife to idolize and make her your role model.
I think bathing suit pictures are always an appropriate way of showing off what you’ve got because everyone’s going to see you in a swimsuit anyways…just don’t overdo it.
2. Don’t date people who post tacky/trashy pictures
I think this is probably my most important rule oddly enough. You can’t expect a man that has pictures of him getting wasted with his friends all over Instagram to be a good boyfriend and a well respected entrepreneur. Personally, I have a suit rule: if he’s not wearing a suit in at least a few pictures on his dating profile-he’s definitely not a big shot. Successful people spend a lot of time working and a lot of time networking. Whilst doing all of this they typically wear a suit, so if he’s not in a suit in most of the pictures people are taking of him - hes not working hard enough. Also, if he seems to be getting a little too close to 90% of the women he’s seen in pictures with: he’s a player. Think about what kind of man you’d like to date and what kind of impression he’d like to give strangers looking at is profile…what would his pictures on Instagram or on match.com look like?
3. Don’t meet up with anyone until you know their full name and income
Sorry but it is what it is: guys want girls that are hot, why can’t girls want guys that are paid? I think having a partner that’s financially stable is more important than having a partner that’s super attractive, that’s why I always ask for the persons full name so I can look them up on LinkedIn haha. Oh, and always wait for them to ask you what you do for a living first…theeen you ask him what he does. If he’s making a lot of money, he should be very vague - that’s why you look at his LinkedIn and do some serious research.
4. Try *not* to go on a coffee date
When you’re first starting out with online dating, agreeing to meet someone at a Starbucks seems like the best way to meet because if you hate them, there’s no pressure to stay - you can just make up some excuse and bolt since its so casual. However, I’ve noticed that no matter how busy or important the guy may be: if he really likes the impression you’ve given him he will *insist* on taking you out to eat. Going out to eat is a horrible idea unless you know his income, know he’s well respected, and you know he’s fun to talk to (so get him on skype or give him a call before making plans). If he thinks you’re super hot and fun, he’ll be dying to take you out even if you agree it’s not a date- just a meet up (what I typically do). Hate to say it…but it’s actually usually the guys that are pretending to be big shots (or the ones making a less than substantial income) that will offer or agree to go on a coffee date.
Phew, being a gold digger is hard. ;) Xo’s sugars.